2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support
As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions
Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!
Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.
The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.
All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.
Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.
(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:
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You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.
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If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.
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Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.
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When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.
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Avoid plagiarism.
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Use professional and appropriate language.
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If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.
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Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.
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Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.
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7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.
(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.
At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:
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Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.
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Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.
What are Keywords?
Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.
Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.
For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.
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Review this Sample Optimized Answer:
Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?
Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications
Approved, Optimized Answer:
While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.
Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.
The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.
Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!
Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here
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@SoulfullyAButterfly
Feeling not good enough for someone is an absolutely normal and common thing. As human beings, one of our primary psychological needs is the need for a healthy amount of self-esteem to be fully functional and self-actualized about our potentials.
Almost all people spend their whole life in an environment that conditions them to base their self-worth on others’ opinion of them, to do the right thing to gain the approval of people like their parents, family members, and partner.
However, what is learned can be unlearned through altered behavioral practices and the best way to do so is to get the required help via therapy and other means which assist us in reducing our self-doubt. They help us in dealing with the real reason for our low self-esteem, that is, our inner critic, that prods at us whenever we are about to do something or are done doing it, and negative self-talk, which only adds to the feelings of worthlessness.
In this age of social media and information, the content we expose ourselves to matters profoundly as well. Consuming good news and positive information exponentially helps us in elevating our moods, self-confidence, and optimism.
At the end of the day, we must remember that self-confidence resides where self-love does and the first step to loving ourselves is consciously acknowledging our current state and making the active choice to improve it. Through proper communication of our needs and listening to others, there is no doubt that we will come off as an amazing person to our peers. We progress on our way to be a better person by being disciplined yet gentle toward ourselves, establishing healthy relationships with others, and setting proper boundaries.
@Clarisse29
Great use of key words. I can see that you used many of them! Your answer was very comprehensive: I counted 283 words 😮 Overall, it sounded very professional. I liked that you broke it up into paragraphs as this made it easier to read.
Maybe it would be good to make your recommendation for seeking therapy seem less direct/less like advice?
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone ?
As human beings we can at times lack self-esteem, self-worth and self-love. Our first step would be to explore the real reasons behind our self-doubt - this can concern how healthy our relationships are with our parents, children, partner and even how social media shapes our self-image. Such factors can determine why we feel we are not destined or not destined for great things. However at the end of the day there are people out there that see you for the amazing person that you are - so let go of your inner critic and self-doubt .
The best way to question your self-doubt and have a good time is to allow yourself to develop self-confidence in what you believe in . You may find a self-help group or self-help exercises to help you develop this confidence or even a therapist with expertise in emotion focused therapy.
Journey of being content with yourself will come with voicing your own struggles and thinking if I have compassion for others why not myself ? 🙏💙
@SoulfullyAButterfly
As human beings, it is natural to struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk. When we feel that we are not good enough for others, it is often the voice of our own inner critic that is actually making us question our self-worth and which is undermining our self-confidence. By comparing ourselves with others—which we often do through communication and the exchange of information on social media—these hurtful internal voices can become louder and more frequent, reducing our self-esteem in the process. The good news is that at the end of the day, no matter what anyone tells you, you’re an amazing person who deserves nothing but self-love and compassion. The first step is to recognise that there are real reasons for your existence on this planet: you are worthy in the fact that you are here. You can be the better person who does the right things. You can be the person who is already inside of you and has been their your whole life even if you haven’t noticed them right in front of your eyes. One of the best ways to develop a healthy relationship with yourself might include going to therapy. In good time, it might help you to see the the great things you are capable of doing. If you have close relationships with your parents, children, family members or any other loved ones like your partner; they’ll remind you that you are enough when you are uncertain about this. Good luck on your journey friend! Be kind to yourself. I believe in you. Just take it one day at time.
@jovialButterfly6752 Nice job.
Very Professional.
You are very talented.
I mean that.
You are gifted as well.
I felt, emotion, compassion, and empthy.
I really enjoyed reading this.
Keep up the good work, in the Content Development and Marketing course.
Cannot wait to see, what other things you do to help others here at 7cups, after you graduate the course.
You are always too kind 🧡🧡 thank you so much
If you feel like you’re not good enough for someone, you’re not alone. As human beings, it’s natural to have feelings of self-doubt or engage in negative self-talk. The real reason for this is the inner critic in us, a voice that serves to protect us from shame or embarrassment (to do the “right” thing) or to help us identify areas of improvement and become better in some regard. A healthy dose of self-criticism is necessary, but when your inner critic goes overboard, it can really lower your self-esteem and cause an unhealthy relationship with your parents, children, or partner. The good news is that there are ways you can overcome this feeling of low self-worth and grow your self-confidence.
The first step is to realize that you are enough. You are deserving of love and respect. You are defined by your actions, not by how much others value you.
The next step is to maintain honest communication with the person you feel you are not good enough for. It can be difficult to be completely honest about your feelings, but communicating this feeling to someone you trust can give them the opportunity to help you work this out together. You can try explaining to them why you feel like you aren’t good enough for them, but if you can’t pinpoint why, it’s ok to tell them so. Even if you genuinely don’t know why you’re feeling this way, what you’re feeling is completely valid.
Sometimes, the language that another person uses to convey where you can improve on can lower your self-esteem. If someone tells you how terrible you are at something, you can ask yourself, does it help you? Does it motivate you to change your ways or strive to become better at something? Or does it make you feel like you are not good enough for them or will never be able to meet their expectations? If it’s the latter, can you think of some ways that might make you feel differently about their remarks? (e.g. if they change wording, acknowledge things you did well as well, etc.). Communicating this to the person can set you up for success in resolving low self-esteem and helping you maintain a stronger relationship.
If this feeling persists, you can also consider going to therapy. Licensed therapists are great supporters and sources of information. They can help you identify the root causes of feeling inadequate and guide you in developing better cognitive and emotional skills to build your self-confidence.
At the end of the day, self-love, being gentle and compassionate to yourself, will help you overcome feelings of inadequacy. The journey to learning to love yourself will be a difficult one. There may be relapses along the way, but as long as you want it and actively try to build self-confidence, you will eventually realize that you truly are an amazing person. Know that you are not alone. Good luck.
@YourFriend1403
This is a great answer! You use a lot of keywords and they were nicely spaced. I loved how you mentioned talking about your feeling to the person, and added that the person you don't feel good enough for could say something unproductive that would make you think that in the first place. The only thing I might change is how long it is. I'm a slow reader so it took me awhile to read, but other than that I think it's amazing and if I ever need help with not feeling good enough I would definitely read this again!
@YourFriend1403 Love reading this.
I also loved how you asked questions, which is a good thing.
I feel asking questions, helps to keep the reader or readers, interested in reading and reflecting on what they are reading.
Great Job.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
We all get self doubt at one time or another and it's easy for us to feel like we aren't good enough for people we care about like our parents, children, partners, and basically anyone we care about like our close friends. This self-doubt can control our minds and ruin our self-esteem. What can we do to stop this negative self-talk? Well there's good news, we are only humans beings and none of us are perfect. You are an amazing person and all you can do to be good enough is to do your best, your best is the best you can do. If someone tells you overwise they are probably caught up in the same problem of iner-criticism that you are struggling with. If someone asks you to do more than your best they are asking too much, we as humans can't do better than are best, so don't let someone try to make you. If someone leaves you because you couldn't do better than your best they are the ones who don't deserve you. At the end of the day you shouldn't try to be anything but yourself. That's the best you can be 🙂
@Jacklynngirl656
Good job!
Your answer clearly shows empathy, which is very important.
You try your best to remind the person of their self-worth and reassure them that it's okay to be the way they are.
You make a good point by relating to their problem by telling them they aren't the only ones feeling that.
My suggestion for you would be to focus more on other keywords, and less on "doing your best". It does get the point across but it's a little repetitive.
@MizuKagami
Thanks for the feedback, I appreciate your honest opinion about how it feels repetitive to keep saying “do your best.” Next time I write something I’ll try to focus on a wider selection of keywords to try to sound less repetitive. I’m glad you think it shows empathy, lately I’ve actually had a hard time showing that, so it’s good to know I’m improving.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
As human beings we spend a lot of our time on social media, looking at all these amazing people living their best life. They’re full of self-esteem and confidence and their whole life seems full of great things. Looking at that, it’s easy to forget our own self-worth and start giving ourselves negative self-talk.
The good news is that you are also an amazing person, even if your inner critic doesn’t agree with that right now. Just ask your family members, your friends or your partner. You don’t need to change yourself to have a good time with people who care about you. . You are enough just as you are.
When you start to doubt that, remind yourself to talk to someone you care about, or even your therapist. Communication is the first step to healthy relationships. At the end of the day, great things will come your way too.
@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Healthy relationships require effort from both sides, so it's common for people to question whether or not they're putting in enough effort. The first thing I'd suggest is to communicate how you're feeling with the other person. This means identifying how you're feeling and asking how the other person feels about it. It's about creating a safe space for both parties to negotiate their needs.** Many people can struggle with self-doubt within relationships and it's important to communicate those doubts with the other person. It can definitely be a daunting conversation but the information that comes out of it will help you better decide a course of action. At the end of the day, we don't know how someone else might feel and they might agree with what you're thinking or maybe not.
**I'd suggest looking at our forum for more information on how to have this conversation :)
@sereneMango3007
You are write amazing answer. I suggest you to add more key words so that everyone could read your answer. ☺️
@SoulfullyAButterflQuestion: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the dayy
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Self worth is respecting your existence even in your failures. Lack of self worth results in questioning one's existence, self criticism, self negative talk, self doubts and lack of self love.
Best things to do in self identity crisis is talk to your parents, friends, family members, children and partner. And let them know your thoughts. Your close ones can better help you get out of bad times. Another way to cope self worth anxiety is to meet amazing people who learnt from their shortcomings whole life This is the best way to immitate good things and habits that could enhance your self confidence at the end of the day. Further more you can browse for relavant information on social media to build healthy Relationships with others at right time. Another way could be to seek professional help from a therapist for updating yourself into better person.
When I face such situation I usually listen to my voice and let myself taking first step towards my good time by wishing myself good luck.
@IqRAwords
strengths :
the solutions offered in the text were very practical
the writing was simple yet effective
the tone was conversational and engaging
Improvement :
I feel the answer needs some proofreading.
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day
In life, you might often feel not good enough for various people, including your parents and your partner. This can come from a low self-esteem, which can in turn come from using too much social media. According to Cal Newport, a professor of computer science at the Georgetown University, social media destroys one's sense of self-worth. There is good news, however. The best way to reclaim your sense of self-worth is to stop using social media. Take a first step by deleting all of your social media accounts, and start talking to other human beings in real life. Talk to your children, family members, or even go for therapy if there's no one to talk to. Talking to a therapist can help you become a better person and can make you feel like you're having a good time even in tough situations when you don't feel good enough. Good luck! Even when your inner critic propagates self-doubt with negative self-talk, mindfulness meditation empowers you with real reason that helps you rediscover your whole life. Through mindfulness, you will discover that you are already an amazing person, giving you the self-confidence and personal voice to do the right thing, helping you maintain healthy relationships. You are capable of doing great things. You just need the right information and healthy communication at the end of the day, and not use social media.
Hello @wagwanianPA :)
Great answer! I like the way you were able to include the keywords in the answer. It's also amazing that you included a report from Cal Newport. I wish you could provide a link to that report, so we all could read it as well.
@wagwanianPA
Thank you for your answer. It was an interesting read.
These are the strengths that I identified from your answer:
• I liked how you tried to find an underlying cause to these feelings of not being good enough and was very thorough in your explanation.
• I liked how you cited the source for your statement, this shows that you did your research.
• I like how at the end of the answer you encouraged the person. Sometimes we need to hear these things, some people may not have anyone around them that encourages them. This on its own can be very motivating.
This is one tip I can give you:
• The part where you suggested for the person to delete their social media might not be an option or applicable to everyone. We should be careful when giving advice since maybe social media might be the only distraction that they have, or maybe it's the only platform they can connect with others on, and many other possible reasons. Instead, I would have suggested that decreasing social media usage might be helpful.
Hello @SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
In life, there comes a time when we cannot help but ask ourselves whether or not we are good enough for someone. Do I deserve my partner and their love? Am I worth it? Do I make my parents proud? These questions slash our self-worth and self-esteem to a point where we do nothing but doubt ourselves.
The best way to avoid these questions is to answer them affirmatively. Accept that we all are humans, trying our best to become a better version of ourselves. With some luck and a lot of practice, you will be able to overcome all the self-deprecating, negative, criticizing talk. And look at the world with confidence and self-love.
Forget about what other people expect from you. Do what you wish to. Remember, you are good enough. You are worth it. You deserve it. Strive for the best, work towards the best, and you will get the best. Great things will happen when you set your mind to it.