Course 2, Discussion 2: Lead by example

A simple fact, yet it can change people and improve awareness!

@HopeI learned, that I have a lot more to give, I am good at talking, and helping the members.  I Realise that people need to find their comfort zone. I have found mines here. I also found out that I can excel in this type of organisation, which also built my self confidence.

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

Being self aware = First step

Reflection and Action = Engine for success

Be accountable to yourself, before you expect things from others

✒️ Respond to one of your peers in this thread

@Lillom

Examples in my situation:

- Start slowly, not quickly and approach things more so like a marathon/not cramming

- When encountering a roadblock, reflect on it using Kolb's and don't skip it for an easier task

@Lillom

this is great, that you have your own way of problem solving, highly commendable!

@Hope

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

through this exercise, the things that i learned about myself are that i am, in all aspects of personal qualities, a perfectionist. being a perfectionist is not at all times a good thing, it leads to getting stressed out and being nervous... also, i re-learned that i am not clearly a leader and/or a follower, but i like setting a good example for others.

✒️ Respond to one of your peers in this thread

@NewYorker11

@NewYorker11

You are doing a great job my friend! I am a profecastiont as well that has some good qualities in it and no doubt some bad qualities in it! Keep up all the good work you are doing!

~ Regan

@ReganL

thanks so much for the words of encouragement friend!

@Hope

What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

I have more good qualities in me then I know I do. Being a good leader does not mean you need to have all the strengths you are aloud to have weakness to, it is important to understand those weakness and act on them so you can improve them, thus improving the team you are trying to lead. 

~ Regan

@ReganL

i do agree that self-aware is important and to be able to spot your faults and being able to fix them. 

@Hope

Through this exercise, I've identified several positive qualities within myself, such as a positive attitude, determination, and an open-minded approach. However, I've also recognized areas for improvement, particularly in communication skills, empathy, and addressing procrastination.

Hello, @WhereIsRed

Amazing self-awareness. 💙 Keep it up! With your positive attitude, determination, and open-mindedness, I'm sure you can improve exponentially. 

@SilverSeastar

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

Person who inspired me is someone who has set an excellent example here on cups by being themselves and very positive and supportive and mighty enthusiastic.

@Fristo

A person who doesn't want me to be like them but I look up to is a person who is very good at having boundaries and will explain why the boundaries are there. (not anyone on cups)

I replied to Kristynsmama 

@DanCat1128

@Hope I think I learned about myself that I often work quite independently but need to develop better team orientation skills and be concerned with helping to improve others and also pay attention to how others see me to be a good example

Hi @quietlistener2023

I think it is amazing how you reflected this on yourself and able to understand your style better

@quietlistener2023

I love how you were able to realize this about yourself and notice where you can grow! 💗 Sometimes, it can be hard for us to realize and accept the things about us that we need to work on or change. You've got this! 💪 💕

@KaylaMaulfair Thank you so much Kayla for your reply.  I hope we can continue to learn and grow 

Hi @Hope

This exercise has taught me the significance of self-leadership as a prerequisite to leading others effectively. It underscores the importance of gaining a thorough understanding of the team, identifying both weaknesses and strengths. Motivating the team and fostering a drive for success are crucial aspects of leadership. Additionally, refraining from mentioning other team members or competitors is emphasized, as it can have a negative impact on the team's overall productivity.

@safetysource12 sounds like me!

• I learnt about the qualities I value and some areas for improvement. 
• Self-awareness alone isn't enough; we also need consistency and accountability.

@SilverSeastar it's me again! I completely agree it's important to stay consistent especially in a leadership position so people know what the expectations are. I am also a huge champion for accountability. I think it is so important to  take accountability for yourself and your actions. this was something I've firmly stressed with my kids.

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

• That my strengths outweigh my weaknesses. However, there is always room to grow.

• I think my strongest qualities are positivity, encouraging, and self-confidence.

• things I need to work on organization and procrastination

@Hope I learned that I need to know myself and be able to lead myself before going to others.

@Hope I learned that one of my biggest strength as a leader is having compassion for others, but also being a visionary and evaluating every situation

@StompingOnCP Having the vision and being affiliative sounds like an awesome combination of traits as a listener. Keep going ☺️

@Hope

I understand that I'm someone who is particular about the plans I make and I find it difficult to deal when my teammates being irresponsible. I need to improve my tolerance when working as a team.

@ChromaticFinss

I hear you, Finss. I am similar in expecting a lot of others and being less emotionally supportive than I'd like to be. 

@Hope

What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

I learned that I am a lot like the person who inspired me, but still my own unique person. I'm hardworking, kind, proactive, understanding, strong, and generous, just like the person who inspired me. I try my hardest every day not to be like the person who discouraged me. The person I try every day not to be like is vindictive, mean, manipulative, abusive, selfish, a liar, a sociopath, and a narcissist. I've learned through this exercise, that even with everything I have been through in life, and the horrible role models I have had along the way, I have still somehow managed to become the person I am today. And it's all because of just that one person who inspired me the most. Some days, I fail. But I use those failures as a way to grow and learn, instead of things to beat myself up over.

I will respond to one of my peers after posting this discussion.

Basically I learned that I have a lot of good strengths! But I also do have some weaknesses. Fortunately, the good outweighs the bad. I still have a lot of life left to live, a lot of lessons to learn, and a lot of growth and improvement to do. I have learned from the person who inspired me, that we all grow and learn new things every day. Up until the day we die. Everyone has more room for growth, and people CAN change. I certainly did. I used to be a lot like the person who discouraged me, but the person who inspired me, helped me to turn my life around and become the woman I am today.

@KaylaMaulfair

I really liked how you explained what your strengths and weaknesses are. We all have them, but being able to expound on them, as you did, is awesome. I agree that having a person or persons, a mentor or mentors, to help guide and encourage are a wonderful asset to one's positive growth. Great post! 

@KaylaMaulfair

First of all, I agree with 4Jasmine.  But I'll reply more specifically below (even though the formatting is messed up - forgive me! lol):

"I'm hardworking, kind, proactive, understanding, strong, and generous, just like the person who inspired me."

@JustSophia

you are so sweet! 🥹🩵🤍🌸 Thank you girly 💕 

@Hope

I discovered that I need to be a little more democratic in leadership. 

@4Jasmine

Thanks for sharing!

I learned how I have a hard time delegating specific and/or harder tasks to people because I'm afraid that it will not get done right. But upon self reflection, I realized how it's not fair to others and I need to be willing to put in more trust.

@Hope

I learned that I will make sure that I walk the walk, not just talk the talk. That I will have high attention to details. I will follow up and follow through to get things resolved. I will to lead by example, have self awareness, be encouraging, inspire, and motivate. I will always fight for humanitarian causes. I will be early, not just on time. I will declare an unthinkable goal and achieve it.

These are some of the high standards that I will work towards. I won't be perfect, but I will try 100% to reach for these standards and more. I want to be part of the solution, not part of the problem! 

@4Jasmine

that's a great insight. The things you have said are inspiring to read. 💚