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ييمرحب و اهلا و سهلا...اتحدث لغة عربي فصحى و قليل من العمية سورية لأن لغتي الاصلي الانجلزيا و قد ولدت في لندن و اكون الان في سوريا

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Forgiveness in shaban for the month of Ramadan
Religion & Spirituality / by quietlistener2023
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1 day ago
...See more Some people ask how we should prepare for Ramadan.  People's preparation can be different, some people try to fast more, give more charity and read more Quran.  Others go shopping and buy whatever they need for the month so that they won't need to go shopping during Ramadan so much However, one important preparation is to prepare one's heart to receive the month.   The heart is important in Islam.  All action is judged by intention and our hearts bring us closer to Allah.   Therefore, it is a good idea to try and purify our hearts and connection to Allah before the beginning of Ramadan.   Since Ramadan involves our gratitude for the revelation of Quran, then avoiding things that keep us from that gratitude makes sense.  One big factor that we are asked to deal with before Ramadan and that might get in the way of our spirituality is harbouring grudges, resentment, anger and hatred.  We should try to improve our relationships with others during this time, and this might involve clearing up personal disputes and relationship issues.  We are asked to forgive and make up with people before Ramadan and especially this night of 15 Shaban (the month before Ramadan) and this should help us benefit more from spirituality throughout the month when we are not harbouring anger or hatred towards anyone.  Some people find forgiveness difficult because they think that forgiveness means excusing someone's action and letting them off.  Forgiveness is not excusing bad behaviour and abuses, but rather clears our own hearts and selves from hatred, excessive anger or obsessing over something that happened.  We can forgive someone and still hold them to account for wrong doing.  They might still go to court, receive a punishment, pay a fine and so forth but by forgiving we are acknowledging their humanity and that they made a mistake. Empathy can help a lot when trying to forgive someone and understanding what happened.  Therefore sometimes it is necessary to talk or bring someone else to help the two people understand one another.  Forgiveness is beneficial for us and might help us decrease negative emotions, lower blood pressure, reduce anger issues and improve our relationships.   It can help us to increase our empathy and be more at peace with ourselves and others.  Of course, when it is us who have done wrong we might need to put some effort into helping someone forgive us.  When we have made a mistake or harmed someone in some way we should be the ones coming forward to apologize and put things right.  In Islamic law this means acknowledging your mistake with the person and requesting their forgiveness.  Also giving back things that might have been taken wrongfully, repairing or replacing something broken or correcting claims of slander and so forth.  We can help people to forgive us through our own efforts and by trying to put things right when we did wrong.  A person is allowed to avoid speaking to someone for three days.  We have been given this time period to allow us to avoid contact or talking to someone when angry, and to calm down.  After three days a person should at least begin acknowledging the other person by greeting them.  Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him said that the best of the two is the one who greets first.  If people don't get on or wish to remain friends then we are asked to keep to the lowest level of interactions, which is greeting one another and avoiding negative feelings towards others.  In this way we can hope to maintain our own inner peace and peace amongst those around us.  Here are some relevant links concerning Shaban and forgiveness.  About 15 the Shaban:  https://muslimhands.org.uk/latest/2019/04/the-importance-of-15th-shaban-night [https://muslimhands.org.uk/latest/2019/04/the-importance-of-15th-shaban-night] Benefits of forgiveness: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-benefits-of-forgiveness-3144954 [https://www.verywellmind.com/the-benefits-of-forgiveness-3144954] If you have some experience with forgiving others and how it made you feel or benefited you feel free to share it
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Is talking about trauma helpful?
Trauma Support / by quietlistener2023
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Saturday
...See more I have heard that simd therapists do not ask their clients about their trauma specifically because they think it is unethical to make someone remember and go through the experience again.  Rather they deal with the aftermaths of the trauma or with physical activity and so forth as it is said that trauma gets stuck in the body.  Trigger warning: effects of war Near where I am after the war ended in Damascus (about half an hour or an hour from where I am) there is an area that was badly hit in the country of Damascus.  They where closed in and many houses were destroyed....I know what happened to them and I have often been concerned about how they have dealt with this.  When I tried to ask a girl there about herself she immediately shut down and said " I do not want to talk about it".  I know from my own experiences that it is overwhelming to talk about such experiences.  I also know some of the things that happened there.  When a girl told me (she was calm and cutting vegetables at the time) about a house collapsing in flames and the daughter and her children of a woman who I met were gone (I myself find it hard to say), it made me feel like I was going to have my own heart attack without actually experiencing it.  I often remember that and feel deeply affected. I therefore have thought it might be better both for those listening/counselling or those needing support that we don't have to talk or listen to details of trauma but deal with the aftermaths... I am talking in general and especially to these issues related to war .. So my question here is have you been through a war...so you find it helpful to talk about it or better to not talk about it and do you find something else helpful? Those who have other types of trauma does it help to talk about it or does it make you feel worse or better? If not what are the things that you find helpful when dealing with trauma? Would you prefer to talk about it in detail or just deal with the after affects of the trauma? I know there are different types, so perhaps some times might be better to talk about and some not ..I was wondering what other people think about all this.
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