Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #1) Welcome to Course 2!

@Heather225

I think, as a 7 Cups leader

having low expectations would result in-

1) inefficiency and not allowing the group to realise its full potential eventually cause a setback to the community.

2) my fellow leaders would not find me reliable or accountable which could impact the work negatively.

having low warmth would result in-

1) low sense of social bonding and belonging in the community making any activity or work more like an obligation.

2) a lack of understanding when I work with my fellow leaders as it would make them feel like I do not value their work.

Thank you for this! Looking forward to the next discussion! 😄

@Heather225

I think that if you're with an imbalance:

Having low expectations, but high warmth - means you're a nice enough and friendly person but, you don't push yourself and do not achieve real progress, aka milestones.

Having high expectations, but low warmth - means that you're not as friendly, approachable, or making connections - but, you're able to get a lot achieved, completed, and milestones achieved.

I think that the imbalance would cause a negative impact to the community and fellow leaders in that without synchronization, there would be an unequal amount of either progress or congruency.

@Heather225

Question: What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

What do I think happens if I, a 7cups leader has an Imbalance of these ? I am not always going to be in perfect balance but it is best to make sure I do try and find balance because it does impact the people I am around .

How do I think having to low of expectations, or too little warmth will impact ? I feel expectations of ones self and others needs a balance , except the best of My self in my Roles on this site and in real life and have the warmth to be able to do the things I want to do and expect to be good at . Be kind and caring and show warmth always.

The Community will suffer if I am not warm and not doing what is expected of me and by me .The community is the back bone without the community and everyone then there would not be a place like this.

Fellow Leaders- I will let them down and not make a good impression and then let myself down also. I want them to know I Am here as a team player and will work with them the best i can .

Be Kind and caring and supportive and be a good leader that people will wanna come too for support and teamwork.

7cups builds people up we do not wanna break people down.

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?

I think there will be a lack of structure and order with the community and the area that I am involved in if there is an imbalance of expecations and warmth.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact

1.) the community

Having too low of expectation or too little warmth will cause the foundation of 7cups, which is community to struggle because if no one knows what is expected of them or which part of the upbuilding of the community that they contribute to.

2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

I would let my fellow leaders down by not knowing how to contribute my part to the team

@Heather225

1) Impact of low expectations
Impact on community: anarchic, lawless, volatile, ungrounded, unstable, unstructured, unreliable, inconsistent, stagnant
Impact on fellow leaders: inefficient, aimless, uncoordinated, lazy, careless, complacent, negligent

2) Impact of low warmth
General qualities: strict, harsh, authoritarian, unforgiving, impatient, punitive, stern, callous
Impact on community: impersonal, aloof, uncaring, inhospitable, hostile, resentful, conflictual, argumentative
Impact on fellow leaders: anxious, exhausted, stressed, unappreciated, alienated, isolated

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these?

As a leader, a person is on the higher levels of hierarchy. Just like a human pyramid, if the higher person is imbalanced, it will cause the whole pyramid to collapse.

How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Expecting less from a person robs them of the opportunity to grow. Hence, it will either keep them steady, or worse, make them fall back. As a result, it may affect the following

Community: They might spread these low expectations on to others and then they on to others that they come into contact with. Hence, it could result into a corruption of moral integrity throughout a community.

Fellow leaders: It may lead to disrespect and other unforeseeable conflicts with the fellow leaders of the community.

Having an imbalance at 7 cups with too low expectations or too little warmth would impact the

1) the community - low motivational drive to adhere to the standards of 7 cups. The policies and procedures would be harder to manage and the outcomes would be more diifcult to create.

2) Impact How you work with your fellow leaders - There would be more misunderstandings and less team work with our fellow leaders. Less Cohesion and trust would create more conflicts.

@Heather225

1. Having low expectations or low warmth will impact the community negatively because 7 Cups is built on a foundation of trust and compassion. If we are not consistently able to provide a high level of confidence and empathy, members will no longer feel that the site is a legitmate place to seek support and will leave with a negative impression of the service that is provided. Taking it a step further, if negative experiences are reflected in online reviews about the site, creditiblity will most certainly be damaged and our hard work to create a warm, caring and consistent resource will be lost.

2. Having low expectations and/or warmth would have a negative impact on how I would work with fellow leaders here because again, there must be a high level of trust and support for each other. We have to expect that we can lean on each other in hard times and lift a hand out to our fellow-leaders to lift them up. Without this, our network as care-givers is broken.

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

Having an imbalance of these will impact the community in a way in which they will not receive the best support I am actually capable of giving them. They get the short end of the stick and feel they lost support.

Having in imbalance will impact my fellow leaders in a negative way as well. We are all trusting each other and pushing each other to greatness. If I were to give little warmth, leaders may not feel the support they need to keep pushing through the program and or 7 cups in general.

@Heather225

What do you think happens if you, a 7 Cups leader, have an imbalance of these? How do you think having too low of expectations, or too little warmth, will impact 1.) the community, and 2.) impact how you work with your fellow leaders?

If you have too little warmth, it impacts everyone. People don't feel welcome, it all seems too professional and our members feel like they're talking to robots.

If we have too low of expectations, it can make all of us less quality of listeners. It will affect our listening style and the roles we take up on the site. If we don't have high expectations we can see our true potential and work towards it.

So it's extremely important to have a good balance of these. It makes being on the site a lot nicer and being involved with other listeners and members more exciting and fun.