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Course 2, Discussion 2: Lead by example

Hope December 5th, 2022

Great Leadership, unsurprisingly, starts with yourself!

Practice what you preach. Lead by example. I am sure all of you heard these phrases. But why are they so iconic?

Because the journey starts with the first step and you are the person who is taking the initiative to lead -- Start a journey! So, you are the one who needs to take the first step before expecting others to do it.

To start with leading yourself, close your eyes and visualize two people: someone who inspired and encouraged you to be like them, and someone who discouraged you to be not like them.

Then, write down the good qualities of the person who inspired you as well as the qualities of the second person. You do not have to be specific with the details. Just a bulleted list.

Now, compare the list to yourself. Note the good qualities you have, the bad qualities you have, and give yourself a rating on a scale of 1-10. What we just did is identified your strengths and weaknesses and what you need in order to lead yourself. This allows you to create self-awareness.

Self-awareness is key to leading yourself in the right direction. But, leading yourself is not easy. Just being self-aware isn't enough. It's igniting the spark but not enough to catch the fire. To catch the fire, you need to be persistent with your practice, which is regular reflection. Be consistent with monitoring your efforts and holding yourself accountable.

You can't effectively lead others until you know how to lead yourself. That happens through Self-Observant Leadership: when you deeply understand your identity, compare it to your reputation (how others experience you) and then make meaning of the observations, and choose to adapt.


Exercise:

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

✒️ Respond to one of your peers in this thread

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AuroraAstral January 14th

@Hope

What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

I have more good qualities in me then I know I do. Being a good leader does not mean you need to have all the strengths you are aloud to have weakness to, it is important to understand those weakness and act on them so you can improve them, thus improving the team you are trying to lead. 

~ Regan


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quietlistener2023 January 22nd
 I agree with you,  even as leaders we still need to grow and develop and maybe need feedback sometimes@ReganL
heathermarie95 August 20th

@ReganL

i do agree that self-aware is important and to be able to spot your faults and being able to fix them. 

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WhereIsRed January 17th

@Hope

Through this exercise, I've identified several positive qualities within myself, such as a positive attitude, determination, and an open-minded approach. However, I've also recognized areas for improvement, particularly in communication skills, empathy, and addressing procrastination.

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SilverSeastar January 23rd

Hello, @WhereIsRed

Amazing self-awareness. 💙 Keep it up! With your positive attitude, determination, and open-mindedness, I'm sure you can improve exponentially. 

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WhereIsRed January 24th

@SilverSeastar

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DanCat1128 January 18th

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

Person who inspired me is someone who has set an excellent example here on cups by being themselves and very positive and supportive and mighty enthusiastic.

@Fristo

A person who doesn't want me to be like them but I look up to is a person who is very good at having boundaries and will explain why the boundaries are there. (not anyone on cups)


I replied to Kristynsmama 

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kabir22 September 16th

@DanCat1128

oh captain my captain
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quietlistener2023 January 22nd

@Hope I think I learned about myself that I often work quite independently but need to develop better team orientation skills and be concerned with helping to improve others and also pay attention to how others see me to be a good example

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safetysource12 January 22nd

Hi @quietlistener2023

I think it is amazing how you reflected this on yourself and able to understand your style better

Snowy00 February 21st

@quietlistener2023

I love how you were able to realize this about yourself and notice where you can grow! 💗 Sometimes, it can be hard for us to realize and accept the things about us that we need to work on or change. You've got this! 💪 💕

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quietlistener2023 February 22nd

@KaylaMaulfair Thank you so much Kayla for your reply.  I hope we can continue to learn and grow 

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safetysource12 January 22nd

Hi @Hope

This exercise has taught me the significance of self-leadership as a prerequisite to leading others effectively. It underscores the importance of gaining a thorough understanding of the team, identifying both weaknesses and strengths. Motivating the team and fostering a drive for success are crucial aspects of leadership. Additionally, refraining from mentioning other team members or competitors is emphasized, as it can have a negative impact on the team's overall productivity.

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wonderousLove3994 February 13th

@safetysource12 sounds like me!

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SilverSeastar January 23rd
✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?
  • I learnt about the qualities I value and some areas for improvement. 
  • Self-awareness alone isn't enough; we also need consistency and accountability.
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serenePeace3726 February 2nd

@SilverSeastar it's me again! I completely agree it's important to stay consistent especially in a leadership position so people know what the expectations are. I am also a huge champion for accountability. I think it is so important to  take accountability for yourself and your actions. this was something I've firmly stressed with my kids.

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serenePeace3726 February 2nd

✒️ What did you learn about yourself through the given exercise?

• That my strengths outweigh my weaknesses. However, there is always room to grow.

• I think my strongest qualities are positivity, encouraging, and self-confidence.

• things I need to work on organization and procrastination

wonderousLove3994 February 13th

@Hope I learned that I need to know myself and be able to lead myself before going to others.

Countrygirl095 February 19th

@Hope I learned that one of my biggest strength as a leader is having compassion for others, but also being a visionary and evaluating every situation

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ChromaticFinss February 20th

@StompingOnCP Having the vision and being affiliative sounds like an awesome combination of traits as a listener. Keep going ☺️

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ChromaticFinss February 20th

@Hope

I understand that I'm someone who is particular about the plans I make and I find it difficult to deal when my teammates being irresponsible. I need to improve my tolerance when working as a team.

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JustSophia February 28th

@ChromaticFinss

I hear you, Finss. I am similar in expecting a lot of others and being less emotionally supportive than I'd like to be. 

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