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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!

Heather225 August 6th, 2020

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Congrats! You made it the second course in the LDP! In this course, we focus on the specific interpersonal skills needed to be a strong leader on 7 Cups, including mastery of communication skills, time management, conflict resolution, stress management and empowering new leaders.

I know if you are here, you have read our values and culture guide. I would like to start off by further emphasizing one value that's required for a leader to be successful here, and that is balancing High Expectations & High Warmth.

Work environments with high expectations and minimal warmth tend to result in companies that are very driven, rule-oriented and risk-averse. The people do not tend to grow as much personally or professionally. On the other hand, workplaces that are high in warmth, but have minimal expectations, tend to struggle. Everyone is happy and feels loved, but not a lot of effective or focused work gets done.

7 Cups is high expectations AND high warmth. We expect a lot from you. You might feel like we think you are more capable than other people have suggested or maybe even more capable than how you see yourself. That is okay. Every person on the team has outperformed and done better than they expected. This is largely because warmth, patience, and trust help people make much more progress than they have in other environments. We have high expectations, but we will provide plenty of encouragement and guidance to help you get there.

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Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

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Grace8402 August 7th, 2020

@Heather225

I think, as a 7 Cups leader

having low expectations would result in-

1) inefficiency and not allowing the group to realise its full potential eventually cause a setback to the community.

2) my fellow leaders would not find me reliable or accountable which could impact the work negatively.

having low warmth would result in-

1) low sense of social bonding and belonging in the community making any activity or work more like an obligation.

2) a lack of understanding when I work with my fellow leaders as it would make them feel like I do not value their work.

Thank you for this! Looking forward to the next discussion! ๐Ÿ˜„

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shiningDay80 August 13th, 2020

@Grace8402

I agree with all of this. In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed.

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Grace8402 August 13th, 2020

@shiningDay80

Yesss! I agree with you too! ๐Ÿ˜„

AdylynS March 19th, 2021

@shiningDay80

"I agree with all of this. In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed."

I agree with you ageement

TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@shiningDay80

Definitely agree with both of you! We need a strong community in order to function properly!


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yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@TheGoodHeartedBuddy

Yes indeed, we have to be able to help each other for a strong community and build a good team.

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Shadowmoonmoon April 17th, 2022

@yourfriend5 I agree. And we can all do with having a warm-spirited attitude to be supportive

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yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@shiningDay80

Yes team spirit is necessary to rely on and help each other. Only then will we be able to function well

MindReader798 October 6th, 2021

I believe we have a bunch of competent in this team. Just be committed with it and trust your intuitive.

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iCareUK October 7th, 2022

@MindReader798

I agree with you entirely, teamwork at all times is key to not only developing bigger and better but also to us as individuals, whilst we may work alone, that doesn't mean we are alone, 7 cups has one of the biggest and best support networks I have ever seen that are always around to encourage and pick you back up when you fall, this is a truly inspiring thing.

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starryCandy6123 December 13th, 2023

@iCareUK

I agree with you, if the team are not fully informed. it could crash

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patientShell1003 September 30th

@shiningDay80 Hi

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azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Grace8402

I agree with your answer

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Grace8402 August 25th, 2020

@azuladragon34

Yay! ๐Ÿ˜„

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SynSavory September 2nd, 2020

@Grace8402

Quite the detailed response. I'm proud that you put much thought about this.

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Grace8402 September 7th, 2020

@SynSavory

Thank you!! ๐Ÿ˜„โค

TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@SynSavory

Yes! Detailed responses are great! :)

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starryCandy6123 December 13th, 2023

@TheGoodHeartedBuddyThe more information you put in the better

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Shadowmoonmoon April 17th, 2022

@SynSavory I am proud as well!

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

never relent

patientShell1003 September 30th

@SynSavory Hi

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Endure777 September 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

Great answers ! :) I agree that having low expectations reduces reliability and having low warmth reduces the amount we care abou the work we are doing.

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@CognitiveACE

Thank you! And well said! Have a great day! :)

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patientShell1003 September 30th

@Grace8402 Hi

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shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

Grace, brilliant answers! I wish you the best in your journey ahead.

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@shiningSound31

Thank you so much! And I wish you the same! :)

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shiningSound31 September 29th, 2020

@Grace8402

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Shadowmoonmoon April 17th, 2022

@shiningSound31 wish you the best ahead too!

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TogetherForeverAlways September 27th, 2020

@Grace8402

While starting to plan on my own reply to this question, as a way of starting Course 2 of LDP, I stumbled upon your answer.

Well, I couldn't agree more with it, thanks so much for posting it!

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@WatchingOverYou

Thank you so much! Have a great day! :)

patientShell1003 September 30th

@TogetherForeverAlways Hi

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friendlyEars8792 September 27th, 2020

@Grace8402

great, well thought out response!

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@friendlyEars8792

Thank you!! Have a great day! :)

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Great response

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patientShell1003 September 30th

@eternalCloud4864 Hi

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dancingMoment7201 September 27th, 2020

@Grace8402

Nice answer

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@dancingMoment7201

Thank you!! :)

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peacefulWarrior10 September 28th, 2020

@Grace8402

I like your response in point number #2! Very well noted!

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Grace8402 September 29th, 2020

@peacefulWarrior10

Thank you so much! Have a great day! :)

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KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Grace8402 that's a great respond!

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Grace8402 October 5th, 2020

@kateaala

Thank you!! ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ˜„

patientShell1003 September 30th

@KatePersephone Hi

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YoungMonastic007 October 11th, 2020

@Grace8402

You've hit the nail on the head. Perfect and to the point.

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Grace8402 November 3rd, 2020

@YoungMonastic007

Thank youuuu! ๐Ÿ’œ๐Ÿ˜„

patientShell1003 September 30th

@YoungMonastic007 Hi

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MarissaHope October 27th, 2020

@Grace8402 indeed I totally agree and get where your coming from!

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Grace8402 November 3rd, 2020

@MarissaHope

Yayy! Thank you! ๐Ÿ˜„

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queenviebsonly October 28th, 2020

@Grace8402

I think that low expactations and low warmth would result in low reliability and would make the other people not feel safe and heard.

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Grace8402 November 3rd, 2020

@queenviebsonly

Well said! ๐Ÿ‘

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@queenviebsonly

I am aways honest with my team when I am having my off day and they immediately work on building me back up

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Cazzy8752 July 11th, 2021

I love this expressing how your team build you back up on your bad day. This is what team work and team spirit is all about.

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TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@Cazzy8752

Yes, the team not only is outgoing but we support eachother even during negative times!

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lovelyParadise7651 November 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

completely agree, great response :)

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Grace8402 November 17th, 2020

@lovelyParadise7651

Yayay!

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Dinohorus November 14th, 2020

@Grace8402

I love how succint yet complete your post is!

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Grace8402 November 17th, 2020

@Dinohorus

Thank you! (:

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giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@Grace8402

I totally agree!

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Grace8402 November 29th, 2020

@giggleSun1695

Yay!!

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Anexmos December 4th, 2020

@Grace8402 Very good and well organized thoughts!

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Grace8402 December 7th, 2020

@Anexmos

Thank you so much! :)

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She13 December 16th, 2020

@Grace8402 - I agree to all your points.

MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree to this. At first I was a bit confused when I read the guide but now I couldn't agree less!

beautifulSeal9714 January 14th, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree with this, nicely articulated

SirenSymphony21 January 23rd, 2021

@Grace8402

can you please elaborate more on how your colleagues might not find you reliable and accountable

goldenFriend9335 February 3rd, 2021

@Grace8402

This is a great answer!

Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

@Grace8402

I totally agree!

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Grace8402 March 15th, 2021

@kieran000
Yay! ๐Ÿ˜„

claj333 December 7th, 2022

@ListeningToYou2782 Yay, me too

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Chloe563 March 15th, 2021

@Grace8402

Great answer! You gave a great detailed response! I agree with all what you said ๐Ÿ˜Š

AdylynS March 19th, 2021

@Grace8402

you put lots of thought into this! Keep Going!

thisisirene March 28th, 2021

@Grace8402 I agree!

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree We as leaders need to remember what reflects of us goes to our team and community

giggleZebra2708 April 21st, 2021

I completely agree and itโ€™s a detailed description.

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

I agree 100%

Brinaa101 July 9th, 2021

@Grace8402

I agree! Thank you for your response

Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@Grace8402


I agree with you, I think you should be as balanced as possible, we must create many good vibes so that people feel confident and create a positive work team

yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@Grace8402

You are right & I agree with you that understanding is important in leadership.

kindFish9215 October 4th, 2021

@Grace8402

Hello there Heather! I completely agree with this. There should be a balance between having high expectations, as well as having high warmth in our 7 Cups community.

MindReader798 October 6th, 2021

I agree with you. Since its a team work so we all have to play our role accordingly to reach a goal what we all are looking for

Textingpals October 17th, 2021

@Grace8402

All the points are valid, I agree.

HereToHelp135 November 26th, 2021

I agree


DancingHeart4982 December 18th, 2021

@Grace8402

I completely with this. Excellent answer!

NoelleListens February 24th, 2022

@Grace8402

I agree with you. Amazing post, you have great insight!!

snugglehuggle March 8th, 2022

@Grace8402 I agree this is true ๐Ÿ’ฏ

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@Grace8402

This is so true !! Everything you said , it really is very important


claj333 December 7th, 2022

@Grace8402 This is great, thank you

Immakindlistener22 December 16th, 2022

@Grace8402

"In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed."

I totally agree with this statement. Well said

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Great work

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Sventek August 7th, 2020

@Heather225

I think that if you're with an imbalance:

Having low expectations, but high warmth - means you're a nice enough and friendly person but, you don't push yourself and do not achieve real progress, aka milestones.

Having high expectations, but low warmth - means that you're not as friendly, approachable, or making connections - but, you're able to get a lot achieved, completed, and milestones achieved.

I think that the imbalance would cause a negative impact to the community and fellow leaders in that without synchronization, there would be an unequal amount of either progress or congruency.

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PeaceLoveandPaws August 18th, 2020

@Sventek

I think you bring valuable insights to the 7 Cups community. It has been a pleasure reading you very well thought out responses thoughout section 1.

azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Sventek

Yes of course

Love your answer Sven

softMusic9759 August 28th, 2020

Do you think that maybe having low expectations but high warmth can be improved on? I feel like maybe if you expressed how you have low expectations to others, you could build a support system.

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Cazzy8752 July 5th, 2021

Hi softMusic, Good question. I think yes it can be built on if your willing to build on it and give more to make that happen.

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claj333 December 7th, 2022

@Cazzy8752 Yes I think so too


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Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@Sventek

heart Exactly! Thank you for those words. heart

JessHobson August 29th, 2020

@Sventek agreed!

shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Sventek

You have brilliantly put your thoughts. I agree with you. It was really a learning experience while reading your answers. I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

frostyIris5554 September 15th, 2020

@Sventek

Agreed. Good job๐Ÿ˜„

Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

That's totally true!

optimisticDay8079 March 21st, 2021

great answer

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

very well said

Textingpals October 17th, 2021

@Sventek

Truly said, Sven!

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 7th, 2020

@Heather225

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

What do I think happens if I, a 7cups leader has an Imbalance of these ? I am not always going to be in perfect balance but it is best to make sure I do try and find balance because it does impact the people I am around .

How do I think having to low of expectations, or too little warmth will impact ? I feel expectations of ones self and others needs a balance , except the best of My self in my Roles on this site and in real life and have the warmth to be able to do the things I want to do and expect to be good at . Be kind and caring and show warmth always.

The Community will suffer if I am not warm and not doing what is expected of me and by me .The community is the back bone without the community and everyone then there would not be a place like this.

Fellow Leaders- I will let them down and not make a good impression and then let myself down also. I want them to know I Am here as a team player and will work with them the best i can .

Be Kind and caring and supportive and be a good leader that people will wanna come too for support and teamwork.

7cups builds people up we do not wanna break people down. heart

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positivePumpkin22 August 17th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Truee. i totally agree, we might not always be perfect but its the fact that we try every second to reach the perfection we need. i love what you said at the last "7cups builds people up, we do not wanna break people down"

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azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Great answer Mom!!!

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Listeningsarinn August 27th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

couldn't have told it better! guess i'll add this to "about cups" part of my memory!

(7cups builds people up we do not wanna break people down.) heart

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shiningSound31 September 14th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Very honest and thoughtful answers! I wish you the best in your journey ahead!

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CintaBali September 24th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

HI I'm still a Tyedyed fan - Thanks for your lovely thoughts . Have a great day

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TogetherForeverAlways September 27th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

So so true, thanks so much for sharing such valuable insights of yours with us, buddy!!! *Hugs* from Pedro ????

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friendlyEars8792 September 27th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

i agree wholeheartedly! Great answer.

peacefulWarrior10 September 28th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Totally agree to your concepts on Community & Team player!

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 September 29th, 2020

@peacefulWarrior10 thank you !

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KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 that's so true ! i completely agree

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MarissaHope October 27th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 definitely, I see where your coming from too!

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queenviebsonly October 28th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Obviously working with my fellow leafers will not go great because I think that the low expactations and warmth will impact our communication and helping each other skills.

kdsyahirah November 15th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 I'll agree with your reply and I'll be here supporting you.

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giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

I totally agree!

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Anexmos December 4th, 2020

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 Perfect answer and well written thoughts!

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beautifulSeal9714 January 14th, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Great Answer :)

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SirenSymphony21 January 23rd, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

quite a good answer

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Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

I totally agree!

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Readylistener April 8th, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 This makes so much sense, and the last line is especially great!

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IcicleSnown May 14th, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Very considerate to think about others: "impact the people I am around" But take care of yourself too hehe

Lotta self-care recommended please :))

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wonderfulRainbow817 July 2nd, 2021

@Tyedyedbutterfly65 Thank you for being that team player we need! Everyone matters! You are right - our community is our backbone so it is important to make sure it is secure.

HereToHelp135 November 26th, 2021

I agree


Zahraa000 February 9th, 2022

great ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

So beautifully explained !


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Immakindlistener22 December 16th, 2022

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

truly very honest and thoughtful answers! I wish you good luck in your endeavors Tye!

WishUponAStar968 February 12th

@Tyedyedbutterfly65

Yes, butterfly, I agree that at times we may not always achieve our goals the best way possible or find that perfect solution but we are trying, and every second to reach the our best is what makes us stronger and wiser. 7cups builds, helps assists others, we are here to help and not push others away.ย 

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CheeryMango August 8th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?

I think there will be a lack of structure and order with the community and the area that I am involved in if there is an imbalance of expecations and warmth.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact

1.) the community

Having too low of expectation or too little warmth will cause the foundation of 7cups, which is community to struggle because if no one knows what is expected of them or which part of the upbuilding of the community that they contribute to.

2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

I would let my fellow leaders down by not knowing how to contribute my part to the team

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QuietMagic August 8th, 2020

@Heather225

1) Impact of low expectations
Impact on community: anarchic, lawless, volatile, ungrounded, unstable, unstructured, unreliable, inconsistent, stagnant
Impact on fellow leaders: inefficient, aimless, uncoordinated, lazy, careless, complacent, negligent

2) Impact of low warmth
General qualities: strict, harsh, authoritarian, unforgiving, impatient, punitive, stern, callous
Impact on community: impersonal, aloof, uncaring, inhospitable, hostile, resentful, conflictual, argumentative
Impact on fellow leaders: anxious, exhausted, stressed, unappreciated, alienated, isolated

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August 9th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?

As a leader, a person is on the higher levels of hierarchy. Just like a human pyramid, if the higher person is imbalanced, it will cause the whole pyramid to collapse.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Expecting less from a person robs them of the opportunity to grow. Hence, it will either keep them steady, or worse, make them fall back. As a result, it may affect the following

Community: They might spread these low expectations on to others and then they on to others that they come into contact with. Hence, it could result into a corruption of moral integrity throughout a community.

Fellow leaders: It may lead to disrespect and other unforeseeable conflicts with the fellow leaders of the community.

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crystalclearnow August 10th, 2020

Having an imbalance at 7 cups with too low expectations or too little warmth would impact the

1) the community - low motivational drive to adhere to the standards of 7 cups. The policies and procedures would be harder to manage and the outcomes would be more diifcult to create.

2) Impact How you work with your fellow leaders - There would be more misunderstandings and less team work with our fellow leaders. Less Cohesion and trust would create more conflicts.

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KindnessMatters2020 August 10th, 2020

@Heather225

1. Having low expectations or low warmth will impact the community negatively because 7 Cups is built on a foundation of trust and compassion. If we are not consistently able to provide a high level of confidence and empathy, members will no longer feel that the site is a legitmate place to seek support and will leave with a negative impression of the service that is provided. Taking it a step further, if negative experiences are reflected in online reviews about the site, creditiblity will most certainly be damaged and our hard work to create a warm, caring and consistent resource will be lost.

2. Having low expectations and/or warmth would have a negative impact on how I would work with fellow leaders here because again, there must be a high level of trust and support for each other. We have to expect that we can lean on each other in hard times and lift a hand out to our fellow-leaders to lift them up. Without this, our network as care-givers is broken.

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shiningDay80 August 10th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Having an imbalance of these will impact the community in a way in which they will not receive the best support I am actually capable of giving them. They get the short end of the stick and feel they lost support.

Having in imbalance will impact my fellow leaders in a negative way as well. We are all trusting each other and pushing each other to greatness. If I were to give little warmth, leaders may not feel the support they need to keep pushing through the program and or 7 cups in general.

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smolecho August 12th, 2020

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

If you have too little warmth, it impacts everyone. People don't feel welcome, it all seems too professional and our members feel like they're talking to robots.

If we have too low of expectations, it can make all of us less quality of listeners. It will affect our listening style and the roles we take up on the site. If we don't have high expectations we can see our true potential and work towards it.

So it's extremely important to have a good balance of these. It makes being on the site a lot nicer and being involved with other listeners and members more exciting and fun.

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