Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

Imagine depression as a cloak. Once you have it nothing is gonna hurt you, but you also won't be receiving any love. From my experience it was because I was scared of people hurting me and leaving me, but because of that you also won't receive any love, which is why it's never good to isolate yourself during depression.

Because they thought they shouldn't be affecting anyone else with their "depressing" mind, they thought they might be a burden to them. They though they deserves someone better than them, since they think they are not perfect at all. What they didn't know is that people actually do care and wants to help.

Many depressed people feel as if they are unworthy of having loved ones. Sometimes they are embarrassed or they feel that just aren't good enough for others to care about.

Depressed people suffer , they are joyless , unhappy , hopeless , sometimes the smallest details turn their moods even further negative , it is their desire to stay alone , disengage in activities , and simply losing the fun view they had in their loved ones ,..

They do not want to hurt their love ones, while they are emotional. They feel that their emotions can overwhelm/hurt them.

they dont mean to.. but they who are depressed do need someone to help support them its hard for some but things do get better

They do this because they feel that they are not enough for their loved ones. They feel like burdens to them and push them away so that the loved ones will not be burdened by them. They also feel that they are not enough for their loved ones to love them unconditionally.

Mostly because they feel like a burden because the feelings are too much to handle, or that others won't understand/validate their feelings or try to be there for them, like there is no point in letting people in but that is the depression talking. People with depression are constantly experiencing pain and other negative feelings that sometimes feel so overwhelming to them and it takes time until they learn and understand better whats going on in their heads. Explaining it to others is sometimes difficult, besides not knowing what will make them feel better because nothing really does, again the depression affecting everything. Telling them that you are willing to listen and following through and checking up regularly will make a difference and will help them open up about it even if its not accepted right away.

Depressed people tend to have a low sense of self-worth. They feel like they don't deserve to be cared for by their loved ones, sometimes even believing that they are simply a burden to them.

Because we're always afraid that they'll leave us, and sometimes because we feel like we're bothering them, and we don't want to hurt them with our depression.

Because, when people are depressed, they feel as if they are not worth anyone's time or they believe that they will just bring others down with them.

Won't know if they'll truly know how to help, if they'll make it worse or if they'd take you seriouly of how you feel.

In my own experience, when someone is depressed they push away their loved ones because they are afraid of hurting them. It is best if the person that is depressed talks to their loved ones or even a counselor as to why they're depressed. It could help overcoming the depression and to help your loved ones understand why you're depressed.

Well, we usually don't want to hurt anyone we love. But, it's mainly because we have trust issues. We think if other people have messed us up you will do the exact same. Because, if someone else screwed us over then why won't you? Sometimes, we feel as if it's too close for comfort. Have you ever gotten so incredibly comfortable talking with someone that it makes you be alright talking to them about things you would not even once talk about with anyone, not one person? If you haven't then had anyone ever talk about you behind your back? Because, if yes for both or just one well we think you will for sure do that to us. We are also super insecure so we think you are using us for something other than what you say you are REALLY doing.

Why do we push them away? To not make it hurt them all that much when you kill yourself. So that our family wouldn't be that disappointed when they find out you're depressed. So that our friends wouldn't panic and rush to save you or tell you that you're being over dramatic. Or that you never come out of your room, so you loved ones don't see the real you. So they can't see the sadness in your eyes, the pain in your smile. You just want them to think you're okay. You're just trying to protect them. (This is all based on my personal experiences.)