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Number of ratings136 Number of reviews124 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Dutch, French, German, Italian, Japanese, Portuguese, Spanish Listener sinceNov 4, 2019 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderFemale PathStep 749 People helped948 Chats2,881 Group support chats222 Listener group chats378 Forum posts944 Forum upvotes1,820

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Hello, my name is Jem 🤗 I am a 29 year old mum of 2 Jumping Spiders 🕷️ and a Verified Listener here on 7 Cups. I'm glad you've found me lovelies 🥰

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🌸Adult Listener

🌸 Forum Supporter

I leave no room for judgement! Everyone who speaks with me will be accepted - no exceptions 💜

Why I'm here

Many people ask me why I'm here and give my time to complete strangers, and I'm happy to explore this further � One of my biggest passions is helping others through any issue they may have. When you feel secluded, it can be overwhelming. I want to avoid anyone feeling this way 😊

When I experienced the dark times of life, I didn't have a safe space to vent and express myself. I therefore understand the need for a site like this, and want to give back as much as possible 🥰

Personal Requests

I take these incredibly seriously, and will continue to give my best when I receive them. I do however, get quite a few, so please be patient with me 💟 For this reason, understand that replies to messages sometime take a while - it does NOT mean I'm ignoring you! I'm simply trying to get to you all 💗

Who to contact if I'm not available:

�Gracey - 7cups.com/@Gracey

Everyone deserves a chance at happiness. Why not let it be YOU? 💕

Recent forum posts

How to Create a Comfort Box for Anxiety Relief

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

April 18th

...See more Hi everyone! Anxiety can be overwhelming, making it hard to find solace, especially during intense moments. One tool that I’ve found particularly helpful is a "Comfort Box." It’s a simple, yet powerful way to provide solace during those tough times. Here’s a step-by-step guide to creating your own. 1. Choose Your Box Find a box that resonates with you. It can be any size, shape, or colour. The important thing is that it should feel special to you, perhaps even decorate it to make it feel more personal. 2. Sensory Items for Soothing Incorporate items that soothe each of your senses. This could include: - Touch: A soft blanket or a stress ball. - Sight: Photos of happy memories or a small book of inspiring images. - Sound: A small music player, earphones, or a list of links to calming playlists. - Smell: Essential oils, scented candles, or your favourite perfume. - Taste: A selection of comforting teas or small candies. 3. Personal Affirmations and Notes Write down positive affirmations, motivational quotes, or personal letters to yourself. Reading these during challenging times can offer a significant emotional lift. 4. A Distraction or Two Sometimes, the best way to manage anxiety is to momentarily distract yourself. This could be a puzzle, a colouring book, a novel, or anything else that can help shift your focus. 5. Journal and Pen Keeping a journal within your comfort box can be a therapeutic way to express your thoughts and feelings. Writing can be incredibly cathartic, helping to manage anxiety. 6. Comforting Activities List Create a list of activities that make you feel happy and relaxed. This could be anything from a walk in the park, a warm bath, or watching your favourite movie. 7. Emergency Contacts Include a list of emergency contacts. These could be friends, family members, or a therapist you can reach out to when you need support. Remember: The comfort box is deeply personal and should reflect what brings you peace and comfort. There’s no right or wrong way to create it. Feel free to modify and adjust the contents as your needs and preferences change over time. Creating a comfort box is a beautiful act of self-care. It’s a reminder that you deserve peace and comfort, especially in moments of anxiety. Feel free to share what would go into your comfort box or any thoughts on this approach to managing anxiety. Stay strong and take care, Jem7Cups

Calming the Chaos: A Guide to Finding Relief from Anxiety

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

February 22nd

Coping with Panic Attacks: Here Are My Top 10 Strategies

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

February 1st

...See more Greetings, fellow forum members, I hope this post finds you all in good spirits. Today, I wanted to address a topic that many of us may be familiar with - panic attacks. These sudden and intense episodes can be incredibly challenging to navigate, but I want you to know that there are ways to cope and manage them effectively. Without further ado, here are my top 10 strategies for dealing with panic attacks: 1. Deep Breathing: When you feel a panic attack coming on, focus on your breath. Take slow, deep breaths in through your nose and exhale gently through your mouth. This technique helps to calm your nervous system and reduce the intensity of the attack. 2. Embrace Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness exercises such as meditation or yoga. These practices help you stay grounded in the present moment and prevent your mind from wandering into anxious thoughts. 3. Challenge Negative Thinking: Panic attacks often stem from negative and irrational thoughts. Challenge these thoughts by questioning their validity and replacing them with more positive and realistic ones. 4. Practice Progressive Muscle Relaxation: Tense and relax each muscle group in your body, starting from your toes and working your way up to your head. This technique promotes relaxation and helps release tension. 5. Create a Soothing Environment: Surround yourself with things that bring you comfort and peace. Whether it's soft music, a cozy blanket, or a scented candle, having a calming environment can help soothe your mind during a panic attack. 6. Seek Support: Reach out to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist when you're struggling with panic attacks. Sharing your experiences and feelings can provide immense relief and support. 7. Identify and Avoid Triggers: Take note of any triggers that may contribute to your panic attacks. It could be certain situations, substances, or even specific thought patterns. Understanding your triggers can help you better manage and prevent future attacks. 8. Engage in Regular Exercise: Regular physical activity not only benefits your overall well-being but also helps reduce anxiety and stress. Find an exercise routine that you enjoy and make it a part of your daily life. 9. Prioritise Self-Care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Engage in activities that promote relaxation and self-soothing, such as taking warm baths, pursuing hobbies, or engaging in activities that bring you joy and peace. 10. Consider Professional Help: If your panic attacks persist and significantly impact your daily life, don't hesitate to seek professional help from a therapist or counsellor. They can provide you with additional strategies and personalised support. Remember, coping with panic attacks is a unique journey for each individual. What works for one person may not work for another. Be patient with yourself and explore different techniques until you find what resonates with you. I hope you find these strategies helpful in coping with your panic attacks. If you have any other suggestions or personal experiences to share, please feel free to contribute to the discussion below. Let's support one another on our paths to better mental health. Take care, Jem7Cups

What is DPDR? And How Can I Overcome It?

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

January 19th

...See more Dealing with DPDR (Depersonalisation-Derealisation Disorder) can be a challenging and often misunderstood journey. If you're reading this, you might be seeking answers, comfort, or a way forward. You're not alone. Understanding DPDR DPDR is a dissociative disorder that makes you feel disconnected from your thoughts, feelings, body, or surroundings. It can feel like you're observing your life from outside your body or like the world around you is unreal. This experience can be unsettling, confusing, and even frightening. Recognising the Signs Common symptoms include a sense of detachment from oneself, a feeling of being an outside observer of one's thoughts or body, and a perception that the world around is unreal or dreamlike. It's important to remember that these feelings are part of the disorder and not a reflection of reality. Seeking Help The first step in overcoming DPDR is seeking help. A mental health professional can provide an accurate diagnosis and develop a treatment plan. This might include therapy, medication, or a combination of both. Grounding Techniques Grounding techniques can help bring you back to the present moment. These include mindfulness exercises, deep breathing, and engaging your senses by noting things you can see, touch, hear, smell, and taste. Building a Support Network You don't have to face DPDR alone. Lean on friends, family, or support groups who can understand and provide a comforting presence. Sharing your experiences can be incredibly therapeutic. Patience and Self-Compassion Recovery from DPDR takes time. Be patient with yourself and practice self-compassion. Celebrate small victories and recognise that progress, no matter how small, is still progress. Lifestyle Adjustments Healthy lifestyle choices can support your recovery. Regular exercise, a balanced diet, adequate sleep, and stress-reduction activities can all play a crucial role. Hope and Healing Remember, DPDR is treatable, and many have found paths to recovery and a return to a more grounded life. Your journey may be unique, but there's hope and help available. You're stronger than you know, and with the right support, you can overcome this challenge. ________________________________________ This post is a starting point. If you suspect you have DPDR, please reach out to a mental health professional. You're not alone, and help is available. Stay strong.

November is Men’s Mental Health Month 💚

Trauma Support / by Jem7Cups

November 17th, 2023

Navigating Weekly Anxiety: A Guide for Everyone

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

November 12th, 2023

...See more Introduction: Experiencing anxiety is a universal human experience, yet it manifests uniquely for each individual. Whether you're a busy parent, a student, a professional, or facing your own unique challenges, anxiety can creep in, often peaking during the week with its myriad demands. This guide aims to offer practical, inclusive strategies to manage weekly anxiety, respecting the diverse backgrounds and experiences of all readers. 1. Establish a Routine: For many, a predictable routine can be a calming anchor amidst the chaos of the week. This doesn't mean a rigid schedule but rather a flexible framework that includes time for work, relaxation, and self-care. Whether you're juggling family responsibilities or a demanding job, having a basic structure can provide a sense of control and stability. 2. Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness practices are incredibly versatile, fitting into various cultural and personal backgrounds. They can range from structured meditation sessions to simply being present during everyday activities. Spending a few minutes each day focusing on your breath or engaging in guided meditations can significantly reduce anxiety levels. 3. Physical Activity: Exercise is a powerful tool against anxiety. It doesn't have to be intense; a daily walk, yoga, or gentle stretching can be effective. Tailor your physical activity to your interests and abilities – the key is to get moving and make it a regular part of your week. 4. Balanced Diet: Nutrition plays a crucial role in managing anxiety. A diet rich in vegetables, fruits, whole grains, and lean proteins can stabilise mood and energy levels. Regardless of dietary restrictions or cultural food practices, aim for balanced meals that nourish your body and mind. 5. Quality Sleep: Prioritise sleep, as it's essential for mental health. Create a calming bedtime routine, limit screen time before bed, and try to maintain consistent sleep and wake times. Good sleep hygiene benefits everyone, regardless of their lifestyle. 6. Social Connections: Maintain connections with friends, family, or community groups. Social support is vital for mental well-being. In-person meetings, phone calls, or even digital connections can help alleviate feelings of isolation and anxiety. 7. Professional Help: If anxiety becomes overwhelming, seeking professional help is a strong and positive step. Therapists can provide tailored strategies and support. This option is crucial for everyone, regardless of background, as mental health is a universal need. 8. Self-Compassion: Finally, be kind to yourself. Understand that managing anxiety is a journey, not a destination. Celebrate small victories and be patient with yourself during tougher times. Conclusion: Managing weekly anxiety is a continuous process that looks different for each person. By incorporating these strategies into your routine, you can find what works best for you. Remember, your journey to managing anxiety is uniquely yours, and that's perfectly okay.

Introducing Myself

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

November 16th, 2023

...See more Hello everyone! I’m thrilled to embark on this journey, where I get to share snippets of my life, experiences, and thoughts with you all, as well as help the community. As a 29-year-old therapist from the UK, I find joy and purpose in helping others navigate through their challenges, which is a core part of who I am. Since my early years, I’ve always felt a deep-rooted desire to assist those around me. This innate passion led me to become a therapist. My work allows me to empower individuals, guiding them towards healing and self-discovery. It’s more than a profession for me; it's a calling. Apart from my professional commitments, volunteering holds a special place in my heart. Whether it’s lending a hand at local events or participating in various community services, these experiences enrich my life immeasurably. It’s through volunteering that I connect with diverse individuals and contribute to causes I deeply care about. Life at home is joyously chaotic, thanks to my two adorable dogs. They are not just pets; they are my family. Their boundless energy and unconditional love bring a unique sense of warmth and comfort to my everyday life. When I’m not working or volunteering, you’ll often find me immersed in the world of horror films. There’s something about the adrenaline rush and the intricate storytelling that captivates me. Additionally, playing the piano is a therapeutic escape for me. The melody, rhythm, and harmony are like a balm to my soul, especially after a long day. Spending quality time with my family is something I treasure immensely. Whether it’s a simple dinner together or a weekend getaway, these moments are priceless. They are my support system, my cheerleaders, and my source of endless joy. Living with Depersonalization-Derealization Disorder (DPDR) has been a significant part of my journey. It has given me firsthand experience with anxiety and the unique challenges it brings. This personal battle inspired me to become a forum supporter on anxiety forums. I hope to use my experiences to help others who are navigating similar paths. Joining a wonderful team of forum supporters is a new chapter I’m incredibly excited about. I believe in the power of shared experiences and communal healing. This role allows me to extend my support to a broader community, something I’ve always aspired to do. Check-In: As we wrap up this introductory post, I’d love to hear from you! How do you find solace in your hobbies? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences in the comments. Let’s embark on this journey of sharing and growing together! Jem, Forum Supporter

How to Calm an Anxiety Attack: Practical Tips and Techniques 🙏

Anxiety Support / by Jem7Cups

July 22nd

...See more Anxiety attacks can be incredibly overwhelming. They are characterised by a sudden surge of intense fear or discomfort, and can be accompanied by physical symptoms like a racing heart, shortness of breath, and trembling. Although they can feel incredibly isolating, it's important to remember that you're not alone, and there are techniques that can help. Here's a guide to calming an anxiety attack: 1. Grounding Techniques: Grounding helps bring you back to the present moment. Here are some techniques to try: - 5-4-3-2-1: Identify five things you can see, four you can touch, three you can hear, two you can smell, and one you can taste. - Hold an object: Focus on its texture, temperature, weight, and other physical qualities. 2. Deep Breathing: This can help slow your heart rate and calm your mind. Try inhaling for a count of four, holding for a count of four, and exhaling for a count of four. 3. Challenge Negative Thoughts: Anxiety often comes with a rush of negative and irrational thoughts. Challenge them by asking: - Is this thought true? - Is there evidence to support it? - What's the worst that could happen? And what's more likely to happen? 4. Remind Yourself: Tell yourself that this is an anxiety attack and it will pass. You've gotten through them before and you will get through this one as well. 5. Find a Calm Environment: If possible, step away from an overwhelming environment. This could be a quiet room or even just a few moments outdoors. 6. Use Distraction Techniques: Engage in an activity that requires your attention. This can be anything from counting backwards, coloring, or focusing on a simple task. 7. Seek Comfort: Talk to someone you trust about how you're feeling. Sometimes, just vocalising your feelings can be therapeutic. 8. Avoid Caffeine and Sugar: These can exacerbate anxiety. Instead, drink water or herbal tea. 9. Use Positive Affirmations: Say positive affirmations to yourself, such as "I am safe," "This too shall pass," or "I am in control." 10. Seek Professional Help: If you're experiencing frequent anxiety attacks, it might be time to seek help from a professional, such as a therapist or counsellor. They can provide coping mechanisms tailored to you. Remember, everyone is different and some techniques might work better for you than others. It's about finding what's most effective for you. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself. Anxiety attacks can be challenging, but with the right tools and support, they can become more manageable.

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