Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
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Anonymous
August 9th, 2017 5:43pm
It's hard to talk to an ex, when you still have some feelings there. Whether it be positive feelings (like still having love for them)or negative feelings (hating them for something they did to you, or hating the break up). It's best to work on your feelings, be on neutral ground if you wish to communicate with an ex.
because talking to them reminds us of past memories and fights and how much we cared about them and now it is all over. We also do get jealous
Because if a relationship did not work out, there is usually (not always) varying degrees of animosity and its difficult to know how to approach a interaction where people have broken apart.
When you talk to or see your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, all the memories whether they are good and bad comes into your brain. There is no couple on earth who had only bad memories in a relationship. At least some of the memories are always there that you need to re-live. Good memories are far stronger than bad ones. No matter how a couple underwent a breakup but if they ever loved each other there is also a small corner of softness still left for each other. That mixed feeling of desire and hatred make the person indecisive about interacting with her/his ex. The feeling makes you want her/him back and at the same time makes you want to ignore your ex.
Its hard because there are normally a lot of unanswered questions and emotions that have not been fully healed, it takes a lot of time to be able to speak to someone you once loved without it being pain full or confusing or frustrating, in short its hard because you have not fully healed yet
I've never been really in a relationship, but from what I've seen and observed, an ex-partner isn't just some person from the past. They're people, who once, became the most important people in our lives. Even after the relationship ends, the memories, experiences, and the baggage will still be there.
Anonymous
October 6th, 2017 12:11pm
It's not easy walking out of a relationship, especially if there are some feelings still left. That could be a reason why is not easy to talk to an ex. It might bring back memories that hurt you.
Because you have a history with them. That history probably includes sharing feelings, intimacy, fights and so on. After a couple breaks up it's hard to talk to them because all the things you used to talk about, might be harder to touch on as just friends. Friends have a great connection and so does a couple, but they are still different.
Because they probably have had all the really good memories along with them despite breaking up. It will bring back all the memories of when they were together and it may also bring back the emotional sadness.
Usually, there are a lot of emotions attached to that person and all that you went through. It can be difficult to remember the past which often occurs when talking to an ex. Some people pass this as time goes by but some don't and that's just as valid and perfectly okay too!
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 1:50am
There is a possibility that you still have feelings for him or her. That alone would make it difficult plus if they cheated it'll be hard for you not to still picture them with the person they cheated on you with.
It's hard to talk to an ex of any sort because of the history involved. You shared a special time together, good or bad, and that is considered history, your past. It's hard to talk to them because sometimes even if you remain friends with said person, it does not stay how it was before, and things changed.
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 11:04pm
Hahah, i have to go to the same school with my ex, i can assure you that it is so hard just seeking them, i dont prefer to talk to them
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 1:16am
if you have a history of feelings and intimate experiences with an individual, having a regular conversation can seem very upsetting, depending on the circumstances surrounding the break up.
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 1:55pm
It's hard because you share so much history together, it's hard to talk to a person like a stranger when you know so much about them! Treating them like a stranger after being with them intimately is always going to be hard but give it time, it'll fet better
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 2:03pm
Because you fear that you may fall for them again. its always hard to face someone you walked away from or vice versa.
because you might not know if they are dating someone and you dont know if they moved on and you havent yet.
Anonymous
December 7th, 2017 11:35pm
It can be so hard because when you see them, not only do you see who they are, but you remember everything you went through with them and everything you thought about them.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2017 12:28pm
It's because of the past you two share. You spent a whole lot of time together, and sometimes you remember that. It's hard to talk to an ex especially if the break-up is fresh, but after a couple of years, the pain starts to heal and you can eventually talk normally again
Often I find it is because there is so much history, talking to them is almost like a trigger to bring back the unfortunate memories. Especially when I have expelled someone from my life, try as I might it seems the main things I remember about them are negative.
Its hard because its awkward. Becoming an ex means you decided that this relationship wont works. Also pressure from people around you
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 5:52am
I suppose it’s hard because at one stage they would think you were the most amazing person in the world and would share everything with you and it’s not like that now so you don’t know how to act or how to talk to them anymore
It’s so hard to talk to an ex because you remember all the good they have done. You remember all of your good memories. They became your best friend during the relationship. So it’s hard because you remember that they are your ex now. It’s hard because you realize that you won’t be making any good memories with them anymore. That door is closed and part of you doesn’t want to move on. But the healthiest choice is to move on and take time for yourself
Becuase the people you used to own completely are now not yours.. and its difficult to accept it easily and completely let go it..
Anonymous
January 14th, 2018 5:45pm
It's because you are constantly reminded of how he/she meant to you, you reminisce about the past that you spend with them, the memories, the hugs, the cuddles, the laughter, the jokes, the kisses, the make out sessions. It is hard, I'm going through the very same phase myself, you'll get over it once you have another person fill the space, I'm certain of that. For now, try to keep it to minimal conversation
I guess its because of the fact that they have been a big part of your life once upon a time. You loved them but it didn't felt like thats enough. It hurts to talk to them again after feeling the hurt the breakup made you feel.
The memories are the hardest to move on from. When a relationship shatters, our fragile hearts do the same. There is a trace of that person everywhere. It's hard to talk to the same person again, and pretend nothing had happened--that those memories will stay in the past. It takes courage and acceptance for both parties to open communication again.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 3:41am
Because that one person once meant a lot to you. It's difficult to face someone after all of that. It may take time but you'll be able to talk to them again.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 11:20pm
There could be many reasons. You've had a history with that person and either you left on good terms or bad ones. Either way, there are many thoughts running through someone's mind; thoughts of anger, loneliness, sadness, regret, maybe even happiness for ending the relationship. Either way, everyone's story is different, but the one thing that remains the same is the fact that a history can make it hard to talk to an ex.
Sometimes, when you have specific feelings for some people. It's hard to accept that you cannot talk the same way to them or about them, that you cannot do the things you used to do, or seeing them with someone else. Some people might not be able to accept the facts that their ex don't need or want them anymore. Especially when you feel so much towards them, and they "used to" feel too. But it's done.
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