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In my personal experience when I was going through a tough time, I pushed everyone away to see who would make the effort to want to be with me. I also didn't want the hurt of being left so I thought that if I pushed everyone away first they wouldn't get the chance to leave me. Depression makes you insecure and makes you feel like you aren't good enough and that's why loved ones get pushed away.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 9:33pm
Sometimes those who are depressed are ashamed that they feel like they do and that they can't do "normal things" like doing laundry and cleaning up after themselves. They don't want anyone to see them in a moment of weakness.
The overwhelming sense of self-loathing, failure, and irritation makes even communicating with the people you're closest to a hardship. I find myself too tired to even explain how I'm feeling, which makes them sad and confused. Some, eventually, give up trying.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 6:46pm
Sometimes a way to deal with depression is to push away the people you love because you don't want to hurt them. You don't want them to feel the same way that you do so you push them away in fear that maybe your depression might rub off on them.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 10:25pm
Not really , maybe push them for direct contact or selling i love you but will keep being in mind .
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 10:05pm
Some of them may feel that they will let down their loved ones. Some feel like their lives are meaningles and not important or significant enough to have a role in someone elses life. If they are suicidal, they might push people away to prevent them from grieving.
They do not want to remain a burden to a loved one. As someone who has been depressed, there is a mindset that your loved ones are sick of you or that you are burdening them with your depression.
Depressed people often push loved ones away because they don't want to hurt them, they're struggling so hard with themselves and all they need is a compassionate shoulder to lean on, they do not want to hurt others by telling them about their own problems
Depressed people often feel that they are worthless, they often feel like no one is around for them even when there are so many people who could support them, they may push loved ones away because they may not want their attention, sympathy and empathy.
Because they feel like they are responsible and do not want to burden others with their pain. They do not want the ones they love to see the worst of them. They are to sad even for that.
Because depressed people would rather be alone and isolate themselves from the world and things that trigger them to feel more depressed
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 1:23pm
People with depression often feel like they're worthless, no one wants them around and that they're a burden to their friends and family. They also can feel like no one understands them. That is often why they push loved ones away
People with depression often think they have to go through it alone. They dont want to pull anyone into it, they think they need no help. Also some depressed people are afraid of talking to someone about it, so they hide from interactions....
They don't want them to get hurt like they do. It's a way of protecting both loved ones and themselves.
A depressed person might feel as though they are a bother to friends and family. They might require a lot of attention, and might only be able to speak of themselves.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 12:41am
In my experience, when someone is depressed, it's a situation where they feel like they're a burden or they think you're bothered by them, so, they push you away because they don't want to bother you or hurt you in any way. That might not be universal, though.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 1:09am
Depressed people often don't love themselves and don't feel worthy of other peoples love so they push their loved ones away. When we are depressed we often just want to be alone as we haven't got the energy to be sociable and we don't want people worrying about us either so we keep our distance
each individual is different and the same goes for types of depression. It could be a barrier they have to prevent people from hurting them or it could be a traumatic experience that prevents them from receiving affection. Best thing you can do is be there and let them know your always there for them but let them feel their in control.
They might feel like they don't deserve the people around them and/or feel like those people might leave so they push them away instead of being left.
Anonymous
January 23rd, 2016 10:50pm
Well that's a tough question but most people push others away because they don't want them to get hurt or to see them in this bad situation and all they want to do is be alone cause maybe that way things will be better and that they don't want to be seen so weak .
There are a number of reasons. When I was depressed I pushed loved ones away because I was afraid of hurting them. I also felt like they were just being nice and putting up with me, tolerating me. I was afraid they didn't genuinely care. Sometimes when people are depressed they feel so tired and unmotivated that they just don't have the energy to interact with loved ones.
because sometimes when a person is depressed they feel alone, and want to be a lone, and its hard to deal with situations when there others around
They often get scared and overthink. They feel like no one will care about them or help them. However, they mostly always want to get help.
Because they don't want to hurt them . Depression makes someone feel like they are responsible for every bad thing thst happens.
These people don't always realize that they are pushing their loved ones away. In most cases they can't even think straight and feel a lone all the time due to their great amount of consistent sadness. Sometimes they don't want to pull you into their own depression or feel that you'd just leave them and trust comes in at that point . Sometimes when they reach out for ones help they feel like they're never bring answered and decide to back away . There are many reasons for this and sometimes they're the only ones who can change that
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 2:12am
Because they feel as if they either feel as if their loved ones don't care or they are a burden, which is never true.
Anonymous
March 11th, 2016 8:02am
People with depression normally cannot express what they are feeling and what other people say sometimes makes them feel even worse. They probably feel more distant and that their family will not understand and that them to feel that they should push their loved ones away
A depressed person may push loved ones away for many reasons. Sometimes they may feel like they're a burden on other people, other times they may think they're worthless or that no one likes them so they don't talk to anyone. It's listed as a symptom of depression to withdraw from friends and family.
Because they don't love themselves and they feel they're wholly undeserving of love and affection. The challenge is to reshape their perspective in such a way that they take an honest appraisal of themselves and can see themselves for something closer to who they are, without the depression's dark taint.
Anonymous
March 12th, 2016 2:13am
They push love ones away because they think that they will hurt them by sharing feelings or those things they discuss isn't going to be to much help to them and they just want to be alone by themselves for a reason.
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