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bgdave
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I am now 60 with degenerative disc disease and spinal facet syndrome a chronic pain condition. I have also had both knee joints completely replaced and was caregiving for a stepmother with Parkinson’s disease the whole time and I had no assistance with my or her caregiving the whole while. Then she got dementia and basically threw me away like trash after lying to anyone that would listen. She never appreciated all I sacrificed to give her loving care🤬

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Life sucks when we get to our older years and have nobody we can count on. We are just alone and nobody really cares.
50 & Over Community / by bgdave
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October 27th, 2023
...See more When I am in need of support and reach out and nobody in my life, not even my brother will respond to me. I feel so worthless…
I am so depressed from disability pain and loneliness
Depression Support / by bgdave
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October 10th, 2023
...See more I have been in a nursing and rehabilitation facility for 7 months, I have degenerative disc disease and spinal facet syndrome. I am in chronic pain everyday. I have also had both knee joints completely replaced. Life makes me cry everyday being 60 with no visitors and no income to get any snacks and they quite often feed me too little leaving me still hungry and 😡 ANGRY and sad in tears. I really hate my life right now.
It is so hard at 60 to be in chronic spinal pain every minute of every hour of every day.
50 & Over Community / by bgdave
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August 24th, 2023
...See more I just was just awaken by crazy spinal pain and had to wheelchair to the nurses station for my pain medicine. I have to deal with major pain until September 7th when I get a RFA to burn 8 spinal nerves. I am in tears everyday at this nursing and rehabilitation facility. I cry from loneliness far too often as well. 7 months I have been in here with no visitors and no money to buy anything. I hate my life it’s so difficult right now. They often don’t feed me enough, I am not a 4 yr old….really messed up small servings.
Dealing with Chronic Pain and disabilities, especially depression.
50 & Over Community / by bgdave
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June 18th, 2023
...See more I have spent over 4 months now in a Nursing and Rehabilitation facility and am not feeling like I am making any progress on improving my quality of life. I really don’t have any close friends that live here so I get no visits and I have no vehicle so I am stuck walking long distances and riding public transportation. My life feels so dark and lonely 😔.
Deleting posts without a single word why?
50 & Over Community / by bgdave
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May 1st, 2023
...See more Can I get an admin to respond and explain?
I can see 7 Cups doesn’t really care about it’s members reaching out when in crisis, I say this after my post was deleted!
50 & Over Community / by bgdave
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May 22nd, 2023
...See more Thanks a lot!🤬
Struggling with depression, exhaustion and pain related to my permanent spinal faucet syndrome daily pain.
Disability Support / by bgdave
Last post
August 29th, 2019
...See more I am really struggling today with feeling like I need more rest and the pain is so frustrating and draining. My workplace disability insurance company has continually denied my claims for benefits due to time missed from work due to pain. I am at the point where I feel like I need to get an attorney involved. It has put me in financial crisis and now is threatening my job due to attendance policy and my absences not being excused due to the insurance company not viewing my pain as a valid reqson for missing work. I am trying not to give up. I am starting to lean towards trying to get SSDI as I feel verr helpless and hopeless. I have been struggling since 2017 when I mussed 7 months on short term disability and was finally diagnosed with my spinal condition. I am told by my Neurologist that I am not a candidate for surgery. There is only so much that can be done to help my pain.it is very frustrating. I had to take my stepmother to the EE last night and was not able to get enough sleep last night. I need to be ar wirk by 8am and feel like crap. If I miss wirk I can be fired. I have been at my job for 3 yrs 6 months and don't want to start over.
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