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They do not push them away. They are just afraid of sharing what they feel, because they think others won't understand them.
They don't mean to push people away so if they do that please don't take it to heart because depression is a serious medical illness. They push people away because they feel as if they are a burden, or feel as if everyone is better off without them. Their moods are everywhere so they may come off as mean even if they aren't meaning to.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 9:17am
It's like being stuck in a black gooey tar. You don't want others to get close to you for the fear of pulling them in with you.
Depressed people tend to push away loved ones because they feel that they'll hurt their loved ones so they feel its better to keep them away
Its the process of social withdrawal, depressed people find it difficult to express and even feel any emotions bar sadness, guilt and anger. They are essentially emotionally numbed and thus it becomes difficult for a depressed individual to converse with a non depressed individual on any real level. It is particularly hard if that person is a loved one as it puts pressure on them to act 'normally' and they tend to feel like they are letting the loved one down or failing them.
Sometimes when people are depressed, they feel as though they need to get their own lives in shape before they invite anyone else in. In addition, they may feel as though they are toxic to the people they are close to. Kind of like a grenade, I suppose. Depressed people may feel as though they are a gray cloud hovering around people and covering their sunshine. It is important to let depressed people know that they are loved and appreciated. Even the smallest thing, like a smile, can add a little ray of light to their gloomy day.
Depression often causes people to think they're not appreciated or that they don't deserve anybody helping them. The truth is the exact opposite and one should never stop trying to make it clear to them.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 3:36am
People that are depressed tend to push loved ones away for reason like they are scared that they are going to get judged or that their family or friends wont help or will try to send them to a therapist and that may be just what they need.
They are depressed and when I'm depressed I dnt have much energy to push myself of bed and connecting to loved ones is a task I cnt put so much energy on anyone ..If they are caring enough they would know but I still end up thinking I'm just gonna end up venting..and I kn they are gonna judge me and treat me like a whip. .sometimes I feel it's better to fight alone thn to let someone else and make it worst ...Most of the time it hard to decide who is real and who is fake and with depression it's not easy to understand what is reality and what is illusion. ..
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 3:47pm
Sometimes it feels like it'd be easier to deal with that state of mind alone (Although this is not true). I personally felt like a burden to those around me, I didn't tell anyone about my depression and just isolated myself until my friends stopped calling.
Many depressed people feel as if others, especially loved ones, would be better off without them. They don't want to burden others with their issues, so they keep them to themselves and don't allow others to participate in them.
They often feel like they are worthless, or they may not want to bring them down with them. They need isolation.
Because when you are depressed, you feel the weight of the world on you to the point you can hardly move. Taking care of your own needs is the hardest thing to do in your life. Other people showing up, even to help is so overwhelming, you have no choice but to push them away or tune them out completely.
Its easy to push away the ones that matter the most. You dont want to get hurt when your hurting the most and in turn it hurts them and we dont realize it
Anonymous
December 30th, 2015 5:06am
Depressed people push them away because they do not understand their emotions and just want to be alone. They are just sad and don't have the energy to do anything especially socialize with loved ones.
I went through depression at one point my reason was because i didnt want to talk and i was too upset
Because they believe that their loved ones wouldn't understand and they don't want to end up being a burden to them, so they choose to be alone.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 3:24am
Depressed people normally push away loved ones because they want to be alone in their suffering and don't want to hurt anyone else
They put walls up because they don't want to be hurt again. Especially by loved ones.
Often, people who are depressed suffer from an incredibly low self-esteem. They may have negative thoughts telling them that they do not deserve the love and care of their friends and family, or that they are nothing but a burden to their loved ones. Depression also depletes people's energy and motivation. People who are struggling with depression may feel too exhausted and drained to be able to spend time with friends and family.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 12:37pm
Many people feel that the reason they're depressed is their own fault even though it's not. And they tend to feel like no one will understand or be able to help.
Sometimes we feel as if we don't deserve things like love, help, food, or just anything nice. In the moment of our depression we think really bad thoughts about our selves and it makes you act like you don't deserve these things that could really help you.
they are afraid of getting their heart broken again the fear of it happening just overcomes you and it takes over
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 11:22pm
It's often unintended, but they often feel like a burden. They don't feel like anyone can help them.
Speaking from myself, I pushed people away because I was afraid I would be judged, or they wouldn't understand.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 12:39pm
Their negative self talk is a part of making them feel unworthy around others. Depressed people feel so alone and sad that they actually stop thinking about their loved ones and push them away, they just feel the need to get away from people
For fear of appearing so broken. For fear of being dismissed as silly. For fear of not being understood.
Because they cant handle the feeling of love vs needing love. Conflict of not wanting ppl to know vs calling out for help
Sometimes it's because being around people who don't understand can be exhausting. Other times it can be because we feel the need to act happy so we don't spread our negative vibes. 1 thing I've noticed though is even 2 sad people usually feel better meeting up than being alone. A change of scenery & meeting people can break patterns of negative thoughts that take over when you're alone. I have friends who don't want to meet up but feel better once we do.
because they just probably just want to be alone for a while and maybe the love ones are making i worse by trying to help them.
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