Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It can be hard to talk to an ex because of multiple reasons. It could be that you have never really fully dealt with your feeling towards that person. If you didn't allow yourself to have any closure, by the time you meet them again, all the feelings that were locked up resurfaces and it's difficult to get pass that so you'll have a hard time thinking about talking normally when you hold some grudges. It's possible that you had closure and that everything seemed clear, but even though you're fine in your current life, exes are reminder of the past, the good times you've had and the mistakes that you've done in your life. The lines are always blurry because those are people that you loved for some reasons. The breakups were also there for a reason but when meeting them, you want to make sure the line stay clear so that's why it could be difficult to process while talking to them.

For me, I have never had a bad breakup. It was just always along the lines of, "I don't think we could workout, but let's be friends!" Yet, it's still weird to see or have a slight conversation with the person (if that situation ever comes up). Why? I guess it has to do with the time spent with the person, the emotions felt for one another, knowing so much about them, etc. For some, it could also be because of a bad breakup, things that are left unsaid, fear of being confronted for previous mistakes, etc. I think putting all that aside and being able to have a civil/friendly conversation with an ex is for the best.

Because you once had feelings for that person. And if you talk to them maybe the feelings will come back. It will feel good again. So we are afraid. That with those feelings the hurt will come back too. And we don't want to feel that type of hurt again. And sometimes we overthink what if you catch feelings again and the other person don't. What if they have already moved on. Again it hurts. Also sometimes we are scared because it makes us relive the good times and we want it all back. But we can't live in the past. So it makes us sad. So we avoid.

It's hard to talk to your ex because you have so many moments with that person - Happy, sad, embarrassing, hilarious, basically all sorts and as soon that person becomes ex in your life those moments just become the memories that hurt. And when it comes to facing that person and talking to him or her, we just get scared that she will give all the flash backs of those moments and you might want her back in your life and maybe the person won't feel the same way. Maybe that person will not want us back and that fear of rejection or being shown no empathy haunts us.

The longing to be with them, the nostalgia of the memories you shared is all reminded every time you see them, then you remember they are no longer yours and no longer theirs. The pain of needing to be with them and the love you shared all ended. The feeling that your no longer their number one or their favourite person, and not feeling loved. Talking to them brings back the good and bad memories that make you want to restart everything all over again, or rewind to the past. Talking to them makes you feel that they are still around but all that love is gone and never will be the same. It hurts so much and you wish things didn’t end. Also wanting to start things over but either they don’t want to or you know it’s bad for you, so you can’t and hurts.

It usually depends on the situation of your past relationship and how you think the other person has changed or moved on. Being friends with your ex is not that difficult if things were smooth before between both of them but if things were too wrong which has affected your life in a bad way or maybe a bad influence then i think it becomes more harder to go back to the same person even for just a quick chat. As in Example, a violent partner does not even deserve a hi from you after you have parted ways as you were in a toxic relationship then and moving on must have been hard too. (toxic relationship)

It's very hard to talk to an ex because of the fear that they'll degrade you or you'll have to go through the fear of rejection, this is really difficult as an ex is someone that you have loved before, and cutting that off can be very difficult and seeing them with someone else is almost painful. Especially if you've just gotten over the heartbreak, it's almost like you relapse back into that phase of grief and misery. An ex is difficult to talk to also because of the fact that you left him/her for a reason. He/she might have been a jerk or he/she might've been toxic, so talking to them would be awkward yet agonizing.

ex-boyfriends/girlfriend are usually always difficult to talk to. You may have done so many loving, compassionate, and intimate things with each other. And now you may not be seeing each other in the same way. You may have not talked or seen them in a very long time, and you may have previously lived this person. It will always be difficult to be in an awkward situation with someone who you used to love and care for. They may have hurt you, or you may have hurt them. But the listeners in 7 cups will always be here to talk you through and help with what you are going through.

because we used to be close in past thats makes it more weired that is why it feels so weired we should learn to cope up this

Because you get over them bc they dumped you or you left them and feel bad for them or you still have feelings

For me it was difficult to remember that we no longer had that type of relationship. So there is that stress of remembering the new boundaries. Undoing late night talks, nicknames, and saying I love you after every meeting. It can be utterly awkward. With sometime you can decide whether or not if it's right for you to continue talking with them or if you'd rather move on.

There is a big difference between friend and partner, and this radical difference makes it hard to interact with said person when you go from lovers to friends, perhaps due to things you knew by being their partner or because of how the acted around you when there was still a relationship

Many reasons may be attributed. The damage that has happened between you and ex that lead to breakup might be huge that you believe you can't even talk to them. It could be your ego preventing you from talking to your ex. It might be the fear of their reaction and rejection. You might be reflecting your past experiences with your ex into the future thinking talking to them will lead more troubles. You might be hurt so much that you can't talk to them anymore.

Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? Well for starters, some people are just not easy to talk to. Maybe there are still some unresolved issues that need closure and with time maybe it will become easier to have a cordial conversation .

I think it's because of the past you shared with that person. Usually there are good moments even in a bad relationship which can lead to conflicting feelings regarding that person.

It is so hard to talk to an ex because he or she had such a big role in your life and then they just disappeared. It is natural to feel as though you have lost part of you for this reason

It is hard to talk to them because you once loved them. You may still love them and they just don't know it.

Because of the feelings lost. It could be painful because of all the good memory's overpowering the senses so it becomes scary to repress the emotions from someone once loved.

In my persona experience the fact that you used to be so close with someone (exboyfriend or girlfriend) makes it way harder to set up new boundaries or the simple fact of you having to accept that the relationship its over while you still have feelings for that person can make it way harder than it should be.

It depends on who chose to end that relationship or why it ended, but mostly people find it so hard to talk to thier EXs because he or she didn't or couldn't move on yet.

Well i think because your scared to go back to where you just lost from that you dont know how to deal with the pain before.

This is a really good question! When we experience a break up, good or bad, we naturally go through a grieving period, much like if we had lost a loved one to death. It is the same if you were to see a video of someone who has passed away, the same emotions would arise. its important to let yourself grieve a relationship, and give yourself time to prepare before seeing or speaking with them.

Because when you talk to an ex (at least for me) I remember all the good times we have had together and then the fact that it ended which makes it hard, especially when they have moved on while you haven't.

Talking to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend can be difficult because breakups are often painful. If the break-up was recent, feelings of anger and disappointment, among others, may still be quite strong, making having a normal conversation quite challenging.

It can be hard to talk to an ex because you might still carry a lot of hurt or love for this person... or worse, both. It can be difficult to not think about the relationship during every conversation you have with them.

It is hard due to the relationship that you had with with. You collected a series of memories that are and always will be a part of your life. It is hard due to those memories that have been created.

Memories hurt. And it will always come back to you because at one point, that person was someone you love and someone who brought you so much happiness. No matter how it ended, it's always difficult talking to them again knowing that once upon a time, they were the one of the most important person in your life. There will be so much 'what ifs' and 'could've been' but everything is not the same anymore.

You're attached to what they once were. Your memories are better than the actual person. Personally, my heart breaks every time I talk to an ex-girlfriend, because I remember what we once had.

Are you still uncomfortable with it? Have you tried talking to him or her? Are you not yet over with him or her?

It is usually difficult to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend because sometimes there are remaining feelings there. Other times, the break up was rough, and it is difficult to get over. If you want to remain friends, it may be difficult, but you should simply apologize if harsh words were used and be sensitive until it feels you can ease up again.