Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?
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It can be many things. Might be because of all the memories shared together. Or could be because of guilt or regret based on how it ended.
Anonymous
October 5th, 2016 11:48am
It is hard, because for a while after a break up there has been a break in trust. It is possible to stay friends, but you will need a little space and time to heal. A potential friendship is possible because you likely had things in common which brought you together romantically. However, there is no pressure either way. Usually these things have a way of working themselves out.
There is always going to be memories, be it good or bad. Seeing an ex or hearing their voice tend tends to bring those feelings and memories back to the surface.
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2018 11:39am
I guess its so hard because, even though you might have been friends before, its just not possible to get back on that friendship level, at least not right after the breakup. So you two try, and maybe for one of you it's easier cause they were the ones who broke up, but you can't just switch off those feelings for them. And suddenly you don't even know how to talk to them anymore, is it okay to compliment them? Can you still call them by their nicknames? Is it weird to say good night and sleep well, or not? I think you were just so used to talking to them in a certain way, that its hard to just change that from one day to the other, and its hurting you, because talking to them in a neutral or friendship kind of way just reminds you of your loss.
It is hard only when you still have feelings for them. If you don't have any feelings left, I believe you can talk.
When you have shared so much of yourself to someone and you end up getting hurt, you feel betrayed. It becomes difficult for you to open up again to the person who hurt you.
One of the main reasons in my mind to talk to an ex-significant other is due to the memories. When you see that person you either experience happiness from looking back at what you had and you wish you had it again, which in turn makes it hard. Or you could experience pain or sadness from bad memories that really hurt you and you want to distance yourself from.
In my opinion, I would find it hard when there are unresolved tensions or breaking up on a bad note. Also, I find it difficult if there were years spent together with that person and seeing them would bring back memories, good and bad. I feel once I gained more experience and more self awareness, it made things easier for me to be civil with an ex.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 8:50am
because you have had memories together that you loved and when you loved him or her or them it was a special time
Anonymous
May 27th, 2018 4:01am
Its hard because 1) You may or may not still like/love them. If you do still love them it makes it nearly impossible to look in there direction(if they left you)if you left, its out of embrassment. 2) Awkwardness. Love or hate, you two are awkward.
I think this depends on the situation you have been in with this person, If it has been a difficult relationship then being friends with someone after a bad breakup is very very hard, but there is things that can be done, you have to be sensible with one another, and discuss the break up in detail how it made you both feel its like having closure on the situation so you can then move on.
its hard to talk to a ex because you may still have pent up aggression towards them and after a break up you may want to still fight and argue with them
I think it's hard to talk to an ex because of all the feelings still involved. Breakups are often messy and recovering from them can be a pretty weird journey. When one has to talk to them it can bring all that stuff back up leaving one flustered and full of emotions that are hard to deal with.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 3:36pm
Because when you speak to them you can easily be reminded of your past with them, and may miss that. You may see the things you used to love in them and want them back, or just be reminded by your breakup and any hurt you've had because of them.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 12:10am
It's so hard to talk to a ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend because of how close we once were. They know about everything about us. We get choked up from the time we start to talk to the time we stop talking, finding it hard to have a steady conversation. The best thing to do is to wait for them to come to you
It all depends on the way you broke up. Your going to feel hate towards them if they cheated. You’ll feel regret if you dumped them. Multiple answers to your question.
Anonymous
October 8th, 2016 3:37am
There may still be feelings or hidden anger/confusion (depending on the breakup) sometimes it's easy to be friends with an ex and sometimes it's hard
Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? Well for starters, some people are just not easy to talk to. Maybe there are still some unresolved issues that need closure and with time maybe it will become easier to have a cordial conversation .
It's very hard to talk to an ex because of the fear that they'll degrade you or you'll have to go through the fear of rejection, this is really difficult as an ex is someone that you have loved before, and cutting that off can be very difficult and seeing them with someone else is almost painful. Especially if you've just gotten over the heartbreak, it's almost like you relapse back into that phase of grief and misery. An ex is difficult to talk to also because of the fact that you left him/her for a reason. He/she might have been a jerk or he/she might've been toxic, so talking to them would be awkward yet agonizing.
Talking to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend can be difficult because breakups are often painful. If the break-up was recent, feelings of anger and disappointment, among others, may still be quite strong, making having a normal conversation quite challenging.
Talking to people from your past that you were emotionally invested in is difficult because it stirs up those old emotions and opens Old Wounds
Anonymous
February 17th, 2018 2:11am
Because when you talk to an ex (at least for me) I remember all the good times we have had together and then the fact that it ended which makes it hard, especially when they have moved on while you haven't.
This is a really good question! When we experience a break up, good or bad, we naturally go through a grieving period, much like if we had lost a loved one to death. It is the same if you were to see a video of someone who has passed away, the same emotions would arise. its important to let yourself grieve a relationship, and give yourself time to prepare before seeing or speaking with them.
Well i think because your scared to go back to where you just lost from that you dont know how to deal with the pain before.
Because of the feelings lost. It could be painful because of all the good memory's overpowering the senses so it becomes scary to repress the emotions from someone once loved.
It is hard to talk to them because you once loved them. You may still love them and they just don't know it.
It is so hard to talk to an ex because he or she had such a big role in your life and then they just disappeared. It is natural to feel as though you have lost part of you for this reason
Anonymous
May 25th, 2018 4:04am
I think it's because of the past you shared with that person. Usually there are good moments even in a bad relationship which can lead to conflicting feelings regarding that person.
Many reasons may be attributed. The damage that has happened between you and ex that lead to breakup might be huge that you believe you can't even talk to them. It could be your ego preventing you from talking to your ex. It might be the fear of their reaction and rejection. You might be reflecting your past experiences with your ex into the future thinking talking to them will lead more troubles. You might be hurt so much that you can't talk to them anymore.
In my persona experience the fact that you used to be so close with someone (exboyfriend or girlfriend) makes it way harder to set up new boundaries or the simple fact of you having to accept that the relationship its over while you still have feelings for that person can make it way harder than it should be.
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