Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
I feel lost because I don't know what to do, I am alone because no one is there for me sure I used to have many friends but now I have none. Im not sure what to do because I am sad most of the time or just overwhelmed completely, distant from everyone and with no one. I listen to music a lot because it helps me feel heard in a way. Im new to this community and I hope you all are hanging in there thanks for listening and helping me feel less alone.
@rainynights11
im new to here too.
Reading your post was like reading my own experiences in life. I used to have friends, I used to rely on them, now their gone becuase guess theyve had enough of me and I need to change things, I want to change things but each day Im forgetting to breath most of the time.
if you ever want to talk and share etc, stay strong
@CharlieBravo
I can kind of relate because there have been times where I want to reach out and make friends but because I have social anxiety issues and tend to be socially awkward, sometimes it seems that some people think I'm too boring. Maybe it's because I'm not all that great at initiating small talk, as much as I might try, and therefore feel like I'm wasting people's time ...
Hope this helps!
@AbbyHarris1976 I feel you. I am also socially awkward so it's hard for me . When i go places and I see strangers make small talk so easy and walk away with a new friend I just feel like I'm a waste. I feel like because of this people may think I'm cold or stuck up or don't like interacting . I want to but I just can't of that makes sense. 😞
@imaginativeLion355
It makes perfect sense. For me, I look at small talk as a prelude to deeper conversation rather than an end in itself.
I tend to be introverted (INFP on the Myer-Briggs) and sometimes when dealing with extroverts, its like they and I are speaking different languages. 🤣
i just want someone to talk to
@lilykwy
i feel that way, I need someone to share stuff with. I carry these overbearing concerns and worries around with me and they mount up and put me in places I dont want to be. Not easy to find or trust that person tho when your the way I am.
I feel completely lost. I dont really have anyone to talk to. Im really just dealing with loneliness and forgiveness. I dont know how to move forward. I feel like Im in this time paradox where no matter what I do, or what I say, or how hard I try, nothing will change and I feel stuck. I hope everyone does get better and I hope everyone has a good life. Thank you for listening to me.
@ForeverRain1998 what do you need to forgive yourself of?
@ForeverRain1998
Hey man, i can really relate to that i try so hard for people and at best we talk for a few weeks but they always leave, i would give up so much for my friends but i know they wouldnt do the same, im so scared that it will never change, because literally everytime i try the same thing happens and i just dont believe that it will suddenly change and someone will stay
I wish I was happy like other people seem to be. I have a boyfriend, who is great, but I don't want him to be the only person I have. People never hit me up, it is mostly me who makes an effort. It makes my relationships feel one sided. When people don't respond or if plans fall apart, it makes me feel worthless, like no one cares about me. I put myself out there sometimes but I feel like it mostly ends in failure. I do have some friends but the empty feeling still remains. I wish someone would give me chance. I just want a solid group of people that I can call family.
I feel alone, depressed and so on. I began hurting myself and I often thought about suicide. I am Tired of being bitched about behind my back. I need to talk with somebody.i can't talk with my Patents and friends. Last week friday i've lost my best friend He was kind of my brother. May somekne help me? 
Wish I had a special person in my life. Life is so lonely at this moment I need to move and feel so broken.
I've been reading the earlier threads and I feel like I could have written many of them. I'm a weirdo intravert with mild depression and anxiety issues who missed the lessons on how to find/meet and connect with people and make friends. I have no family, except for my cats. I have one real friend where I live and she is in the middle of dealing with an insane personal crisis and has gone dark except for sporadic emails. Which is why- after a considerable gap, I returned to 7 Cups because I had nowhere else to turn.
I have been trying consistently and unsuccessfully to develop friendships but I can't even manage regular acquaintences. I often feel invisible when I go to events or meetups, and it seems that no one wants to know me. I know I have a lot to offer- as a friend and as a person- but it seems that no one other than my cats really is interested. I'm a good person- I'm an interesting conversationalist, I have a good sense of humour, I'm loyal, reliable, responsible, caring, empathetic. I have a lot of interests- but they don't mesh with most peoples. I feel very disconnected from my society and out of synch, culturally.
I don't do church, have a dog , a 9-5 job or like bars and I'm too old for clubs, which were never my thing even when I was younger. And I know that's how lots of people connect. i just wish I could find people close to my wavelength, but I'm starting to think it will never happen.
@ForcefulCranberry
i hear you, life or something like it seems like a trivial pursuit these days. Curing loneliness trying to meet new people and marketing yourself as someone of interest is difficult wen talking to people itself is a hardship.
Loneliness is something I have been struggling with. Even though I have family and associates/friends around, I am not able to express myself fully or confide in anyone because most cannot empathize or understand. The thought of someone being depressed or down and out due to life situations scares most and their suggestions or comments can do more harm than good.
So I deal with issues alone. Maintain a fake smile and keep up appearances when I can manage, but I dont get to vent or talk through my problems.
i guess the key to solving this is finding ways to heal myself and taking care of myself instead of solely focusing on caring for others that dont reciprocate.
it is nice to read others situations to know that I am not the only one!
i hope this community stays strong and continues to post. It gives us a small amount of comfort that is desperately needed.
❤️
I feel my anger and depression and panic attacks keep people way. The few that are decent I have so many walls up that they cannot get through. I just do not want to get betrayed and hurt again.
@Rebekahwriter13 same. My depression is under control right now and I
@Rebekahwriter13
I have amazing walls. Ive been building them since I was 12, at least. My problem is whenever i do manage to climb over a wall and reach out no one sees the effort it took to hoist myself up.
I know people like my mom and dad love me and want to help but they just dont get it and its not something easy to explain either.
Sometimes I'm afraid of how alone I feel, and how depressed I actually am.
@PinkVampires (I like your screenname. I would be purplevampire. LOL)
I completely understand about the loneliess and depression. It freaks me out whenever I try to let a wall down.
I also have depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and get anger. Ive kept people sway too. For years! I dont call the people I connected to years ago, I never feel like talking on the phone or am just too depressed to talk, or I know I cant talk about whats on my mind, which is all depressing, bad news, nobody wants to hear. So Ive isolated. I dont feel like connecting deeply with the people i meet any more. Ive been too hurt and let down too. I totally get what youre saying. @Rebekahwriter13
@selfdisciplinedCurrent1774 You know the irony, you connecting with me over not connecting. LOL
I'm sorry you have been depressed. I feel bad for my family who have to put up with me.
@selfdisciplinedCurrent1774
First time on 7 cups.
What you wrote is spot on. The frustrating thing is the biggest wall I built is for my boyfriend. I can't seem to tell him exactly or somewhat how I feel because he's the type not to believe there's such thing as depression or anything. Even if you slightly tell him he will say what are you going to do about it? That's the thing, there seem to be so much going on in my head, how can I do one thing hoping to "fix" depression
I can honestly say that some of what you are dealing with so am I. I keep a wall up to protect myself and my feelings. Betrayal hurts like nothing ever experienced. I get depressed and sometyjust want to cry not knowing why. Sometimes I feel Im better off by myself. I dont know just thoughts that run through my head from time to time @Rebekahwriter13
@Pumpkin01 And the thoughts are always worst than reality.
@Rebekahwriter13
I agree rebekahwriter13, I have those issues also and have a wall up cause of how people can judge and hurt you at the same time
