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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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raysofmoni September 22nd

Q: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

A: Feeling not good enough for someone might make one lose confidence in themselves and have a negative impact on one's sense of self-worth since they believe their principles have been compromised. They may also doubt themselves and speak negatively about themselves, claiming that they are unworthy of being themselves, leaving them feeling incomplete and making it difficult to love themselves for who they truly are.

 

Since my ex-friend compared them to me, I felt like my healthy relationship with myself was starting to deteriorate when I went through the posts of social media influencers during one of the most vulnerable times of my life, wishing to be them because their lives seemed wonderful and settled for their whole lives. I was unable to grasp it immediately because it was constant but slow. I started to lose my ability to use my voice for myself and became afraid about doing rights things for myself.

 

One of my family members noticed the change in the way I communicated about myself to them, and they supported and assured me that I could overcome this and have a life on my own with my partner, as well as become one of the parents for my children in the future, which I thought was impossible given how I was made to feel not good enough to have an amazing person in my life. With their help and the cognitive behavioral therapy activities I was performing, my inner critic began to convert the harsh information it was communicating about myself to something positive, which pushed me to be a better person to others who were feeling awful.

 

This incident taught me that, at the end of the day, all that matters is how we treat our fellow humans. So I hope this story of mine encourages our readers to continue to believe in recovery, remembering the reason for what made them choose the first step towards recovery and that good luck and good news continue to open doors for them, just as they did in their search for answers.

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walkalot September 23rd

@raysofmoni

Good answer, Rays

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raysofmoni September 23rd

@walkalot Thank you!<3

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EventHorizons October 27th

@raysofmoni

Hi rays. I appreciated reading your personal anecdote and how you showed understanding and empathy by describing feeling unworthy and the effects it can have on any of us.

💜 You did great!


brightOcean1599 November 4th

@raysofmoni

This answer sounds good. Adding your own story validates the reader’s feelings, reassuring them that it’s okay to experience these emotions. It also encourages seeking support through therapy, leaning on loved ones, and engaging in joyful activities as ways to cope. The closing notes provide a sense of hope and support.

However, I feel the answer leans too heavily on personal experience, which could make it seem self-focused rather than fully supportive of the reader’s perspective.

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Yougotmyback October 2nd

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Answer: 
First of all, I want to acknowledge your emotions. What you're feeing is completely valid and you're very brave to have opened up about your fear. Feeling like you're not "good enough" shows how much you care about the people in your life and how much you want to be the best version of yourself and become a better person for yourself and the others. That's an admirable quality.

It is important to remember that nobody is perfect. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. The concept of "good enough" varies from person to person, and trying to meet everyone's expectations can be overwhelming, crushing and unrealistic. Instead, we can focus on accepting our imperfections, understanding what we need to work on and being kind to ourselves in every phase of the journey.

Personal anecdote: From my personal experience, when I feel this way, I take time to acknowledge my emotions and try to understand the root cause behind them. Where are these feelings of inadequacy and inferiority coming from? By finding the source, I can view the situation more clearly and rationally like a third person would. It also helps me see it as a problem I can solve and gives me a clear line of focus. And, it narrows down the range of emotions I'm feeling in that particular moment and then I can label them more appropriately. Imagine if someone close to you said they don't feel good enough for you. How would you respond to that? Likely, you would be compassionate towards them and reassure them, which is exactly how we should treat ourselves.

In addition, practicing positive self- talk can be very effective in countering such feelings. It may take time to believe the affirmations, just as it took time to believe in the negative self-talk. But with consistent effort, we can unlearn the harmful thoughts and replace them with the compassionate ones. Remember, you are whole and deserving, no matter what phase of life you're in. Don't beat yourself up if you fail to do this the first few times.

Researches support the power of positive self-talk in cognitive behavioral modification as it influences behavior by shaping the thought patterns. Self- talk has been shown to improve task performance by increasing self-confidence, self-love and reducing anxiety.
Additionally, studies on self-compassion show that it helps counter negative communication behaviors like worrying, rumination and self-blaming. People with higher levels of self-compassion tend to be less self-critical and handle personal challenges and failures in a better way.

With self- compassion and acceptance towards yourself, you can cultivate a healthier and stronger mindset.
Remember, we all are different from each other.  What works for someone else may not work for you. You will find your own path when you look within yourself. Good luck!

Resources:

Hatzigeorgiadis, Antonis, et al. "Mechanisms underlying the self-talk–performance relationship: The effects of motivational self-talk on self-confidence and anxiety." Psychology of Sport and exercise 10.1 (2009): 186-192.

Raes, Filip. "Rumination and worry as mediators of the relationship between self-compassion and depression and anxiety." Personality and Individual Differences 48.6 (2010): 757-761.
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walkalot October 23rd

@Yougotmyback

Good answer. Very detailed and nice that you cited sources.

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Yougotmyback October 23rd

Thanks a lot!

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Dorcas00 October 31st

@Yougotmyback

Empathy and Validation: It acknowledges the recipient's feelings, which fosters a supportive environment.

Encouragement of Self-Acceptance: Emphasizing that nobody is perfect helps to normalize feelings of inadequacy.

Practical Advice: Offering personal strategies, like identifying the root cause of feelings, provides actionable steps for improvement.

Tip for Improvement: To enhance clarity and engagement, consider shortening the anecdote. This can make the message more concise and easier to digest within the word limit.





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Yougotmyback October 31st

Thank you so much for the response! I'd keep that point in my mind the next time. ✨

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EventHorizons October 27th

Feeling inadequate in relationships with other human beings - whether it’s a partner, parents, or even children - is a common experience. It can help to recognize that low self-worth and esteem often stem from what is called the “inner critic.” The inner critic forms over time: trauma and past experiences can be both the cause and the reason our negative self-talk is exacerbated; it can wreak havoc in our minds and consequently, our lives and relationships. Modern social media comparisons also play a part in low self-esteem. However, there is good news: it’s that all of this can be worked with and even restored.


While there isn’t a best way to go about this, there are many options. Therapy can prove to be a good first step; learning how to incorporate self-love and acceptance can do wonders for us. Some people go their entire lives feeling negatively about themselves. Training that critical voice in our heads to be kinder and more loving can boost our self-confidence and make us feel more capable and able to show up for those around us. With time, you would realize there is no need to become a so-called “better person” for anyone, and that you already are an amazing person. With that realization, great things can follow.


At the end of the day, improving our self-talk takes a lot of dedication. Using your voice and communicating with family members, a partner and/or friends about feelings of inadequacy can help not just you but also them— wonderful things take place when you have a healthy relationship with yourself, and it can improve other relationships in your life. 

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EventHorizons October 27th

Forgot to check the word count. Definitely wrote too much.

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EventHorizons October 27th

Nevermind.  😁 

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walkalot October 28th

@EventHorizons

Good answer

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EventHorizons October 28th

@walkalot

Thank you walkalot. I see you responding to many posts and I appreciate that. 💜 

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walkalot October 29th

@EventHorizons

Yes, I'm the designated mentor for the trial section of this course.

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Dorcas00 October 31st

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Feeling like you’re not good enough for someone, whether it’s a parent, partner, or family member, can significantly impact your self-esteem and self-worth. The real reason behind this feeling may stem from your inner critic and self-doubt. The first step towards overcoming this is to practice self-love and acknowledge that you are an amazing person, deserving of healthy relationships. Communicating openly about your feelings can also strengthen your connections. Remember that everyone has their struggles, and you are not alone in this.At the end of the day, focusing on your achievements and embracing your unique qualities can help you become a better person, ready for great things in life.

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walkalot November 1st

@Dorcas00

Good answer. Keep it up

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brightOcean1599 November 4th
Feeling “not good enough” is common and often stems from self-doubt and low self-esteem. Recognizing this emotion is a key step. Ask yourself if you’re engaging in negative self-talk, like “I don’t deserve them” or “They could do better,” or if you’re comparing yourself to others, particularly on social media. 

For instance, if you feel insecure in a relationship because your partner seems confident while you feel the opposite, it may help to reflect on why this makes you feel “less than.” Are you only noticing their strengths and overlooking your own? Often, feelings like this come from undervaluing our unique qualities or accomplishments.

Once you understand the “why,” you can focus on what you can do. Set small, meaningful goals and celebrate your achievements, no matter how small. Acknowledge your unique strengths, resilience, and growth capacity. Support from friends, family members, or even therapy can also remind you of your worth.

If some of this feeling stems from concerns outside your control—such as the worry of being outgrown—try to remind yourself that a healthy relationship is built on mutual support and shared growth, not on being a “perfect” person. Often, communication can be an effective way to bridge understanding; sharing your insecurities with your partner can create openness and strengthen your bond.

Remember that we all offer different strengths to a relationship. Embrace your strengths and trust in your worth; feelings of self-doubt are natural and can be worked through. With time, openness, and the support of those around you or therapy, you can feel more secure in who you are and what you bring to the partnership.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

some things you can do when you feel like you’re not good enough for someone include acknowledging your weaknesses, as well as reminding yourself what you’re really good at, and also trying to care for yourself as you would care for someone else

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walkalot 19 hours ago

@sofiacarsonfan27

Hi Sofia Carson Fan, this is a good start, but can you add to it? Make a bit more detailed?

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