How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

Look at things in a rational sense. If your friends hated you, or even disliked you then there would be conflict and they would avoid spending time around you. I understand this feeling 100% but by stepping back and taking a serious look at moments that have happened can help to calm you down. Many people will deal with this anxiety about being disliked by the people around them so I am sure that if you mention it to a friend they can help to reassure you that your presence is cherished and they love having you as a friend.

I believe that the real thought process here should not be based so much on whether or not my friends like or hate me, but more along the lines of how I value myself and what I use to validate myself. If I am using the opinions of my friends as some form of self-validation, then I need to reevaluate what it is that's really important to me because as I move through life, friends are going to come and go. That is a simple fact and no matter how much I wish it were different, that is not something that is going to be avoidable. I actually have to learn how to validate myself on what I find to be important to me and then allow myself to attract people to me, who can share and respect who I am, and then those are the people that I am going to want lifelong and sustaining friendships with because they are people who get me.

You can try and practice self love and improve your self esteem. Try and learn that it’s all in your head this fear and that they do like you, you need to believe it and try to not overthink. Otherwise you will feel like your not a good person or friend for anyone. It’s something that you can work on by learning to love yourself. As cringe as it sounds when you do it you feel more confident and have more self belief, this will make you doubt yourself less especially when your around others like your friends in this situation.

First ask yourself why you think this, they hate you what causes that thought? Next is that thought valued in knowing your friends, and if it is you need to get some new friends, but if itʻs not then realize that and keep your friends. Know this who ever it is you think hates you, in all honesty the important thing is that you love you, and you know that, is true. You should matter first to yourself and then others, because in all honesty if you feel you donʻt matter to yourself, the people around you who you do matter too, yourself will think it is a lie. So first make sure you know you matter to yourself, and then ask if you matter to others.

You can ask then if they hate you. Also you can see how they interact with you. Do they engage in conversation or are they focused on other things. Do they invite you to do things with them or talk with you often. If they do they most likely don't hate you. With irrational fears it can be hard to combat but small steps help. Spend more time with them and make connections. Convincing yourself can be hard but overtime and with experimenting and observing it can become easier. You can also ask yourself why would they hate me? Is this fear really logical?

You can ask then if they hate you. Also you can see how they interact with you. Do they engage in conversation or are they focused on other things. Do they invite you to do things with them or talk with you often. If they do they most likely don't hate you. With irrational fears it can be hard to combat but small steps helpif you feel you donʻt matter to yourself, the people around you who you do matter too, yourself will think it is a lie. So first make sure you know you matter to yourself, and then ask if you matter to others.. Spend more time with them and make connections.

Your friends are chosen family . They don’t HAVE to be around you or HAVE to tell you they care for you .

I've felt this way countless times. Some of my friends even spread rumors behind my back and I used to get paranoid that my friends secretly hated me. However, I think as you mature, you come to realize that friends who make you feel unloved or unworthy really shouldn't be considered your friends. I no longer associate myself with my friend group from last year. Instead, I found a few friends that bring me up rather than tear me down. I'm much happier now, and I think you will feel the same way once you find some other people to bond with. In terms of getting over the irrational fear, don't worry about what your friends might be thinking! When I heard that one of my friends thought I was "boring," I immediately became self-conscious about my personality. Just be confident in yourself. Even if you don't feel confident, act confident and others will be automatically attracted to you.

If you are feeling like your friends hate you it is important to look at what makes them love you, and what you love about yourself. Hate is a very strong emotion and I know your friends don't hate you, so talk to them about your feelings. Tell them this and if they are your real friends they will understand and support you. Ask them what they love about you. And ask yourself do I deserve to be hated, truth is no one deserves to be hated, you are strong, intelligent, and empowered. This fear does not define you, don't let it define your friendships either.

I believe this is an issue regarding self-love. I have been through it and I know it is hard. Self love is hard. You can ask yourself: What do you like about yourself? What are your qualities? Your sens of humour, your kindness, your listening skills, your music or movie preferences? Think of the question and write down your qualities. You can also ask yourself: Why would my friends hate me? We go out, we talk a lot. Remember that your are bigger than your fears. I hope this helps! Good luck and remember you are loved! Have a nice day!

what is this hatred based off? because it may be that it is based off of little insecurities that may be getting in the way. you may need to investigate what these insecurities are

I actually used to get my more patient friends to challenge my anxious and depressive thoughts. This is something you can learn to do yourself over time, and really helps to deal with them. Until you can do it yourself, it helps to have a friend calmly challenge those thoughts and explain logically why it's wrong. They can do this verbally, but I liked to write all my anxious thoughts down and then have them write down their challenges. That way, I could read it back when I had those same thoughts again :) It's based on CBT techniques; if you're able to access CBT this can be very helpful. If not, there's a 'little book of CBT' on Amazon which teaches many of the exercises for a fraction of the price of therapy!

Everyone feels like this at some point within their lives, and just know you are not alone. Before you worry, think to yourself these three questions: 1.) Have they specifically told you they feel this way? 2.) Can you remember the last time they laughed at a joke, asked to hang out with you, said hi first, asked how you were, or shown care for you? If so, it is very unlikely that they hate you. 3.) If they really do hate you, why would they spend time with you, and be your friend? Just know you can always talk to them, and they do care

This is a common thing firstly, so don't judge yourself for thinking like this. So you don't have to convince yourself for anything.. rather observe why this thought originates.. do they belittle you, trest you badly or are you projecting your past onto them? You really have to go on a journey of self discovery and observation. You will find your answer with that. Also, start taking care of yourself and loving yourself so their opinion of you doesn't even matter. You can also focus on building your self-esteem and confidence by achieving targets which you set for yourself. Stay blessed, you are an awesome person and I wish you all the best :)

I have felt the same way so many times! But there's one thing I've learnt and it is that a lot of what you are thinking isn't usually true. If you're friends hated you, it would be obvious enough for you to know for sure, but if you have never been 100% sure then it probably isn't true! Little things like them whispering to each other, or giggling at a joke you don't understand is usually nothing and if you really do feel this way, it's always best to bring it up and ask them about it. This will help to clear any confusion or miscommunication and will make you feel better!

Irrational fears can be very convincing if we give them time to stew. I think the best thing to do in this situation is communicate. If you're feeling like you have no value to your friends, then do something to nourish that value. Perhaps ask them how they are, or think of something that matters to them and invite them to talk about it. I find that nourishing a friendship is the best way to reassure yourself that you are a valuable and loved friend. I always feel better about myself when I do something nice for someone else. I also always feel better when I take the focus off myself and put it on someone else.

Self-talk is everything. It's a very important aspect of our mental health that a lot of people often struggle with. First, know that you're not alone and these thoughts are normal. Redirecting your thoughts can be helpful in changing your mindset. Although it may be a lot easier said than done, reminding yourself that those intrusive thoughts aren't real is a great first step. You can actually reprogram your brain by replacing negative self-talk with positive affirmations. So when the thought "My friends hate me" pops up in your mind, acknowledge that thought and cancel it out. Some people do this by literally repeating "cancel, cancel, cancel" in their head and then replace the statement by saying along the lines of "My friends love me" or "I appreciate having such great people in my life".

Focus on where these thoughts are emanating from. Have they shown signs that they hate you? What have they done to leave you feeling this way. Has anything significant happened that could have made them feel this way? Look inwardly and seek to address the source of these feelings of insecurity. Focus on your positive attributes, as you contribute to the friendship, and that is why they are your friends. Place emphasis on your strengths, and acknowledge the positives that you bring to the table. If the feeling is out of control, and you feel comfortable to do so, perhaps approach them about your feels and whether they are founded or unfounded.

Im sorry to hear you are feeling this way. It seems to me like you’re feeling anxious about being a burden to your friends, im sure you are an amazinh person and that you’re friends love you for who you are, i think this might be all on youre head, it would probably be best if you tried to talk with your friends about how you feel and if they have done something to make you feel this way. If you dont feel comfortable talking to them about it you should maybe take some time to observe them and their behaviors, but still the best option is talking it hurts more to keep stuff inside. I hope i could help you, is there anything else you want to talk about?

Well, the universe has a very simple rule. You attract what you believe to be true. This is why you have to start looking at yourself in a different light. Spend time on the things you enjoy doing. Recognize what your strengths are. If you feel positive about yourself, other people will want to be around you and never judge you. If you feel negative, however, people will begin to judge you for your qualities. You have to look inwards for the right answer. At the end of the day, if you can't love yourself, who will? It's the harsh truth of life.

Hello :) ! It sounds like you are experiecing some anxiety about how your friends think of you. Why do you think they could have those feelings about you? Are there any situations where you feel like they are there for you to support you? Tell me more about your situation and how you feel. I am here to listen to you. You are the expert of your own life so I could never give advice as good as you would do to yourself. I am here whenever you need suport or someone to listen to you! I am here when you need to talk!

I have also experienced this, so I understand how difficult this could be. It may help to have a conversation with one of your friends who you would feel most comfortable with and explain how you are feeling to them. They might be able to help you realise how much they care about you, even though you may not notice it at the moment. Also, it could also help them, as they may be in a similar situation with somebody, and you could both help each other! If this doesn't help, you may not be with the right group of people, and just need to find some who appreciate you more for what you are. I wish you luck!

Firstly I'd remind myself my friends wouldn't be my friends if they didn't like me. Then I'd create a jar and fill it with notes detailing happy memories we've shared. I'd write the notes after a really good day, or when I'm feeling sad to make myself smile, or I'm feeling like I want to compliment my friend(s), or I'd just write any moment I feel like I want to remember. It'd be something memorable and special I would look back on when I need to remind how myself how much I mean to them and how much they mean to me.

If they actually hated you they would tell you, avoid you ect. If they haven’t done these things assure yourself. You know you are worthy of friendship, because you are a good person. Make a list of good reasons your friends have to like you. Make another list of reasons why your friends might hate you. Use your intelligence and cross off any negative irrational responses. Hopefully the longer list will be all the good reasons full of facts that may help you convince yourself. If not, try again except making a list of only positive reasons that prove you’re a likable person and worthy of friendship. So that there isn’t anyway your friends could possibly hate you.

Put yourself in your friends' shoes for a second! Could you bear to be associated or even be in the same vicinity as somebody you genuinely dislike for a prolonged period of time? They are friends with you, they are there for you when you need them; would you do the same for someone you hate? Oftentimes the answer is no. Your friends' continued relationship with you is the greatest evidence that they don't hate you! All of us go through periods of self-doubt from time to time, and I think that talking to your friends about how you feel can go a long way. I hope this helped! :)

In order to convince yourself that your friends don’t hate you I think you have to think about the many possible reasons they have to like you. What do you give to your friends? How do you change their lives for the better? You could express your worries to your friends. You call them friends. Friends don’t hate friends. Do you like or love your friends? Why do you think they actually hate you? If they hate you they have to have a reason. How did you become friends? What do you do together? I suggest you think deeply and remind yourself that you do have great friends.

When you have an irrational fear, it is a good idea to write down your thoughts - by writing them down, you may gain a better understanding of your thoughts. You can write down any "evidence" which supports your belief that your friends hate you. How much "evidence" can you come up with? Not much, I'd assume. For the "evidence" you did come up with, could you be misinterpreting the "evidence"? Now think about all the evidence to refute your belief - For example, "My friends checked up on me", "My friends seemed happy to see me", and so on. Hope this helps :)

First ask why do I feel this way? Our attitudes matters a lot. Change your attitude to a positive one and many things can change in your life. We say that what l feel about others, what I see in others is all about myself. My judgement about depends on what are my attitudes. If I want to shape my personality, have high self esteem I am to check always my attitudes whether it is positive or negative. You will realize that what is happening within you is exactly what you portray to others it is what we refer as projection.

First you start loving yourself, your irrational fear starts from the way you perceive yourself. And even after that if you feel the same, it might be paranoia. You can seek professional help for the paranoia. I too once had a similar fear, I had a feeling that everyone is plotting against me. But seeking professional help helped me identify the root cause of my irrational fear and get it resolved. If the feeling is just related to your friends I would also suggest you to try out having an open conversation with them. Good luck and be strong!

I would say that the important thing is not to "convince yourself" of anything. You have an opportunity here for self-exploration, a chance to get to know yourself better than you do now. I would ask myself why it is I am anxious about my friends feelings about me. Are there things they are doing or saying which cause me to feel that they hate me or does this feeling seemingly come out of the blue and for no reason which I can put my finger on? If my friends are treating me badly, mocking me, being cruel to me and talking smack about me behind my back then I would consider getting new and kinder friends in my circle. If they are not doing anything to cause these feelings then I would speak to them openly about how I am feeling, explain that I know they are not trying to make me feel this way but ask them for reassurance. There is no shame in asking for reassurance if that is what you need. Honest and open relationships are the best kind and true friends will react with concern and compassion if approached for reassurance.