Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Respond with patience and openness. Say thank you regardless of the outcome.
@thelastiger
Great answer! 
@Heather225
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If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I think I would be disappointed at the first glance at the results. But then I would realise that maybe I wasn't yet prepared for the role I applied for, and I would work hard to fit the role better in the future.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would definitely thank the leader for informing me. If there is no reason given, I would definitely ask the leader on why I wasn't fit for the role.
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@cuteOrange213
Disappointed at first glance is very natural. The first time hearing the result, everyone would feel the same I suppose 
I like the persistence and assertiveness in your answers
If I was not given a role that I applied for, I would ask the leader for constructive feedback. I would thank them for helping me and I would ask them when I can apply again because I can always try again and I might get it next time!
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I think I would be disappointed at first but I would ask the leader for the feedback to know where I went wrong and also thank them for taking their time out to review my application.
@Heather225
How I should respond:
Those badges and roles are not shining glittering objects in my eyes. I’m aware of what those entail: responsibilities/ accountability. So, when I apply, I put lots of consideration into my limitations. And The Community have their own considerations, criteria, and parameters. If I am deemed unfit for a role, then that’s just it. Look at the bright side.
Just like job hunting, we get it when everything is aligned. There are still many ways to give back to the community, try again if I feel like it and have better prepared or apply for other roles or even as simple as doing active listening to members without a single role. That’s already helping the community and I kinda miss that lol
What would I say to the leader who has informed me:
First, definitely a big thanks. Knowing when I can stop waiting is a relief. So even a No is a relief or a "If you don't hear from us in 2 weeks time, means you may try to apply again" is good enough.
Next, I will surely ask at which point/s I fail. If the particular leader doesn't have the information, I’ll ask who to contact regarding that or I’ll ask my mentors. Luckily, I got myself 2 quite resourceful ones as mentors.
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@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
The first time I applied for the forum suporter role, I didn't get it. I took constructive feedback from the lovely leader, cried a bit then worked hard on improving. I got the role :)
@MyNameIsNicole
That's brave of you to ask feedback from the person who had informed you. I'm sure you're a really hardworking person. Moreover, I'm glad you finally got the position you're looking for 
@kdsyahira
Aww thank you. And yes I did💖
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I belive that you should respond with an open-mind and be polite. This person is here to help you grow by pointing out your flaws.You should ask on why you did not get the role and how you can improve. Remember to be polite. You may feel disappointed, and that's okay because you are human. But keep a calm mind and be appreciative, take some time to reflect on what you could have done differently and why. Also motivate yourself, you'll get it next time if you put your mind to it!
@MyNameIsNicole
You have such a positive vibe, even though someone might not get a role they can learn from that and reapply once you have improved some things.
@Heather225
In all honesty, I would be okay, because I enjoy all the things that I do and have now. To me it's not just about roles, it's about being here, giving support, and helping the community, and of course for some things you have to have a specific role. You can always apply again in due time, it actually makes me happy to receive feedback from a role that I might need to work on before getting. I would tell the leader that I am thankful and I will work towards improving myself and my skills. I'd connect with my mentor and set some goals and work towards achieving them and learn some things. We have so many great leaders and we look up to them, so thank you all~!
@Heather225
- I would talk to the leader and try to get a feedback and see where I need to improve upon and try again next time.
- I would thank them for the feedback and if possible ask for help in the area of weakness or atleast a path, or if they are not available get a mentor for the same. Also would let them know, that I would improve and try again.
@beautifulSeal9714
That's the way to go! I'm sure you'd get the role if you tried again if you took such a positive approach.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would feel disappointed in myself but, I will look forward to doing better to improving myself, and becoming suitable for the role. If required, I might also reach out to a Peer Supporter and take some time off from the site; self-care break.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would first thank them for updating me next, I would ask them how I can improve myself and become suitable for the role.
fantastic post, keep up the great work!
Good Job!
I love the colors!
great answer!
Thank you for the great post, I really agree that it's nice to thank the mentors who have supported us throughout the LDP no matter what the results are.
it's a good answer, thanks for being very understanding, it's a beautiful virtue <3
Amazing answer !
