2) Community Questions and Answers - The Basis of Mental Health Awareness and Support

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Feeling not good enough for someone is an absolutely normal and common thing. As human beings, one of our primary psychological needs is the need for a healthy amount of self-esteem to be fully functional and self-actualized about our potentials.

Almost all people spend their whole life in an environment that conditions them to base their self-worth on others’ opinion of them, to do the right thing to gain the approval of people like their parents, family members, and partner.

However, what is learned can be unlearned through altered behavioral practices and the best way to do so is to get the required help via therapy and other means which assist us in reducing our self-doubt. They help us in dealing with the real reason for our low self-esteem, that is, our inner critic, that prods at us whenever we are about to do something or are done doing it, and negative self-talk, which only adds to the feelings of worthlessness.

In this age of social media and information, the content we expose ourselves to matters profoundly as well. Consuming good news and positive information exponentially helps us in elevating our moods, self-confidence, and optimism.

At the end of the day, we must remember that self-confidence resides where self-love does and the first step to loving ourselves is consciously acknowledging our current state and making the active choice to improve it. Through proper communication of our needs and listening to others, there is no doubt that we will come off as an amazing person to our peers. We progress on our way to be a better person by being disciplined yet gentle toward ourselves, establishing healthy relationships with others, and setting proper boundaries.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone ?

As human beings we can at times lack self-esteem, self-worth and self-love. Our first step would be to explore the real reasons behind our self-doubt - this can concern how healthy our relationships are with our parents, children, partner and even how social media shapes our self-image. Such factors can determine why we feel we are not destined or not destined for great things. However at the end of the day there are people out there that see you for the amazing person that you are - so let go of your inner critic and self-doubt .
The best way to question your self-doubt and have a good time is to allow yourself to develop self-confidence in what you believe in . You may find a self-help group or self-help exercises to help you develop this confidence or even a therapist with expertise in emotion focused therapy.
Journey of being content with yourself will come with voicing your own struggles and thinking if I have compassion for others why not myself ? 🙏💙

@SoulfullyAButterfly

As human beings, it is natural to struggle with self-doubt and negative self-talk. When we feel that we are not good enough for others, it is often the voice of our own inner critic that is actually making us question our self-worth and which is undermining our self-confidence. By comparing ourselves with others—which we often do through communication and the exchange of information on social media—these hurtful internal voices can become louder and more frequent, reducing our self-esteem in the process. The good news is that at the end of the day, no matter what anyone tells you, you’re an amazing person who deserves nothing but self-love and compassion. The first step is to recognise that there are real reasons for your existence on this planet: you are worthy in the fact that you are here. You can be the better person who does the right things. You can be the person who is already inside of you and has been their your whole life even if you haven’t noticed them right in front of your eyes. One of the best ways to develop a healthy relationship with yourself might include going to therapy. In good time, it might help you to see the the great things you are capable of doing. If you have close relationships with your parents, children, family members or any other loved ones like your partner; they’ll remind you that you are enough when you are uncertain about this. Good luck on your journey friend! Be kind to yourself. I believe in you. Just take it one day at time.

If you feel like you’re not good enough for someone, you’re not alone. As human beings, it’s natural to have feelings of self-doubt or engage in negative self-talk. The real reason for this is the inner critic in us, a voice that serves to protect us from shame or embarrassment (to do the “right” thing) or to help us identify areas of improvement and become better in some regard. A healthy dose of self-criticism is necessary, but when your inner critic goes overboard, it can really lower your self-esteem and cause an unhealthy relationship with your parents, children, or partner. The good news is that there are ways you can overcome this feeling of low self-worth and grow your self-confidence.

The first step is to realize that you are enough. You are deserving of love and respect. You are defined by your actions, not by how much others value you.

The next step is to maintain honest communication with the person you feel you are not good enough for. It can be difficult to be completely honest about your feelings, but communicating this feeling to someone you trust can give them the opportunity to help you work this out together. You can try explaining to them why you feel like you aren’t good enough for them, but if you can’t pinpoint why, it’s ok to tell them so. Even if you genuinely don’t know why you’re feeling this way, what you’re feeling is completely valid.

Sometimes, the language that another person uses to convey where you can improve on can lower your self-esteem. If someone tells you how terrible you are at something, you can ask yourself, does it help you? Does it motivate you to change your ways or strive to become better at something? Or does it make you feel like you are not good enough for them or will never be able to meet their expectations? If it’s the latter, can you think of some ways that might make you feel differently about their remarks? (e.g. if they change wording, acknowledge things you did well as well, etc.). Communicating this to the person can set you up for success in resolving low self-esteem and helping you maintain a stronger relationship.

If this feeling persists, you can also consider going to therapy. Licensed therapists are great supporters and sources of information. They can help you identify the root causes of feeling inadequate and guide you in developing better cognitive and emotional skills to build your self-confidence.

At the end of the day, self-love, being gentle and compassionate to yourself, will help you overcome feelings of inadequacy. The journey to learning to love yourself will be a difficult one. There may be relapses along the way, but as long as you want it and actively try to build self-confidence, you will eventually realize that you truly are an amazing person. Know that you are not alone. Good luck.

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

We all get self doubt at one time or another and it's easy for us to feel like we aren't good enough for people we care about like our parents, children, partners, and basically anyone we care about like our close friends. This self-doubt can control our minds and ruin our self-esteem. What can we do to stop this negative self-talk? Well there's good news, we are only humans beings and none of us are perfect. You are an amazing person and all you can do to be good enough is to do your best, your best is the best you can do. If someone tells you overwise they are probably caught up in the same problem of iner-criticism that you are struggling with. If someone asks you to do more than your best they are asking too much, we as humans can't do better than are best, so don't let someone try to make you. If someone leaves you because you couldn't do better than your best they are the ones who don't deserve you. At the end of the day you shouldn't try to be anything but yourself. That's the best you can be 🙂

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

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As human beings we spend a lot of our time on social media, looking at all these amazing people living their best life. They’re full of self-esteem and confidence and their whole life seems full of great things. Looking at that, it’s easy to forget our own self-worth and start giving ourselves negative self-talk.

The good news is that you are also an amazing person, even if your inner critic doesn’t agree with that right now. Just ask your family members, your friends or your partner. You don’t need to change yourself to have a good time with people who care about you. . You are enough just as you are.

When you start to doubt that, remind yourself to talk to someone you care about, or even your therapist. Communication is the first step to healthy relationships. At the end of the day, great things will come your way too.

@SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Healthy relationships require effort from both sides, so it's common for people to question whether or not they're putting in enough effort. The first thing I'd suggest is to communicate how you're feeling with the other person. This means identifying how you're feeling and asking how the other person feels about it. It's about creating a safe space for both parties to negotiate their needs.** Many people can struggle with self-doubt within relationships and it's important to communicate those doubts with the other person. It can definitely be a daunting conversation but the information that comes out of it will help you better decide a course of action. At the end of the day, we don't know how someone else might feel and they might agree with what you're thinking or maybe not.

**I'd suggest looking at our forum for more information on how to have this conversation :)

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Self worth is respecting your existence even in your failures. Lack of self worth results in questioning one's existence, self criticism, self negative talk, self doubts and lack of self love.

Best things to do in self identity crisis is talk to your parents, friends, family members, children and partner. And let them know your thoughts. Your close ones can better help you get out of bad times. Another way to cope self worth anxiety is to meet amazing people who learnt from their shortcomings whole life This is the best way to immitate good things and habits that could enhance your self confidence at the end of the day. Further more you can browse for relavant information on social media to build healthy Relationships with others at right time. Another way could be to seek professional help from a therapist for updating yourself into better person.

When I face such situation I usually listen to my voice and let myself taking first step towards my good time by wishing myself good luck.

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In life, you might often feel not good enough for various people, including your parents and your partner. This can come from a low self-esteem, which can in turn come from using too much social media. According to Cal Newport, a professor of computer science at the Georgetown University, social media destroys one's sense of self-worth. There is good news, however. The best way to reclaim your sense of self-worth is to stop using social media. Take a first step by deleting all of your social media accounts, and start talking to other human beings in real life. Talk to your children, family members, or even go for therapy if there's no one to talk to. Talking to a therapist can help you become a better person and can make you feel like you're having a good time even in tough situations when you don't feel good enough. Good luck! Even when your inner critic propagates self-doubt with negative self-talk, mindfulness meditation empowers you with real reason that helps you rediscover your whole life. Through mindfulness, you will discover that you are already an amazing person, giving you the self-confidence and personal voice to do the right thing, helping you maintain healthy relationships. You are capable of doing great things. You just need the right information and healthy communication at the end of the day, and not use social media.

Hello @SoulfullyAButterfly

Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

In life, there comes a time when we cannot help but ask ourselves whether or not we are good enough for someone. Do I deserve my partner and their love? Am I worth it? Do I make my parents proud? These questions slash our self-worth and self-esteem to a point where we do nothing but doubt ourselves.

The best way to avoid these questions is to answer them affirmatively. Accept that we all are humans, trying our best to become a better version of ourselves. With some luck and a lot of practice, you will be able to overcome all the self-deprecating, negative, criticizing talk. And look at the world with confidence and self-love.

Forget about what other people expect from you. Do what you wish to. Remember, you are good enough. You are worth it. You deserve it. Strive for the best, work towards the best, and you will get the best. Great things will happen when you set your mind to it.