How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

Having trust issues can be pretty painful for both parties. I guess this can happen after you got disappointed or hurt by other. I'd say, first, let's try to be more positive and be more mature. Your friend seems to not care about you. But if you try to look from his/her perspective, he/she probably also has problems. Of course, they probably won't tell you directly what's wrong. But just letting them know that you're there for them is plenty. Second, instead of waiting for someone that you can give your trust to, try to be that person. And last but not least, if someone does harm you, just smile. And ask if they're okay. If you can't really contain your anger, wish them for something good. You can still think positively and it's better than cussing.

Do good to them and try to find some friends who do not hate you. Also you need to understand if it is some sort of bullying, by your friends. Then you need to take all the necessary steps to prevent being bullied. It is their decision to hate or not hate you. This is most important thing to understand. From your side you can only do good. You can concentrate on things in your control. Like gaining friends through, studying well, good marks, sports or any other things which you like, interests you to do. Then based on that people will like to be your friend.

You are surrounded by people who love and adore you! If these people hated you they wouldn’t be in your life and you always need to remember that. Everyone has a choice who they spend time with, and your friends choose you! It’s not easy to believe, but it’s true. It really is! Have you considered seeing a therapist about social anxiety? Check out the website if you want to find out where you can find highly trained professionals to help unravel your fears! Best of luck, I’m here if you need any more help in the future! Look forward to hearing from you again(:

This is definitely a situation we've all experienced at one time or another, with varying intensities. I can say my experience has been less than graceful, but what i learned is that it takes trust in your friends to truly lose this feeling. I know it may seem scary, and maybe even impossible to fully place your trust in someone. However, if your friends are people you have fun with and love having in your life, they need to become people you can trust. Confidants in a way. This takes time and reminders, but it's worth it. Your friends can even tell you that they love you if you ask them, and while it may not help at first, it may be just the reminder you need.

You have to realise that friendship isn't always rainbows and butterflies. There will be times that you will be challenged and your friendship will be tested and there will be certain obstacles you will have to overcome. Friends may turn around and be salty or blunt with you but at the end of the day, if they hated you- they wouldn't be your friend. Hate is a very strong word, yeah friends get upset with you and you will have your arguments here and there but if you want that reassurance- just ask them. It will take guts and willpower, but you will feel better getting it off your chest.

Fear of acceptance is a very normal feeling to have. Also in another hand what makes you who you are might be why they are your friends. Too be is by a great writer my also be not too. If they already accept you why want, when you already have it. If they are your friends then simply ask. If you don't then you may go unanswered, until you see you worried for all the wrong reasons. If not then simply ask your closest friend about your worries. I do not mean to seem proud, but I do know friends will tell you the truth even if it hurts.

Don't be a victim of overgeneralization and filtering. Sometimes, you may feel that they've always behaved in a bad way, based on one experience, which may not be true. At other times, even if you see something positive, you may be filtering it out and focusing only on the negative. If these two work together, you'll find yourself in an anxiety loop. If you objectively observe, you'll realise that it isn't really true. Besides, they've not actually told you that they hate you, have they? Why do you need to assume then?

by talking to them about it, to share your feelings with them, to show love and peace, and help them. to talk

you dont have to convince yourself that they like you, its either they like you or not, even if you convince yourself that they like you, you 'll not be happy after you find out they dont. so test their bond with you, if they are worth it , be with them, if they're not leave them and make some new friends

You're fearing your friends because you think they hate you and it's making you a bit stressed. Try taking a few deep breaths, but also you could try talking to family members or try bringing the situation to light.

The best way to get over this irrational fear is to sit down with your friends and tell them how you feel

to Have a feeling like this means there is some level of low self esteem at work. And maybe a loss of connection to some friends for whatever reason. If they are your friends you should talk to them about how you feel and that way they can tell you how they feel about you and you’ll be surprised how much your friends will want to help once you open up. And you’ll feel a lot closer to them from then on.

You should talk it out with them. Communication is key especially since you’re having second guessed on the relationship between them.

Talk to them. Hang out together and discover each other's interests. That way, you can find out that maybe your fear was a fake after all.

Sometimes it is hard to believe that the people around us actually like us when we are feeling bad about ourselves but as long as you can trust and count on your friends, it proves that they don't hate you and will be there for you no matter what.

Talk to them. Ask them if they hate you. I promise you they will start saying how much they love you.

Well for one you are starting here by asking for some things that might help you. Good job! Maybe just ask your friends 1 time and share openly with them why you are asking. Share on your fear of this. If they are good friends they would want to help and support you.

Irrational fear are based on unhelpful thinking and not based on facts. Friends do not hate each other. A true friend supports, trusts and honors each other.

Nobody would cope with anyone if they actually hate them. Remember that. If you still have the fear, go up to them and ask them.

I have felt this exact same way. You have to understand that if they "hated" you, they wouldn't want to be around you and/or be friends with you. They continue to have a relationship with you and I am sure they enjoy hanging out with you, which tells you that they definitely don't hate you. It is sometimes hard to believe that others like us when we often have things that we dislike about ourselves.

Make a list of the reasons you think they might hate you Check if these are true/might be true Get rid of the reasons you're sure it's false Having a few things that are true doesn't mean they hate you. They might just hate this thing about you or maybe they don't even hate you

Most times it just helps to talk to them about it. It's normal to feel that way sometimes at least for me. Maybe try to see when you feel this way the most, based on the situation try to talk to them about it and try to be very clear about it. Ideally, they would comfort you about it and you'll feel much better overall. Also, try to think about things like, if they hated you why would they hang out with you? Mostly this stems off of an insecurity, so if you can reach the core of it, you would most likely be able to figure it out. Best of luck!

Express this fear to your friends. You will be able to get it from them, and then since it's word of mouth. It's straight from the source. If they're good friends they will be thankful you came to them, instead of letting your fear dictate how you live and act around them. It may be scary at first, but start with the friend you feel closest to. I know the fear can be over-whelming but if you keep it all bottled in, it might start to affect your friendships. People dont often hang around people they hate. Good chance is, they dont hate you

I may not know you, but I'm pretty sure your friends don't hate you. I mean, if they did, they would not be friends with you, right? Because no one's forcing them to be your friend. And if you feel like they're only being your friend to be nice, I don't really think people would hang out with anyone they hate just to be nice to them. That would be a lot of effort. It might be hard to believe, but you have so many good qualities that your friends see in you and that's why they want to be your friend. I feel the same way sometimes, but I know deep down that they actually don't hate me. Sometimes your friends may seem distracted, but that's probably because they have things going on in their lives that they're thinking about. At the end of the day, your friends like you for who you are, which is why they talk to you. You have some really good qualities that they like, and don't let yourself believe otherwise!!

This is completely understandable and I myself have struggled with these intrusive thoughts. What helps me is reminding myself that they wouldn't be my friends if they really hated/disliked me. Another reminder is taking a trip down memory lane. I combat the negative thoughts by flooding my mind with all the positive ones! With the positive memories outweighing the what if's, I already feel better. Another technique that helps but does require courage is active communication with your friends. We all have different love languages, but we can all compromise to remind each other that we love them in a way that they don't have to question. So, asking for some reassurance goes a long way! This can even be met subtly by playing a question game or doing a challenge like an association game. Hope this helps! You are loved :)

This is hard, but I think the best solution is one that is both internal and external. Externally, make sure you have friend who treat you well, and if they don't, either distance yourself from them or discuss the issue with them. Once you have friends you support you, you have a great foundation that will allow you to do internal work without any stress. At this point, you should start finding ways to work on your own self esteem. There are resources for this on 7 Cups, but there are also many other resources and many ways of improving your self esteem. It's important to find a combination of exercises and activities that work for you.

Look for positive signs that they care about you. When you are looking depressed, do they check on you? Are they happy at your success and joyful moments? Do they make you part of their plans when they hang out? If there is any sign of any of the above, then definitely they cannot be hating you and it is probably your mind playing tricks on you. Go on and enjoy your friends. You could even read the book - How to win friends and influence people, just to be sure you have some strategies up your sleeve whenever you are filled with self doubt.

Sounds frustrating. Why do you feel your fear is irrational? Do you believe your friends don't like you? Or do you think they do like you? Do you believe the dislike is only in your head? Or do you think there is a reason you are feeling this way? Do you like your friends? Do they treat you poorly or imply that they don't like you? Do they mistreat you, or laugh at you? Do you think it's all in your head or do you is there a reason you feel that way? I am here to help!

Sometimes the best thing to do in these scenarios is to be direct. It may be a bit awkward, but open up about this irrational fear with your friends. If they are your true friends, they will be understanding and reassure you that they do not hate you. It will be a good way to test how well they support you by opening up to them. If you are not able to be direct with them and bring this up with them, it is also comforting to note that there are plenty of people to hang out with in the world. If your friends are spending time with you consistently, they clearly like you!

I know exactly how you feel and the best way to overcome this is to simply say how you feel. It can be tough to even just ask but it really is the best way to help yourself. There are times where I go through the feelings that my friends don't care/like for me so I think it over for a bit then simply just ask in a way that makes me comfortable. 9/10 it's through text messages but if you have a good group of friends then they will support you. I have a really close friend who has been through a lot and she goes through her own anxiety and I support her through that like she supports me. If you don't feel comfortable to speak out about it then journaling is a really good way to let out your thoughts and feelings. I do it almost daily to just keep tabs on myself. I find when I write negative thoughts down I can tackle them and overcome them. I hope this helps.