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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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RationalMe7 July 12th, 2021

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Here's my humble attempt. Please feel free to share feedback and help me grow & write better content.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, the best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, a better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, the real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Proposed Answer:

Self-doubt or loss of self-confidence is faced by many people. A lot of people go through this for their whole life without finding a solution. The first step is to realise that you are not alone. Your feeling of low self-worth is the real reason behind it. This is shaped by many factors. Some of them are your relationship with other human beings - in real life or on social media and your status in the community. If you feel that you don’t matter in the larger scheme of things, you may begin to indulge in negative self-talk. This is where hope is important. It makes you feel valuable.

The best way to realise your real self-worth is by understanding that you are not what others’ opinions are. But, it’s hard when it comes to being with someone whom you feel does not value you. Sometimes, communication can help you clear a lot of things. We arrive at wrong conclusions when we have incomplete information. That’s where it helps.

When you lack a healthy relationship with your children, parents, partner or other family members, you may face the same issues. This is also due to the lack of communication.

If the external factors are absent, you may be troubled by your inner-critic’s loud voice. The good news is that you also can overcome such thoughts. It may take time to convince yourself that you’re a better person than you think. But, it’s possible. You can help yourself through self-love. Make it a habit. This can be done by having a good time, treating yourself well etc.

If things are really bad, the right thing would be to consider seeking professional help like therapy or counselling. You can also take a break from such people or circumstances till you heal.

At the end of the day, remember that you have a chance to improve and become a better person. You can

do a lot of great things with this mindset. Your journey to become an amazing person begins in your mind. I hope this answer helped you. Good luck on that journey!

ouiCherie July 12th, 2021

Constant NEGATIVE SELF-TALK such as we are not good enough for someone is the REAL REASON of SELF-DOUBT that can shake our SELF-WORTH, and in a long period leads to SELF-ESTEEM issue and ruin the GOOD TIME we can have with people. A misuse of SOCIAL MEDIA can contribute to building this INNER CRITIC VOICE that focuses on our flaws. The GOOD NEWS is no HUMAN BEINGS are flawless.

We can be a BETTER PERSON, have HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP and COMMUNICATION, be they with PARENTS, PARTNERS, our CHILDREN, or other FAMILY MEMBERS. But there is no magic bullet, and we have to work on it our WHOLE LIFE to keep the SELF-LOVE balanced.

There is a lot of INFORMATION on how to build SELF-CONFIDENCE that we can learn from, which can be the FIRST STEP. If it has created a more complex issue, it is best to seek medical attention and THERAPY. You are the one who knows the RIGHT THING and the BEST WAY for yourself at the END OF THE DAY.

Always remember that you are an AMAZING PERSON and good enough for GREAT THINGS in life like everyone else. GOOD LUCK!


🖊 191 words, 10 sentences.

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kindLemonade July 16th, 2021

@ouiCherie
It was an enjoyable read. I also like how you add the total words number at the end ❤️💯📝

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ouiCherie July 16th, 2021

Thank you Lemo @kindLemonade 🤗 You have no idea how many *not good enough* negative self-talk that led to self-doubt I had to conquered just for this short paragraph. Black and white thinking pattern at its best! 😂 The supportive comment is truly appreciated but just know I'm open for constructive feedback as well for improvement 💜

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Matej45678 July 15th, 2021
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Answer:
Since I used to ask myself the same question, I understand the worry and the pain that comes with it. I know that clouds and fog come with self-doubt and that it forbids you to clearly enjoy a good time spent with your loved ones, making you feel like they would be better off without you and that you don't belong with them, almost like a burden. It, truly, can be a hopeless feeling, for which I offer deep understanding.
We are all human beings - sensitive and critical in nature. There is a great possibility that the same people you feel not good enough for feel the same way towards you. Maybe you feel not good enough for your parents and family members - not fulfilling their expectations or what you feel like they expectations are - there is no real reason for that, since they brought you into this world, giving you free will. Many times even they do not feel good enough for their children, feeling like they fail in fulfilling their responsibility to give them absolute care.
Or you don't feel as good for your partner. But there's a point in every healthy relationship when both partners start to accept each other as they really are - as every one is - with their mistakes and imperfections, when they start to love each other, don't try to change their partner and are open in their communication. There is no such thing as being better than someone else. There is no such thing as a completely perfect person, therefore, in some sense every person is perfect and beautiful.
The path to healthy self-esteem is a long path, and it certainly isn't based on comparing one to another, on a race to be a better person than someone else. What does it mean to be good enough? Or ask yourself: What would make me good enough? What properties do I have to carry to be good enough for someone? The answer to this question doesn't exist - no loving person could ever perceive another as not good enough.
Best way of achieving healthy self-confidence begins with understanding that your worth does not lie in the perception of others, rather in yourself. The first step is striving to build a healthy relationship with yourself. After that, healthy relationships with others can follow, and trying to achieve only one of these two is not the right thing to do.
Plant a seed inside yourself and harvest a beautiful tree from others.

Now, with the distortion of beauty and love caused by social media, it's a bit harder to achieve self-love and self-acceptance. I understand that. And alongside the inner critic - the inner voice that is in every one of us, it's easy to strive to be a perfect person, liked by everyone, often with negative self-talk. But you can't win this fight - only overcome it.

The seed that I mentioned before - it can take a whole life to grow into a tree. But the breath-taking sight at that forest can
't be compared to anything else.

But an amazing person isn't the one who fulfilled meaningless and irrational expectations of other people, became popular, stands at the top of the hill and wears a crown. An amazing person is the one who overcame the need to be perfect and popular, keeps an open and honest relationship with himself and others, stands at the top of the mountain and still doesn't consider himself a king.

The information, or the guide to being this awesome person is inside of you. It's hard to achieve and even harder to preserve - but the good news is that you are with yourself all the time, and there's no need to hurry from yourself. At the end of the day, expectations should not be put on others, just as they should not be put on ourselves. You don't need good luck for this path - this path creates good luck.

What the best therapy can do for you is letting you help yourself. Yes, therapy helps greatly, but the purpose of this help is to help others in helping themselves. That is a great way of realizing your self-worth - in some sense, you are the most important thing you have. Without yourself, your world would not exist. You carry a whole world inside of you - all the beauty, all the great things. That means that you are an awesome person that the world can't do without. Therefore, you must be good enough. heart









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kindLemonade July 16th, 2021
@Matej45678

Hello Matej, I can see that you have put in many thoughts and kind wishes into writing this. It was a heartfelt read - relatable, well-constructed and you've also successfully incorporated all the 30 keywords too.

Well done!

"Plant a seed inside yourself and harvest a beautiful tree from others."
I love this sentence, thank you for sharing them. This is a beautiful analogy and I will keep it in mind for reflections heart
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Matej45678 July 17th, 2021

@kindLemonade

Thank you kindly for your feedback, it means a lot to me. heart

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kindLemonade July 16th, 2021

@Matej45678

Hello Matej, I can see that you have put in many thoughts and kind wishes into writing this. It was a heartfelt read - relatable, well-constructed and you've also successfully incorporated all the 30 keywords too.

Well done!

"Plant a seed inside yourself and harvest a beautiful tree from others."
I love this sentence, thank you for sharing them. This is a beautiful analogy and I will keep it in mind for reflections heart

KiaraB26 July 22nd, 2021

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Everyone questions themselves sometimes but some people do so more often than others. Issues with self-worth can be caused by many sources which includes parents, parents, peers, family members etc. Even standards set by social media can negatively impact self esteem. Good news is that it is not extremely difficult to overcome this. The first step is to accept that we're all human beings and self-love is extremely beneficial to every one of us. We must try to quiet the inner critic inside us who questions everything and plants the seeds of self-doubt in us. We must always remember that healthy relationships and communication is they key to self confidence. Everyone here is an amazing person and at the end of the day we must remember that we are worth it!

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Mel July 25th, 2021
@KiaraB26

Hey Kiara! I really liked your answer. You made a great point on what can cause self esteem issues, which seems key in this question, you also incorporated a lot of keywords. You also included a good enough amount of sentences. It was also very emphatic. Congratulations!

One thing I'd add is perhaps a direct validation statement along the lines of - it's okay to feel the way that you do. I also personally avoid using 'we must' kind of sentences as it can add a bit of pressure to what we're saying. You did however make a great answer and it was really hard for me to think of things to suggest as tips to improve your answer because it was really good already.

All the love!
Kpopcat2020 April 20th, 2022

@KiaraB26

Hi, I really liked this! It uses formal/professional language and was empathetic. It also didn't give direct advice, which was good.

Something to work on was along the lines of not using "we must" because it shouldn't be like they HAVE TO do it, you get what I mean?

Good response overall, though!!

-Kpopcat2020

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KACOSMIC July 22nd, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Not everybody will realize the amazing person that you are and this can made you feel that you are not good enough.

Also your feelings can be much more strong than somebody else. As human beings we tend to feel like that sometimes maybe for a lack of communication or self-esteem or some another reason.

You can take sometime to think about what do you think that you could do to make this person look at you in the way that you wish.

If it doesn’t work which sometimes can happen let things naturally happen. People come and go , that’s life.

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KiaraB26 July 23rd, 2021

@KACOSMIC

Great job on your answer, you were empathetic, professional and the answer is quite direct and easy to understand. But I felt you could incorporate more of the given key words into your answer. 😃

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Iamanotheru July 25th, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly

This is something many of us will relate to, at some point or the other, so many of us have come to a point where it feels like there is a flaw in me, maybe there is something wrong in the way I speak, laugh, talk or behave. So many times, we blame ourselves when someone mistreats us or behaves in a manner that is not liked by us. But it really is not like that, I, you, and each one of us, though we do have flaws, we are perfect in our own ways. Our mind has the tendency to attract negative thoughts strongly and we tend to blame ourselves for stuffs that are not even our responsibility. So, when I feel that I am not good enough for someone, be it my parents, friends or my partner, I remind myself of all my positives. Also, if someone is making me feel that way, that I am not good enough for them, then maybe I should understand that the relationship is not completely free from toxicity. Talking to the person about how you feel and having an open conversation regarding this will be a great idea. The lack of open communication would have led me to doubt myself.

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kindLemonade July 28th, 2021

@Iamanotheru

I love how you mentioned the importance of open communication and of reminding ourselves about our positives.

"Though we do have flaws, we are perfect in our own ways". This is so sweet to read, you know!

Your writing came across as empathetic and relatable because you shared from your point of view and gave a personal touch to it. I really enjoyed reading this!


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Mel July 25th, 2021
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

It's for sure reasonable to feel like you're not good enough for someone. We're usually out toughest critics when it comes to our own value, doubting our self-worth and lacking self-esteem. This doesn't mean you're really not enough for them - as this is mostly negative self-talk. It's important to work on your self-confidence in order to have a good relationship with strong communication whether this is with your partner, parent or a family member. A good first step is to gather enough information on what they expect from you and if you're really needing to work on something. We're all human beings after and are allowed to make mistakes, learn from them and be a better person! Good luck!
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kindLemonade July 28th, 2021

@Mel

Very helpful suggestions there, Mel. Communicating your expectations with others is very important in any relationship. I'm very glad you touched on this point in your writing.

Well done!

milkoreos July 30th, 2021

@Mel Hello Mel. My two stars on this is that you've given helpful suggestions and sympathised well! My wish would be that you include a few more keywords. Overall, this is a good answer.

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greatfulPassion July 28th, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly
Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

There could be times in each of our lives where we could sense that we are not good enough for someone.

Like we are not up to their level. Like they could do far better than us, and we are not really sure why they’re hanging around.

Many people imagine their self-worth as way low due to which they’re convinced that their partner is somehow lowering themselves by being with them.

The best way to get out of this dilemma is to communicate with that person. By taking this first step, our self-doubts could be resolved and the real reason behind this conflict can be found out.
If still there is any issue then you can get therapy, if you are not comfortable discussing the problem with your parents or family members then you can always opt for professional help.

At the end of the day, we all are human beings and always fall victim to our inner critic. You should always remember what an amazing person you are!

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greatfulPassion July 28th, 2021

@greatfulPassion
Approx 13-15 keywords were used.

kindLemonade July 28th, 2021

@greatfulPassion

"At the end of the day, we all are human beings and always fall victim to our inner critic. You should always remember what an amazing person you are! "

Hello Passion. I really love this ending message that you wrote. It's a great summary for the whole writing and it's well concluded.

I enjoyed reading this, thank you for sharing.

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milkoreos July 30th, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

a n s w e r:

The first step to resolving this is accepting and understanding that this is a form of outward critiscm. It does not sprout from you, although, it does ignite your inner critic and blooms self-doubt. Remember that this is normal and occurs more frequently than you think. Your parents, partner or family members might be causing this fluctuation in self-esteem by making you feel as if you aren't good enough. Usually, this occurs because of the changes in their behavior that you notice. It may be that they have verbally said so. It also could be because you're assuming that it is. That's why communication is important too. In any healthy relationship, it is essential to ask and listen to information that will help your understanding of the situation.

Self-worth also plays a big role in this. Because of social media these days, children's self-confidence has decreased dramatically. Instead of listening to the voice of reason, we indulge in negative self-talk. We forget that we're only human beings, capable of mistakes and imperfections. If you feel that your self-esteem issues are out of your control, please don't hesitate to look into therapy as an option. You deserve to get help because you deserve to feel like you're good enough. Instead of constantly being torn down by your inner voice.

Practicing constant self-love is the best way to battle negativity from others. The real reason why we often tend to not feel 'good enough' is because we, ourselves, have probably not had a good self-image for our whole life. The good news is, there's no wrong time to begin. You can still do the right thing, and learn to love yourself. You can become a better person—no, an amazing person and achieve great things if you be kinder to yourself. Not only this, but you'll begin to have a good time. Instead of relying on others to validate you, or pull you down, you'd be secure in how you are feeling because you are confident in yourself. At the end of the day, it's your opinion about yourself that matters the most.

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kindLemonade July 30th, 2021

@milkoreos

Wow, great job! You've used up almost all the suggested keywords!

☑️ I think you covered almost all of the given keywords! Also, you've structured your writing pretty neatly and cohesively, great job!

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words. -> checked

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences. -> checked

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic. -> checked

☑️ I love the way that you make your arguments. It sounds agreeable and easy to understand. The tone that you use sounds professional too.
  • Use professional and appropriate language. -> checked

☑️ Personally, I think you have validated the reader well throughout this writing. You constantly reminded them that the feeling of not being good enough is something universal, they are not alone and they can practice self-love.
  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust. -> checked

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try. -> checked

    For future reference, perhaps this point can be good for your prospective articles:

  • When you use research to guide your writing, consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.


Well done ❤️🐳
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