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Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

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Last Updated: 07/12/2024 at 12:16pm
Why do depressed people push loved ones away?
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SalemGriffin
December 19th, 2015 3:51am
They are afraid to let anyone in and see whats really going on. They don't want to hurt anyone and want to seem like they are staying strong but in reality they are calling for help because they don't know what to do.
hopefulWords007
December 19th, 2015 2:15pm
because they dont wanna to make them depressed hopeless and negative like them..they are so addicted with their depression and stress that some words of care make them uncomfortable ..
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 6:25pm
Depressed people tend to push loved ones away because they feel alone. Or they just feel like you don't want them around. The best thing you can do is show them you love them and support them.
PatientPenguin007
December 20th, 2015 11:52pm
Some depressed people push others away because they're afraid of hurting them, or of being found out.
iouty
December 23rd, 2015 2:45pm
Depressed people push loved ones away because they want to isolate themselves. Sometimes you want to and need to just disappear for a while.
MissSatan
December 24th, 2015 4:33am
Sometimes because we don't want to hurt them. We don't want to suck our loved ones into our depression, and hurt them too. Other times it's because we don't want to be seen this way amongst our friends. We don't want to be seen like this. We're afraid of their judgement. Then sometimes it's because we know that they cannot help us now. We know that we have chosen to be this, and no matter the effort they put in to try and help... it's not going to. We don't want them to try at the impossible.
braveHeart1989
December 24th, 2015 5:18am
Depressed people are usually self-depricating, or feel as if they are worthless, useless, or hurt other people. In situations I have noticed depressed people pushing loved ones away because they either feel that they cannot be/are not loved, or potentially harmful to that loved one.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 9:06am
They feel as if they are a burden. They dont want to bother them with their issues because they think that are causing issues.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 5:38pm
Depressed people at least in my experience push people away because they are afraid of putting their burdens on others.
Riann5
December 24th, 2015 6:55pm
2 reasons. 1. they feel that their loved ones might not understand how they exactly feel. 2. they don't want their depression to cloud their happiness
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 10:51pm
because they want no one to like them, they feel like it is impossible for anyone to like them. they want to be left alone
Herequeerandcheering
December 25th, 2015 5:00am
It's usually because they're afraid of getting them involved, or being a burden towards them. They don't want to bother them, and they don't want to break their happiness by being depressed and they don't want them to have to worry C about them constantly.
CosmicStranger
December 25th, 2015 8:24am
Being depressed has this impact on a being and they seclude theirsleves.. They mostly push away their loved ones because they do not want them to get affected bu the sadness they have and they do not want their love ones to feel like they are not loved back and appreciated.. They simply care about the love ones and they have.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 7:31pm
It's hard to love someone else if you don't love yourself , depressed people may not push others away intentionally but because they don't understand why someone could love them or want to speak to them
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 9:29pm
i think it is because deppression makes people hate themselves they want to punish themselves that's way they do it by pushing loved ones away and also they think that they might hurt their loved ones
Biswas4u
December 27th, 2015 5:32am
because they don't want to give their depression to the loved ones.they always want to see them as happy.But sometimes its good to share everything with your loved ones.
Anonymous
December 27th, 2015 2:34pm
They feel like they don't deserve any love or respect from an important person in their life and would rather be alone then around anyone else
CaringJoy
December 27th, 2015 9:59pm
Depression makes us feel unhappy, irritable and anti-social therefore we unintentionally push our loved ones away.
calmLove29
December 27th, 2015 11:58pm
because they feel their not worthy of peoples time, love or affection and its easier to push them away
warmsunshine23
December 30th, 2015 1:50am
Because depressed people don't care about anything, usually, ergo they do not care about getting help
Michalla
December 30th, 2015 7:29pm
I think it depends on certain circumstances. Sometimes they think they are bothering the others with their problem, sometimes they just want to be alone. Or they can be too shy to talk about what's wrong so they rather avoid any contact with the others.
DelightfulGalaxies
December 30th, 2015 8:20pm
There is no specific reason, it might mean they think they don't deserve their loved one, or being scared to show their emotions.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 12:16am
Because they feel like they aren't worth having someone who loves and cares about them. And they think that if they tell how they feel, people would look at them differently.
Tizzleee
January 3rd, 2016 7:24am
Sometimes it is easier to be lost in your feelings and not force the ones you love to have to deal with it also. I believe depression makes you push people away out of selflessness, because you don't want to hurt or bother those around you.
Anonymous
January 3rd, 2016 7:53pm
I'm more of the type to try to reach out which has resulted in my life in driving friends and family away, but I've also pushed others away. The reason for that is they feel they're a burden and they just cause problems for those who care about them, and that they'd be better off without them in (in severe cases)
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 4:57am
I think depressed people push loved ones away because they don't think they deserve to be loved or anything.
Kevinwicked
January 6th, 2016 1:38am
To save them from the pain they are into. And prevent then from not falling into the same depression as they are.
Lotus48
January 6th, 2016 7:41am
They are usually having problems communicating their feelings and they are embarrassed. Afraid of alienated and labled.
Reid3020
January 6th, 2016 10:31pm
I don't know the answer to that exactly but maybe it has something to do with not hurting the people they love. When a person is depressed they isolate themselves.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 3:08am
They feel alone, and that other people are mocking them behind their backs. It isn't fun to feel like that... and mostly because people are concerned and it just makes them feel like everyone's fake.