Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav
FrenchToast
1 187,166
L Virtuoso 2
4.5 star rating
Rating
There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.
Number of ratings196 Number of reviews77 Listens toTeens & Over 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceMay 10, 2015 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 340 People helped544 Chats1,461 Group support chats241 Listener group chats409 Forum posts1,459 Forum upvotes4,876
Bio

Please note that I am no longer an active ambassador nor do I have any leadership roles on 7 Cups anymore.

Hello everyone, I'm Toast! Welcome to 7 Cups and my profile :) I try my best to contribute positively to the community. Unfortunately, at this time, I do not have the time to take up regular member chats. I do have some occasional times that I might be able to, but my status will be green at that time and I only take one-off chats so if you are looking for long-term support, please reach out to another listener. I also only do 45-minute-long chats. But otherwise, my other life commitments restrict me from responding in a timely manner. Please look at my profile for topics I am and I am not comfortable with.

That being said, my PMs are always open! I will get back to you as soon as I can, please bear with me on my response time. Feel free to always resend a message if need be!

{the undercurrent pulls

my body it sweeps

pulling my out

its anger it keeps

the undercurrent draws

a turbulent tempt

it tumbles my heart

with vehement intent

the undercurrent rages

But I'm sturdy and strong

adept in the water

for that's where I belong

the undercurrent subsides

I'm floating serene

my eyes see the sun

I still live, I still dream

-Eileen Manassian, "The deleted poems". }

"Our wounds are often the openings into the best and the most beautiful part of us."
-David Richo

Recent forum posts
Academy Graduates: August 2023!
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 September 9th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone! I am delighted to announce our new batch of wonderful 7 Cups Academy graduates from the month of July! They have graduated from different programs from our Academy. We have a wonderful list - so congratulations one and all, you did it!! Please join me in congratulating them LDP - @DisLifeNot @Rivelino3 @Jenna QLP - @cheerfulCaramel9785 @PeacePink @tuffattack GSP - @OakSerenity Internship - @KitKats00 @88Avocados @RavynRae @besTurtle618 @sudmantohelp @ouiCherie @thanhx4 @EddieL @SilverSeastar @Roshanashabanii @grimsmark8 @Harsvin @Lullaby17 @wildflower999 @Gilbird @tiamishere @charmingEagle47 @serenePineapple7180 @Cookiedonuts2000
Academy Graduates: Month of July 2023!
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 August 9th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone! I am delighted to announce our new batch of wonderful 7 Cups Academy graduates! They have graduated from different programs from our Academy in the month of July! We have a wonderful list - so congratulations one and all, you did it!! Please join me in congratulating them LDP - @TabbyCat97 @Mahad2804 @RosaHere @Gilbird @charmingEagle47 QLP - @purifyyoursoul @GuiOakes @Friendlyanju777 @Manothelistener @GuardianOfPeace @charmingEagle47 @HermitHealer @AayushreeKalyani @sereneButton43 @DisLifeNot @RadiantLight33 @Dystopiatae95 @tranquilKitty4959 GSP - @Mari228 Internship - @AayushreeKalyani @DisLifeNot @AloneGhost @sweetmikayla @richuyulin CDM - @blindDaisy9121 @starsnnights
7 Cups 10th Birthday Celebration (Day 6) High Expectations & High Warmth
Community Projects & Events / by FrenchToast
Last post
 July 10th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone and a very happy birthday to this incredible community we are all a part of. 10 years of compassion, community service, and empathic listening is incredible. Our core values and mission have brought us this far. This post is dedicated to high expectations and high warmth. We define this value by delivering quality work supported through learning, safety, and candor. So what is high warmth? It means to provide each other with a space that allows them to take risks and then grow through whatever they learn from taking that risk. It means to be positive about whatever step that is being taken and also to deal with the consequences in an encouraging and supportive manner. What are high expectations? We strive to give help when asked, because we understand that we are all collectively responsible for the success of our mission. We do not try to avoid problems or explain them away. We face them directly and we work to overcome them. Our accountability comes from the recognition of the fact that if we do not deliver, more people in need will be left without help taking us away from our mission. When you support someone successfully, you feel a sense of gratification. Over the years that I have been here, I have realized that the success of others has been like a badge of honor for myself as a listener, leader, and as a member of the community. I have learnt quickly that ‘you get what you give.’ So to be a warm demander is an important accomplishment in addition to our empathy, responsiveness, and patience. Being a warm demander, you are showing personal regard, encouraging productive struggle, and creating a safe thriving environment. A part of the Leadership Development Program focuses on high expectations and high warmth being a foundational leadership principle. A question that our trainees are asked is “What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth?” And the general theme of the answers given is everything in balance. Balancing high expectations with high warmth means you are giving the person in front of you a chance to learn and grow safely. And in a way, you are convincing them of their own brilliance. People will always remember how you made them feel, and to encourage them is to give them courage. I will end this with a quote and a question. Please let me know in the thread below what you think! ‘No one cares how much you know until they know how much you care.’ - Roosevelt * Do you think you are balancing high expectations and high warmth? If so, what are some of the ways you do it?
Academy Graduates: Month of June 2023!
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 July 7th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone! I am delighted to announce our new batch of wonderful 7 Cups Academy graduates! They have graduated from different programs from our Academy in the month of June! We have a wonderful list - so congratulations one and all, you did it!! Please join me in congratulating them LDP - @RainbowRosie @CurrySoup12 @MagnificentSunrise @GermanZebraCupcake @AnnaSilverberg @SnowTabby QLP - @Daf8 @Rubylistens22 Internship - @Yourgoodfriendd @Sphumi08 @wishfulHero585 @peacefulDreamer9487 @Kyzasugary @Friend4322 @hennessy02 @GlowingBlueRose @TabbyCat97 @Daf8 CDM - @kindEyes9789 @Angelzz127
Academy Graduates: Month of May 2023!
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 June 3rd, 2023
...See more Hi everyone! I am delighted to announce our new batch of wonderful 7 Cups Academy graduates! They have graduated from different programs from our Academy in the month of May! We have a wonderful list - so congratulations one and all, you did it!! Please join me in congratulating them LDP - @zaatarHoney @beyoutofullkalon @FeureVox @richuyulin @broadfemmelovelive @Rubylistens22 QLP - @JaiMaa @FrenchToastClub @TabbyCat97 @dazydeer2701 GSP - @beck1 @MagnificentSunrise @FrenchMarbles @SoothingHope @Tobedoctor Internship - @JoyHappyNess @Heart4art @JacquiCol @Smrtbibliophile @victoriousblue17 @Waterfallsofnature36 @notsouniquelistener @brightApple51 CDM - @Skansly
New Mentor Leader: positivePumpkin22
Leadership Development Program / by FrenchToast
Last post
 April 28th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone! I am so very excited to announce our new Leadership Development Program (LDP) Mentor Leader - @positivePumpkin22! I am happy to say that Pumpkin will be stepping into the role of a Mentor Leader for the LDP. They were one of our first LDP mentors and now I'm pleased to say that Pumpkin has been working hard to keep the program running. Their dedication has been a great contribution to the team and I am very grateful to get the chance to work alongside them, and deliver to you a program that does nothing but benefit you. We hope that we can continue to make efforts to make the LDP journey a worthwhile one for you. So, please, everyone join me in congratulating @positivePumpkin22 and welcoming them to the LDP leadership team!
New Academy Mentors: April 2023
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 April 23rd, 2023
...See more Hello everyone! I am excited to share that the academy leadership team has a few new additions. Academy mentors are a very important part of our leadership structure. They spend a lot of time and energy ensuring that trainees have a good experience and are able to meet their set goals. Please join me in welcoming our newest academy mentors. @Sibafo (LDP) @Cathahrtic1435 (GSP) @positivePumpkin22 (QLP) @Azuladragon34 (Internship) 📎If you would like to join our team, please do so here! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerResources_61/Applytobecomea7CupsAcademyMentor_243570/1/#2635020] This post is brought to you by the 7 Cups Academy Team! 📎Programs for listeners! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsAcademy_208/AcademyPrograms_2311/AcademyProgramsAvailableForListeners_284930/] 📎Programs for members! [https://www.7cups.com/forum/7CupsAcademy_208/AcademyPrograms_2311/7CupsAcademyProgramsforMembers_284937/] 📢Follow us on LinkedIn! [https://www.linkedin.com/company/7-cups-academy/]
Apply to become a mentor with 7 Cups Academy!
7 Cups Academy / by FrenchToast
Last post
 November 13th
...See more Hi everyone! The 7 Cups Academy [https://www.7cups.com/forum/SiteUpdates_100/HsHaven_1970/StriveTowardsLeadershipProfessionalExcellencethe7CupsAcademy_232978/1/] has around five programs available to everyone at any given time. With our academy growing quickly everyday, we require a strong team of mentors to run the programs and make it a smooth sailing ship for our trainees. At the academy, we are always looking for help so if you would like to contribute to our programs, please use this post as a guide to apply to become a mentor. Please review each program and what each program requirements are to become a mentor. You may apply for one at a time, once you've passed 2 months in your role, you can apply for another program. You can only be part of two programs. Overall requirements: - Verified Listener Badge [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ListenerLearningJourney_149/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/NewAdditionalCriteriaToBecomeVerifiedListenerGoingLive_230276/] - Not be a trainee in the program you are applying for. You can graduate and then apply! - No serious behavior reports in the past 3 months - Those in a leadership role already will be given preference! _______________________________________________________________________________ 1. Quality Listening Program - 100+ 1-1 chats - Been a listener for at least 3 months - Priority will be given to QLP Graduates 2. Leadership Development Program - Been a listener for at least 3 months - It is preferred that you are an ATL but not needed - Able to work on and communicate with a team - Able to commit at least 1 hour a week - Priority will be given to LDP Graduates 3. Internship Program - 3+ months as a listener - 150+ chats with member/guests - Sparkler and Tiny Chat badges (obtained by completing 20 member and 20 listener group chats) - Should be able to maintain a response time of within 3 days unless on informed break. - Should be able to give the track at least 2 months after acceptance before taking any major breaks. - Priority will be given to Internship Program Graduates 4. Content Development and Marketing Program - Questions in the application form - 3+ months as a listener - Priority will be given to CDM Program Graduates Some notes to keep in mind: - This role is available to both teens and adults. ATLs are preferred as it makes our communication process easy. - We bring on mentors as per our need in a specific program. So, it's possible that QLP might need a mentor but the other programs don't. - The academy reserves the right to remove any mentor on any basis, well within reason. It can be based on inactivity, unprofessionalism, etc. - Each role entails a month-long trial that follows the training. You will be trained initially and then put on a trial so both you and the team can create an understanding of each others' work style. - Please be mindful of how much time you can dedicate to the programs. All of these programs require consistent weekly involvement. If you are occupied with other roles or anything else, you might not have the time for these roles. General expectations from all the roles: - Always be open to feedback, be it positive or constructive. We strive on the feedback we are given and will take every opportunity we can to become better. - The roles will require consistent involvement - Quick learner and a team player - Must be comfortable leading group AMAs for the programs - Be a pro-active guide to all our trainees so they can finish the program smoothly - Be flexible and ready to adapt to different needs that you might come around to face - Deliver a good response time to trainees. It is recommended that you reply to trainees within 2 days/48 hours. - Please review our leadership position guidelines: https://tinyurl.com/ybeze92s To apply for an academy mentor, please fill >this form [https://forms.gle/oMgrfp5THXqUsvCv5]< Learn more about academy programs here [https://www.7cups.com/academy/]
Search more from @FrenchToast
Feedback & Reviews
Really listened and helped. was also super attentive to what you need
Fantastic listener French is! Well deserved to be a listener
amazing listener
Fantastic listener, he was awesome and very attentive
up and running, love talking to frenchtoastclub :D
They are a really good listener, knows when to ask questions and when to let you talk. Asks the right questions and really cares for their member. Offered their help without judgment and without the pretence of being a perfect listener. Highly recommend to everyone
FrenchToastClub is patient and caring.
Toast إنه لأمر مدهش أنهم يستمعون إليك باهتمام وتفهم كاملين. الاعتناء بك وتقديم نظرة ثاقبة لوضعك. لقد مررت بمواقف صعبة وكنت بحاجة إلى جيدة وناضجة listener أنا سعيد لأنني التقيت بهم
Very understanding and easy to talk to. Doesn't misunderstand what I'm saying
Amazing listener :D
she is very kind and supportive
She is ready to help me out with questions I have
Very understanding and caring. Very helpful to.
Genuinely made me feel a lot better and genuinely cares by asking the right questions !
Great support structure, thank you
She really just calmed me down after a stressful day.
One of the kindest listeners you'll find here, she'll respect you and hold space really well when you need it.
Amazing listener, really listens to the member.
She is extremely helpful. I'm going through a rough time like many others but she always responds and takes the time to talk. I feel like a burden has been lifted off me after talking to her. She's just awesome!
very helpful very grateful
She is so good. She makes sure to listen to you in and out. She is non-judgmental and patient and empathetic and I think that's really important. Thanks for making me realize how much I needed to talk to someone. You made me feel as though nothing was impossible and I haven't felt like that in a long time. Lucky to have met you, Toast.
She was awesome and kind and caring and respectful. One session with her and I love her!! I dont have any words to appreciate her, she's too good!!🧡🧡
She was really kind and respectful
it was fun talking to her\him
she was really nice and helped a lot
Amazing listener, helped me figure stuff out.
A good listener, really nice and makes me feel comfortable
She knows how to tackle the situation ❣️
Great and a good listener
She is really great at helping with panic attacks, the best I've found. Great personality and knowledgeable about mindful breathing and grounding techniques.
She is a great listener! One of the best I've talked to :) Thank you so much for responding to everything I said and not appear to be annoyed with me at all. Thank you thank you to people like you!!
Good listening skills
Awesome listener!
She had been a great listener; she gave good advice and was extremely well-understanding of how I was feeling. She even offered to give some more tips if I want to talk to her again. I really appreciate her!
Very patient and understanding, makes a very safe space and a comfortable chat. Would definitely recommend for any sort of panic or anxiety.
Thanks for the encouragement:)
Thank you for taking out sometime - Dragon
Thanks for listening
I really had an awesome time talking to her...
Very good helped me a lot
Helping me a lot
really good thanks
the listener with beautiful smile ever and after seeing it i can say that she can make your day with her inspirational sayings...............!!!!
Great and supportive!
Thank you for your kindness
Very helpful and kind towards my problem!!
Understood my problems really well
Amazing, response, Very helpful, very patient and really helped me cope with my problem! There should be more and more Angels like you, God bless you!
Thx.
Great
She's kind of really sweet and encouraging. :)
thank you.
Thanks
You're doing a great job. I'm actually feeling better that someone can appreciate me and don't judge me just because of this.
Excellent listener
Caring , loving.
In essential a sweetheartsweetheart..
A very helpful and kind listener :)
I got the help I needed. And I thankfully that she listened and gave me great advice.
Articulates well, and is supportive till the end! Need more people like this, wallah
POSITIVE LISTENER, and supports so much till end!!!!
Was very understanding and showed solutions to solve my problems
Helped me find solutions to the problem
She is as amazing as I hoped~ she listened and made me feel as though I could really get through my problems one step at a time. You go, girl!
The second chat with her was so good! And the best part: She's super funny.
I feel like she pays attention to everything I say, which is so important. I appreciate your time, Kushani! You've made such a huge impact on my life. I can't wait to come back to you.
Remarkable. She's an angel.
You Rock Girl !
Exceptionally well.
Articulates well, and is very empathetic. Can't wait to talk to her again
She is simply amazing and funny
Seems very mature for her age.
It was good talking to you :) ...
One of the nice listeners of 7cups. Articulate, intelligent, and helpful.
loved talking to the listener
Kind and humble person. She's like a goddess. Can't wait to talk to her again. You go, girl.
She's absolutely lovely. Very understanding and extremely patient. Need more people like her. :)
She's lovely and pretty kind.
Categories
Managing Emotions
Panic Attacks
Anxiety
Breakups
Alcohol/Drug Abuse
Forgiveness
Grief
Social Anxiety
Getting Unstuck
Student Life
Relationship Stress
Badges & Awards
166 total badges
Recruit PB Listening Ear Magnet Encourager Sage Translator Messenger Envoy PenPal Jester of Smiles Clerk of Bear Hugs Piper of Dedication Ellen Jump Start Anxiety Depression Eating Disorders Managing Emotions Panic Attacks Surviving Breakups Traumatic Experiences Crisis Intervention Peter Pan Listener Oath Work Related Stress Self Harm Sexual Abuse Alcohol & Drug Abuse Family Support Grad Cultural Diversity Verified Listener Bullying Chronic Pain Psychological First Aid Family Stress Sleeping Well Graduate Master Scholar Love Bug Quality Champion Refresher iListen Light Chat Tiny Chat Small Chat Chit Chat Big Chat Voice Talker Communicator Speaker Orator Ray of Hope Shining Light Help Angel Self-Care College Guide Loneliness Guide Test Anxiety Exercise Motivation ACT Therapy Quality Guru Affirmative Reflection Chat & Text Listening Ace Active Listening Guest Host Startup Support Feedback PH Upvote Perinatal Listener Verifier Team Schizophrenia Bat Signal People of Color Guide People of Color Support ADHD Social Anxiety OCD Boundaries Forgiveness Grief Managing Bipolar Managing Finances Teen Transitioning Mentor Surviving Domestic Assault Getting Unstuck Project Agent Cup Connect Operations Mentor 7Cups Guide Pop-Up Ninja Rocket Listener Quality Beam 12 Steps Community 101 7 Cups Intern Grad 2nd Birthday Party Strangers Unite Sparkler Loyal Friend Tick Tock Fellow Friend NAMI Listener Doorkeeper NAMI Oath Evolution Wave Steadfast Soul I Steadfast Soul II Steadfast Soul III Meet & Greet Proudly Proactive I Proudly Proactive II Proudly Proactive III Proudly Proactive IV Proudly Proactive V Reconnection Hero I First Community First Chat First Post Five Steps High 5 Hang 10 Open Door Weight Management Diabetes CBT Thankful Heart Gratitude Abound Hope Training Accountability Peer Pro Peer Training 01 Peer Training 02 Peer Training 03 Peer Training 04 Peer Training 05 Peer Training 06 Peer Training 07 Peer Training 08 Peer Training 09 Peer Training 10 Peer Training 11 Peer Training 12 New Mom Support Continuing Education Community Builder Grad Pineapple Tulip Personal Leadership 101 Personal Leadership 102 Becoming a Leader Leadership Principles Leadership Graduate AEF Team CDM Graduate QLP Graduate GSP Graduate Academy Mentor Leader Path Builder Alumni 9th Birthday Party Academy Summit
Report an issue