How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

I experience the same thing. Just try to ignore it, tell them that you love them and they'll say they love you back. Ask them to hang out and when they accept, smile at you, and hug you, know that they love you. They're not obligated to be with you, they do it because they enjoy being around you.

Why not ask them what they like about you or think of you, and then take their answers at face vaule, do not read into it. If they hated you would thay hang out with you?

ask them for reassurance! good friends will gladly inform you that they dont, in fact, dislike you - if they did, then think rationally. why would they want to talk to you and be around with you if they didnt genuinely enjoy your company?

You can't convince yourself that they don't hat you if you're the first who hate youself. Sometimes when someone thinks that is beacause they don't love themselves enoght.

well if they are your friends that means they like you enough to hang around and talk to you so they cant hate you :)

Im sure at some point everyone feels as if they are hated when they are most definatly not. Best thing to do is talk to your friends, who knows, they may feel the same way.

Believe that everything you are doing is in good will and that everyday you are trying more on a daily basis. I have felt this way many times throughout the years and I have come to realize that the best way to deal with this kind of feeling is to try to keep a positive mentality and to just keep trying your hardest and best to exceed in many aspects in life.

Sometimes, we allow the fear of things to control our thoughts and our emotions. But, when we do that, that can be a very dangerous thing. I know for sure, that your friends wouldn't hate because you're too great for them to do so. Sometimes we tend to overthink things and end up drawing conclusions that aren't true. Sometimes we just have to calm down for a moment and actually observe around us, if our friends really hate us.

Well first of all talk to your friends about it and at the end of the day if they hate you or like you just remember you are worthy

I understand where you're coming from. I feel like this everyday. But you have to learn how to tell your mind "stop". Because they probably don't. I know it's tough but it'll go there with time! And you can also try to discuss this with your friends!

I can definitely understand the compulsive thought that my friends hate me. It is an upsetting idea and difficult to overcome. I find it helpful to communicate with them. Let them know how you are feeling. The idea that they hate me most often comes from anxiety rather than how they are actually acting towards me. Proving this intrusive thought wrong can then be something you remind yourself of every time that thought comes up again.

Well you just said it your self, its an irrational fear. Try to relax im sure they don't hate you. They are called friends for a reason. :)

Knowing that your friends wouldnt be with you if they didnt want to. Having irrational fear is alright, but you need to know that our fears makes up believe things that arent real.

Well fears are never irrational you know, they are all equally distressing and frustrating. Why do you think they actually hate you? Is there any specific reason why you think so? I believe that you should keep your self-esteem higher than this in oder to see yourself as a good person that can be only loved by people and not hated! Have you ever talked it out to your friends ? To know their opinions of you could help you realize that they actually like you and care for you! A great advice could be to never make assumptions but to always ask them any concern you might have, in this way you cannot mislead what they say or think!

If you feel like your friends hate you, it's probably best you gather the the facts. Meaning ask them. By asking them your helping yourself in more ways than you can imagine.

If your friends hated you they would've either had left you or been backing away from you and you'd notice.

Thank you for your question :) I can imagine how feeling like your friends hate you would make you feel isolated and uncomfortable, and I understand your need to get rid off this feeling. But before we address the how, have you considered why you feel this way? Although you mention that this fear is 'irrational', is there anything that your friends do that exacerbate this fear? On the same note, do you feel that they appreciate your company? 'Hate' is a pretty strong word - it might be worth considering what you might say to your friends if one of them asked you the same thing. Friendships are complex relationships that require a lot of emotional investment - but they can also be warm, comforting and rewarding. I'm afraid I cannot offer any advice regarding what you should do but I hope this has given you some food for thought that might help you come to a conclusion about your own relationship with your friends.

Don't overthink too much and enjoy having them around you more. Have fun with them or tell them how you feel.

take a step back and think, if they are reaching out to you daily and wanting to make plans then there is something about you they enjoy, and enjoy being with you.

Just be real and honest that's all. The more you try to impress others, people will only think that you're trying to act smart than them. So just be humble and generous.

You might ask them if you arnt confident then do tests like ask them how you would feel if you went.

Think of all the good times you've had with them, and know if they have a problem with you they'll tell you.

you can ask yourself why it is your feeling this way? you can also talk to one of our many listeners to maybe help ease your worries

Learning to love yourself and be happy with who you are is the fastest way to cure this way of thinking. If you can't love yourself first, your mind will start to think that others may not as well. Keep your head up, you can do this. :-)

Recognizing that your fear is "irrational" is the first step. If you see them as your friends, most likely they see you as their friend as well. Hatred is a strong emotion and usually does not require questioning whether or not it exists.

Try to start with the fact that you think these thoughts are "irrational". Are they irrational? Or is there sufficient reason for you to be feeling this way? Then consider the concept of fear? Is the idea of your friends hating you, the thing you are afraid of? Or the thought of you not having friends? Being Alone?

Reassure yourself that you are worth liking and loving and people will see how you are caring and compassionate and have a lot to offer

You may just need to have a conversation with these friends. To clear up any doubts you may have. Its hard to do but if you put the effort in you can be saving your friendships

Know that people who spend time with you do so because they want to. The people you compare yourself to compare themselves to other people too so dont worry that what you are doing is wrong, everyone gets self conscious that maybe they enjoy hanging out with their other friends more but some of your friends may think the same about you.

I would tell myself every morning and every night that my friends think I'm wonderful. and when that fear comes into my head I will keep telling myself they don't hate me.