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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want

Heather225 August 27th, 2020

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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!

Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.

Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:

- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!

- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!

- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings

- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!

- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!

- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!

- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!

*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

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softMusic9759 August 28th, 2020

I would be sad, but I'd use that as motivation to do better in the future! I think that I would end up asking the leader to keep me updated on new positions that may open, ask them how I can contribute in other ways or even what I need to do to ensure that I can get the role in the future!

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Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@softMusic9759

heart So sincere and inspiring! heart

PeaceLoveandPaws August 29th, 2020

@softMusic9759

I like that you mentioned asking about other ways you can contribute to the team you are wanting be join.

azuladragon34 August 29th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Very sincere

CheeryMango August 30th, 2020

@softMusic9759 It's okay to feel sad when we don't get the role we hoped for, but don't let that discourage you for bettering yourself

bookworm274 August 31st, 2020

@softMusic9759

I think it

Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 2nd, 2020

@softMusic9759smiley Awesome reply and a great way to look at this !!

Tyeheart

SynSavory September 2nd, 2020

@softMusic9759

Motivating is key, thank you.

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eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Yes it is,Good job

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LittleBirdie30 September 11th, 2020

@softMusic9759 I really like how you said you'd ask the leader what other opportunities there are! I didn't even think of this!

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eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Yeah same here lol.

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Endure777 September 14th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Nice job with your answer!

shiningSound31 September 15th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Very sincere answer heart

Vintagechoc September 29th, 2020

@softMusic9759

This is a good reaction

TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@softMusic9759

Awesome answer, thanks so much for sharing!! 🤩🤩🤗🤗

Yourstruly2000 October 2nd, 2020

@softMusic9759

thats a great approach to it, this has a positive outlook to the not so positive feedback!! I like that quality alot in anyone!

KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@softMusic9759 that's a good response!

YoungMonastic007 October 11th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Inspiring

Dinohorus November 14th, 2020

@softMusic9759

I think that it's wonderful that you included the fact you'd seek to improve and find new ways to contribute!

wanjiku November 30th, 2020

@softMusic9759

i like your response.

Ines1229 December 9th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Definitely, seeing it as a way of attracting mroe motivation is the right way to go <3

Anexmos December 9th, 2020

@softMusic9759 very good attitude and peaceful rwaction smiley

She13 December 16th, 2020

@softMusic9759 - that's a great way to look ahead :)

beautifulSeal9714 January 17th, 2021

@softMusic9759

That is a very practical post.

Jili February 28th, 2021

@softMusic9759

yay that's awesome!

Kieran000 March 8th, 2021

@softMusic9759
Great answer!

Chloe563 March 15th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Great reply and a great viewpoint!

AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@softMusic9759

I love this!! I wish I could word my thoughts like that!

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@softMusic9759

I would also be sad but understand that the role was difficult for me or to work on maybe applying for it later. I would also ask to be let known if a situatable role that I can do be told to me

SweetDreamer69 April 17th, 2021

Really loved the point where you mentioned that you'd ask them different ways to contribute as of now. So much of positivity! Thats a really good trait.

May 30th, 2021

Hi @softMusic9759! It’s understandable to be sad, but I’m glad you would use it as motivation to improve yourself for the future.

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@softMusic9759
This is very motivating! Thank you :)

Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@softMusic9759

I agree with you, I really like how you can reason about it

yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Yes even I would be sad about it

kindFish9215 October 7th, 2021

@softMusic9759

This is a really good way to respond! I admire that you are honest about your feelings.

Textingpals October 17th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Very inspiring.

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@softMusic9759

So motivating and wonderful !

Glue June 29th, 2022

@softMusic9759

This is inspiring, Music!

kenzolena August 5th, 2022

@softMusic9759

this is very inspiring but also motivating

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Same here ,Good job

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CheeryMango August 28th, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

- After getting over the possible shock of not receving the role, I'd ask the leader for feedback on where I went wrong during my application/training and for ways to improve.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

- Thank you for giving me the opportunity to apply for this role. I realize that there are some areas that I need to work. I will gladly take your feedback into consideration and re-apply for the role when I have improved on the areas that needs the necessary work.

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Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@CheeryMango

heart Such a kind and hard-working attitude! heart

PeaceLoveandPaws August 29th, 2020

@CheeryMango

I like that you would ask for feedback on ways you can improve so that, when you reapply, you will know which steps to take to ensure success.

azuladragon34 August 29th, 2020

@CheeryMango

Amazing attitude :)

blissart August 31st, 2020

@CheeryMango

appreciate your thoughts on this

Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 2nd, 2020

@CheeryMangoheart Great reply and yes some can be a shock right because we do wanna believe that we are really aweosme at everything and we may be ... I know you are !!!heartat least I think so :).. Tye

smolecho September 2nd, 2020

@CheeryMango

Very kind-hearted and hardworking! It's inspiring to see!

crystalclearnow September 11th, 2020

@CheeryMango

A sincere answer with a very positive outlook to grow.

shiningSound31 September 15th, 2020

@CheeryMango

Brilliant answers, Mango heart

InvaderStitch September 21st, 2020

@CheeryMango

Very professional and well put! It's definitely important to ask for the feedback so that you have an opportunity to grow in the future.

pizzaiscool September 24th, 2020

@CheeryMango

That's great! Asking for feedback as a potnetial leader is always great!

TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@CheeryMango

Way to go, my friend, I always like to read your answers here in the LDP discussions, keep them coming! 😁😁😉😉😊��

WelcomeToChat October 1st, 2020

@CheeryMango

Great answer !

The second part is exemplary, really, how you take it with gratitude, humility, and an altruistic disposition to serve a higher purpose, instead of an ego-centered goal.

Yourstruly2000 October 2nd, 2020

@CheeryMango

the fact that you plainly said that you will be taking time to get over the shock is applauseable. Also being able to take feedback is an awesome quality to have!! Keep up the great work for the community!!

KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@CheeryMango nice response!

YoungMonastic007 October 11th, 2020

I loved the point where you were asking for feedback. So sincere and committed.

Dinohorus November 14th, 2020

@CheeryMango

I think you have a really great approach, as outlined!

wanjiku November 30th, 2020

@CheeryMango wow! so sincere and kind response

Anexmos December 9th, 2020

@CheeryMango amazing person as usual Mango. I like your answers and your attitude heart

She13 December 16th, 2020

@CheeryMango - that's a good way to learn for the better :)

beautifulSeal9714 January 17th, 2021

@CheeryMango

I like your response :)

Kieran000 March 8th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Great Answer 🥭!

Chloe563 March 15th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Great answers!!

AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Agreed!

Great way to say it!

May 30th, 2021

Hi @CheeryMango! I think you have a really great response as it shows that you’re willing to take feedback and use that to better yourself.

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@CheeryMango

That is an amazing attitude to have! :)

wonderfulRainbow817 July 15th, 2021

@CheeryMango, that is such a great thing to do is to ask for feedback! Often times we feel we do well but we always have room for improvement. Great answer!

Ashvillium August 25th, 2021

@CheeryMango
Indeed it can be a shock when one don't make it. But we can surely ensure that we can reapply for it by being better on our weak sides

DancingHeart4982 December 18th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Great answer! Inspiring!

Livingtohelplive January 31st, 2022

Hello there!


I would honestly do either exactly The same Or something really similar.

I love your answer, Thank you for it!:)


Sending strenght and energy,

Lots of love.

🌸Hana🌸


PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@CheeryMango

Thats a really encouraging answer !

Glue June 29th, 2022

@CheeryMango

The answer to "what would you say" is so eloquent, Mango!

kenzolena August 5th, 2022

@CheeryMango

this is very well written, great job


- Lena

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Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@Heather225

heart Hi! How are you? heart

heart I should calm myself down if needed, and make me feel better. I should remember that it s not the end of the world, and that I can still apply. heart

heart I should ask for feedback, practice, look for improvement, and apply again whenever I am ready to do it. heart

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PeaceLoveandPaws August 29th, 2020

@Daf8

Practice does make us better. I can't agree enough.

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Daf8 August 30th, 2020

@PeaceLoveandPaws

heart Thank you! It means a lot. heart

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CheeryMango August 30th, 2020

There is always something we all can improve in no matter how long we've been doing it @Daf8

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Daf8 August 31st, 2020

@CheeryMango

heart I agree! heart

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blissart August 31st, 2020

@Daf8

Exactly Daf, its never the end of the world and to compose oneself helps handle it positively

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Daf8 August 31st, 2020

@blissart

heart That's true! Thank you for that heart

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Cazzy8752 July 11th, 2021

Hi @Daf8 Your right its never the end of the world, but the shock and/or sadness is normal when we don't get the role. Asking for feedback is important, so we can prepare ourselves for applying again. Or for another position that may come along. Wishing you all the best ❤

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Daf8 July 27th, 2021
heart @Cazzy8752 heart
heart Thank you for your incredibly clever words and thoughts, and for your lovely wishes! I appreciate your kindness, brightness and greatness. Keep being you! heart
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bookworm274 August 31st, 2020

@Daf8

I think it

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Daf8 August 31st, 2020

@bookworm274

heart Ohh, thank you so much! I highly appreciate it heart

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 2nd, 2020

@Daf8 Great replies well done !!! heart I see your post on the site and leadership program and you are such a blessing !!! I can see you in so many roles !!!

Tye heart

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Daf8 September 2nd, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

heart Ohhh, thank you! That means so, so much! heart

heart I would love to, if I have the time. heart
heart However, you are the blessing here heart

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SynSavory September 2nd, 2020

@Daf8

Feedback and persistence are wonderful strategies.

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Daf8 September 3rd, 2020

@SynSavory

heart I agree! Thank you heart

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September 9th, 2020

@Daf8

Thats very postive perspective to look at things, i love them.

*Makes notes of the same*

LittleBirdie30 September 11th, 2020

@Daf8 I sometimes forget that not getting something I applied for isn't the end of the world. Things always happen for a reason!

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Daf8 September 11th, 2020

heart @LittleBirdie30 @Magicallykermit58 heart

heart Thank you both for your kind words! You are amazing heart

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shiningSound31 September 15th, 2020

@Daf8

Great answers, Daf8 heart It is practice and our endeavour for continuous improvement that helps us shine in the long run.

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Daf8 September 16th, 2020

heart @shiningSound31 heart

heart And here we see a shining person talking about shine... heart

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pizzaiscool September 24th, 2020

@Daf8

I love that! There's no time limit on when you should feel ready again! The moment you're okay with the idea, go for it!

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Daf8 September 25th, 2020

heart @pizzaiscool heart

heart Thank you for your words! I highly appreciate them heart

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TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@Daf8

heart Thank you for your inputs heart

*Hugs*

heartheartheartheart

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Daf8 October 1st, 2020

heart @WatchingOverYou heart

heart Thank you for your words! *Hugs* heart

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KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Daf8 i love this response!

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Daf8 October 4th, 2020

heart @kateaala heart

heart Thank you for your kind words! heart

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YoungMonastic007 October 11th, 2020

@Daf8

Perfect.

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Daf8 October 12th, 2020

heart @YoungMonastic007 heart

heart Just like you! heart

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wanjiku November 30th, 2020

@Daf8

sincere and realistic. i like that

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Daf8 November 30th, 2020

heart @wanjiku heart

heart And I like your words and kindness! Thank you heart

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PeaceLoveandPaws August 29th, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you? You should respond with questions for how to improve or steps you can take so that, the next time you apply, you will be better prepared for the role you are looking for.

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azuladragon34 August 29th, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?: I would respond in a civilised and calm manner. I would thank the leader who informed me and ask them where I went wrong and how I could improve

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blissart August 31st, 2020

@Heather225

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would reach ot to the leader of that project and get the feedback which led to my non seletion for that role. I would also ask them (or mentor) for advice on how can i improve on certain areas to apply again

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bookworm274 August 31st, 2020

@Heather225

If I found out I wasnt given a role I would be upset but after getting past the initial reaction of the news I would respond politely and probably take the rest of the day to myself so that I wouldnt bring a negative/upset atmosphere to the platform. I would thank the leader for taking the time to inform me and ask them what I could do in order to be able to apply again with a better chance of succeeding.

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FerociousFury August 31st, 2020

Leaders are like soyabeans

Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 2nd, 2020

@Heather225smiley

Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would throw a Hissy fit - No I wouldn't lol I would understand and realize that I would need to step back and think about why I didn't and work on my weaknesses and try again. Ask how I can improve and take the feedback and build from it and decide if maybe the role was not really for me and check out some others and see .. Have a chat with my Mentor . Not all roles are for everyone just like a job out in our real life not all jobs are for everyone.. yes

Tyeheart

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positivePumpkin22 September 2nd, 2020

@Heather225

If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?

I think I would respond quite okay, because every role on 7cups from becoming a listener to community managers, each role is very special and extraordinary. It is quite an honour to be a listener itself and I completely understand that I wont be perfect for every role. I think the best reward you get is that happiness when you help someone and you dont need a badge or role to help anyone. So while applying for any role, I remind myself clearly that I may not make it and thats completely okay.

What would you say to the leader who has informed you?

I would tell them that i respect their decision and i completely understand. And if they give me a chance to apply or try again after sometime, i would be happy to take another shot.

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