Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

You may be remembering when you were with them and afraid it might be awkward to talk to them. Or maybe you are afraid they’ll think of you differently. Maybe you might be afraid people might think you’re trying to get back with them even if you aren’t. People are so judgemental these days that it seems hard to just be friends with anyone you want. If you’re having a hard time try talking to your friends or even a listener on here! It just takes time and courage to talk to them again Once you do start talking to them, don’t mentoon the breakup unless they do! Hope this helped!

Because it reminds you of all the good and bad times you had with them. If you are broken up with them, it is probably for the best, and talking with them may trigger unwanted or hurtful feelings. Whenever I try to talk to an ex, it feels like I am re-living the time when we are dating, and this can sometimes make me anxious. It also may be hard because either you or they have moved on, and you don’t want to have to think about the dating situation again. The worst part though, is if you’re not over them :(

It really depends on your previous relations with your ex and how it all ended , was it on good or bad terms , it makes a big difference in the end. Not all people have a hard time dealing with their former partners a lot of them stay in friendly relations after the brakeup.Those people who have a hard time talking with their ex are those people which relationships ended on a bad note , so there are still a lot of unresolved issues or some emotional scars/attachments that haven't yet been healed.To sum it all up some people have a hard time talking with their ex because they get reminded of their bad breakup conditions from their past!

Sometimes rejection or fear of further rejection can make talking to an ex so difficult. The sphere can cause us to avoid ex and even hypothetically answer for them without even speaking. Our minds and our thoughts get the best of us and prevents us from speaking to our ex. Also, the willingness to forgive is sometimes difficult to do. Is important to remember that forgiveness is not about our RX and what they have done to us but instead to allow ourselves to move on. When we forgive we free ourselves and sometimes opening up allows us the chance to talk to our ex.

Breakups are tough. Especially depending on age and how it ended. Relationships are intimate and you become vulnerable with that person. How do you talk to somebody after you opened up your heart, feelings, and possibly even body to? that’s a personal thing to do! Baring everything you got brings your emotional connection to another level. So, how can you talk to that person on the same level? You may still always love that person to some degree. There might always be some connection. Maybe it will be awkward because you gave it your all or you just know he/she saw you cry, saw you vulnerable physically/emotionally. It can also depend how you broke up. If it was a mutual break up it could ease the awkwardness but it may still make it hard to talk due to the fact that the next time you see he/she, you won’t be running into their arms for a kiss. In plain words, it just can be awkward due to the fact of your chemistry that became lost or anger of the person due to one thinking certain things or a bad breakup. Relationships are hard and the breakups that can follow are brutal. Your connection you had to that person you had/thought you had even, will always be there.

Many people find it hard to talk to their ex because they feel awkward. It is common that people will not want to talk to their ex boyfriend or girlfriend because they went through so much together and the it ended. It is totally fine to not talk to them because once you both thought you had a special chemistry with each other and now you both do not think that. You may not feel awkward, it might just be you two had an argument and fell out. Which is all normal and natural to feel between each other. Hope this helps

Flashbacks. When you look at them, you not only see their face but also your failed relationship, memories jamming your brain cells. You are also sometimes disappointed by the way they treat you, stripped off of all the affection ad love that used to be in his/her eyes. The reason and who called if off also matters. The nastier the break up, the harder it is to confront. Some people also feel guilty for breaking up, in that case talking becomes harder because throughout the conversation you would be more self conscious than ever, thinking whether your ex hates you, whether they want you back, are they irritated, etc making you run out of words.

It can be so tough talking to an ex because we are afraid of the unexpected! We are afraid of hurting ourselves again and possibly opening up to old habits. We are afraid of rejection or getting our feelings hurt. I think that being vulnerable in some situations can be a good thing, but can get us into trouble in others. I think it's important to establish boundaries and stick to them. Remember, the person that hurt you cannot be the person who fixes you! Stay strong in your beliefs and stick to your values. What's meant to be will be!

Talking to an ex can bring up all the past emotions we felt when we were with them, both positive and negative. Being in that emotional space makes us vulnerable. Feeling vulnerable can be healing, but it also leaves us open to feeling hurt again. If positive emotions come up, we might not know what to do with them. Do we try to be friends? Do we tried to find some closer together? How do I move on? Trying to answer these questions ourselves during a conversation with an ex can leave us confused. It’s okay to be confused and vulnerable, so be gentle with yourself as you navigate these interactions.

There are so many mixed memories with an ex. There are the feelings of happiness, remembering when the person made you smile or did special things for you. But along with the good there's the bad. There are the times you disagreed, had fights, and the breakup. Whether you ended things or they did, there are negative feelings associated with that event. And it can make things very difficult when you are trying to move on. You may still be reeling from the breakup, or the interaction may bring back up the amorous feelings, but the hurt will be reopened and can shake your world. You may also feel like you have to prove to them how much better you are without them or how well you're doing. This can hurt you if you're trying to be someone you aren't to make them feel bad if they've left you or make them jealous if you left them.

it’s hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend because you have a history and so many feelings attached to it. it’ll become easier to talk to them eventually but it’s going to be hard to talk to them for a while because you’re so used to talking to them and thinking of them as one of the most important people in your life and then suddenly they aren’t really in your life anymore but you still have all of those feelings but you’re not doing anything with them. when you break up, the feelings are still there but you keep them inside and, when you see an ex, they all come flooding back.

It has to do with emotions. Akwardness as I have experienced it so far has to do with emotions, or more precisely it has to do with yoursel feeling out of his comfort zone. Whether it is dealing with a stranger, being in a middle of a confrontation or meeting with your ex. People feel akward because they lack awareness of the situation or they get emotionally or better mentally blocked. They do not know how to respond to the situation at hand as they do not know what to expect or they do not have a specific outcome in mind. When you break up, you decide from that moment and on that you’lol exclude the other person from your life. Some people have the emotional capacity to handle a friends with benefits situation or just friends after a break up. Some other don’t.

It's not hard in general. I saw all possibilities, easy, hard, and all in between. Depends on multiple things, or forces. Memories, habits developed together, especially those negative ones. These get activated, and it's like both individuals see through glasses with thick colored glasses. Somehow, whenever you see a person from the past, it's like everything continues from where it was last time. Clearly generates confusion. Another thing is clearly the actual dissonance between the two. In the past, this dissonance was there, but individuals worked subconsciously to get over it, being together, forced to create harmony, for the relationship to continue. But after you get separated, no need for that work. And when you come back together, dissonance is very sharp and clear. As it always was, but now there is no active work to balance it. Then you have the current situations. He might be involved in another relationship, she might be involved in another relationship. Those partners are watchful :D The current relationships, are blocking. Then you have potentially repressed things, that were never said, and when you get together again, those things bubble up, and distort the contact, making it hard to happen. Plus other micro forces that i cannot recall now. But these are most important ones i see.

You feel all the emotions rushing back, especially if the relationship was toxic you feel bad because you settled for less. Well, most of the time, we can't help but keep thinking about the relationship that was before, and it's hard to accept the fact that it's over now. And also, feeling of guilt, when you feel you could have saved the relationship. Most times we still feel something for our ex and we are a little bit scared that he or she might not feel the same way anymore. You might as well feel as if you have failed your ex

Sometimes we believe we have moved in from a person and even when you have a new partner, there may not have been enough "closure" and there may still be answers you need to find out. Despite how things end between two people, there will always be unanswered questions or unresolved feelings and this may not always be because you are still in love with them, but simply because things ended. No matter what happened between you and an ex, nothing can change the fact you were apart of each others lives and nothing can change the memories you created together. So even when things have been left on good terms, it can be difficult to talk to an ex because they used to be apart of your life and now they aren't. It's only human to miss an emotion or to look back on memories and have feelings. It doesn't mean you still care for them, it just means those memories remind you of a time when things were different.

I think it's so hard to talk to an ex because you have to talk to them so differently. You have so many thoughts you're used to sharing and so many memories about the things you did; it's awkward to pretend none of it ever happened. Sometimes it's difficult for one of two reasons: either they broke up with you and you're unsure how to approach them again, or you broke up with them and you're not sure of how to address their hurt feelings. However, an attempt to reconnect is always great. Some exes turn out to be great friends.

Sometimes as time passes, we tend to romanticize or look upon our ex with rose coloured glasses (remembering the good times). Talking to them gives us nostalgia and transports us to the time we were together (back to our past self). Sometimes they've caused us significant pain, but we cannot forget them. Hatred, bitterness and anger aren't the opposite of love. Indifference is. We don't like to admit to ourselves that they're presence, online or in person, affect us still. Because, like it or not, a part of our heart left with them. Sometimes, we hate to admit to ourselves that we've struggled to get it back ever since.

There could be a list of reasons why talking to an ex can be so difficult. To name a few, it could be because there is unfinished business between the two people. Naturally, this can lead to a range of positive and negative emotions. Another reason could be because of the damaged that may have been caused through out the relationship. The possibility of one or both people have new partners, and that most of the time makes it incredibly difficult to be able to talk your ex. Additionally, the break up itself may have been really bad. These are just to name a few. Every relationship is different so ultimately the reasons why it is difficult to talk to an ex will change from one person to the next.

Ex-boyfriends / Ex-girlfriends can be difficult to talk to because you once had an intimate and close connection with them and now you don't. The loss of that connection puts you and your ex in a different, uncharted territory. You don't know what your new connection will be like, or what communication with your ex with no connection between the two of you will be like if the two of you are unable to reconnect in a way that isn't romantic, sexual, etc. Entering into a social situation without any knowledge of what's likely to transpire can be scary. We can't prepare ourselves for what we can't predict, so entering into a conversation with an ex with no clue what the tone of the discussion will be like can cause anxiety. How can you know how warm & friendly or cold & uncaring you should be? And, most importantly, how can find ways of protecting your broken or newly-mended heart when you have no idea how a person will react to you? You can't. You're entering into a situation in which you're necessarily vulnerable. Being vulnerable with someone is difficult for a lot of people, and being vulnerable with someone you have a rocky past with is ever harder.

After breakup your mind clearly accept the fact that you both can't be together for lifetime but your heart still beats for them. You still get butterfly whenever you hear from them. It's really hard to forget about someone after remembering and talking to them daily. So I think it's all because your mind wants to forget that person but talking to them daily won't let it happen so it's hard to talk to an ex bf or ex gf. So it's better to stop talking to them otherwise you will end up hurting yourself. Try to move on and be happy.

That is Because you have recently been in a relationship that is more than friends and it’s difficult to see them as not your partner even if you are quite close it’s still weird for you. You can become friends with your ex but It will never be the same as before you were together.

There are a lot of strong emotions involved, maybe you feel let down or the promises made in the relationship weren't kept.There may still be one or both people that still have feelings of love towards the other and it can be hard when the feelings are not mutual.Sometimes it is just that you want to move on and in order to do so you feel you need to completely avoid your ex, or the whole thing just hurts a little to much.It could even be perhaps you are scared of relighting old feelings and you know the relationship doesn't work.

it is hard because of the moments you shared with them. however if you let go and think of them as someone who knows about you and was a great friend it might help. look at them as a person you know and not as your ex. but before talking to them make sure you have moved on and made yourself a better and independent person. if in the end you are still feeling hard to talk to them , maybe you should take your time and not try very hard to make a conversation . your comfort is most important when you talk to someone

It is a very emotionally charged situation. When you create a bond with someone, the bond never really goes away. It is likely they will always hold a place in your heart causing conversations to bring up varying difficult emotions. It is not necessarily a bad thing to have a hard time talking to an ex-partner. It is just a normal thing in life. I know I have struggled with even seeing my ex-partners. When you love hard, it hits harder when they are no longer that close with you. I don’t think it should be easy to talk with a past serious partner.

I think, it is hard because there were so many shared dreams, expectations and goals that couldn't be fulfilled. There was a sense of 'ownership' and 'entitlement' that is no longer there. You have to let the person be as they are. That is probably one of the toughest things to do, whether in or outside of a relationship. Outside of a relationship, we just train our minds to have fewer expectations. In a romantic relationship, we expect the partner to somehow fulfill our emotional, companionship, physical, intellectual, humour and compatibility needs. And, every relationship, usually begins with the promise of that. So, in my personal opinion, the sadness of the hope being crushed always remains. 'What could have been' always remains. Rosy retrospection always makes people forget why it was necessary to leave. Also, bonds formed and not allowed to decline naturally leave scars..and unfinished wounds. Hence. If both people are spiritually evolved and have forgiven each other and also don't feel guilty, a friendship is possible. But I think these unresolved emotions make it very difficult

I was married for 17 years before I divorced my husband for adultery. We met up quite some time later and all the hurt, anger, feelings of betrayal and grief just welled up. I found it so difficult to even look at him never mind talk to him. I thought I'd overcome those feelings, but there they were again. I think it's because things had never been resolved between us, I'd not been able to forgive him or myself - feelings that it was my fault he'd had to cheat, that I'd done something wrong. Though I'd rebuilt my life and was happy and contented, I think it was the lack of forgiveness and the acceptance that it wasn't my fault led to it being so difficult to talk to my ex-husband. I talked things over with a counsellor over a few months and was able to come to terms with things. I'm able to chat on the phone or text him now, but I haven't met him face-to-face for years. So, in summary, I think it's unresolved issues like being unable to forgive that makes talking to exes so hard.

hello sorry to hear that you are struggling with this feelings don't go away just because we stop talking to people but they do change in time and you will over come this I am sure try not to be too hard on yourself everyone feels the same at some point there will be a time I am sure when you can have a conversation with out feeling bad I do understand happy to speak some more if this is really upsetting you maybe try and speak when you feel more confident I hope this has made tou feel a little better

For me is not difficult. But it can be difficult when the relationship is finished in an unhealthy way. Many years ago, people had longer relationships for social, ethical, families reasons. Today we have tendency to go by the easier path instead of try harder to find solutions. Accept and understand people's felling is a day to day exercise which encounters lots of patience, love, respect and self-knowledge. This practise can be done throught many difference habits and exercises, such us meditation, yoga, cardio work out, reading healthy books and films, healthy food, good friends and many other things which can be practice in daily life activity. GMC23

talking to an ex is hard as it creates mixed emotions and feelings . Also one is not sure how the things will move with the ex. There are always some memories and experiences attached to an ex. These may be pleasant or unpleasant or disturbing, These memories create certain insecurity , One may feel re drawn to an ex or one may feel some negative feelings towards an ex. Also when does a person becomes an ex? only after a breakup. And no matter what, breakups are hard and can be more hard for one partner and there may be some unanswered questions sometimes. This makes talkin to an ex harder as one has lost that trust or bond with the person already . Also there might be some fear about how the ex can affect the person's current life .

I think that it is because the feelings are still there and you realise everything you've lost from that relationship because despite the breakup there were always good times that you shared with them. Sometimes when you still try to be friends after a breakup it's hard because you go from telling that person everything to not feeling able to tell them everything you used to be able to. It is as if you lose the person you trusted the most in the world and that's now gone. Unfortunately sometimes you can feel pressure to make sure that you don't make that relationship any worse if you've told them things about yourself that you wouldn't want sharing.