Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

@LittleBirdie30 - great that you take it as a way to focus and improve!

@LittleBirdie30 Yay, that's a great approach! Thanks for sharing ~

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I would be disappointed and take some time out for self-care. I would appreciate their time and ask for them for a feedback.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would thank them for their time and would ask for a feedback and an update on the next possible opportunity. And I would consider this as a chance for me to grow and learn more.

@Beaconx

Great response! It is great to look at this as a chance to grow and learn more!

@Beaconx

I really like your response! Asking for feedback is very important.

@Beaconx

I agree that disappointment is a really common emotion to feel after not being able to get a role, and I love that you would take some time for self-care! Feedback and an update is also a super great idea for us to learn more and grow :)

@Beaconx Self-care is really important and we shouldn't hesitate to take a break if needed! Keep your hopes up though, I'm sure you will do great!

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would feel a little sad and disappointed, and probably take some time to think about it, and to practice self-care. I would thank the leader for letting me know, and I would ask them what I could do to grow and ask for any other feedback they might have for me, and ask any questions I have. I might also follow up with them in the future to see if there is anything else I can work on.

@hopedreamlove

Asking question is always helpful!

@hopedreamlove

Getting feedback and taking a break to understand the rejection is very important! Good response :)

@hopedreamlove - self care is so important!

@hopedreamlove

that's great! hope!

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I would respond with grace and understanding. Not every role will be right for me, and that's okay.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would thank them for their time and ask for feedback on my performance.

@freshMint9376

i love how you think about the situation, looking for the right role for yourself!

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

You should respond positively and with understanding, not everyone gets the role they want when they want it. I would ask the leader who informed me what I can do to increase my chances of getting the role the next time it is offered.

@CognitiveACE

Very positive outlook, ACE

@CognitiveACE

Aww, I love that optimism! Thinking about the situation positively and understanding, and I agree 100% that not everyone gets the role they want when they want it :) Asking for feedback is also a great way to understand the situation more and improve our chances next time around!

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

If I don't get a role that I applied for, then I should talk to the leader of the role and request for feedback and advice so that I can improve myself in the areas where I need improvement. I should devote time to self-care. If I am hurt or jealous, then staying away from 7 Cups can be a good option.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Thank you for considering my application for this role. I would be grateful to you if you could provide me with feedback. This would help me improve on areas where I need to improve. Please also inform me about when can I apply for the role again.

@shiningSound31

I love your response. It can be difficult to hear, and it sounds like you've taken that into consideration as well. Requesting for feedback is so important- without feedback, how will we learn and grow? Love it, Sound! ❤️

@rebecca947

Thanks, Rebecca Hugs

@shiningSound31

This is a really great answer! I agree with you about taking a self-care break and asking for feedback is important.

@BookChunky

Thank you, Chunky for liking my response and for your warm and kind reply

@shiningSound31 Really loved your reply. Lots of positivity!

@SweetDreamer69

Thank you, Dreamer Hugs

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

Don't get upset, try to understand what went wrong and how to do a better job next time.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Thank them for being honest and informing you, ask them what you did wrong to clearly understand alongwith that ask what you can do better next time you apply for that role.

@BookChunky

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@BookChunky

It'll be hard to not get upset, but training your brain to think positively is the best way to go!

@BookChunky

good points book!

@Heather225

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would be a little disappointed but not much because there are so many things to do here. I would thank the leader for taking the time and let them know that I'd get better and probably try again soon.

@Grace8402

This is a great response Grace! That s tue that there are so many things to do on 7 cups and sometimes we do not get the role we want to because we are not the perfect fit and maybe we would not be really satisfied with it once we have it. Sometimes we imagine things different than they are in reality. I am happy to hear that it would not discourage you and you would keep on improving.

@MoonlightHelper1

Well said! And thank you! Have a great day 😄

@Grace8402

great point grace! there are always many more chances to get involved in whatever the track you feel passionate about in cups!

@Listeningsarinn

Well said, Sarinn! Thank you! 💜

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Sometimes we feel no hope.. No point of progressing... Everything seems so worthless.... All desires are gone love lost but the time, The time remain constant.. Time will turn am waiting for it to turn... Time is a best but slow medicine. It will heal and give you strength

IT'S TIME, IT WILL PASS

@Slash

Wow, this was so encouraging to read! I love how you highlight that after all time will pass and only contribute to your healing process and make you stronger! Thank you for sharing these inspiring words with us!

@Slash

there are times we all need to remind this to ourselves! thanks for sharing ^-^

@Heather225

Before I answer the question, I just want to say that one of the biggest things 7 cups taught me was how to accept exactly this situation. Giving a brief overview, previously, in my own personal life, there were a lot of times I completely stopped an activity just because I did not get a role, and it is one of the main things I really regretted. When I first joined 7 cups, I went through a lot of threads, and there was also a thread about "what should you do when you were not given a role," and it was very heartfelt for me, so thank you! Now, here is my response to the questions:

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

Before anything, I would first thank the leader for taking the time to read through my application and for the notice as well (They are always super busy and taking even just a few minutes to read through my application is honestly super awesome and something I am thankful for). I would then congratulate anyone who did get the role! Previously, I might have been really discouraged, but I would say that since the last three months, I would really love the idea that I was not given the role (which I know sounds kind of weird), but here's my reason. Because I was not given the role, it meant that there was someone who could do even better than I did and could help this site in a better way than I could. It meant progress, and it also means somewhere I can improve as well, and obviously, another person I could look up to! Some part of me will definitely be disappointed, but this would really encourage me to see where I can improve and become even better than who I was originally when I wrote the application :) It is a time when I can really reflect about everything as well!

@DayDreamWithYou

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! I completely agree that when not being given the role we should not just shout down. It is so inspiring how you would see all of this as your opportunity to grow and that you would be happy that they found the most suitable candidate they think would do the best to improve the community. I think you are going to be a great leader constantly self-developing, all the best on your journey!!

@DayDreamWithYou

Wonderful answer!