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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

Heather225 August 27th, 2020

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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!

Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.

Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:

- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!

- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!

- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings

- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!

- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!

- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!

- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!

*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

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FrenchToast November 13th, 2020

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would be okay, knowing that this doesn't mean that I am not worth it. I would ask the leader what are the areas I can improve and then thank them for taking the time out for all of that.

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Gozzil November 16th, 2020

@anotherfrenchtoastmafiaa

Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. It's great you recognise that not getting a role does not change your worth, this is definitely a phrase I'm storing away to remind myself in the future!

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lovelyParadise7651 November 14th, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would ask for feedback as to what I could do to improve and try again when I'm ready.

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Dazzle28purvi December 8th, 2020

@lovelyParadise7651 brief and well put! :)

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Dinohorus November 14th, 2020

I would likely struggle with feeling insufficient—like I am not good enough. But I am on a personal path of growth to overcome my defaulting to those feelings, so I would keep in mind that everyone progresses at a different pace, and that I simply wasn’t ready for that role yet. I would thank the leader for their response, and I would ask them for feedback about how I could improve and what I can do to contribute to the community in my own way.

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Gozzil November 16th, 2020

@Dinohorus

Thank you for being open and honest about feeling insufficient. I'm definitely working on this too and it's good to feel I'm not in it alone =)

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Gozzil November 16th, 2020

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I should ask for feedback and do my best to stay calm and listen to it carefully and work on the points that are raised. I should also express gratitude to the person who has reviewed the application and given feedback as these are people in leadership roles who are very busy and I appreciate their time and expertise. This can be hard to acknowledge in the face of disappointment, so I need to take extra care to remember this point. Depending on the situation and how I am feeling it may be appropriate to take extra time for self care activities, take a short break from the site or connect with a peer supporter.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

"Thank you for letting me know, I really appreciate the time you took to review my application. I am still interested in this role and would like to apply again in the future. Are you able to provide feedback so I can work on the skills I will need to be successful in this role? "

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Azalea98 November 19th, 2020

@Gozzil

I love that you would actively seek out feedback! That's a great way to ensure personal growth! 🙂

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Azalea98 November 19th, 2020

I was in this very situation about 3 months ago, I applied to be a peer supporter and unfortunately didn't make the cut. I graciously thanked the person who told me and asked for the areas I fell short in. Kept being a listener here on 7 cups and recently applied for the role again and got it this time round. Perseverance is really the key!

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kdsyahirah November 21st, 2020

@Azalea98 that is so matured of you. I am praying for you for the best.

DreamTouch November 23rd, 2020

@Azalea98

Loved your responce! Yes, perseverance is a key to success. Congrats on your new role laugh

wishfulMoment42 November 25th, 2020

@Azalea98

I am really glad you got in the next time around! Cheers for your efforts and patience.

Chevy81 November 29th, 2020

@Azalea98

I admire your modesty, efforts, patience, and perseverence. Those traits are necessary to have for great leaders <3 congrats on your new role!

blitheEmbrace27 December 3rd, 2020

I’m glad you did not give up and applied for the role again and got approved! Congrats! ❤️@Azalea98

Ines1229 December 9th, 2020

@Azalea98

I`m sorry to hear this has happened to you, but I can tell you have had a lot to learn out of this experience <3 I pray for you!

December 22nd, 2020

That is really good KeepUp the good work and you can go far with roles here .@Azalea98

ouiCherie January 3rd, 2021

@Azalea98

And now you have an inspiring story to tell. Love it!

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MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@Azalea98

It really is!

mxmes January 16th, 2021

@Azalea98

Your an amazing person, I realy do look up to you. You inspire me to do better!

January 21st, 2021

@Azalea98

Loved your reply Azy heart

BellatheHappyHelper January 26th, 2021

@Azalea98

perserverance really is the key laugh that was very awesome of you, great job!

IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@Azalea98

That's so inspiring! Really proud of you!

IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@Azalea98

That's so inspiring! Really proud of you!

warmLove3625 February 11th, 2021

@Azalea98

I think it's great that this is an experience you have already had and I learnt a lot from your share. I appreciate your honesty and I hope you managed to find the position you wanted :)

Best of luck on your LDP Journey!

goldenFriend9335 February 14th, 2021

@Azalea98

thats amazing, so happy for you!

herealways27 April 6th, 2021

@Azalea98

Congrats! I agree perseverance is the answer to failure!

wonderfulRainbow817 July 15th, 2021

Congratulations @Azalea98! Sometimes it isn't that we aren't good for the role - sometimes the leaders just want us to take some time and improve so we can be at the top of our game!

kindFish9215 October 7th, 2021

@Azalea98

Aw I'm sorry to hear that you didn't make the cut. I hope that you eventually got in though!

Moonlemon48 October 20th, 2021

@Azalea98

That's amazing, wishing you the best

Kindwords2000 January 7th, 2022

@Azalea98

I am happy to hear you ended up getting the role eventually, all you have to do is try and try again and if you need to improve make a plan of your next steps.

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kdsyahirah November 21st, 2020

@Heather225

if something like that happens to me, honest to say that I would be a bit relieved to know yet a bit disapointed at the same time. Of course there will be some sadness consuming me. I'll thank the leader who has informed me for let me knowing this. well it's better I do know that I'm knowing I don't get it. I'll accept anyhing that comes to me because I know it's for the best for myself.

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DreamTouch November 23rd, 2020

@kdsyahirah

Yes! I like your thought that, everything that happens is for the best of ourselves in one way or the other. Seeing a room for improvement on these situations help us to grow as an individual heart

wishfulMoment42 November 25th, 2020

@kdsyahirah

I really adore and appreciate the open-minded perspective you have here!

hopebeyondpain November 25th, 2020

@kdsyahirah

It can be a little disappointing to not get a role, but we can always work harder and try again! We might not get it right on the first try, and that's perfectly okay. You got this, I believe in you!

cuteOrange213 December 24th, 2020

@kdsyahirah

I agree that disappointment would always come into the mix when you don't get a role. But I really like the way you see it, where you will get what is best for you

Overall, an amazing answer! Good jobheart

MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@kdsyahirah

That's so sweet Khalifa <3

mxmes January 16th, 2021

@kdsyahirah

I love the way you accept things even though you might be feeling down about it.

BellatheHappyHelper January 26th, 2021

@kdsyahirah

thanking the leader is a great idea, it shows appreciation and respect. keep up the great work!

IceCream4IceCream January 28th, 2021

@kdsyahirah

That's a great attitude towards such a situation. Some things fall apart so better things can fall together?

warmLove3625 February 11th, 2021

@kdsyahirah

I greatly appeciate your honesty that you will be disappointed but will be able to move forward and grow through it. I agree that whatever comes up can be something to grow through and develop the self through.

Best of luck on your LDP Journey !

Moonlemon48 October 20th, 2021


@kdsyahirah

Love the way you accept things!

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DreamTouch November 23rd, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role,
*) How should you respond?
After analyzing it myself for a bit, I would ask for feedback so that I could make sure I'm fit for it before applying the next time

*) What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank them for taking time to inform me and providing me the feedback and ask them for a bit of guidance on things I need to improve smiley

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wishfulMoment42 November 25th, 2020

@DreamTouch

I am glad about your positive take on this. This is helpful!

hopebeyondpain November 25th, 2020

@DreamTouch

Asking for feedback can be scary, I'm proud of you for being willing to reach out for it, Dream!

kdsyahirah November 25th, 2020

@DreamTouch never think of it but either way I'll pray you for the best.

December 22nd, 2020

Well said @DreamTouch

cuteOrange213 December 24th, 2020

@DreamTouch

Feedback definitely helps to improve yourself in a lot of ways

Impressive answer overallheart

sia1325 December 28th, 2020

@DreamTouch

Really a great response!

MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@DreamTouch

That's a good thing to do.

January 22nd, 2021

@DreamTouch Feedback before re-applying sounds good smiley

Moonlemon48 October 20th, 2021

@DreamTouch

Awesome response!

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wishfulMoment42 November 25th, 2020

@Heather225

Well, It would be disheartening for sure but at the same time, if at all you have been eligible to apply for a role if naturally implies you are in some sense mature and open-minded. So I would have taken it normally and I would have continued being the best listener I can be.

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hopebeyondpain November 25th, 2020

@wishfulMoment42

Yes, focusing on what you can do (ie. be as good of a listener as you can be), is a great way to redirect your focus from not getting the role you wanted. I'm glad to see your committed to doing a good job no matter what

Chevy81 November 29th, 2020

@wishfulMoment42

I like how you mentioned the maturity and open-mindedness. Also I agree that the best and helpful way to accept 'rejection' is to keep doing things that we love, the best way we can.

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hopebeyondpain November 25th, 2020

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would thank them for taking the time to review my application and for putting in so much effort into the team they're leading. I would then request feedback from the leader in charge of giving feedback, and work on what I can improve on. I can also take time to work on my skills, and gain more experience, as well as find a mentor to help me.

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Chevy81 November 29th, 2020

@hopebeyondpain

being thankful is always a good thing to do heart those things on your list are helpful, thank you for sharing

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sunlightspirit February 6th, 2021

@Chevy81

Succinct and to the point

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blitheEmbrace27 December 3rd, 2020

Such a great response! 😊 @hopebeyondpain

sia1325 December 28th, 2020

@hopebeyondpain

Well said!

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Chevy81 November 29th, 2020

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would accept it, maybe not instantly. I would need to process it, to think about what things I should improve and which area I should practice more. And the most important thing, I would ask to the person informed me, some feedback. And if possible, I would try to re-apply when I'm more ready.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would say thank you for informing me because I would appreciate to get informed than have no clue if my application was approved or declined. Then I would ask them some feedback and maybe discussion on how I could be better.

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Dazzle28purvi December 8th, 2020

@Chevy81 very well thought!

lyricalAngel70 December 23rd, 2020

@Chevy81

I agree with you. Having no clue about our application can be exhausting & discouraging.

January 22nd, 2021

@Chevy81 It's a very thoughtful reply Chevy loved it heart

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