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Number of ratings144 Number of reviews64 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Spanish Listener sinceJun 26, 2018 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 378 People helped674 Chats2,199 Group support chats8 Listener group chats27 Forum posts58 Forum upvotes107
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Hello! I'm Cat. 25 years from Buenos Aires, Argentina. Proud to be here helping as a Volunteer Listener on 7cups since 2018. Currently only taking chats on the following topics tags (Domestic violence, Family stress and relantionship stres -abuse cases-, LGBT, Women's and Men's Issues, PTSD/Dissociative Disorders). Only relantionship stress I discuss is related to abuse and violence.


Topics: 

Women's and men's issues

CPTSD (Complex trauma), PTSD and narcissistic abuse

Sexual abuse and childhood sexual abuse

Domestic violence

Toxic family system 

LGBTQ community issues

My role as a Listener and how I can help:

Informating and educating about abuse

Understanding and assisting in victims of abuse detecting what is right from wrong

Emotional support for people who feel marginalised and alone

Practical activities 










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LGBT TRAUMA: FAMILY REJECTION
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by CatListener
Last post
 Wednesday
...See more If your family rejected you for being LGBTQ that is not family. Family is love and support. Family means unconditional love. Good parents support their kids (even if they dislike the life you chose). Good parents do not kick out gay kids. Good parents accept their kids rergadless of religion. Do not feel bad or guilty. You deserve love and respect. You did not choose sexual orientation and gender identity. 
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Don't get out of the comfort zone...
Trauma Support / by CatListener
Last post
 December 11th
...See more It makes sense that, as a trauma survivor, you seek comfort and stability. The idea that "growth only happens outside the comfort zone" isn't always true, especially for those with complex trauma (CPTSD). For survivors, the "comfort zone" can be a place of healing, safety, and regulation—all of which are essential for recovery. Instead of "pushing" yourself out of the comfort zone, you might consider expanding it slowly and intentionally. This way, growth happens without overwhelming your nervous system. Steps like setting small, achievable goals, prioritizing self-compassion, and establishing boundaries are all ways to grow without abandoning safety. Staying in your comfort zone doesn’t mean stagnation—it can mean choosing peace over chaos. And that’s a radical act of self-love, especially if you’ve lived in survival mode for too long.
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Male victims: You are not alone!
Men's Issues / by CatListener
Last post
 3 days ago
...See more Are you a male victim of domestic violance? You are not alone Prvalence and Misconceptions Underreporting: Male victims often underreport abuse due to stigma, shame, and societal expectations of masculinity. Men may feel pressure to "tough it out" or fear they won't be believed. Prevalence: Studies suggest that men experience domestic violence at rates comparable to women. According to some reports, nearly 1 in 4 men experience intimate partner violence (IPV) at some point in their lives. Misconceptions: There's a stereotype that men can't be victims of domestic violence, especially when the abuser is a woman. This belief can prevent male victims from recognizing abuse or seeking help. Types of Abuse Experienced by Men Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, pushing, or using weapons against men. Emotional and Psychological Abuse: Insults, belittling, manipulation, gaslighting, and isolation from friends or family. Sexual Abuse: Forced sexual acts or coercion. This form of abuse is rarely discussed when it comes to male victims, but it exists. Financial Abuse: Controlling access to money, sabotaging employment, or forcing a man to hand over his income. Legal Abuse: Threatening to make false accusations of abuse, manipulating the legal system to gain custody of children, or making false reports to the police. Barriers to Seeking Help Shame and Stigma: Men may feel that admitting abuse is a sign of weakness. Fear of Not Being Believed: Law enforcement, courts, and even friends or family may not believe that a man can be a victim.
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Men victim of abuse and domestic violence
Men's Issues / by CatListener
Last post
 December 9th
...See more If you are a man and you have been a victim of emotional, physical or sexual abuse your situation is real and valid. It is not shameful. Your situation is valid. Men deserve love and support. Men can be as vulnerable as women. 
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How to deal with inner critic
Trauma Support / by CatListener
Last post
 December 4th
...See more Changing your inner critic involves transforming negative self-talk into more compassionate and constructive dialogue. Here's a step-by-step guide to help you shift this inner voice: 1. Identify the Inner Critic's Voice Pay attention to when negative thoughts arise. Write them down if you can. Recognize that this voice is not you—it’s a learned response, often shaped by past experiences or external criticism. 2. Challenge the Critic's Statements Question the validity of your inner critic’s messages. Ask yourself: "Is this thought true?" "Would I say this to a friend in a similar situation?" Replace harsh judgments with more balanced or neutral statements. 3. Practice Self-Compassion Treat yourself with the kindness you would show to a friend. When you make a mistake, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and it’s part of being human. Use affirmations: Replace critical thoughts with positive ones, like, "I am doing my best," or, "I am worthy, even if things don’t go perfectly." 4. Reframe Negative Thoughts Turn "I can't" into "I can try" or "This is hard now, but I can learn." Replace "I always fail" with "Sometimes I struggle, but I learn and grow." 5. Give Your Inner Critic a Persona Imagine your critic as a character or a voice from the past. This can help you distance yourself from it and take away its power. Some people find it helpful to visualize their critic as a misguided protector who thinks criticism will motivate them. 6. Focus on Strengths and Achievements Keep a journal where you note positive things about yourself and your accomplishments, no matter how small. When the critic appears, remind yourself of these strengths. 7. Practice Mindfulness and Awareness Mindfulness helps you observe your thoughts without judgment. Notice when your inner critic speaks, and calmly redirect your thoughts. Try meditation or deep breathing to stay grounded. 8. Seek Support Talk to friends, a therapist, or a support group about your inner critic. External perspectives can help you challenge negative self-beliefs. Reading self-help books or listening to podcasts on self-compassion can also be useful. 9. Develop a Growth Mindset View mistakes as opportunities to learn rather than failures. Focus on progress, not perfection. 10. Create a Positive Environment Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. Reduce exposure to toxic environments or triggers that fuel your inner critic. Remember: Changing your inner critic takes time and practice. Be patient with yourself as you work on transforming this voice into a more supportive and understanding one.
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How to deal with Narcissistic parent
Trauma Support / by CatListener
Last post
 December 4th
...See more Dealing with a narcissistic parent as an adult child can be challenging, especially when you want to protect your emotional well-being and establish healthy boundaries. Here are some strategies to help you navigate this relationship: 1. Set Firm Boundaries Understand your limits: Before you engage with your narcissistic parent, define what behaviors are unacceptable to you (e.g., manipulation, verbal abuse, excessive criticism). Be clear and direct: Communicate your boundaries calmly and assertively. For example, "I will not engage in conversations where I am being shouted at or disrespected." Consistency is key: Enforce your boundaries consistently. Narcissists often push limits to see if they can get away with violating boundaries, so it’s important to stand firm. 2. Use the Grey Rock Technique What is it?: The grey rock method involves becoming emotionally unresponsive and as dull as possible during interactions. This means providing minimal responses, avoiding sharing personal information, and not engaging in arguments. Why it works: Narcissists thrive on attention, validation, and emotional reactions. By becoming "boring," you deprive them of what they want and make them less likely to engage with you in a manipulative way. How to apply it: Keep your answers short and neutral ("I’m fine, thank you" or "That’s interesting") and avoid engaging in their drama. Don’t show emotional highs or lows, as this can trigger further attempts to manipulate. 3. Coaching and Self-Respect Seek professional support: Narcissistic abuse can be damaging, and it might help to work with a coach or therapist who specializes in narcissistic relationships. They can offer guidance, coping mechanisms, and support to help you reclaim your power. Develop self-respect: Narcissistic parents often erode their children's self-worth. Work on building your self-esteem through self-care practices, therapy, setting and achieving small goals, and practicing self-compassion. Recognizing your inherent value is key to maintaining your mental health. Affirm your autonomy: As an adult child, remind yourself that you are your own person, separate from your parent. This means respecting your own needs, wants, and emotions, even if your parent tries to guilt-trip or manipulate you into neglecting them. 4. Limit Contact and Detach Emotionally Control the frequency of contact: You don’t have to maintain frequent contact with your narcissistic parent. If your relationship is damaging to your mental health, it’s okay to reduce the time you spend with them or even go no contact temporarily or permanently. Detach emotionally: Narcissists are skilled at triggering emotional responses. Try to detach from their manipulative tactics and remain unaffected. This can help you protect yourself from emotional exhaustion and drama. 5. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally Understand their pathology: Narcissists tend to lack empathy and are often self-centered. Their behaviors are a reflection of their own insecurity and emotional deficits, not a reflection of your worth. Focus on your own well-being: Practice self-care and mental wellness. Recognize that you are not responsible for their behavior, nor can you fix them. You can only control how you respond. 6. Communicate Your Needs Be clear about your expectations: If you have to interact with your narcissistic parent, be clear about your needs. If they dismiss or invalidate them, try not to engage emotionally, and remember that their response is a reflection of them, not you. Don’t expect change: Narcissistic parents are unlikely to change, so try to adjust your expectations. This can help reduce frustration and disappointment when their behavior doesn’t improve. 7. Self-Care and Support System Create a support network: Surround yourself with people who respect and validate you. Having a solid support system can buffer the effects of a toxic relationship with your parent. Practice self-care: Engage in activities that nourish your mind, body, and spirit. Regular exercise, hobbies, journaling, and mindfulness can help you stay grounded and reduce stress. 8. Reclaim Your Power Take control of your life: Set goals for yourself that are unrelated to your parent’s expectations or influence. Pursue your passions, career, relationships, and self-development. Accept that you may not receive their approval: Narcissistic parents often withhold validation or love as a means of control. Recognize that their approval is not necessary for you to lead a fulfilling, successful life. 9. Consider Going No Contact (if necessary) When to go no contact: If the relationship is too toxic and affecting your well-being, it may be necessary to cut ties completely. This is a personal decision that depends on the severity of the abuse or manipulation. Protect yourself emotionally: If you choose to go no contact, you may experience guilt or resistance from your parent. However, prioritize your mental health and healing. You deserve peace, respect, and autonomy. Dealing with a narcissistic parent is complex and can require ongoing effort. It’s important to continually prioritize your own well-being, set healthy boundaries, and seek professional support when needed.
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How to go no contact with family
Trauma Support / by CatListener
Last post
 December 4th
...See more Going no contact with family can be an extremely difficult and emotional decision, but it can also be necessary for protecting your mental health and well-being. Here are some steps you can consider when deciding to go no contact: Clarify your reasons: Understand clearly why you want to go no contact. Is it due to emotional abuse, manipulation, or toxic behavior? Knowing the reasons will help you stay grounded in your decision when emotions rise. Set firm boundaries: If you haven't already, begin by setting boundaries with your family. Limit your interactions gradually if that feels more comfortable before fully cutting ties. For example, reduce the frequency of communication, limit what you share, or set clear boundaries around specific topics. Plan your communication: If you choose to inform them of your decision, it can be helpful to write a letter or message to explain why you’re going no contact. Be clear, concise, and non-confrontational. You don't owe them a lengthy explanation, but setting boundaries respectfully might make the process smoother. You can simply say, “I need space to heal and take care of myself.” Prepare for emotional fallout: Family members may react with guilt, anger, or manipulation. Be prepared for this and remind yourself that your decision is about protecting your well-being, not about punishing them. Limit access to your personal information: Change any contact information that they might have access to, such as phone numbers, email addresses, or social media accounts. If necessary, block them to prevent further communication. Seek support: Going no contact can bring up complex emotions, including guilt, grief, and sadness. Having a support system of friends, therapists, or support groups can help you process these emotions and stay firm in your decision. Take care of your emotional health: Focus on self-care, therapy, and any other resources that support your healing journey. No contact can be emotionally draining, so be kind to yourself as you navigate this change. Reevaluate if needed: Going no contact doesn't have to be permanent. You can choose to go no contact for a set period, or you may eventually decide to open communication under your own terms, once you've healed and feel stronger. Remember that going no contact is an act of self-preservation, and it's okay to prioritize your mental health.
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such a patient and amazing listener , listened to me for very long time without judgment and helped me through flashbacks of a traumatic event , she is a hidden gem
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we connected like cat sisters, she read my feelings and it has been best time opening my heart to someone.
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Listener put me at ease and introduced me to healing :)
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Catlistener was so amazing. Even for such a young age, her perspective really helped me calm down and focus on the issues. I was crying and emotionally unstable in the beginning and by the end, I was laughing and realistic about my situation. Thank you Cat!
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