Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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I would be sad, but I'd use that as motivation to do better in the future! I think that I would end up asking the leader to keep me updated on new positions that may open, ask them how I can contribute in other ways or even what I need to do to ensure that I can get the role in the future!
@softMusic9759
So sincere and inspiring!
@softMusic9759
I like that you mentioned asking about other ways you can contribute to the team you are wanting be join.
@softMusic9759
Very sincere
@softMusic9759 It's okay to feel sad when we don't get the role we hoped for, but don't let that discourage you for bettering yourself
@softMusic9759
I think it
@softMusic9759
Awesome reply and a great way to look at this !!
Tye
@softMusic9759 I really like how you said you'd ask the leader what other opportunities there are! I didn't even think of this!
Yeah same here lol.
@softMusic9759
Nice job with your answer!
@softMusic9759
Very sincere answer
@softMusic9759
This is a good reaction
@softMusic9759
Awesome answer, thanks so much for sharing!! 🤩🤩🤗🤗
@softMusic9759
thats a great approach to it, this has a positive outlook to the not so positive feedback!! I like that quality alot in anyone!
@softMusic9759 that's a good response!
@softMusic9759
Inspiring
@softMusic9759
I think that it's wonderful that you included the fact you'd seek to improve and find new ways to contribute!
@softMusic9759
i like your response.
@softMusic9759
Definitely, seeing it as a way of attracting mroe motivation is the right way to go <3
@softMusic9759 very good attitude and peaceful rwaction
@softMusic9759 - that's a great way to look ahead :)
@softMusic9759
That is a very practical post.
@softMusic9759
yay that's awesome!
@softMusic9759
Great answer!
@softMusic9759
Great reply and a great viewpoint!
@softMusic9759
I love this!! I wish I could word my thoughts like that!
@softMusic9759
I would also be sad but understand that the role was difficult for me or to work on maybe applying for it later. I would also ask to be let known if a situatable role that I can do be told to me
Really loved the point where you mentioned that you'd ask them different ways to contribute as of now. So much of positivity! Thats a really good trait.
Hi @softMusic9759! It’s understandable to be sad, but I’m glad you would use it as motivation to improve yourself for the future.
@softMusic9759
This is very motivating! Thank you :)
@softMusic9759
I agree with you, I really like how you can reason about it
@softMusic9759
Yes even I would be sad about it
@softMusic9759
This is a really good way to respond! I admire that you are honest about your feelings.
@softMusic9759
Very inspiring.
@softMusic9759
So motivating and wonderful !
@softMusic9759
This is inspiring, Music!
@softMusic9759
this is very inspiring but also motivating
Same here ,Good job
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
- After getting over the possible shock of not receving the role, I'd ask the leader for feedback on where I went wrong during my application/training and for ways to improve.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
- Thank you for giving me the opportunity to apply for this role. I realize that there are some areas that I need to work. I will gladly take your feedback into consideration and re-apply for the role when I have improved on the areas that needs the necessary work.
@CheeryMango
Such a kind and hard-working attitude!
@CheeryMango
I like that you would ask for feedback on ways you can improve so that, when you reapply, you will know which steps to take to ensure success.
@CheeryMango
Amazing attitude :)
@CheeryMango
appreciate your thoughts on this
@CheeryMango Great reply and yes some can be a shock right because we do wanna believe that we are really aweosme at everything and we may be ... I know you are !!!at least I think so :).. Tye
@CheeryMango
Very kind-hearted and hardworking! It's inspiring to see!
@CheeryMango
A sincere answer with a very positive outlook to grow.
@CheeryMango
Brilliant answers, Mango
@CheeryMango
Very professional and well put! It's definitely important to ask for the feedback so that you have an opportunity to grow in the future.
@CheeryMango
That's great! Asking for feedback as a potnetial leader is always great!
@CheeryMango
Way to go, my friend, I always like to read your answers here in the LDP discussions, keep them coming! 😁😁😉😉😊��
@CheeryMango
Great answer !
The second part is exemplary, really, how you take it with gratitude, humility, and an altruistic disposition to serve a higher purpose, instead of an ego-centered goal.
@CheeryMango
the fact that you plainly said that you will be taking time to get over the shock is applauseable. Also being able to take feedback is an awesome quality to have!! Keep up the great work for the community!!
@CheeryMango nice response!
I loved the point where you were asking for feedback. So sincere and committed.
@CheeryMango
I think you have a really great approach, as outlined!
@CheeryMango wow! so sincere and kind response
@CheeryMango amazing person as usual Mango. I like your answers and your attitude
@CheeryMango - that's a good way to learn for the better :)
@CheeryMango
I like your response :)
@CheeryMango
Great Answer 🥭!
@CheeryMango
Great answers!!
@CheeryMango
Agreed!
Great way to say it!
Hi @CheeryMango! I think you have a really great response as it shows that you’re willing to take feedback and use that to better yourself.
@CheeryMango
That is an amazing attitude to have! :)
@CheeryMango, that is such a great thing to do is to ask for feedback! Often times we feel we do well but we always have room for improvement. Great answer!
@CheeryMango
Indeed it can be a shock when one don't make it. But we can surely ensure that we can reapply for it by being better on our weak sides
@CheeryMango
Great answer! Inspiring!
Hello there!
I would honestly do either exactly The same Or something really similar.
I love your answer, Thank you for it!:)
Sending strenght and energy,
Lots of love.
🌸Hana🌸
@CheeryMango
Thats a really encouraging answer !
@CheeryMango
The answer to "what would you say" is so eloquent, Mango!
@CheeryMango
this is very well written, great job
- Lena
@Heather225
Hi! How are you?
I should calm myself down if needed, and make me feel better. I should remember that it s not the end of the world, and that I can still apply.
I should ask for feedback, practice, look for improvement, and apply again whenever I am ready to do it.
@Daf8
Practice does make us better. I can't agree enough.
@PeaceLoveandPaws
Thank you! It means a lot.
There is always something we all can improve in no matter how long we've been doing it @Daf8
@CheeryMango
I agree!
@Daf8
Exactly Daf, its never the end of the world and to compose oneself helps handle it positively
@blissart
That's true! Thank you for that
Hi @Daf8 Your right its never the end of the world, but the shock and/or sadness is normal when we don't get the role. Asking for feedback is important, so we can prepare ourselves for applying again. Or for another position that may come along. Wishing you all the best ❤
@Cazzy8752 Thank you for your incredibly clever words and thoughts, and for your lovely wishes! I appreciate your kindness, brightness and greatness. Keep being you!
@Daf8
I think it
@bookworm274
Ohh, thank you so much! I highly appreciate it
@Daf8 Great replies well done !!! I see your post on the site and leadership program and you are such a blessing !!! I can see you in so many roles !!!
Tye
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Ohhh, thank you! That means so, so much!
I would love to, if I have the time. However, you are the blessing here
@Daf8
Feedback and persistence are wonderful strategies.
@SynSavory
I agree! Thank you
@Daf8
Thats very postive perspective to look at things, i love them.
*Makes notes of the same*
@Daf8 I sometimes forget that not getting something I applied for isn't the end of the world. Things always happen for a reason!
@LittleBirdie30 @Magicallykermit58
Thank you both for your kind words! You are amazing
@Daf8
Great answers, Daf8 It is practice and our endeavour for continuous improvement that helps us shine in the long run.
@shiningSound31
And here we see a shining person talking about shine...
@Daf8
I love that! There's no time limit on when you should feel ready again! The moment you're okay with the idea, go for it!
@pizzaiscool
Thank you for your words! I highly appreciate them
@Daf8
Thank you for your inputs
*Hugs*
@WatchingOverYou
Thank you for your words! *Hugs*
@Daf8 i love this response!
@kateaala
Thank you for your kind words!
@Daf8
Perfect.
@YoungMonastic007
Just like you!
@Daf8
sincere and realistic. i like that
@wanjiku
And I like your words and kindness! Thank you
@Daf8
I really appreciate your honesty about how you would react and how you would handle that news. I also think it is very mature and I think you'd be a great addition to the leadership program for that reason.
Best of luck on your LDP Journey!
@warmLove3625
Thank you for your kind words! I highly appreciate your sweetness and thoughtfulness, and, obviously, your lovely response and appreciation. I think you are an amazing person doing a great work. You are an awesome part of 7 Cups! Keep being who you are, and have a day as incredible as you!
@Daf8
You're amazing Daf!!
@kieran000
Thank you, but *you* are!
@Daf8 I agree on your summarization. After all, being rejected is not the end of the world and doing more practice and asking for feedback is all that matters. Thank you.
@windSpirit
Happy to hear that you agree! Yes, we can always improve, take care and keep trying! Thank *you* for your kind words
@Daf8
Great response! I love it, I agree! Well done💜💜
@Rhlexia520
Happy to hear that you agree and love it! Thank you for your appreciation, kindness, sweetness, support and encouraging words. Congratulations on being such an amazing part of the community! Your work is tremendously appreciated
@Daf8 This makes so much sense!
@Readylistener
Thank you! However, what makes sense is your awesomeness
@Daf8
Yes! practice helps a lot!
@Brinaa101 Thank you for your insight, great person!
Hello there!
I love your answer!
I cherish and appreciate that you pointed out that calming part, selfcare is truly truly important.
Sending strenght and energy,
Lots of love.🌸Hana🌸
@Daf8
So inspiringly explained !
@Daf8
Well said. Applying again when you're ready is something I'll have to practice, it's so easy for me to want to try again out of frustration, so as to not have to feel the disappointment!
@Daf8
this is quite handy and very helpfull
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? You should respond with questions for how to improve or steps you can take so that, the next time you apply, you will be better prepared for the role you are looking for.
@PeaceLoveandPaws
Very true Paws
@PeaceLoveandPaws
Exactly!
@PeaceLoveandPaws
Preparation is Key! You got this Paws!
@PeaceLoveandPaws I thought your reflection and being able to work on self improvement is very honorable! <3
Hi @PeaceLoveandPaws! I thought your response was very well written. I agree with the fact that preparation is definitely very important.
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?: I would respond in a civilised and calm manner. I would thank the leader who informed me and ask them where I went wrong and how I could improve
@azuladragon34
That's amazing!
@azuladragon34 Well said
@azuladragon34
appreciate ur thoughts Azul, staying calm and seeking feedback is the best way
@azuladragon34 Improve is the key!
@azuladragon34
Love the fact that you want feedback for improvement so you can get the role you want! Very smart :)
@azuladragon34
Azul that really good approach you have. Calm and asking more information.
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would reach ot to the leader of that project and get the feedback which led to my non seletion for that role. I would also ask them (or mentor) for advice on how can i improve on certain areas to apply again
@blissart
That's awesome
@blissart
Agreed! I think asking for improvement is a great thing to do.
@blissart This is great Bliss! I think this kind of information can even help us in real life in our careers and similar things!
@blissart
the point on reaching out to a mentor is noteworthy, we sometimes forget that we can actually reach out for help!! I would like to thank you for your tireless contribution to the community!! You rock!!
@blissart Asking for feedback is a great idea! Well done!
@blissart
Nice answer! Wish I could think like this!
@Heather225
If I found out I wasnt given a role I would be upset but after getting past the initial reaction of the news I would respond politely and probably take the rest of the day to myself so that I wouldnt bring a negative/upset atmosphere to the platform. I would thank the leader for taking the time to inform me and ask them what I could do in order to be able to apply again with a better chance of succeeding.
@bookworm274
Taking time to understand and overcome the initial shock of not receiving a role is super important!
@bookworm274 nicely put Bookworm!
Listening - One Step At A Time!
@bookworm274 Very nice answer
@bookworm274
i really like your answer. Self-care at this time is important.
@bookworm274
I love that even during a distressing moment you're still putting th community first. Sounds like a great leader
Leaders are like soyabeans
@Heather225
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would throw a Hissy fit - No I wouldn't lol I would understand and realize that I would need to step back and think about why I didn't and work on my weaknesses and try again. Ask how I can improve and take the feedback and build from it and decide if maybe the role was not really for me and check out some others and see .. Have a chat with my Mentor . Not all roles are for everyone just like a job out in our real life not all jobs are for everyone..
Tye
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I think I would respond quite okay, because every role on 7cups from becoming a listener to community managers, each role is very special and extraordinary. It is quite an honour to be a listener itself and I completely understand that I wont be perfect for every role. I think the best reward you get is that happiness when you help someone and you dont need a badge or role to help anyone. So while applying for any role, I remind myself clearly that I may not make it and thats completely okay.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would tell them that i respect their decision and i completely understand. And if they give me a chance to apply or try again after sometime, i would be happy to take another shot.