Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
I thought this one guy got, but then he stopped communicating with me. . . if he knew me at all, he would know that I want more communication and less gifts.
@Rebekahwriter13
I absolutely agree. 👍
This fella I was talking to last May, he was complaining that a woman he was seeing didnt wanna see him anymore cuz he kept sending her gifts that she didnt want. Knowing that kind of crap that I later found out this guys involved with (and hes a 7 Cups listener on top of all that 🤣), I can understand why she didnt want any of his gifts. Wonder what kind of gifts he really sent her? Not sure I really wanna know. 🤮🤬
@AbbyHarris1976
I'm weird, but rather have bic pens, notebooks, candy and stuff animals than flowers. I know it's romantic with flowers, but they die and then they make me feel sad. I rather have things I can enjoy or use and a guy would have to get to know me to figure that out.
@MeMyselfAndHer well done for reaching out and looking at the thread it seems you have made some connections. It can take time to make new friends and work out how to connect whether it is with other members or listeners but it seems you have made a start. Chat rooms can be useful as well. I wish you all well 😄
Thank you for this. I have been struggling this week and appreciate your sharing this.
I guess that in one way or another I can relate to what you're saying. It's really hard to know and believe if things will ever get better and so you still trying to find a way to help yourself is really inspirational to me:)
Newbie, here.........everything I've wanted is gone.......my career, my children and my wife. Hard to not feel like I've been cheated. So much I want back, but can't have it. Can't get out of this rut and am scared to try anything new,
If your ever lonly, feel free to join one of 7cups group support chats.
I grew being very lonely becaue all of my sibling were grown up and had children who were too young to for me to play with my parent weren't in shape to play with me due to their physical health problem. I wasn't allowed to be around other people so i didn't learn the social skill. So it made me very shy, socially akward, and have anxiety attack. I grew up severly lonely and people avoid because they thought something was wrong with me. Or they heard a rumor that was false about me. I have no friend, boyfriend, husband, kids.
"LOVE who you are." I've heard this time and time again, yet I fail to do so. So please, everyone, love yourselves for me and shine love to people like me.
@MeMyselfAndHer
I am sorry that you have encountered listeners that aren't helpful. While many are incredible and helpful on 7cups, I have to admit not everyone here are for the right reasons. But don't give up as I have made a lot of friends and helpful people on 7cups. Sure, you wouldn't find them all in one day, but they certainly exist.
I empathise with your situation and would like to extend myself out there to help you. If you ever need someone to speak or talk to, my PM s are open.
Hi, I'm new here but also dealing with loneliness especially with the holidays coming. I'm a much older person so my parents, aunts, uncles are now deceased. I have cousins but not all close and they do not invite me for holidays. I have plenty friends but, again, they are busy with their own children and grandchildren. I'm just kind of in a place on my own.
Don't worry. You are not alone here :)
@ I hope February is finding you in the slightly better please? I can see how your situation with seem extremely lonely. I had my husband when our kids were born but we had really no other family or friends helping us. It was very hard! It still is! I highly recommend some kind of church family. It will take a little while to get to know people but they are generally very welcoming and the message is always good! My kids or teens now we never force them to get involved in youth group and in hindsight I think that was a very bad decision.
@ Hi! I don't see your name here.
