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Lonelypetvet
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PathStep 46 Compassion hearts28 Forum posts48 Forum upvotes55 Current upvotes55 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2018 Member sinceMarch 5, 2018
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Seeking validation
Relationship Stress / by Lonelypetvet
Last post
 June 10th, 2018
...See more I am not sure if this is the best place for this, but I wanted to write this down somewhere. Finally admitted to everyone here and myself. I am always getting dumped, and after my last break up, I have gone on a soul searching journey. Someone here on 7 cups of tea, suggested that I had issues in which I seek validation in realstionships. At the time I was not ready to hear it but after researching it, I think it probably true. Both in friendships, as well as romantic relations. Why am this way? I have done much thought on this. At face value, I had a normal childhood with both parents. In reality, my dad while there, is not emotionally present. He buries himself in work. My mom is the opposite, she is overly emotional. She also has many health issues. They as couple fought a lot. At times it felt like I had to hold things together, taking care of my mom, preventing any fighting and disagreements, and constantly trying to be perfect for both of them to be happy. And now as an adult I have done nothing to change that. Now I am trying to change. I am not sure how to do that, but I am trying. Trying to learn to be happy with myself, as well as learn to do things for myself. I figured admitting the problem and recognizing the reasoning behind it was a good next step. Thank you all for reading, and I thought that I would invite anyone else that may have similar feelings or concerns to share their stories. If anyone has any recommendations they would appreciated
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What is wrong with me?
Relationship Stress / by Lonelypetvet
Last post
 April 4th, 2018
...See more I just want get this off my chest. I am thirty years old and cant make a romantic relationship work. Every relationship I have ever been in is all peachy for the first couple months, the honeymoon phase, and then after that the significant other never develops feelings from me past being a friend. No matter how hard I try they never develop strong emotional feeling for me. First off I am 30 years old, why cant I make a relationship work past 3 or 4 months? I dont want to be alone forever. Second it is very frustrating that every time I get comfortable with someone and start to trust them, he is always done with me. Thirdly, why am I so unlovable?
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