Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #8) When you don't get the role you want
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Hello, students! Let's talk leadership!
Many of you have or will apply for certain roles that interest you! And some times we get it and some times we don't! It can be difficult to find out that we didn't get the role, but we can control how we react to it.
Here are some DOs and DON'Ts:
- DO talk to the leader of the role that you applied for and get some input on what you can/need to do in order to get the role next time! Be aware though most leaders of these roles are busy so give it some time!
- DON'T bring the issue into the support rooms. If you are upset, talking to a peer supporter about how you are feeling is ok!
- DO take some self-care, self-care is good for any occasion but its best to deal with those feelings of failure or disappointment outside of 7 cups, things like going on your member account can be so helpful to overcome some of these feelings
- DON'T think that you are obligated to stay on 7 cups right after finding out bad news, especially if you are in LSR/TL and you see other listeners who have gotten the role that you wanted! It can be hard to deal with and it can cause unneeded jealousy or hurt on your part! Not everyone is like this but if you think that this is a possibility that you can think this way staying away might be a great option!
- DON'T take it personally, everyone is ready at different times. It can be hard for us to realize this but just because someone got the role and they might have been here in less or the same amount of time doesn't mean that you personally are ready! Everyone grows and accomplishes things at different times!
- DO get a mentor, in general its a good idea to get a mentor but for things like your goals on 7 cups mentors can be great and helpful! They can give you feedback, do mock chats with you, and overall help you with your goals as I said before!
- DON'T think you have to apply for every role and every team out there! There is time you don't have to apply for everything! Its super easy to burnout that way, and that can lead to more "rejection" and hurt that none of us want!
*Never let not getting a role the first time discourage you! You will be told when you can apply again and use the feedback that you get to better yourself when you can/decide that you are ready to! practice makes perfect none for us are perfect and no one will ever be! Its a good thing to remember no matter your role as a listener your help is greatly appreciated and you are still helping so many people!*
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
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If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would ask the leader what i can/need to do to get the role the next time and then I would ask my mentor for feedback and then take a self-care break.
@BellatheHappyHelper
Thats great that you would ask for feedback, really shows your learning from the course. Best of luck
@BellatheHappyHelper
that is a great idea of how to deal
@goldenFriend9335 i agree!
@BellatheHappyHelper
I agree with the self care break, it is really important
@BellatheHappyHelper
Self-care breaks are really important :)
@BellatheHappyHelper i appreciate this answer!
@BellatheHappyHelper
It's a good point you have made. Feedback IS crucial for us to improve to become better leaders!
@BellatheHappyHelper A self care break is super important! Proud of you for including that in your response XD
@BellatheHappyHelper
Love the self care break!!!
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Thank you for considering my application. I am grateful for the opportunity to do so. How could I have improved on my application? I would like to apply again because I am passionate about this role and I'd like to see it through.
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? @jovialButterfly6752
- Talk to the leader to get feedback.
- Take a self-care break
- Get a mentor
- Don't take it personally
-Don't apply for every role available
-Don't be discouraged if you don't succeed at first. Try again.
@jovialButterfly6752
-Don't take the issue into the support rooms
-Don't feel obligated to stay in 7cups if your application is rejected - you might need a break.
@jovialButterfly6752
Great points that you made. Keep up the good work and im sure you will make it!
Well said!
@jovialButterfly6752
Sounds solid and respectful
@jovialButterfly6752
that is a really great response!
@jovialButterfly6752
I really live how you put all the most important point there briefly
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would thank the leader for considering my application. I would ask for feedback on why I didnt get the role, and what I needed to do or improve on to give me a better chance when I would next apply. I would point out that I am passionate about the role and will use any feedback to better myself for re-applying in the future.
@becca2002
Nice that you would take the time to ask for feedback im sure you will do great
@becca2002
Well put
@sunlightspirit right!
It's a good idea to highlight your passion and also ask for feedback. Great post.
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I did not get the role I would be disappointed of course but I would not let it get to me. I would ask the Leader why I did not get the role and ask for them for feedback on what I need to work on and if I could apply again in the future. It would be a learning curve but I know I would take any feedback onboard and come back stronger.
@Fergie12299
Exactly! We can always come back stronger and better! 
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
Always respond respectfully and be appreciative of any feedback they can offer and ask for any insight or guidance for reapplying.
@sunlightspirit
Staying respectful and accepting and improving upon the insights provided are such good ideas definitely. ❤
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond?
I would probably be a little dissappointed, but I am aware that people don't always get what they want, and that is okay. I would probably take the time to reach out to my Peer Mentor for advice. I would also make sure to do my best at whatever role I recieve, ideally reaching out again for more training to receive a different role again. Sometimes the things we dont expect or want can be rewarding or beneficial in ways we arnt able to predict. Its about making the most out of everything.
What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would still take the time to thank the leader. Not only is it not their fault, but no matter the leadership role it is still very important to my personal development as a person, a listener and a leader. I might ask for direction in how to reapply or any suggestions they may have.
@warmLove3625 Keep going on! Very motivational and inspiring post!
@warmLove3625 good answer!
@Heather225
Personally, I would talk to my mentor, and maybe take a quick break. I would tell the leader: Thank you so much for considering me and taking the time to let me know. Im very interested in applying again, when am I allowed to do that and what should I do differently
@Heather225
If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
If I didn't get the role, I would obviously be a bit dissapointed as I would have wanted the role otherwise I woudn't have applied however I will then respond putting that dissapointment into motivation to improve and then I can try to get the job again later. I would ask the leader how I can improve to get the role.
@considerateParadise6717
I agree with changing the disappointment into motivation!
@Heather225
I would be disappointed and shocked but I would ask the leader on how to improve my performance and be capable of getting it next time if I work hard on my weak points.
I would thank them so much for informing me and for the tips they provided me and maybe ask them if they could keep me updated on when the applications open next time
@generousBreeze169 I agree, being thankful and motivated to work is important, but I'd not forget to take care about myself. Glad to hear that disappointment would not overweight motivation in your case.
Question: If you find out you were not given a role, how should you respond? What would you say to the leader who has informed you?
I would respond by working on areas that need improvement. I would thank them for taking the time to reach out.
@competentParadise6344 I am happy to see that better to be grateful and eager to work on than feeling rejected, disappointed and generally very sad.
@competentParadise6344
That's to the point of course
