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2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

SoulfullyAButterfly January 24th, 2021

As previously introduced, the Questions and Answers Pages at 7 Cups offer a wide range of quality based answers to common mental health questions

Questions and Answers are available for 38 main categories, ranging from General Mental Health, Disabilities, Managing Emotions, Loneliness, Grief, Recovery, Student Life, Work Stress, and many more!

Through this directory of available knowledge, awareness, and support, 7 Cups is equipped with answers to the common questions and concerns people have. Most of these Questions and Answers are featured in search engine results due to the value of the content they contain.

The main community Questions and Answers Page offers a recent questions section as well as a section containing the most answered questions.

All 7 Cups users are invited to search for or ask new questions through the main page. Community users can also participate in this area by submitting their answers, which are reviewed by a team for quality and other important requirements.

Through this discussion, we will discuss the basic requirements needed to research as well as write quality answers for the Question and Answer Pages. Additionally, we will optimize the drafted answers in light of certain guidelines.

(i) Basic Research and Writing Requirements: When writing answers to community questions, keep in mind these tips:

  • You need to write a minimum of 150 characters and 100 words.

  • If research is needed to guide your answer, consider only learning about the topic and avoid direct copy/pasting researched tips, advice, or information.

  • Consider verifying the information or facts through at least 2 reliable sources.

  • When researching possible answers or things the person can benefit from, consider their circumstances and if the tip is do-able and generally applicable.

  • Avoid plagiarism.

  • Use professional and appropriate language.

  • If comfortable, you can add a personal anecdote to help add meaning to your answer. However, avoid turning the answer to just your account or an entire focus on your experience.

  • Be empathetic, and consider using active listening skills to help not only answer their question but their feelings - this adds connection and meaning to your answer, as well as identifies understanding, which can lead to trust.

  • Answers should be related to the question and must contain tips or approaches to help deal with the question/situation instead of vague responses, even if positive.

  • 7 Cups is based on avoiding direct advice, this is because we do not know the complete scenario or situation a person may be facing. Keeping that in mind, avoid giving answers that provide one possible “solution” - a good tip is to consider encompassing all possible outcomes or more than one thing the person can try.

(ii) Ensuring Optimized Answers: Although the above requirements and tips help deliver a great answer, further optimization of drafted answers can help ensure their quality.

At 7 Cups, the Content Team uses researched and identified important keywords to guide their research and the writing process to result in optimized content as answers to community questions. In this regard, the basic tips/requirements involved are:

  • Ensure answers have at least 8 to 10 sentences.

  • Ensure the usage/incorporation of the maximum number or all of the provided keywords that can relate to the topic.

What are Keywords?

Generally, keywords can be thought of as terms or phrases that describe a piece of content. Related keywords are supporting keywords that can help further describe or expand on that initial content. For example, for the keyword “anxiety”, related keywords can be “anxiety symptoms” or “anxiety treatments”.

Keywords help with search engine marketing and hence are an important part of SEO strategies. A simple strategy to find keywords is to look for Google Related Searches. These related searches are searches that relate to your term. For instance, a Google Related Search for “anxiety symptoms” is “what is anxiety” - using this insight, you can consider including this phrase alongside a brief category of your content outline to help strengthen the optimization of your content.

For other free tools to help with keyword research, you can visit this external link.

Activity

Review this Sample Optimized Answer:

Question: How do paper bags help with panic attacks?

Provided Keywords: asthma attack, heart attacks, asthma, problems, brown paper bag, medical conditions, hyperventilation syndrome, mouth, respiratory alkalosis, common causes, chest pain, benefit, stress, medications

Approved, Optimized Answer:

While panic attacks might mimic the symptoms of heart attacks, they can be caused by several other problems and medical conditions. These include feeling stressed or facing medical conditions such as asthma attacks, hyperventilation syndrome, or even respiratory alkalosis. Although the common causes may differ, common symptoms include chest pain. Deep breathing through the mouth or by using a brown paper bag has its benefits, as it aids in the restoration of the loss of carbon dioxide in the blood during the panic attack.

Notes: The question was general, requiring general research-based knowledge on the process of using paper bags for panic attacks. As the keywords were essentially covered, note that this answer does not have 8-10 sentences, but further supporting information or even a personal anecdote can be added.

The following activity will help you put your attained knowledge to practice. Please write an optimized answer to the following community question, in light of the provided keywords. In addition, you are required to reply to at least one other student’s answer by identifying at least 3 strengths (things done correctly as per discussed guidelines) as well as at least 1 tip for improving the answer.

Note: You are welcome to click the question link and submit your written answer for community publication once done as this is an existing question!

Please do not forget to personally save your activity answers as well as your reply to another user’s answer (recommended on Google Doc or other means) as you will be asked to share this for your Weekly Progress Report.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Bonus: Want to put your knowledge to test? Consider joining the Question and Answer (Q&A) Approval Team here and earn cheers for helping approve community answer submissions. You will be using the above knowledge as well as reminders on what makes a good answer. For more information, click here

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GingerMC December 16th, 2021

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

Feeling as though you are not good enough for someone- be it a partner, your parents, other family members, or even our children- can be quite hard and painful. Lack of connection and validation from an attachment figure tends to lower self-esteem and cause us to doubt our self-worth.

Though the good news is that there are various ways we can raise our self-esteem regardless of how well our relationships are going.

The first step is to try practicing self care techniques. This can be going for a walk, making a cup of tea, watching funny videos, or taking a bath. Doing the little things that bring us joy can bring us a sense of fulfilment and can help boost self-confidence.

The second step is to practice self-compassion. This may be quite hard at first, but science has proven that positive self-talk can increase our capacity for self-love. Therapy can also be great for working on lessening our inner critic and building a healthy relationship with ourselves. In fact, www.7cups.com offers online therapy.

At the end of the day, you are deserving of a healthy relationship with yourself and others. We are all human beings worthy of being treated well and achieving great things. Good luck.
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ouiCherie December 18th, 2021

@GingerMC

Love it Ginger! The keywords used smoothly and the paragraph presented very well 💜

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optimisticMoment4139 December 19th, 2021

Question:what to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone ?

first of all you when you feeling this way about yourself that means that you still don't know yet your qualities and your worth , and it's important to know that you might never expect people to treat you any better than yourself

i lived this experience before and i felt that im unworthy and i started to put all the blame on me , even i tried to chase my partner expecting him to give me the love i deserve but after that i decided to love myself and doing my hobbies , letting go my partner , i completly changed my life by living in better style , i finally succeed to have the body that i always dreamt of , and im even more close to my family and friends

and after this long period this is me feeling stronger than before

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KatePersephone December 20th, 2021

@optimisticMoment4139 I really like the way you used different expressions to explain yourself!

a tip I would give you is to use the keywords given on the activity :) they could be helpful in adding more information on the paragraph!

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KatePersephone December 20th, 2021

What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Very often, we often do not feel good enough for someone, even for ourselves. And there are multiple reasons for that. It could be caused by our parents and family, which can cause damage to our self-esteem, and cause us to have self-doubt and talk negatively about ourselves. Another reason would be social media, which promotes unrealistic self-images and beauty standards that cause teens (and adults) to try and look like these people. Some things to remember are that you're an amazing person regardless of how you look or your lifestyle! At the end of the day, every person is different and unique in their own way. Managing to believe in yourself can be really hard and can take much time, but I'm certain you can do it!


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bubblingSea6361 December 20th, 2021

@KateDoskocilova

I really enjoyed reading this paragraph, it's very encouraging and what you said about social media was super true!
The way you incorporated the keywords was very nice and it made a lot of sense. I love the pink paragraph too, though it might be helpful to highlight some of the keywords so it's easier to read (:

ouiCherie December 22nd, 2021

@KateDoskocilova

Great Q&A answer, Kate! Minimum number of words ✔, the answer is empathetic, no grammatical errors or plagiarism found, used given keywords, and the paragraph written concisely. 💜

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bubblingSea6361 December 20th, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly

keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, self-worth, good luck, self-doubt (doubting yourself), communicate (communicating)

While you might be frustrated and feel isolated when it seems like you're not good enough for other people, such as your parents or your partner, remember that everyone has their own flaws and insecurities, so you're not alone in this. Instead of focusing on your flaws, it might help to replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations so you can develop your self-esteem and realize your self-worth.

It might also be helpful to remember that people don't love others because they're perfect but rather because there is chemistry between the both of you and that you're a loyal, compassionate companion. However, if this continues to worry you maybe try directly communicating with other people, especially your loved ones since they would want to see you improve and thrive.
Although you might not be doubting yourself, you are enough! Good luck in your journey of finding self confidence (:
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lueurspace December 22nd, 2021

@bubblingSea6361

I really like your answer, Sea! Some of the strengths that I noticed in your answer -

  • You were very empathetic in your response and I like how you labelled some of the emotions the person could be experiencing. It shows that you made great use of active listening!
  • Your answer also contained tips or approaches such as suggesting positive affirmations (which a lot of research has backed up as being helpful!). I also like the emphasis or the gentle nudge towards communication and connection with those around them. I think when someone is dealing with self-esteem issues, talking to someone who knows them or those who value them helps a lot!
  • I like how you did not give any advice in your answer, but rather covered a few different grounds on what they can potentially try and do. The language you used seems very professional and your entire answer was worded amazingly!

I don't know if a tip would even be necessary considering it might bring subjectivity and a biased opinion of mine but -

  • Maybe include a few examples of positive affirmations that the person could use. A lot of positive affirmations available online are generalized and may not be as efficient but there are a few tips for creating personalized affirmations. I think examples help make anything more valuable (but I could use the same tip for myself haha, I don't think I included much of this).

It was great reading your answer. Good luck with the program! :)

The point is, people improve when they get external love and support. How can we hold it against them when they don't?

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bubblingSea6361 December 22nd, 2021

@lueurspace Oh that's a good point I never considered, thank you so much (:

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lueurspace December 22nd, 2021

This is so interesting! I did not really think too much about how useful it can be to research properly. I took a course in my university where I had to do research and write some papers - this content right here helped me make sense of a lot of writing work I had been doing academically.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Provided Keywords: parents, partner, self-esteem, social media, self-worth, good news, best way, first step, human beings, children, therapy, self-love, family members, better person, good time, good luck, inner critic, self-doubt, negative self-talk, real reason, whole life, amazing person, self-confidence, voice, right thing, healthy relationship, great things, information, communication, end of the day

I appreciate you for reaching out and asking such a valuable question! The root cause of such feelings lies in low self-esteem and low self-worth. Though the two seem similar, they are quite different. When you mention not being good enough for "someone," I imagine you mean, your parents, partner, other family members and perhaps, the feedback you receive from being part of social media (the culprit for the majority of self-image issues). It definitely isn't easy to have a healthy relationship with yourself considering how the outside world continually filters what can be readily accepted and what needs to be questioned. Sadly, a lot of times, our inner critic wins the battle and makes the case of us participating in negative self-talk and gives basis to our entire self-doubt premise. No matter how much we try to do the right thing, at the end of the day, it just doesn't feel enough.

The good news is that you are not alone in feeling this way. You'd be surprised how alone our minds can make us feel when things are hard. Not so surprisingly, some of what contributes to low self-confidence can be traced back to one's childhood. The way children are encouraged and brought up can significantly shape their view of themselves. At a very young age, the kind of things you are exposed to matters. Even our parents are not completely at fault here - we are all trying our best. If a child is belittled or constantly punished for expressing emotions - it can leave a negative impact and leave them with confused faces when asked what self-love means.

The first step to a lot of things, I believe, is acceptance. The 7 Cups community as well as many other resources are available to you at your fingertip which may aid you with accepting yourself as you are. The real reason for having low self-worth can be found in childhood or by observing how you generally feel about your interpersonal relationships. Therapy helps a lot - the benefits of communication are endless! Your whole life till this point has consisted of you feeling not good enough - what is good enough? Is the metric that you have set for this evaluation your own self or in comparison to others? Is it benefitting you? Human beings are fragile creatures, we don't understand a lot of the things we do. You may not find all the answers to your questions but the fact that you want to feel valued not for yourself but for "someone" (those close to you), tells me that you are already an amazing person. I wish you good luck in uncovering the endless qualities you embody and I am sure others see more of that in you. You have got this and trust me, you can always strive to be a better person. The good thing is, almost all the time, that means being exactly who you are!

The point is, people improve when they get external love and support. How can we hold it against them when they don't?

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ouiCherie December 22nd, 2021

@lueurspace

Well done Lu! The answer is empathetic, no direct advice and gave a practical tip.

Number of words checked & no plagiarism found. Only minor typopgraphical error to edit there "...resources is ..."

If you're interested, Q&A Approval Team is currently open for application. 💜

JaneAH87 December 23rd, 2021

@lueurspace What a wonderfully written answer. I can definitely tell that you have a lot of experience in academic writing! I appreciate how you first opened up with acknowledging the member for reaching out, how you made it very obvious to us what keywords you used, and provided a very clear and compassionate call to action. This can be a stand alone article in itself. Well done!

JaneAH87 December 23rd, 2021

@lueurspace To top off acknowledging the member for reaching out and complimenting them for the question they asked, I’d also validate the member’s feelings. Without validating the member’s feelings at the very beginning, it sounds a bit abrupt when you immediately dive into an explanation. A good example of how I’d word it is this: I can only imagine how difficult it must be to feel as though you are not good enough for someone.

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JaneAH87 December 23rd, 2021

@SoulfullyAButterfly

The good news is that this is a very common experience for people. The bad news is that it’s uncommon to know how to deal with these feelings. Here are some self-help techniques on how to improve your self-esteem:


The first way of improving your self esteem is talking about yourself in a positive manner. Avoid using exaggerated language and don't put yourself down when speaking about yourself or comparing yourself to others. If you have no one else around looking in the mirror when speaking to yourself, it's time to get self-compassionate. Treating yourself with self-care can also help boost self-esteem.


The second way of improving self esteem is by seeing the big picture. Self-esteem is often affected by how well you are doing in life compared to others - this is called social comparison. This has been explained as a self-defeating strategy because self-esteem is a self-evaluative process that varies from person to person. If you compare yourself with others you will always come up short, which can make you feel worse. This doesn't mean no comparisons should be made at all though since sometimes it's useful to know how well you are doing in comparison to others - just don't make self-esteem decisions based on self-evaluations.


The third way of improving self-esteem is understanding that perfectionism can be a killer. Perfectionism is not always bad but it often leads to negative consequences if it is really high. Perfectionism is often associated with high levels of anxiety and depression as well. So instead of perfect try 'good enough'.


The fourth way of improving self-esteem is learning to say no. Saying yes when you mean no can create a lot of inner conflict and guilt. Learning how to say no is a great way of increasing self-esteem because it helps you feel more in control and confident about yourself.


Remember that you are not alone when it comes to not feeling good enough. The way you talk about yourself to yourself, your willingness to see the bigger picture, choosing to be ‘good enough’ vs. perfect, and learning to say no are starting points to improving how you feel about yourself.

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ouiCherie December 26th, 2021

@JaneAH87

Brilliant, Jane!

Number of words ✔, grammar & plagiarism checked, no direct advice and shares practical tips! 💫

Bre4Me January 4th, 2022

@JaneAH87

While this does need to be shorter (8-10 sentences), you did a great job here. Not only did you use a lot of the keywords but you provided a lot of great advice. I also like the way in which you were so encouraging.

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777Bre777 January 4th, 2022

Here's what I came up with:

I'm sorry to hear that you feel as though you aren't good enough for someone. I'm not sure who these other human beings are, but at the heart of this issue lies your self-worth. Therefore, the first step you need to take is to work on your own self-love. Whether you work on this in therapy or via another healthy relationship is totally up to you. However, some of the things you may want to address include self-esteem,self-doubt, negative self-talk, and self-confidence.

If it's your parents, family members, or your partner making you feel this way, you should also speak up for yourself and tell them how they're making you feel. On the other hand, if you're dealing with this on social media, you may want to consider taking a break from the platform for a while.

Regardless of who it is, you should always voice how you're feeling because you really are an amazing person who can do great things. At the end of the day, you need to take steps to remind yourself of this. Good luck!


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MoonlightHelper1 February 25th, 2022

@777Bre777

Three things I liked about your answer: 1. Your answer is emphatic 2. You did not give direct advice instead you used the generally applicable tips 3. you used professional language.

1 tip: I think that the use of the human being keyword would be better omitted or used in another sentence. Now the sentence:´I'm not sure who these other human beings are´ implies that there are more people that might make the person feel not good enough, even when the question does not say that. But this is just a minor thing that I would personally change

Good answer in overall!

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Bre4Me January 4th, 2022

Posting from the right account this time lol


I'm sorry to hear that you feel as though you aren't good enough for someone. I'm not sure who these other human beings are, but at the heart of this issue lies your self-worth. Therefore, the first step you need to take is to work on your own self-love. Whether you work on this in therapy or via another healthy relationship is totally up to you. However, some of the things you may want to address include self-esteem,self-doubt, negative self-talk, and self-confidence.

If it's your parents, family members, or your partner making you feel this way, you should also speak up for yourself and tell them how they're making you feel. On the other hand, if you're dealing with this on social media, you may want to consider taking a break from the platform for a while.

Regardless of who it is, you should always voice how you're feeling because you really are an amazing person who can do great things. At the end of the day, you need to take steps to remind yourself of this. Good luck!

Bre4Me January 19th, 2022

Many family members wonder what it’s like to live with the symptoms of bipolar disorder. That’s because this mental health condition includes rapid cycling between hypomanic episodes and depressive symptoms. It’s important to help them understand what these cycles mean so they’re able to understand what our daily lives are like.

Understanding the Different Phases of Bipolar Disorder

Your family is unable to be supportive of you if they don’t know what you’re going through. Therefore you need to explain to them what it’s like to live with the two main phases of bipolar disorder.

Acknowledging Manic Phases

On side of the coin are the manic phases you deal with. One thing that you’ll want to discuss with your family is what episodes of mania look like. While manic symptoms will look a bit different for everyone, the one thing everyone has in common is that these phases consist of high energy and excitement. Unfortunately, these phases may affect your sleep patterns. This is important for your family to understand so they’re not left wondering why you’re not sleeping or you’re sleeping much less than usual.

Acknowledging Bipolar Depression

On the other side of the coin are the major depressive episodes. It’s important for your family to be empathetic during these episodes so that they don’t last for a long time. Unfortunately, when people don’t get support during these times they tend to have more suicidal thoughts

and a higher likelihood of substance abuse.

Why Understanding Bipolar Disorder Matters

Hopefully sharing some of this information with your family and support groups will give them an idea of what you go through each day. In turn, this will allow them to visit health care providers with you in a supportive manner. At the end of the day, this is a solid win.

GoldenRuleJG January 22nd, 2022

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Response answer:

Thank you for reaching out!

When we don’t feel good enough for people whether they be our partner, parents, family members or children this can stem from the verbal and non-verbal communication conveyed to us. Feeling like others don’t value us as much as we expect them to (as indicated in word choice and tone etc), our mind can get incredibly stubborn which creates negative self-talk. Negative self-talks are negative affirmations which believe we will “never” achieve or are “not good” at anything. For example our inner critic or our negative self-talk can tell us that any form of critique from a family member is not good for our self-confidence even if it serves the best intentions. At the end of the day you may ask yourself what contributes to my self-esteem? Is social media really the best way for me to feel good enough for someone? There are several ways to foster self-love and this can be through simple things you enjoy in life such as your hobbies and spending good times in healthy relationships with people you love and who appreciate you and can see the real and amazing person that you are!


Our site does encourage our listeners to use a person-centered therapy approach in their communication with anyone who reaches out. Any listener would be happy to given you a space to explore your thoughts and feelings further.