Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
I always feel lonely and abandoned. Like there is nobody for me to reach out to. And also like everyone is judging me for the mistakes that I keep making. It's so hard to cope. I feel miserable.
I feel lonely and many find it hard to understand me, and live in situation is nothing but rules on rules.
I like to believe eventually my family and I would be out of this situation and we will look back and say we are stronger for going through it.
I have a hard time making friends and I lost most of them after my ex died. I also dont think im over my ex.
@Rebekahwriter13
If you are upset over a dead ex then you sound pretty normal to me. Let go, go through that grieving process. Repressed grief is a bitch to deal with. I am dealing with all sorts of repressed grief right now--lousy.
@amarifey
I don't know how to open my feelings or grieve.
@Rebekahwriter13
You know that stuff that seeps up that you automatically push down, that lump in your throat, those bees in your belly---DON'T.
Cry in the shower.
watch movies that make you cry
My father died when I was 10 and not until I took my own 6-year-old to see the Lion King did that pain rise up in me and I wailed with so much pain, it had been so many years and I terrified little kids in the theatre but it was a catharsis that I could not stop.
@amarifey thank you. How do I move on?
@Rebekahwriter13
Slowly, It's always there but you learn to live with it
I'm different than everyone in my area, including my family. No one really knows how to comprehend the things I'm going through or the type of person I am so I don't talk to anyone about it (or anything else) and I isolate myself a lot. It's hard to go on with the constant thought of '...being the only one,,,'. I don't have any friends besides my online friend from California who supports me and helps me as I support and help her but I need her here. It makes me wish I was dead and I hate everything about it.
@AdmirableEyes367 There are lot of us who feel lonely here, you can always share your thoughts with us. I have few friends that I care about but I still feel alone. I just feel like I haven't met someone who would really be my true friend. I can't really deacribe how it feels
I often feel extreme loneliness even though I
@SafeCamp18
Unfortunately, Safe, that is how I feel also, and my perception has been that it is pretty normal in the MH community. It gets mildly better each day though. That is how it has been for me, anyways.
@amarifey thank you for the kind words!
@SafeCamp18 I understand that feeling and it really hurts.
Read all the post. Till now I only one suffering from aloneless..upset with myself. Not feeling worth from inside. It seem most of them at one phase goes through it. It not easy to overcome or come out of it. Sometime I wonder why we r dependent on other for our happiness. People nothing remain stable except out own self.wish we could be child you least except and think less.
@Maturefriends
Not sure you think less. As a child I was often worried and couldn't sleep because there were so many things I felt but couldn't understand
@considerateTree2184
I over think now. But maybe I had peaceful happy child. Sorry to hear abt it.
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I read what people said, people feel alone, lonely and I understand that this is how we all feel somehow, no matter what ou do, sometimes you can't help but feel in certain ways.
sometimes i feel like i am so alone in depression. I know that other people are depressed but it's like, do they feel as ineffectual as me? do they think about dying as much as i do, and then turn around and get scared that they thought that? i feel like there is hope for other people but not for me. I dont think i have what it takes to change, and im too unmotivated or scared or just physically not built for getting better. surely if i live long enough i'll either feel better or ill off myself. the second seems so likely sometimes that it scares me, and when it doesnt i wonder if im not just trying to convince myself to be okay with this slow torture and meanwhile letting people watch me waste my life. it hurts me that people believe in me because i know im just going to let them down. and i am letting me down too, i want so badly to feel better and do things and like them and enjoy my friends and family but then i dont feel that way and i feel like i didnt do the work and i am not feeling better because i dont deserve it or because i haven't tried enough things or im just too lazy. sometimes im too lazy to fight off these bad thoughts and i watch myself just waste away in bed. i haven't seen or heard of anybody be at this low state of functioning for this long and i've been in a lot of treatment settings with a lot of people and it has to be something in me. im alone in that i just wont get better
@EspressoBean145
In a program one time, they taught me something to find motivation. Make a T chart that has one side of long term consequences of feeling depressed and thinking negatively. Then on the other, write the short term consequences.
Then, make another T chart that has a long term consequences of getting rid of depression, and on the other side, write of the short term consequences.
I think about death sometimes too, and it terrifies me because I am still underaged and I overthink things too much. Try to join a club or program and push yourself to get out in the world. Also, don't feel like you are not worthed anything and you're wasting your time because you're not. You're strong for at least going to 7 cups of tea and trying to write your feelings down. Yes, it's unpleasant to cry and you feel like your time is running out but that is your mind telling you something. There is someting that you have hold on to in your past and must solve. Maybe try to go out and get a therapist or go to a program or group circle. I hope you can get out and have some fun, you definetly deserve fun for all your struggles you've gone through. Bye!
I feel lonely because my best friend of 15 years passed away a month ago. Now no one calls or really talks to me because they know I'm depressed and said. I'm more isolated them ever. I'm trying to find a bereavement support group. I have responsibilities to my elderly parent so I feel stressed because I can't just grief and I'm also tired of feeling and being alone.
@Lolowise475
Keeping looking for people who will understand you, don't lose hope for yourself. When we lose hope, that's when we really sink further down into loneliness and depression.
Little by little. I keep trying but haven't made any good connections in the real world but still have a few people that are loyal to me.@Silentwinds
@Lolowise475
I really understand this. I'm still searching too.
Hope you and I will be successful soon. Maybe of we wouldn't be vulnerable in. real life we could show people who we really are and then they'd have to love us right? 😀 @Silentwinds
@Lolowise475
Thanks for you positive comments. People don't have to love us, but I hope that the right people will desire to.
Good point@Silentwinds
I want to kill myself again...I don't have anyone and don't fit in anywhere. Hell, I don't fit it in my own skin, I can't do this anymore.
@Supernaturalfreek hey man. How are you feeling today? Feeling like you don't fit anywhere is truly the lonliest feeling. Every thing of you is perfect. Every squish, wrinkle, booger and hair is perfectly in place the same way u are perfectly here with us. You are a wonderfully made human with talents, dreams and things worth saying!
@Supernaturalfreek are you ok?
@Supernaturalfreek you do I promise you ! <3
@Supernaturalfreek I am really sorry for whatever you are going through...but just don't lose hope things get better if you try... Try to speak up . Stay strong and j am sure you can do it....feel free to talk if you feel like sharing don't keep your feelings to yourself.. talking to us will surely help you... Take care :)
@Supernaturalfreek
You have a purpose in this life. Maybe you don't know what it is yet. That's ok. We are all figuring out our oaths together. Stay strong. You are not alone in this. God bless 🙏😁 we are here for you!
@Supernaturalfreek
I know how it feels. Feeling like an outcast is just so hard. You have to find that one person you can talk to. that one person you can trust. Life is hard. There's no getting around it. And you only get one chance. Don't let the negative thoughts take over and ruin it. You got this. You are not alone. Listen to thos song as it has helped me get through the tough times: Enjoy your life by Marina. God bless and stay safe!
