Loneliness on 7Cups
Hello guys 
I have been on 7Cups for a little while and I have to say that, in some occasions, it has been helpful...in some others, it has been actually very frustrating.
I got here, as I believe many of you, searching for support, friendship, or, most likely, just someone to talk to. I live a very lonely life, in a desperately isolated place (an island with few hundreds inhabitants), and, unfortunately, I have several psychologic problems (or psychiatric?...who knows...) that developed after a not easy life. The last 3 years, especially, have just been a daily torture, a sequence of bad events that corroded me little by little. As I just wrote, I live on a little island, here we only have 2 little food stores, nothing else. Until few months ago, we didn't even have a general doctor, so, no chance to find any kind of help from professionals in the psychiatric/psychologic field. Once reached the bottom of my sorrow and despair, and having nobody that could help me, I found 7Cups.
I talked to some listeners, wrote here and there...and figured out so many times it feels like talking to myself...I wasn't able to build any stable "talking friendship", which is what I actually need. I feel like a throw stones to the void...just write sentences that maybe noone will ever read, and for sure, that noone will answer to.
I am pretty sure I am not the only one feeling like this here... I don't want this to sound like a complaint, 7Cups is anyway good, but I wish I could find someone who wants to just keep talking to me, and that wants to be listened.
Is my hope in vain? 
My parent before they pass away said they never met anyone who had as many problem as me. My mom and sibling my problem is I would just learn to shut up and stay out of other people business or just stay out of the past I wouldn't have any problem. I became severely lonely.
It is coming to the end of another long lonely year and I still wonder why I am here other than to suffer the pain of being alone and not having the joy of intimacy. The many years of having intimacy in my life and feeling loved and special makes these years even harder knowing what I am missing. I am so tired of being tired and alone. I don
@bgdave it is truly a gift for your memories with your mother and grandmother! I have some wonderful memories with both as well as very brief but wonderful memories with two great grandmothers! Sadly I have no relationship with my mother – her choice – and my grandmother of course is past. I tend a march along through life pretty positively but when things get rocky is when my lack of ongoing support really shows. 😔 I think asking ourselves the right questions as well as giving the answers is very helpful at times....We have the answers within us… Very often involves help… But sometimes it
Thank you for your post i myself am struggling badly with depression my fiancée of eight years dumped me out of no where all my friends support him I have a few friends who have been amazing but I can
I'm glad to read this post. For the past few years I have been on and off forums in the hopes that I might make some online connections. I made a few in my early twenties on one forum (it was a very friendly, albeit very cliquey forum), but people move on and I left that forum. Part of me has always hoped to make online connections again, but I never have. I think it's actually very difficult to make friends on forums, generally. It's easy to get lost together as a sea of names, an ocean of problems and fears and sadness. I think it can be hard to individualise members, mostly you just see thread topics and reply if the subject speaks to you. Some forums are more like an ocean of names and difficulties, others you can pick people out in the conversations and feel like PMing someone. It really depends on the forum, I've found. But people get lost together in subforums on most, I would say.
Well, anyone is welcome to PM me, I think I've had PMs from listeners that have made me go "ah!" (social anxiety), so I'd probably just go "ah!" again, but I shouldn't. It's funny how you avoid and run away from things that you want, ha ha.
@MeMyselfAndHer
Quite late to this thread, but wanted to say you're not alone
I feel the same way. I live in a small town where everyone knows each other and everyone is really judgmental. My family is also really negative so I'm often really alone
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I am feeling sad today
@destinyhope123
Me, too. What's going on with you?
@KestraJean
i broke up with my boyfriend
@destinyhope123
That's always difficult. Are you taking care of yourself? Talking to anyone about it?
I'm frustrated, sad, and lonely.
I don't get out much
I don't have many friends that don't kids or married or both.
My ex died jan 2017 and he was the last one to handle and understand me.
My hormones has me all over
Hi @Rebekahwriter13 I know you posted this over a year ago, but I just want you to know youre not alone in this situation :) I, too, dont go out very much or have many friends that arent married/ with kids/ busy with their own lives.
I hope youve found some new friends since then, and also peace and love ❤️
@SailingFox No I haven't as I have too many angry moods and I just chase everyone away. No one want a sad and mad person. I'm still a lone and will be alone.
I know I'm being selfish, but I'm upset that my ex isn't able to be friends with me without having false hope that I'll fall in love with him again. I know I should give him space and I will but I don't have to like it. I feel abandoned even though I don't have the right to. I'm alone and friendless. I've been friends with people in the past who have mistreated me so that doesn't make me want to go out and make friends. Plus I'm anxious and shy so another reason not to make friends. Sometimes I'm put on hold when I contact the suicide hotline because they get super busy sometimes. I just want support but that seems like to much to ask and another selfish thing I want. I have no one but my judgemental mom right now.
@towngirl life after breakup is too hard. I can understand your situation, as I m too facing same. But what we can do? Just hope for better in coming days. Life a price-less gift by the God. Just live it.
@towngirl
i am very sorry you are going through this. I am in opposite boat. I lost my best friend (my ex) and have to force myself to give him space as my feelings are stronger than his. I dont have any worlds of wisdom for you other than time will heal it. My only advice is to work on you. Take time to find who you want to be, who you are, do things you enjoy.
I have not words to explain my situation, i feel lone and uncomprended, nobody really loves me or understaends me, i dont even have a mom because she quit on me, i havent done anything bad to her, she is just like that, my husband is good husband but never agreeds with me in my desitions ,opinions, or interest,i dont have real friends because everybody that i found failed my trust,or my friendship,do i stop trying them.I have been admited to the mental health hospital several times for depresion, i am seeing a sychiatric but not a sycologist because i havent find some one that tells me something new that i dont know or that i havent tried to get better or change my mentality which is "my principal issue" my husband says.I have study people during my whole life, i have 31, and i only concluded that life is unfair with me and that people only tolerate other but me.I havd wish and express so many times that i want to die,i have hate in my heart for the unfairness people anx specially my family has done, or havent done for me.i will love to find a professional sychologist, who can treat esquizoaffective problems and post traumatic syndrom or related.Please provide me help.Thanks.
@Hanna86
schizo-effective?
@Hanna86
I know this advice I don't do myself but maybe you should put a little more effort on being positive. Sometimes when we concentrate on the negatives and overwhelm ourselves. Try writing a letter to your husband about things you wished he understood. Just don't send it. Also, try writing 3 good things about yourself and 3 good things about your day for a month. Listening to music and meditation sometimes help. I know these are just coping skills last for a short time so I will also reccommend going to a program in AMITA hospital. It's not because I think you should be put in a hospital but they provide a program based on mental health. It can help in a lot of different areas: anxiety, depression, eating disorders and much more. If there is no AMITA where you live, I'm sure there is a hospital by you that can give you this type of service. Also, if the feelings you have are too overwhelming, you might need antidepressents. I hope you can overcome your struggles. Life is too short, and it's stressful but repeating over and over that you wish to die will just remind yourself. Try saying "I want to live, I have to live, I have a family to care for." because I know deep down, you do not want to die. It's just life is difficult and sometimes very overwhelming and we feel like we want to die but life is too beautiful and no one knows what comes after death. How about if it really is eternal hell? Or maybe eternal heaven? Who knows? I hope you can feel better.
@Hanna86 Hey hana, the root why you are being like this is not accepting the reality and the past as it is...
You were living in illusion you created and I know trauma is hard but...
You are grow up, You are not a child and You have been married, you need to to be mature and fix yourself..
Hanna, Stop focusing on other people that have better life than you, Stop expecting people to always understand you and forced them to know your experience...
Hanna, you know how hard it is for someone that have past life or trauma like you, you know how much pain it can be, then why you keep staying in the past and not look at the present ? for your story, you are hating yourself and like wanted people to experince your bad experince even if you know it is pain and very hurtful, why? why your are being so selfish? Did you now have a good husband? If you cannot accept yourself and live in the past and forced people to live in the past, you will lose all in the end including your good husband..
So Be Better ok, by accepting your past as past and learn to be better, Enjoy your life by accepting yourself, Go out with your husband and enjoy it, if it is hard to you then pray if you have GOD the pray so GOD can help you accept yourself as it is and show you how to enjoy a good life...
That process of healing needed time and support so if you wanted to be heal then tell your husband that you wanted to be healed and be better, ask his support, patient and be better...