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carefulWest6083 September 15th

If you were given a new life, what would you do differently?

Or would you not change a thing?


Please share.

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wonderfulKermit1936 September 17th

@carefulWest6083

I would heal the trauma if I can't prevent it. 

I would be more gentle with myself and past mistakes. 

🐸Kermit 

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

Note to self:


"I would be more gentle with myself and past mistakes".

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OhLookItsRay September 17th

If I was given a new life, I would change some choices I made that hurt others.


I wouldn't change the ultimate course of my life, though.


I'd have asked to be put into therapy. I'd have spoken up for my needs instead of allowing my fear and uncertainty stop me.


I'd have pushed less people away out of fear... that one I'm grieving hard right now.


I'd be kinder to myself for my mistakes instead of insisting that it wasn't okay for me to make them.


I'd have made peace with the things that had hurt me sooner, so they didn't pour out of me into the lives of others...


I'd have been more trusting. I'd have put myself on the path of healing sooner.


Ultimately, though, I'd still choose some of the mistakes I made.


Thank you for this thought-provoking and reflective question. Thank you for challenging me in this way.

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

And thank you for this beautiful contribution.

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reallyoverallofit September 17th

@carefulWest6083 I'd start learning math and science much sooner and take my education a lot more seriously

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

It's never too late.

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scorpionpolktanktree September 18th

@carefulWest6083

a full repeat of everything..im afraid i cant accept so many accidents and coincidents and happen chances shaped me and my circle of friends today i would never be able to replecate

but a new lease a fresh start from scratch ay i can do that but not yet , got too many repsoniblities to abondon and waltz off into the sunset a blessing and a curse but its my ot in life

plumSugar3000 September 18th

I won't trust people blindly.

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

That's a good advice.

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Dontforgeturbeautiful September 18th

Not enter any porn site

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

That's always a good advice.

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Arie3 September 18th

@carefulWest6083 deep question, theres so much i wanna change. But the top one would be start hustling from the very beginning. Keep the consistency from the start and not wait for tomorrow. Just working on yourself from the start, because ive lost so much from procastination. i wish i could turn back things and do it again. from always waiting and waiting for tom and making myself believe theres time, i ran out of it. 
what about you? what would u do differently?

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

Interesting response.

Me... I don't really know the answer to that question and that's why I posted it, to have other perspectives.


I would say though that there's still time.. For both of us. There's still time.

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Arie3 September 18th

@carefulWest6083 yes there is still time, lets make most of it instead of waiting longer. I hope u got to see the different perspectives, i really liked looking at all responses too

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Gettingbettertoday September 18th

@carefulWest6083

I started a new life about 5 years ago. I don't know what  to do with it. 

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

I'm not sure why but your honesty really shook me a bit. Thank you for your response.


I myself would do so much to have a new life. At the moment it feels like I would know what to do with it.

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Gettingbettertoday September 18th

@carefulWest6083

I gave up drinking. Once I recovered i had lost all interest in the things that once gave me pleasure or found important.

Now nothing "Feels" right. Nothing piques my interest: food, drink, activities, people or even sex is just blah in my mind. 

I was told just to do the things I once did and my interest will come back. It hasn't. 


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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

I actually would have said the same. Just give it time and do what you do. But it obviously hasn't helped.

But don't you dare despair, if we like or not some things tend to have specific timing and that's ok. Keep at it. You never know. Your interest might come when you least expect it.

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annadaisy50749 September 18th

@carefulWest6083

i would try to be a better person than i am now...

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

And that is something for all of us to think about.



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CatListener September 18th

Switch family and parents....now perfect life

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carefulWest6083 OP September 18th

It's incredibly hard for me to say this but.. I can definitely relate.

Yet I think there must be a divine wisdom behind the fact that we can't choose our parents and family. There must be.

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