Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? It would be nice if there was a more clear way to connect with peer support, if so I would likely do that. Instead, I often focus on another area.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you? Ask for a timeline as to when the badge will be ready for members.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I should respond positively rather than negatively, even though it will hurt for a bit, I will have to suck up my pride and ask what I can do to improve on my skills for the next time. I know nobody's perfect, and not everyone gets the role every time, but I know if I continue to encourage myself and continue to work hard, I will get where I want to be.
1: I would be upset but would understand if there better out there for the role. I would reflect on it and try harder for next time.
2: I would thank you for the opportunity to apply for this position.
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I should first thank the leader, for giving my applicaiton their time, and informing me! Then I would ask for feedback, so I can grow and possible reapply in the future.
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? Be calm, thank them for their time, ask them for feedback and what can be done better for next time. Use that as motivation to try again, and not be discouraged.
@Heather225
It would be OK to feel dissapointed and a bit sad but also remind myself that I'm not perfect and I cantry again!
I would ask the leader for some feedback and some tips on how can I try again!
@queenviebsonly That's the spirit! atahis can be a motive to get better!
@SofiaT2000 This*
@Heather225
I'm sure we should respond with politeness. The other leader's goal is not to shut us down but to help us improve. It's also no ones fault that someone may not be ready to be a leader. These are challenging roles that take dedication and practice. I would think positive knowing that there's always room for improvement and that I can reach there if I really want to. I would thank them for informing me and I would ask for feedback. What went wrong, how can I do better and improve myself. I would also ask for recommended ways to practice my skills like starting discussions in a group chat or take a mock chat. Then I would ask a mentor to help with my progress.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would definitely ask for feedback to know where I went wrong and try to improve those weaknesses. I'll give it some time to make myself ready for the said role and applying again.
I'll let the leader who informed me know that I'll be working on my weaknesses and try again in some time and thank them for their precious time to provide me personal feedback.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank the leader for letting me know, and ask if they could provide me feedback on where I need to improve, or what areas I need to work on. If they can't provide that feedback, I'd reach out to a mentor and find out what I can do to learn more and improve. Part of me would likely feel disappointed, and I'd need to work on not kicking myself and thinking I'm not good enough.
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? I hope that I can get this role in the future. I wonder what I might do to prepare myself for this role. Let me talk to other people in this role and find out what they do and how they do it so I might find out what skills I need to nurture and develop.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for letting me know. I wonder what areas I might need improvement on. Can you share some feedback so I can use this as a learning experience?
@soulsings
Thanks for your post, reaching out to people already in the role is a great idea.
