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I think when people are depressed we feel like no one understands, can help, or it requires too much effort to be around someone else.
Because they need to know someone cares.Yes, they do feel the need to be alone and cry but they also want the others to try and help them better than they did before.Try and understand them, show them that they are important.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 7:59pm
Because they feel that they are sparing their loved ones from their depression. Your first instinct is to just deal with it alone, which of course, can make it worse. Allow those in your life to get close to you and help you.
I feel like people push other away when in that state because they want to be able to figure it out on their own. Sometimes they want to stop others from seeing them in that state, from shame or fear or maybe even worry for their lived ones reactions. I think it's a very painful thing to be alone when depression takes over, but being in that state and having people around you is a different kind of pain and worry that mixes in. We all need help at one point, but part of the path has to be walked alone, sometimes we need to realize ourselves that we need to reach out and ask for help. Until we come to that moment, no amount of outside help can make it to us. Patience is the most important thing, and not giving up until they do take our helping hand is the best we can do.
It is never intentional. It is something that is not understood nor is it meant to be from those who don't suffer for it. They will except your love if you simply show it without taking it personally. They usually will blame themselves before anyone else.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 12:25am
It is simple in my opinion, Depressive people do not love themselves. It is clearly that a person who doesn„t love himself cannot understand how others love him
Because they think that their loved ones dont understand what they are going through and in that case, they are wrong!
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 12:05pm
I dont know that they always do. Some cling to loved ones but many do push them away. I think the reasons very much depend on the person but some common ones are: that they want to hide how they are feeling inside from someone they care about; that they dont feel they themselves deserve to be loved; that the depression makes any kind of social contact a huge effort and that their energy levels may be very low.
People suffering with depression tend to push people away for many reasons. It may be they feel they don't deserve others presence, it may be that they don't expect to be around very long and want to spare others the heartache. It often simply is the fact that they lack the motivation to do anything, they want to be alone, and to sleep all day due to the lack of dopamine.
Sometimes they might feel that they are hurting them and it would be better to just not have anyone around them because it can be too painful.
Some depressed people are suicidal, and we find it best to push others away so our depression doesn't hurt them.
Because they feel that because of the people or thing that they are depressed about, they will face the same thing from their loved ones. Also because they may think that they are not worth the loved ones love and attention. Also they might have been hurt too many times and dont want to take another chance.
Several reasons. The first being that when you are depressed everything feels futile and possibly even hostile, pushing people away is one way your mind may feel it is protecting itself. The next reason is that you may feel you are not worth being around loved ones and they shouldn't have to "suffer" your depression as well so you push them away until you can feel at your best for them. The last is that in some cases the person may unconsciously not want to get better if they feel they aren't worth it so may be self-sabotaging relationships as a result.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 11:40pm
Depressed people often push loved ones away because they feel that they may hurt them. They don't want to hurt their loved ones or "bother" them with their pain, so they push them away almost as a way to protect them.
Depressed people push others away because they don't want to pass on any of the burden to the ones they care about. They think they should carry all of the weight alone.
we accept the love we think we deserve, so i think this is your case,
They fear that the loved ones don't understand or are afraid of pity or loved ones over-reacting to it.
depression is like drowning except you can see everyone around you breathing, it's like you're screaming as loud as you can and no one around u hear you or even care about you that's why depressed people tend to push people away cause they still see that even though they love them but still this love isn't enough they feel as if you just don't care and they're afraid to exchange the same love with them so they won't get disappointed or hurt at the end
Anonymous
January 31st, 2016 9:30pm
Because they often feel like they don't deserve to have anyone that loves them and sometimes they feel guilty that their sadness can affect others and they don't want to pass that sadness on.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 10:05am
In part, depressed people want their loved ones to know how awful they feel - they are searching for words of assurance, and they want to know that they will continue to be supportive even when provoked to be otherwise
Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not feel as if the love is worth anything, they feel as if love is pointless and loving them if pointless.
I think it's because we don't want to hurt someone along the way. We are scared that if we have loved ones around when we are hurting, they will soon get hurt too.
Anonymous
February 12th, 2016 8:17am
It can vary from person to person but mostly it's cause they might feel like they're a burden for their loved ones or that they don't deserve help. They don't want you to worry, most probably
Depressed people get scared to talk to their loved ones. They feel like they wouldn't understand and they don't want them to look at them differently.
I believe depressed people push their loved ones away with a fear that they aren't worthy of being worried over, they are totally not worth it or because of the fact that they are only afraid that they couldn't be helped. Some depressed people with anxiety and high empathy would possibly feel like they wouldn't want to trouble their loved ones.
In my case, I wanted to wallow in my despair. I wanted to suffer alone and not bring anyone down with me. But everyone has their own reasons, it might be similar to mine or completely different, only they would know.
They do not want any bit of their compassion anymore. They wish to stay alone. They feel guilty of doing wrong to someone..
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 1:52am
Depressed people push loved ones away because they do not love themselves ; therefore they feel no one else is able to love them.
Anonymous
June 8th, 2016 7:26pm
They could possibly not want to hurt others while they are hurting or they simply do not trust people not to leave them, so they make it easy on themselves and push others away.
Anonymous
December 5th, 2016 2:40am
Depressed people generally feel like they aren't worth anyone's time and know it, so they feel guilty about it. They might also feel like they are not nice and feel it is best to avoid people to save them from being hurt.
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