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Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

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Last Updated: 07/12/2024 at 12:16pm
Why do depressed people push loved ones away?
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Anonymous
November 21st, 2015 6:05pm
We are so hurted that we think that dont worth accepting ones love because it will end. We forget that love cures.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2015 10:17am
Pushing people away might cause depression as much as it could be a symptom of depression. Pushing people away could be a symptom of low self image, a self protection defense mechanism, of an attempt to become more autonomous from the influence of others.
Korlix44
November 25th, 2015 4:49am
I think depressed people push others away because they don't view themselves as worthy. they think that if they open up the'll be "weird" or a burden. The best thing you can do if this is going on is show them your interested in them and want to understand what there going through. ask them questions, smile and be calm and sympathetic. depressed people are sensitive so if your disingenuous thell pick up on it. learning to care about people is the best thing you can do to help depressed people.
Tanuki
November 27th, 2015 12:57pm
There are so many reasons, and everyone is different. That said it's common to feel misunderstood and completely alone when depressed regardless of others attempts to prove otherwise. Something that helps is being completely consistent in your offers of support and comfort, not just a one time thing. Another thing is they may not want to talk about their depression, so if that's something people keep talking about when they are around it could do more damage than good. It's important to involve them in topics they are interested in, such as music, hobbies and humor. Something to note is that people dealing with depressed ones often fear rejection as well, and may not put themselves out there enough to make a difference. Telling and showing someone who is depressed exactly how much they mean to you may be hard because of that fear, but it may be the best thing for them as well.
calmingSoul69
November 28th, 2015 11:47pm
because they might feel like they don't need anyone in life because what they might be going through or they just don't wanna be mess with
RoyalistcomfortingJoy
November 29th, 2015 12:15am
Depressed people tend to pus love ones away because they prefer to be alone. Some don't want to be irritated by them and others feel like they're being judged by them. For depressed people an aea to themselves is considered a safe place regardless if they are suffering or not.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2015 5:53pm
People who are depressed tend to push loved ones away because they feel that they are not "good enough", they might have bad thoughts about themselves like "they don't like me" or "I don't want to bother him/her with my problems". They might be afraid of what other people think of them, afraid of being judged. This is just a tiny part of the issue, but this is my personal experience of it.
Anonymous
December 2nd, 2015 11:25am
Because they don't want they loved ones feeling depressed too. That's the reason. I guess.
sunshinerise99
December 3rd, 2015 6:09am
Well i would push my loved ones away cause i would feel that no cares and there just dont understand what i feel or what im going through
Anonymous
December 4th, 2015 9:45am
Because they are afraid of not being loved or understood. They feel they must fight it alone and that their loved ones may not be able to help.
1Hamza1
December 6th, 2015 8:55am
Because we feel we are letting them down. We are scared of disappointing them. This only fuels our depression even further.
eternalPassion14
December 6th, 2015 8:55pm
Often its because they dont want to hurt the ones close to them away and could possibly feel like they bring everybody down and may not want that
PracticalMaple
December 11th, 2015 12:55pm
more often than not its because they cant love themself and so they think that no one else should love them. Also because they may realise they are depressed and it hurts them to think of their loved ones seeing them this way
BethanyRuth
December 11th, 2015 11:07pm
I think partly they feel that if they let people in they'll be more vulnerable to being hurt. Or they don't want to hurt their loved ones by letting them in and telling them what's wrong.
themightypotatochip
December 12th, 2015 1:25am
Sometimes people that are depressed feel guilty about the fact that they are making other people unhappy and they don't want people to feel as bad as they do so they push people away.
BreannaMarie
December 12th, 2015 4:28am
It's easy to feel like others around you won't understand when you're in a depressed state. They won't get it so you don't want to bother talking to them about what's going on. Or people may feel like they're a burden on the people they care about, so in order to save them the trouble of dealing with the depressed person they'll push their friends and family away. It's a coping mechanism, albeit not a healthy one.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 6:11pm
Depressed people push away loved ones because they don't want to hurt anyone else and get them attached to the depressed person because they then could be some depressed by being around the depressed person so much. So if they push the people away they can't hurt anyone.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 4:24pm
Depressed person pushes his/her loved ones away because he/she cannot carry the pressure. He/she does not want to hurt those people because he/she does not want them to be involved with his/her problems.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2015 10:35pm
They feel like their depression is a burden to others, and think that nobody cares or understands what they feel.
stxriesofliving
December 14th, 2015 11:31am
They feel like they're only bothering the closest people around them. They think that the people they love are better off without them.
Anonymous
December 14th, 2015 12:32pm
Cause they feel like they're alone all the time and that no one really understands them and when they off load there problems they feel judged
NoPhunIntended
December 16th, 2015 12:17am
Sometimes when people are depressed they believe that family members won't love them the same, will feel differently about them, not care at all, etc etc... There's honestly too many reasons to name...
batbayar
December 16th, 2015 3:11pm
Depression causes one to feel extremely negatives towards themselves; anything that matters is pushed aside for a variety of reasons.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 5:13am
people who are depressed push people away because they fell their loved ones wont understand them.
HumanBeing77
December 17th, 2015 6:29am
because they always talk about their problems wrost movements and never focus on their relationship or about good things
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 1:47am
I don't think it is ever much of a conscious choice on their part. Someone who is depressed may feel they have nothing to offer others, which may cause them to withdraw from social situations.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 3:48am
It is difficult to talk to someone who is upbeat when a person is depressed. Depending on how depressed they may not even understand why the person can possibly be so happy.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 4:28am
I think it's because they are afraid. Afraid to disappointment their love ones. Afraid to look or sound like a failure. Depressed ones a sacred to hurt others. People who suffer from depression push everyone away because they are lost inside themselves in a bubble of contempt, rage and sadness. There's no room for others until they get outside that bubble.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 6:32am
They don't feel like they deserve to be loved and don't want to let people know how they feel inside
BeWhoYouAre1234
December 18th, 2015 12:40pm
because, when someone is depressed, he/she don't want much communication. it's really hard for them.