Why do depressed people push loved ones away?

People who are depressed sometimes don't feel worthy of affection and love or they just do not have the energy for human interactions and don't want to disappoint, make life easier for others by cutting themselves out. That is an all or nothing kind of thinking, that also is taking away the possibility for loved ones to choose for themselves who are worthy of their time. Often people think that by cutting themselves off they make life of their loved ones easier. This is not the case, because often the loved ones worry. Also it can hinder healing for the depressed person, since they are cutting themselves off important ressources to be able to heal/get better.

From my experience, when I was at my lowest I pushed away loved ones so I could not hurt them. As much as I told myself that it was for the better, they still got hurt. Sometimes I felt I was disappointing them and that I may rub off on them. I did not want my loved ones to be depressed as well, I would have rather taken on everything. I also thought that they would be less hurt if I passed on. There are a lot of reasons, but these are some I have experienced directly. I hope this helps, best wishes!

Sometimes people with depression feel like they're bringing the people around them down too. Or sometimes they don't want to talk to anyone because they're afraid their loved ones will notice the change in them and they're not ready to talk about it. Other times the condition itself drives sufferers into isolation when they don't have the motivation to go out. In my experience it's predominantly that people have to put on a brave face around loved ones and they just can't pretend everything's alright anymore.

Depressed people push loved ones away because they are sad and hate people and life. :) :( :) :( hi!

I believe that depression can dramatically lower our self esteem and confidence. As a result it can make someone feel worthless and a burden to those around them. In these moment its always good to flip the situation...if someone you loved was hurting would you consider them a burden?

This is because they think they don't deserve being loved when in depression hence push them away again and again.

Depression is a serious disease which no one should take lightly.when you are in that state you feel a sense of loneliness and unloved .you feel people don't get you even your loved ones it's not deliberate but such kind of people deserve full support and need to be treated effectively.

While in depression the person always feels negative and down and that person doesn't want their loved ones to feel their negativity they don't think that they can be helped and that he or she would only bring others down

There can be several reasons! In my case, it felt that the depression was trying to cut me off from my support structure ,i.e family and friends. It manifested itself in a feeling of me not being worth their time or trouble.

For some, at a certain point, its almost like an addiction. There is an odd distorted view that the pain from the depression is comfortable and safe, in the idea you know what to expect and it isn't a rollercoaster of high's and lows' . . its just one straight low. . .

A depressed person focuses inward, into themselves. Everyone and everything outside becomes simply irrelevant. Paying attention to the outside world and the people in it requires a lot of effort and occures as a painful hassle.

You believe everyone else thinks you are as worthless as you feel for yourself so best thing is to push them away before they can hurt you.

Depression is a very nasty disease. It's not easily treatable and has a huge stigma surronding it. Depression is the only disease with a terminal outcome that we look down upon. We tell people it's not the bad and they just need to get out when they do reach out for help- which only makes them feel worse. The stigma is why they push people away, not to mention this disease makes one feel they're not worth anyone's time.

Sometimes they feel that if people really do love them, they won't be pushy or overbearing, but they won't disappear either. They'll stick around and just be there. When depressed people push others away, they're weeding out their fake friends.

because, he/she won't his/her beloved get hurt. He/She try to protect her/his beloved, even she/he need a help to heal from his/her depressed

Because depressed people know that saying they are depressed or they don’t feel good only make things worst. Most of the people around would say its just on the mind, find a hobby, its just your imagination, etc. And it hurts the most hearing those from your loved ones as if you invented an imaginary disorder like it doesn’t exist. That’s why people with depression push their loved ones, because they’re hurting. And don’t want to hurt them by proving their point so its better to leave.

Depressed people have gone through a lot of bad stuff and they are still going through bad stuff, basically it alters their whole working of brain which doesn't let them think rationally and in this case love can heal them the most.

Because they feel like 1. they don't have the energy to love the person back and 2. they don't believe the person loves them for real, because they don't think they deserve to be loved. They feel more safe when they are alone, because then nobody can hurt them.

they might need time to figure out and assess their situation/life. they also might feel as if they can't trust anyone. this is why talking to them is very important.

What ive found from personal experience is that its not that the depressed person hates them but rather they dont want to hurt or burden the loved one. In a sense the farther from the person you are when something bad happens the less it hurts like a bomb kinda.

Because they are sad,they are so deeply sad. They can't find joy in anything.And it hurts. it hurts so much inside you can't think about anything else. and you just want to talk about it. and talk and talk and talk and talk, and they are afraid they will be annoying... and they are afraid their loved ones will push them away first... Sometimes though depressed people don't wanna do anything. they don't wanna talk. They want to be consumed by their sadness. because that's how they know to be... and not everyone can understand that.

They don't want to hurt there family. They feel that if they push them away then the family member won't be hurt.

They push people away because they don't want to hurt you. Also, they push people away so that they can be alone and concentrate on not having to seem or fake being happy.

because when they are not able to find light out of the darkness they start thinking their loved ones as enemy and that is where the worst begins...........

im so sorry to quote the perks of being a wallflower but " we accept the love we think we deserve", that or they dont feel like being around people and are irritable

Depression goes beyond a simple mood or feeling. An individual suffering of major depression does not think objectively anymore, and is ruled by negative thoughts. I suffer of Major Depression myself and sometimes i feel like apologizing to the trees for the waste of oxygen my existence brings. Do I have a reason i think so? Not a legit one for anyone else but me. For short, I see myself beyond just valueless. I am a liability and a burden. So how dare i be such a thing to the ones who love me? Someone suffering of depression will begin to think that pushing the ones they love away, is doing them a favour because who would want to be around someone depressed? At least its the pattern we depressed people seem to adopt. It is hard to be told otherwise, but the best thing you can do is to not let them go no matter how hard we struggle. Because we need to eventually be reminded of our own value.

Personally, I feel that at times they don't want my company. I feel disconnected and alienated even if they love me or care for me so I push them away. Other times I feel like they don't love me, that it's all an act. Thus, in order to understand and connect with a person with depression, it's important to establish that you indeed care about them and be there for them and not push too hard.

Being Depressed is like Standing over a cliff with a storm above your head, alone and isolated and you constantly ask the questions should i jump ?

They're scared. They are afraid that people will hurt them, so they push them away before they get hurt

Well, depression people used to pushed people they love away cause, most of the time they will felt themselves worthless and can't make people they love happy so they used to afraid of being burden to them and they was afraid od hurting people they love to the depression and the negative thinking that used to be in their mind like a poison, but honestly they doesn't want to hurt you but they pushed you away usually they will think that your life will be better without them as they afraid of hurting you emotionally. They prefer they are the only one who get hurt other than make people they love hurt too. Actually they tried to protect people they love's feeling but maybe in a wrong way. Well it is not surprising cause they got much more negative thoughts and thinking more than you know they are. Tbh, they need support and people to lead them to positive thinking and manners but most of people around then doesn't aware of it. And they prefer thinking that the depression people is fine but deep inside them, they aren't fine totally. But most of the time, depression people used to hide their emotions and what they feel so that it won't make people around them worry. But actually, to all of people out there, please be aware if someone were depressed cause I'm afraid it will get worsen till they might be having a suicidal thoughts.