Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
Hi, guys, I hope everyone is doing well,
I am a college student from New England and am majoring in elementary education. I know that I am a smart, caring, beautiful girl, but I sometimes don't feel like I'm good enough. Like I wanna be one of those girls that when she walks in the room everyone's like wow. There is this boy at my college who I was going to start dating when I got here but he ghosted me and it has been really hard for me to deal with. While I was asked out since then, I said no because I was not feeling it with that person.
Have a great night everyone and stays strong
@celian11 I think it's natural for everyone to want to walk in a room and wow people, but in actuality you're going to really wow the people who are compatable with you. If this guy ghosted you, then he has his own issues and probably has a good idea of what qualities he wants in a person. Rejection sucks, but it also is beneficial to finding the guy that is more for you.
@MeMyselfAndHer I have many repeat members. I truly believe that if you're going to be a listener, you're making a commitment to that person. If you don't, it's upsetting ☹️ I'm sorry you're getting frustrated. I'm always here if you'd like to talk.
Jem 🌼
I feel so lonely and numb rn and idky
@JewlryJemaJohnson I feel the same way. I can identify the trigger, my partner said something hurtful earlier and after five years I think our relationship is nearing its end. I dont know who I am without him, hes my best friend. Im sorry you also feel numb and lonely, we arent alone in that sense.
I live alone and I've done so before but this time has been hard for a few personal reasons including a break up.
I have a really good friend who came over last night and we used to all hang out in a big group including my ex. And I found out they've all been hanging out with him because our one friend in the group keeps inviting him and she knows I won't go if he's there. And then my ex bailed on them multiple times so I could've gone anyway!
And now it's just really upsetting me. I've been very lonely and depressed the past month and they are literally the only friends I have. A few years ago after a break up an ex and our mutual friend group completely dropped me and I had no one to talk to and I'm so scared it's going to happen again.
I know my ex is taking the break up hard but he's much more sensitive in front of others so I know our friend that's inviting him places is trying to help him. On the other hand I am more of a suffer in silence type of person so I don't tell people about the break up being hard or the depression, and I feel like it allows them to be really insensitive to me...
I feel so alone and numb sometimes. No one cares about me so I just exclude myself from everything which isnt healthy but at least Im not a burden to anyone. I dont have anyone to talk to about my feelings or personal problems because they would probably think its silly and its "teenage angst". I dont know what to do anymore. I cant go on like this.
@trvxto men i know what are you talking about, its not easy.
@trvxto
I feel the same. It's hard to stuggle in silence and have no-one notice.
i dont know whats happening to me i keep making myself down and I took 2 major decisions over my life last month even thinking about suicide last time. its about i quit the job and i end up my relationship. I am now feeling guilty and a little regret but also unsure about what will happen next. I keep sobbing every night i feel lame and stupd to always picking up wrong decision. But now everything has been done and i keep telling myself its already best i can do, everything not going smooth so its ok to face pain now. I hope i can be happy again and i stop feeling empty and needy. I dont know i never going to psychologist to know whats happening in me cus i always feel empty and questioning my worth eventhough people around me would like to show their care. I still trying my best to keep being productive eventhough im hurting alot inside like i always need someone around who understand which is impossible.
I've dealt with mental illness for more than a decade now, even though I'm 23 yo. I've always been self aware and obsessed with control, so I try to map, understand and keep note of most of my patterns of action and thoughts. However, for these last two months, I can fully grasp what is going on with me. I was in the middle of an episode, everything felt like hell and suddenly I ... shut down. I don't understand what is going on with me, I can't make sense of my own thoughts and it scares me. I'm so lonely, confused and lost, but there's no reaction. Did I finally get over it? Am I getting worse? My doctor only has a spot for me by the end of January, and I can't afford another, and it's making me scared.
@MeMyselfAndHer I honestly thought I was the only one that maybe felt this way about 7Cups. When I first got here, it was great. I was able to talk to people and everything, but recently when I've come back for help, they take a really long time to respond, or end up not responding at all, which doesn't end up helping with my depression or anything.
You're not alone in this though! There have been some great listeners on here who did help me out a lot. Don't give up!
I am getting sick and I have a sore throat. I turned down a New Year
Well this is my 5th time home alone on new year's eve. And I don't have friends inviting me out, my family is doing their own thing, and honestly I don't feel like going out either. Usually new year's eve is a time I spend pittying myself and asking why. Or it's unfair why am I so alone? Anyway this year I'm gonna embrace it(the solitude) and do something about it. The funny thing is that I'm just tired of feeling this way. Which is new, so I'm hoping this will help make sense of my life. Like the tired of this attitude is making me choose where my time and energy is best spent. I guess it's just more focus and determination on a lot less. Also I just wanna say to everyone, I hope things go as close to as you want it to and i wish moment of clarity on those tough choices in life. Peace out y'all(see you in 2020!)
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Hi. I am understand. I hate this feeling of being lonely, sad and depressed. I hate hownibfeel bfeel aboutbmyslef, or my siblings. Just seems noone can even remotely relate to me.
