Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
Same
I'm a 20 yo that never experienced true friendships. I had friends in the past but we grew apart while we gone on different paths to the point where they didn't want to contact me anymore. I had very strict parents so I didn't got to go out too much. In the end I never met a person to actually have deeper connections with, someone to hang out with, now that I have the freedom.
I have noone. Might as well drop dead. Noone would know or even care
@azureCup8871 that's not true. you are so important in this world. you matter more than you realise.
7 Cups has been the place where I socially interact and get the joy out of helping others. It's a major win-win
Hello, i am Maddox but you can just call me Mad, Karma or Lucifer it's up to you...
I'm diagnosed with severe depression as well as severe social anxiety and may have arranging OCD, BPD and/or be a sociopath.
I deal with having a verbally abusive mother, neglective father and being FtM trans as well as many other uninteresting things.
I'm not exactly sure what i am supposed to say here so this will be all. Nice to meet all of you i guess...
@Karma8990
Hello Karma! Thank you so much for introducing yourself and sharing your story! It sounds like you're dealing with a lot right now, but if you ever need support, you have me and everyone else on 7 Cups behind you! Let me know if you ever need anyone to chat with! 💕
@Karma8990 hey karma
@Karma8990
Hi! Thank you for sharing your story, it is your courage, hope you do well!
@Karma8990 sounds like yiy havea lot of tough things to deal with. I hp[e yiu will get the support yiy need here. we know what you are experiencing.
@Karma8990 sounds like yiy havea lot of tough things to deal with. I hp[e yiu will get the support yiy need here. we know what you are experiencing.
Why are the people I'm most comfortable talking to never around to listen? They say they're gonna be there but I don't hear back or they're always busy.
I feel so alone and that no one cares about me unless it's convenient for them. What's the point?
And then people get upset when I express how angry I am that they aren't there like they said they'd be. Giving excuses like they can't control their schedules. Yes you can. If you care about people then you make time for them.
@courteousLunch82
That's true .... they have other priorities and they don't involve us, it's a choice.
@courteousLunch82
I dunno, I feel like it depends on what's going on in their lives. I couldn't expect my brothers to drop everything to help me, if they're looking after their kids, for example, or they're in work. And especially at the moment, when everyone is dealing with a lot.
It depends on the time of day too. I'd never call my parents in the middle of the night, even if that was when I needed support, because it's not reasonable.
It's not that they don't care, it's that they have their own lives and their own needs.
That's why places like this are good because you can come here for support at any time. Or a mental health helpline if you're in a crisis. I know it's not someone you know, but it's something.
@Rosa9570
hi I can relate to some of your feelings. I am detached from the world at this point it feels like. I am on disability and it helps with monthly expenses so that's good. I have a savings account so that's good too. I take walks, sing, listen to music, oh and I am attending an online degree now. I am blessed to be a blessing. I'm not gay and I want to have a family with me day.
thanks.
@courteousLunch82 After reading what Rosa said, that is kinda true. Not everyone is here 24/7 for you but what I do know is I try my best to be there for others. Maybe you and me can talk, idk. I have had moments where I got left on read and never answered back for a whole year. Some just say ok when things happen. At least I have one friend who does care. Not all the time he is there for me, but enough to keep me sane.
@courteousLunch82
same!
they are always there for me...until i need an ear or a shoulder to cry on or to even talk about me.
then...
where did they all go?
ugh!
You are not alone @courteousLunch82. I experience the exact same thing from people. When i am always there for people when they need me i never get any reciprocation back. That is why it is important to stay emotionally independent. I understand its easier said than done but we are all here to support each other
i just had enough
We are going to be okay guys. I have faith
We are going to be okay guys. I have faith
I am jay.. I have lived with depression for as long as I can remember, got worse as I became an adult, then went through 2 horrible marriages, 1 scary divorce and I think I have finally linked all my depression, anxiety to a verbally abusive mother, a father who was in the house, but not my life. After many chaotic years, I now have complex trauma, but I am still here, so it's all good, mostly..
@jr50 Hi Jay,
Browsing community and saw your post.
How are you doing?
@jr50
Hi Jay, thanks for sharing! I'm sorry to hear you've gone through such a hard time. I'm glad that you are able to see the positive through it. You are still here and still standing! Thats important to remember to keep yourself going. These challenges will make you a stronger person. Dont give up! Let's get through this together! Stay safe and God bless!
@jr50 I am happy to see how strong you are... Quite interesting.. also I am sorry for all the trauma you went through.. but it might have made you stronger..and congratulations for being better day by day..feel free to talk if you feel like talking or sharing anything...take care :)
