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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #2) Service Leadership at 7 Cups

Heather225 August 6th, 2020

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Being a leader at 7 Cups takes many forms. One thing every listener has in common is that we are all agents of service. Whether we are taking member chats or we are welcoming a new listener to the community, every unique contribution made by listeners is equally wonderful and valuable.

There are many ways to spend our  volunteer time at 7 Cups. Some of you will choose to focus on member chats and others will choose to be involved with our community programs, or both!  No matter which path, all contributions are considered incredibly valuable and special.

The term  Service leadership  (based on the philosophy of servant leadership, in  which the main goal of the leader is to serve)  can be explained in this way:  "Traditional leadership generally involves the accumulation and exercise of power by one at the top of the pyramid. By comparison, the servant-leader shares power, puts the needs of others first and helps people develop and perform as highly as possible."

Sometimes leaders or community members who help with projects receive high praise for their efforts (and they all deserve it) but this is never to take away or undermine the contributions of listeners who fly a little bit more under the radar. How one chooses to spend their volunteer time on 7 Cups is up to them & we love you all the same!

Leadership - Becoming a Teen Star, Mentor, Mentor Leader or Ambassador.

Weve long said⦠that if you want to be a mentor, be a mentor, eventually youll get a badge. These service leadership roles are incredibly important to the functionality of our community. The individuals in these posts do an excellent job helping to keep our community safe and positive. I am very thankful for them.

One misconception I have heard floating around is that once youre in one of these roles you need to do more, be more, show more, etc. The reality could not be any further from the truth. These roles signify contributions that are currently being made & are not about contributions we hope these individuals will make in the future.

Another way to think about this is - Â if youre accepted to be a mentor leader or ambassador, we will not be giving you more work. Our aim is to honor the work you have been previously/currently doing. In fact, wed love for you to add more self-care to your regular routine. These titles are reserved for successful project leaders & community members who are already involved in community engagement projects and actively making a positive impact. In some cases, we may give you more tools to do your specific projects more effectively.

In this sense, service leadership is simply about where you plan to spend your time. To those of you out there who focus 100% on member chats, we LOVE YOU! To those of you out there who focus on community programs, we LOVE YOU TOO! All of these contributions are equally valuable and important. As a collective  community, our aim is to honor your contributions, no matter where or how they manifest.

In this vein, my hope is that you will remember 3 key things:

1. Self-care - always! Make sure self-care is baked into your volunteer work here

2. Dont take on more than you are able. If you dont have the bandwidth to do something, you owe it to yourself and the community to say no. It is 100% okay to say no. (And if you are asking someone to help you with a project, please do not get upset if someone has to say no.)

3. Remember that 7 Cups is an ecosystem. Every single contribution matters! Â

If youd like to be in a service leadership role, my advice would be:

1. Pay attention to how others are contributing

2. Figure out what gets you excited in the community!

3. Once you have an idea of what gets you excited, dive in! You dont need to have a mentor badge to help out, get involved & start learning.

4. If youre not sure how to get involved, you can chat with a mentor or sign up for listener coaching.

5. Once you feel comfortable with your area of attention, apply for the appropriate mentor track.

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Questions: What do you think of the idea of service leadership? Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?
How can you become a better "servant' to our community?


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Grace8402 August 7th, 2020

@Heather225

Service leadership, to me, is doing any task with utmost conscientiousness, thus contributing to this community and setting a good example for others.

I would like to acknowledge and appreciate the listeners who take up chats with members who seem distressed in any chatroom and who might need someone to talk to. Especially when a fun conversation or activity is going on and a member does not feel okay, there is always a listener who offers to skip the fun to be there for the member and I think those gestures are inspiring.

I could be a better servant leader by being a better listener every day and trying to participate in the community more.

Thank you and looking forward to the next discussion! 😄

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QuietMagic August 17th, 2020

@Grace8402 I haven't actually been in member chatrooms, but that makes me really happy to know that when a member doesn't feel well, there's always a listener who's willing to skip the fun and help them. Red heart

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Grace8402 August 18th, 2020

@QuietMagic

Yayyyyy! 😊💕

TheRusticMystic74 March 30th, 2022

@QuietMagic


absolutely!!! Very well put point.

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Be a better you

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azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Grace8402

Lovely answer :)

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Grace8402 August 25th, 2020

@azuladragon34

Thank you! 😄

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Mellietronx August 26th, 2020

@Grace8402 Awesome answers!

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Grace8402 September 2nd, 2020

@Mellietronx

Thank you! 😄

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LittleBirdie30 August 30th, 2020

@Grace8402 I really love your own personal definition of what service leadership is! heart

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Grace8402 September 2nd, 2020

@LittleBirdie30
Thank you! 💕

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Beaconx September 4th, 2020

@Grace8402

This is awesome

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Grace8402 September 7th, 2020

@Beaconx

Thank you!!

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softMusic9759 September 5th, 2020

I love the concept of service leadership! Honestly, it makes me feel like more people would be engaged and we would be able to have/build a much better community. I think I can become a better servant leader by trying to be a bit more active in the community and making sure that everyone is comfortable.

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@softMusic9759

Well said!! And all the best! (Sorry, it's been a month and I hadn't seen this reply until now) 😅💜

AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Agreed!

Anyone who needs to can contact me!

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Even though my Community has 2 people working hard myself and one other team member, we strive to work together, listen to each others thoughts and ideas and work on having others join the team.

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Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@pamharley003

teamwork makes so many things easier for us, incredible work <3

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Shadowmoonmoon April 17th, 2022

@Crystaldancer agree with you!!!

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yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@pamharley003

Agreed... we all have to be working hard and strive to work together as a responsible team member

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Good job

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yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@softMusic9759

Yes, the more people would be engaged , then more would we be able to build a better community.

TheRusticMystic74 March 30th, 2022

@softMusic9759


i love the way you put servant leader, its good

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Shadowmoonmoon April 17th, 2022

@incrediblelistener78 Good luck!! I wish you the best!

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eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Great work to the community,keep it up

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Endure777 September 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

Great answer! Keep up the hard work in being a servant leader!

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@CognitiveACE

Thank you so much!! (I'm sorry. I hadn't seen the reply until now😅) Have a great time!

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shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

I started my volunteering at 7 Cups as a listener and your kind words of appreciation for listeners really means a lot to me. Thank You, Grace! I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@shiningSound31

Thank you so much! And I've observed that you've been very appreciative of people in different forums. It does make a difference and thank you for that! I wish you all the best too!! (Sorry for the delay. I hadn't seen the reply until now. 😅)

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shiningSound31 October 6th, 2020

@Grace8402

That's Okay, Grace :)

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Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@shiningSound31


Thank you for being part of this community, I wish you the best <3

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peacefulWarrior10 October 2nd, 2020

@Grace8402

Completely agree with the example you shared. I've seen such listeners who skip the fun and dive in to help the distressed member! Reason why I'm proud to be part of this community!

All the best with your service wishes. You're amazing!

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@peacefulWarrior10

Yayyyy! Thank you so much for the amazing and well put words! All the best for your journey too! You awesome!! 💜

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KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Grace8402 your reply is so good!

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@kateaala

Thank youu! 💜

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YoungMonastic007 October 11th, 2020

@Grace8402

What do you think of the idea of service leadership? Learn, teach and lead by example.

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups? When I came across a member who was abusive for the first time, I came to Listeners chatroom and told about the experience and then the way everyone came and tried to console me was totally unexpected. Later few shared their own stories and tried to calm me down. I wasn’t expecting that at all.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community? I believe in leaders being the servants and especially on platform like this. We grow by growing along with our peers in the community.

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Grace8402 November 17th, 2020

@YoungMonastic007

Great answer! I hope you replied to the actual post too. (:

giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@YoungMonastic007

Awesome!

AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@YoungMonastic007

Everyone cares about eachother I wish we were a little more tight knit!

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@YoungMonastic007

Well said heart

giggleZebra2708 April 21st, 2021

Well put answer

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

Wow that’s a great answer

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@YoungMonastic007

I agree! Thank you for your answer :)

TheRusticMystic74 March 30th, 2022

@YoungMonastic007

Nice!!!

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Dinohorus November 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

I really like how you defined service leadership. I agree with you about how meaningful members' gestures can be!

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Grace8402 November 17th, 2020

@Dinohorus

Thank you so much! 😄💕

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wishfulMoment42 November 16th, 2020

@Grace8402

That's well put!

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Grace8402 November 17th, 2020

@wishfulMoment42

Thank you!!

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giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@Grace8402

Awesome!

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Grace8402 November 29th, 2020

@giggleSun1695

Thank you!

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Ines1229 December 9th, 2020

@Grace8402

This is so accurate!! <3

(Love the colour palette as well!)

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Grace8402 December 10th, 2020

@Ines1229

Yayy! 😄💕

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beautifulSeal9714 January 14th, 2021

@Grace8402

that is a nice answer :)

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Grace8402 January 26th, 2021

@beautifulSeal9714

Thank you! 😄

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SirenSymphony21 January 23rd, 2021

@Grace8402

you will amaze me with your answers. Well done grace

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Grace8402 January 26th, 2021

@Kindstar45

That's so kind of you! 😄🥰

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goldenFriend9335 February 3rd, 2021

@Grace8402

Wow Grace, two in a row, Your answers ae really good!

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Grace8402 February 19th, 2021

@goldenFriend9335

You are so sweet! Thank you! 🥺🥰

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warmLove3625 February 11th, 2021

@Grace8402

I appreciate your honesty on how you wish to become a better servie leader and how you plan to do so. I agree ith your understanding of service leadership and am looking forward to us being great service leaders together.

Best of luck on your LDP journey!

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Grace8402 February 19th, 2021

@warmLove3625

Thank you so much for the kind words! Best of luck to you too! 😄🥰

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Jili February 28th, 2021

@Grace8402

Awesome example!

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Grace8402 March 2nd, 2021

@competentParadise6344

Thank you again! 😄

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Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

@Grace8402

Great answer!!

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Grace8402 March 15th, 2021

@kieran000
Thank you! 😄

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AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@Grace8402

You could not have done better on this response!

You might need to give me lessons on writing in depth answers!

thisisirene March 31st, 2021

@Grace8402 that's awesome!

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@Grace8402

Well said Grace- heart

SweetDreamer69 April 17th, 2021

I'm really glad that there are such amazing listeners here on 7 cups who are always ready to help the members whenever they are feeling low. They are always just one message away! You've brought up a really amazing point!

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

I think this is a great well thought out response

Brinaa101 June 22nd, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree! Those listeners who step up in chatrooms are very valuable and not only make members' experiences better but make other listeners' experiences better.

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree! Good job Grace :)

Ashvillium August 14th, 2021

@Grace8402
WOW grace! you have a great insight. Wish you all the best <3

Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@Grace8402


you're right, we can always improve for the well-being of ourselves and our community,

yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@Grace8402

service leadership is simply about where you plan to spend your time contributing to community

kindFish9215 October 4th, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree with everything you said here! I like that colour coordinated each individual section of the question too. :)

DancingHeart4982 December 18th, 2021

@Grace8402

@Grace8402

Great answer! Even I try to participate more in the community.

Kindwords2000 January 7th, 2022

@Grace8402

It was very interesting to read your answer, well done for thinking your answer through thoroughly.

snugglehuggle March 8th, 2022

@Grace8402 exactly that's true

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snugglehuggle March 8th, 2022

@snugglehuggle you took the moment to think it through and thats what I find appealing

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FrenchMarbles May 8th, 2022

@Grace8402

Great answer! Whooho!

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@Grace8402

Thats a really beautifull answer !

magicalOcean594 July 6th, 2022

@Grace8402


i liked how you said serving to be a better listener everyday, as it takes practice continuously

Immakindlistener22 December 16th, 2022

@Grace8402

I like your personalized definition of what service leadership is! Makes a lot of sense.

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Great work

WishUponAStar968 February 12th

@Grace8402

As a Mod, I see many members in chats and few Listeners.  The listeners I do see are extremely supportive and take on as many quick chats as they can so the entire room feels. heard, I respect that so much with our listeners.  I agree with your post that there should be a Listener in each member group chat so we know that members supporting members is just, but a listener there can also navigate supportive feedback

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 7th, 2020

@Heather225

Questions: What do you think of the idea of service leadership? Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?

I feel the idea of service leadership is great and it helps so many. .

One example would be a Listener who gives their time to take on member chats and also roles/badges that better their self and help others even better.. It is something that is so rewarding to give and not want anything in return but it does give so much in return like making us feel good about helping others and knowing we made someones day or just knowing maybe that someone smiled and felt better due to us being their for them.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?

I try and give all I can but I do need to know when to slow done and step away and breathe and do self care and know if I am feeling stressed or having a rough day that I will not be able to support people the best I can ..

I want to go back to being more involved in the member chatrooms , as I am normally in the Listener Support room helping out . I miss the member chatrooms and how they use to be but I do see change was needed and changes can be good..

I do love the roles I have here and I am proud of my volunteering on the site . smiley

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bookworm274 August 18th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

"It is something that is so rewarding to give and not want anything in return."

I love this because I feel that that's what 7 Cups is all about. We're people who want to help others and hopefully make them feel happy or heard and acknowledged.

Thank you for everything you do on 7 Cups!

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 18th, 2020

@bookworm274 Thank you so much and you also I see so much about you !! smiley

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@bookworm274

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azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Nice

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 25th, 2020

@azuladragon34heart Thank you

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Mellietronx August 26th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 Always remember to take time for self care :)

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 26th, 2020

@Mellietronxsmiley Thank you I do all the time.. I am not online out in the rooms or in pms for hours .. I step away and watch movies do real life things and never take on more than i can hanlde heart

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shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

You have rightly said about volunteers (especially listeners) at 7 Cups who want to help others but do not expect anything in return and about the need for self-care. I agree with you! I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 14th, 2020

@shiningSound31 Thank you and I wish you all the best too !! heart

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shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

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dancingMoment7201 September 28th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly

lovely answer, I'm glad that you're enjoying the site and helping others.

TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Great answer, my dear friend!!! ❤❤❤❤

KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 so true!

generousDiamond35 October 13th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

You have expressed your views so well! Loved reading it!! :)

queenviebsonly October 28th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

I think it is an amazing concept which puts other's people needs first and it flattens the idea that a leader is a leader only because of his power and reputation.

One example of service leadership here on 7 Cups is a leader who just talks with upcoming leaders and helps them becomes what he has become.

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queenviebsonly October 28th, 2020

@queenviebsonly

To becoming a better servent, I think that I should focus more on how I can become better and be more open to feedback because it is what can help me grow!

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CheeryMango August 8th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think of the idea of service leadership?

I like the idea of service leadership. It's something that won't happen overnight, but once there is effort put into making it happen it will

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?

One example of service leadership would be a listener who is passionate about the work that is being done here on 7CUPS and they would like to help as best as they can.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?

By striving to understand other people's intentions and perspectives, being a team player and interacting with everyone involved in the community

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August 9th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think of the idea of service leadership?
Service leadership is the ideal leadership for a place like 7cups, that puts others' needs first.

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?
Mentors give their time to fellow leaders and listeners so that it benefits the community, the site, and the members looking up to this site eventually.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?
I am trying already. I have recently started taking up leadership roles like Community Mentor and Listener Training to help listeners do their best to help the members the best.

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KindnessMatters2020 August 10th, 2020

@Heather225

I think 7 Cups is the eptiome of service leadership. From my few months with 7 Cups, I have been inspired and in awe of the incredible people I have met who uplift and support us all in our mutual journey of making the world a better place.

An awesome example of service leadership I have seen on 7 Cups is the Sharing Circle. Listeners volunteer to lead and other listeners show up to offer support and strength to our members. It is a beautiful example of the true dedication to this community.

The way I hope to become a better servant to our community is by continuing learn how to balance taking on leadership responsibility while still taking 1-1 chats. My goal is to maintain some presence on the front lines while also being able to support fellow listeners and leaders in this journey.

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shiningDay80 August 11th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think of the idea of service leadership?

- I think the idea of service leadership is superb. It gives those who take part in 7 Cups the confidence knowing that they are helping others and putting effort into a community that constantly gains more people to help. It also gives them the opportunity to take leadership roles in which they may be scared to do anywhere else.

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?

-I have seen so many service leadership on 7 Cups. One example is after a sharing circle, I felt bad for how it turned out and one of the leaders reassured me that I did fine and that it happens at times. Sharing circles can't go perfect each time and it is a learning experience.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?

-I can become a better servant to our community by continuing to help others and encouraging fellow listeners and members through their journeys.

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smolecho August 12th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think of the idea of service leadership?

I think it's an incredible thing. I work in a police department, I'm sure I've talked about it before, but one of the biggest things is talking about leadership. The leader of the group is there to help out and do what they can to benefit all of the people involved.

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?

One thing I can think of very distinctly is when something is going on in a member chatroom, and a member wants a listener to talk to or they need support in some way, and the group isn't giving it, a listener usually lets everyone know that PMs are open and that anyone can come talk to them. It's really inspiring to see, because it's important to see that kind of thing. It sets a good example and it shows that listeners really do care about our members.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?

Become more active again! Since school has been starting I've stopped taking member chats to get used to how it'll be when I'm in school! I want to be as active as I can be while on the site, but I know that my schoolwork comes first :)
Even then, I still want to be more active! In group chats, forums, etc! I've fallen out these past couple weeks :P

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Yourstruly2000 August 12th, 2020

@Heather225

i personally am a fan of this term and i love how this post sums the meaning of it. Service leadership to me is like people "For the people" . I honestly think people in this case our audience, members, other listeners and everyone included in the community has the power to get you up and bring you down. We are nothing without the community but the community is unchanged without us. This means that we have to be there for people and not just for the sake of it , we have to mean it. one of the ways i have seen this on 7cups is in the chatrooms, where literally everyone is ready to provide their service and expect nothing in return. This is perfect example of helping people to rise up regardless of differences. The one way i think i can be closer to the title "service leadership" is by alloting more time to this community, lately for various reasons i have not been able to dedicate as much time as before which i think makes me fall short to give my 100% to the community. I wish to be more active in coming times.

thank you

@yourstruly2000

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smilingsnapples August 20th, 2020

@Yourstruly2000 I agree--service leadership is "for the people." When I first read the term's definition, I immediately thought about social entrepreneurship. Unlike regular entrepreneurs, social entrepreneurs focus on being able to give back to social issues. In the context of our work here at 7 Cups, service leadership is being able to evoke kindness and offer help without the need for something back.

Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@Yourstruly2000

heart That s amazing! Whatever happens, we do value your work here, and we are thankful for you. heart

LittleBirdie30 August 30th, 2020

@Yourstruly2000 I love this quote of yours: "We are nothing without the community but the community is unchanged without us." So great!

Also, make sure you take time for self care! We want you to be kind to yourself.

InvaderStitch September 14th, 2020

@Yourstruly2000

I love your dedication to the community and how you can see how everything we do is important here. I would want to caution you on feeling bad for not being able to be here as often as you'd like. We are voluteers and still have our personal lives to manage. I would say the same for someone in a career. It's important to love what you're doing, but at the end of the day you can't pour from an empty cup.

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Yourstruly2000 September 14th, 2020

@InvaderStitch thanks for your kind words stitch!! Its really reassuring ❤️

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Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

@Yourstruly2000

Totally agree!

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EvelyneRose August 13th, 2020

What do you think of the idea of service leadership? Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?

I think that sharing the power is a great model for community responsiblity and creating a shared vision together. I think that there are many examples, but I do love how teams tend to work togetheror complement each other! We share power so that we can share responsiblity to make the community the best it can be.

How can I be a better servant to the community?

I know that I work hard to be a good servant to the community, and I know I am working on cultivating strong relationships with others in order to form partnerships and help others grow as well.

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MistyMagic August 13th, 2020

What do you think of the idea of service leadership?
I love the idea. The pyramid down is always a good example and helps improve the whole community.

Can you list one example of service leadership you have seen on 7 Cups?
The Listener Coaching Team! A group of trained individuals giving their free time to support and help others. They work tirelessly and mostly unseen to support others.

How can you become a better "servant' to our community?
By taking this course! I try my best and I try and encourage others to do their best too. I am always looking for ways to improve.

Listening - One Step At A Time!

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