Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!
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Congrats! You made it the second course in the LDP! In this course, we focus on the specific interpersonal skills needed to be a strong leader on 7 Cups, including mastery of communication skills, time management, conflict resolution, stress management and empowering new leaders.
I know if you are here, you have read our values and culture guide. I would like to start off by further emphasizing one value that's required for a leader to be successful here, and that is balancing High Expectations & High Warmth.
Work environments with high expectations and minimal warmth tend to result in companies that are very driven, rule-oriented and risk-averse. The people do not tend to grow as much personally or professionally. On the other hand, workplaces that are high in warmth, but have minimal expectations, tend to struggle. Everyone is happy and feels loved, but not a lot of effective or focused work gets done.
7 Cups is high expectations AND high warmth. We expect a lot from you. You might feel like we think you are more capable than other people have suggested or maybe even more capable than how you see yourself. That is okay. Every person on the team has outperformed and done better than they expected. This is largely because warmth, patience, and trust help people make much more progress than they have in other environments. We have high expectations, but we will provide plenty of encouragement and guidance to help you get there.
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Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of expectations and warmth? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
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@Heather225
I think, as a 7 Cups leader
having low expectations would result in-
1) inefficiency and not allowing the group to realise its full potential eventually cause a setback to the community.
2) my fellow leaders would not find me reliable or accountable which could impact the work negatively.
having low warmth would result in-
1) low sense of social bonding and belonging in the community making any activity or work more like an obligation.
2) a lack of understanding when I work with my fellow leaders as it would make them feel like I do not value their work.
Thank you for this! Looking forward to the next discussion! ๐
@Grace8402
I agree with all of this. In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed.
@shiningDay80
Yesss! I agree with you too! ๐
@shiningDay80
"I agree with all of this. In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed."
I agree with you ageement
@shiningDay80
Definitely agree with both of you! We need a strong community in order to function properly!
@TheGoodHeartedBuddy
Yes indeed, we have to be able to help each other for a strong community and build a good team.
@yourfriend5 I agree. And we can all do with having a warm-spirited attitude to be supportive
@shiningDay80
Yes team spirit is necessary to rely on and help each other. Only then will we be able to function well
I believe we have a bunch of competent in this team. Just be committed with it and trust your intuitive.
@MindReader798
I agree with you entirely, teamwork at all times is key to not only developing bigger and better but also to us as individuals, whilst we may work alone, that doesn't mean we are alone, 7 cups has one of the biggest and best support networks I have ever seen that are always around to encourage and pick you back up when you fall, this is a truly inspiring thing.
@iCareUK
I agree with you, if the team are not fully informed. it could crash
@shiningDay80 Hi
@Grace8402
I agree with your answer
@azuladragon34
Yay! ๐
@Grace8402
Quite the detailed response. I'm proud that you put much thought about this.
@SynSavory
Thank you!! ๐โค
@SynSavory
Yes! Detailed responses are great! :)
@TheGoodHeartedBuddyThe more information you put in the better
@SynSavory I am proud as well!
never relent
@SynSavory Hi
@Grace8402
Great answers ! :) I agree that having low expectations reduces reliability and having low warmth reduces the amount we care abou the work we are doing.
@CognitiveACE
Thank you! And well said! Have a great day! :)
@Grace8402 Hi
@Grace8402
Grace, brilliant answers! I wish you the best in your journey ahead.
@shiningSound31
Thank you so much! And I wish you the same! :)
@Grace8402
@shiningSound31 wish you the best ahead too!
@Grace8402
While starting to plan on my own reply to this question, as a way of starting Course 2 of LDP, I stumbled upon your answer.
Well, I couldn't agree more with it, thanks so much for posting it!
@WatchingOverYou
Thank you so much! Have a great day! :)
@TogetherForeverAlways Hi
@Grace8402
great, well thought out response!
@friendlyEars8792
Thank you!! Have a great day! :)
Great response
@eternalCloud4864 Hi
@Grace8402
Nice answer
@dancingMoment7201
Thank you!! :)
@Grace8402
I like your response in point number #2! Very well noted!
@peacefulWarrior10
Thank you so much! Have a great day! :)
@Grace8402 that's a great respond!
@kateaala
Thank you!! ๐๐
@KatePersephone Hi
@Grace8402
You've hit the nail on the head. Perfect and to the point.
@YoungMonastic007
Thank youuuu! ๐๐
@YoungMonastic007 Hi
@Grace8402 indeed I totally agree and get where your coming from!
@MarissaHope
Yayy! Thank you! ๐
@Grace8402
I think that low expactations and low warmth would result in low reliability and would make the other people not feel safe and heard.
@queenviebsonly
Well said! ๐
@queenviebsonly
I am aways honest with my team when I am having my off day and they immediately work on building me back up
I love this expressing how your team build you back up on your bad day. This is what team work and team spirit is all about.
@Cazzy8752
Yes, the team not only is outgoing but we support eachother even during negative times!
@Grace8402
completely agree, great response :)
@lovelyParadise7651
Yayay!
@Grace8402
I love how succint yet complete your post is!
@Dinohorus
Thank you! (:
@Grace8402
I totally agree!
@giggleSun1695
Yay!!
@Grace8402 Very good and well organized thoughts!
@Anexmos
Thank you so much! :)
@Grace8402 - I agree to all your points.
@Grace8402
I agree to this. At first I was a bit confused when I read the guide but now I couldn't agree less!
@Grace8402
I agree with this, nicely articulated
@Grace8402
can you please elaborate more on how your colleagues might not find you reliable and accountable
@Grace8402
This is a great answer!
@Grace8402
Great answer! You gave a great detailed response! I agree with all what you said ๐
@Grace8402
you put lots of thought into this! Keep Going!
@Grace8402 I agree!
@Grace8402
I agree We as leaders need to remember what reflects of us goes to our team and community
I completely agree and itโs a detailed description.
I agree 100%
@Grace8402
I agree! Thank you for your response
@Grace8402
I agree with you, I think you should be as balanced as possible, we must create many good vibes so that people feel confident and create a positive work team
@Grace8402
You are right & I agree with you that understanding is important in leadership.
@Grace8402
Hello there Heather! I completely agree with this. There should be a balance between having high expectations, as well as having high warmth in our 7 Cups community.
I agree with you. Since its a team work so we all have to play our role accordingly to reach a goal what we all are looking for
@Grace8402
All the points are valid, I agree.
I agree
@Grace8402
I completely with this. Excellent answer!
@Grace8402
I agree with you. Amazing post, you have great insight!!
@Grace8402 I agree this is true ๐ฏ
@Grace8402
This is so true !! Everything you said , it really is very important
@Grace8402 This is great, thank you
@Grace8402
"In order for us to be able to function properly as a team, we have to be able to rely on each other and help each other when needed."
I totally agree with this statement. Well said
Great work
@Heather225
I think that if you're with an imbalance:
Having low expectations, but high warmth - means you're a nice enough and friendly person but, you don't push yourself and do not achieve real progress, aka milestones.
Having high expectations, but low warmth - means that you're not as friendly, approachable, or making connections - but, you're able to get a lot achieved, completed, and milestones achieved.
I think that the imbalance would cause a negative impact to the community and fellow leaders in that without synchronization, there would be an unequal amount of either progress or congruency.
@Sventek
I think you bring valuable insights to the 7 Cups community. It has been a pleasure reading you very well thought out responses thoughout section 1.
@Sventek
Yes of course
Love your answer Sven
Do you think that maybe having low expectations but high warmth can be improved on? I feel like maybe if you expressed how you have low expectations to others, you could build a support system.
@Sventek
Exactly! Thank you for those words.
@Sventek agreed!
@Sventek
You have brilliantly put your thoughts. I agree with you. It was really a learning experience while reading your answers. I wish you the best in your journey ahead!
@Sventek
Agreed. Good job๐
That's totally true!
great answer
very well said
@Sventek
Truly said, Sven!
@Heather225
Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
What do I think happens if I, a 7cups leader has an Imbalance of these ? I am not always going to be in perfect balance but it is best to make sure I do try and find balance because it does impact the people I am around .
How do I think having to low of expectations, or too little warmth will impact ? I feel expectations of ones self and others needs a balance , except the best of My self in my Roles on this site and in real life and have the warmth to be able to do the things I want to do and expect to be good at . Be kind and caring and show warmth always.
The Community will suffer if I am not warm and not doing what is expected of me and by me .The community is the back bone without the community and everyone then there would not be a place like this.
Fellow Leaders- I will let them down and not make a good impression and then let myself down also. I want them to know I Am here as a team player and will work with them the best i can .
Be Kind and caring and supportive and be a good leader that people will wanna come too for support and teamwork.
7cups builds people up we do not wanna break people down.
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Truee. i totally agree, we might not always be perfect but its the fact that we try every second to reach the perfection we need. i love what you said at the last "7cups builds people up, we do not wanna break people down"
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Great answer Mom!!!
@azuladragon34 Thank you little dragon lol ...
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
couldn't have told it better! guess i'll add this to "about cups" part of my memory!
(7cups builds people up we do not wanna break people down.)
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Very honest and thoughtful answers! I wish you the best in your journey ahead!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
HI I'm still a Tyedyed fan - Thanks for your lovely thoughts . Have a great day
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
So so true, thanks so much for sharing such valuable insights of yours with us, buddy!!! *Hugs* from Pedro ????
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
i agree wholeheartedly! Great answer.
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Totally agree to your concepts on Community & Team player!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 that's so true ! i completely agree
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 definitely, I see where your coming from too!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Obviously working with my fellow leafers will not go great because I think that the low expactations and warmth will impact our communication and helping each other skills.
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 I'll agree with your reply and I'll be here supporting you.
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 Perfect answer and well written thoughts!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 This makes so much sense, and the last line is especially great!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Very considerate to think about others: "impact the people I am around" But take care of yourself too hehe
Lotta self-care recommended please :))
@Tyedyedbutterfly65 Thank you for being that team player we need! Everyone matters! You are right - our community is our backbone so it is important to make sure it is secure.
I agree
great ๐๐ป
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
truly very honest and thoughtful answers! I wish you good luck in your endeavors Tye!
@Tyedyedbutterfly65
Yes, butterfly, I agree that at times we may not always achieve our goals the best way possible or find that perfect solution but we are trying, and every second to reach the our best is what makes us stronger and wiser. 7cups builds, helps assists others, we are here to help and not push others away.ย
@Heather225
What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?
I think there will be a lack of structure and order with the community and the area that I am involved in if there is an imbalance of expecations and warmth.
How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact
1.) the community
Having too low of expectation or too little warmth will cause the foundation of 7cups, which is community to struggle because if no one knows what is expected of them or which part of the upbuilding of the community that they contribute to.
2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
I would let my fellow leaders down by not knowing how to contribute my part to the team
@Heather225
1) Impact of low expectations
Impact on community: anarchic, lawless, volatile, ungrounded, unstable, unstructured, unreliable, inconsistent, stagnant
Impact on fellow leaders: inefficient, aimless, uncoordinated, lazy, careless, complacent, negligent
2) Impact of low warmth
General qualities: strict, harsh, authoritarian, unforgiving, impatient, punitive, stern, callous
Impact on community: impersonal, aloof, uncaring, inhospitable, hostile, resentful, conflictual, argumentative
Impact on fellow leaders: anxious, exhausted, stressed, unappreciated, alienated, isolated
@Heather225
What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?
As a leader, a person is on the higher levels of hierarchy. Just like a human pyramid, if the higher person is imbalanced, it will cause the whole pyramid to collapse.
How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
Expecting less from a person robs them of the opportunity to grow. Hence, it will either keep them steady, or worse, make them fall back. As a result, it may affect the following
Community: They might spread these low expectations on to others and then they on to others that they come into contact with. Hence, it could result into a corruption of moral integrity throughout a community.
Fellow leaders: It may lead to disrespect and other unforeseeable conflicts with the fellow leaders of the community.
Having an imbalance at 7 cups with too low expectations or too little warmth would impact the
1) the community - low motivational drive to adhere to the standards of 7 cups. The policies and procedures would be harder to manage and the outcomes would be more diifcult to create.
2) Impact How you work with your fellow leaders - There would be more misunderstandings and less team work with our fellow leaders. Less Cohesion and trust would create more conflicts.
@Heather225
1. Having low expectations or low warmth will impact the community negatively because 7 Cups is built on a foundation of trust and compassion. If we are not consistently able to provide a high level of confidence and empathy, members will no longer feel that the site is a legitmate place to seek support and will leave with a negative impression of the service that is provided. Taking it a step further, if negative experiences are reflected in online reviews about the site, creditiblity will most certainly be damaged and our hard work to create a warm, caring and consistent resource will be lost.
2. Having low expectations and/or warmth would have a negative impact on how I would work with fellow leaders here because again, there must be a high level of trust and support for each other. We have to expect that we can lean on each other in hard times and lift a hand out to our fellow-leaders to lift them up. Without this, our network as care-givers is broken.
@Heather225
What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
Having an imbalance of these will impact the community in a way in which they will not receive the best support I am actually capable of giving them. They get the short end of the stick and feel they lost support.
Having in imbalance will impact my fellow leaders in a negative way as well. We are all trusting each other and pushing each other to greatness. If I were to give little warmth, leaders may not feel the support they need to keep pushing through the program and or 7 cups in general.
@Heather225
What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?
If you have too little warmth, it impacts everyone. People don't feel welcome, it all seems too professional and our members feel like they're talking to robots.
If we have too low of expectations, it can make all of us less quality of listeners. It will affect our listening style and the roles we take up on the site. If we don't have high expectations we can see our true potential and work towards it.
So it's extremely important to have a good balance of these. It makes being on the site a lot nicer and being involved with other listeners and members more exciting and fun.