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Course 2: Becoming a 7 Cups Leader - (Discussion #3) The Detriments of Gossip

Heather225 August 24th, 2020

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Our next objective in this course is to master effective communication skills for healthy interpersonal and professional relationships.

Don't Gossip - Deepstash

Please watch this video
1. Why is gossiping bad?
2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
3. Please reply to 3 of your peers  in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

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CheeryMango August 24th, 2020

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad because it can be hurtful towards others and make someone look bad

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

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Mankka August 24th, 2020

@CheeryMango

this is very important what you make at the 7 cups here. i'm proud of youmosolyog

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AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@Mankka

Agreed!

Everyone has their own voice to day whatever you would like, but when it may hurt you or someone else, why would you?

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KindnessMatters2020 August 24th, 2020

@CheeryMango

Hey Mango! You are on top of things here! Great job!

Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 24th, 2020

@CheeryMangosmiley I think you are one awesome dancing mango and a great person !!

Yourstruly2000 August 24th, 2020

@CheeryMango I have known you for a little while and lately i am not that active but i am surely amazed by your bonafide communication skills and how you are a community person, like you are there for everyone. Keep up the good work!! 🥰

azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@CheeryMango

This is so important on Cups and in real life

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AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@azuladragon34

I just want to say everyone is amazing in there own ways wether someone realizes them or not

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TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@AdylynS

I totally agree! Everyone matters and everyone has value.

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eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Great job

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softMusic9759 August 28th, 2020

@CheeryMango I love the statement you picked out!

Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@CheeryMango

heart Mango-tastic! heart

crystalclearnow September 4th, 2020

@CheeryMango

100% agree, gosipping can make someone else look bad without their prescence,

Beaconx September 4th, 2020

@CheeryMango

This is the truth. Nice one

Endure777 September 14th, 2020

@CheeryMango

Nice job! Keep up the hard work! :)

September 18th, 2020

Well said @CheeryMango

dancingMoment7201 September 28th, 2020

@CheeryMango

really like your answer, a perspective from both sides of the story is very important

TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@CheeryMango

Kudos to you for the reply, thanks for posting and sharing!

peacefulWarrior10 October 2nd, 2020

@CheeryMango

Agreed. It definitely makes us look bad. With a little consciousness we can all overcome this.

KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@CheeryMango yes, exactly!

SofiaT2000 October 29th, 2020

@CheeryMango That's so right Mango, I totally agree.

giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@CheeryMango

I completely agree!

wanjiku November 30th, 2020

@CheeryMango Agreed. good job

Anexmos December 4th, 2020

@CheeryMango Very useful and well structured reply. Thank you!

Ines1229 December 9th, 2020

@CheeryMango

I love your responses, Mango <3 Thank you for sharing!

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eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Nice

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She13 December 16th, 2020

@CheeryMango - you are amazing :)

MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@CheeryMango

Thank you for the knowledge!

beautifulSeal9714 January 17th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Great Job Mango!!

goldenFriend9335 February 3rd, 2021

@CheeryMango

Good job!

Kieran000 March 7th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Totally agree !

gigantCloud92 March 8th, 2021

@CheeryMango

I agree!

thisisirene March 31st, 2021

@CheeryMango agreed!

shiningSky3745 March 31st, 2021

@CheeryMango

I totally agree

pamharley003 April 4th, 2021

@CheeryMango

I agree not speaking of someone not in a conversation is best to say nothing. I would rather confront the person I may have a problem with and work out a solution.

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

I totally agree, we don’t know others perspective

IcicleSnown May 25th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Very insightful response to the second question :)

helpfuldipper June 10th, 2021

@CheeryMango Great job with the answers

Brinaa101 June 22nd, 2021

@CheeryMango

I agree! It's bad because it can be untrue and harms people

Ashvillium August 17th, 2021

@CheeryMango
That's true! we shouldn't comment on any situation without knowing both sides. I hope together we can build up a better society! :)

Crystaldancer September 3rd, 2021

@CheeryMango

Congratulations mango you do a good job, I hope to share with you soon :) :) :)

yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@CheeryMango

Rightly said that Gossiping is bad because it can be hurtful towards others and you don't know the other person's perspective

kindFish9215 October 6th, 2021

@CheeryMango

I'm so proud of you for understanding why gossiping is so bad :)

Moonlemon48 October 20th, 2021

Definitely, great work!

Kindwords2000 January 7th, 2022

@CheeryMango

Great job Mango! :)

Livingtohelplive January 30th, 2022

Hello there!


Great amazing point made!

Words can truly hurt more than some people realize and that particular person can carry it as a burden their whole life.


Sending energy and strenght!


Lots of love,

🌸Hana🌸

TheRusticMystic74 March 30th, 2022

@CheeryMango

One of the best answers !!!

yay!!


Shadowmoonmoon April 19th, 2022
@CheeryMango I agree.


Gossiping is bad because it can be hurtful to others and make someone look bad

I learned from this video that we don't know the other person's perspective, so we should prefer to not discuss what we think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@CheeryMango

So true !!

Immakindlistener22 December 16th, 2022

@CheeryMango

great points you picked out!

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

1.Gossiping destroys the image of a person and makes them look bad also ruin their lives


2.I don’t know the other persons perspective,so I prefer to not discuss what they are thinking or feel in their presence

eternalCloud4864 April 3rd, 2023

Thanks for the effort

starryCandy6123 December 13th, 2023

@CheeryMango

I agree that talking about someone, can be a bad thing, in particular if you spread a story about someone your heard, had a problem.  Think how you would feel if it was you, they were talking about

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Mankka August 24th, 2020

@Heather225

the gossip because of that wrong, because there is malice behind it. about who they gossip it feels badly because of the injustice and a lot cannot protect himself in a case.

we do not talk about the other man without his presence because we do not know his side.

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KindnessMatters2020 August 24th, 2020

@Mankka

I like your perspective and I am really glad you are part of the 7 Cups LDP :)

CheeryMango August 24th, 2020

@Mankka

Whenever you find yourself doubting how far you can go, just remember how far you have come

Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 24th, 2020

@Mankka Love what you shared that the person is not there to defend their self !! great post !! smiley

blissart August 25th, 2020

@Mankka

u r rt mankka, gossiping spread malice and is harmful to both, the person being gossiped about and the gossiper

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TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@blissart

So true!


yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@blissart

Yes correct... the gossip has malice behind it about who they gossip cannot protect himself in a case.

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PeaceLoveandPaws August 25th, 2020

@Mankka

I like that you said gossip is malicious.

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AdylynS March 20th, 2021

@PeaceLoveandPaws

Agreed, I love the honesty in here

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SynSavory September 2nd, 2020

@Mankka

I quite agree with malice has no place in safe spaces. :)

Helpingsoul98 September 3rd, 2020

@Mankka

agreed!

Beaconx September 4th, 2020

@Mankka

Good perspective

Endure777 September 14th, 2020

@Mankka

On top of it! yes

TogetherForeverAlways October 1st, 2020

@Mankka

Í totally agree with this. Good job!

peacefulWarrior10 October 2nd, 2020

@Mankka

True. It is so important to be non judgemental while trying to learn how to stop gossiping.

KatePersephone October 3rd, 2020

@Mankka that's true.

giggleSun1695 November 28th, 2020

@Mankka

I completely agree!

wanjiku November 30th, 2020

@Mankka well said

Anexmos December 4th, 2020

@Mankka Very good and well organized thoughts!

She13 December 16th, 2020

@Mankka - you great and that's a good way to look at it :)

ouiCherie January 1st, 2021

@Mankka

Agreed. It is indeed malice ❤️ Wonderfully said Mankka 😊

MyNameIsNicole January 3rd, 2021

@Mankka

Through this, I have learned something. Thank you for sharing <3

goldenFriend9335 February 3rd, 2021

@Mankka

Exactly!

gigantCloud92 March 8th, 2021

@Mankka

I agree with you!

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

I totally agree and I love that perspective

TheGoodHeartedBuddy September 20th, 2021

@Mankka

You're right, gossiping just creates a toxic environment.


yourfriend5 September 28th, 2021

@Mankka

Agreed, gossiping is wrong, because about who they gossip it feels bad and injustice

Kindwords2000 January 7th, 2022

@Mankka


Very true, well done

TheRusticMystic74 March 30th, 2022

@Mankka



Absolutely i was looking for that word 'malice' it really speaks about the intent behind a gossip. Well done.

PhoenixTears5972 June 21st, 2022

@Mankka

Can't agree more ! 🙌

Immakindlistener22 December 16th, 2022

@Mankka

Yes you’re absolutely right. gossip is malicious. Thanks for that.

starryCandy6123 December 13th, 2023

@Mankka

I love this reply, taking one sided view, 

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KindnessMatters2020 August 24th, 2020

@Heather225

Gossiping is bad because it is toxic and it can create an environment of distrust and disrespect not only for others, but for yourself as well if you are associated with spreading rumours and adding to the gossip.

To stop gossiping, I liked the suggestion in the video to say "I don't know enough about the situation to comment", but I also really support and appreciate the suggestion to say something positive about the person being gossiped about. I think injecting something positive brings a different vibe to the conversation and is a clear indication that you you don't condone gossiping.

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CheeryMango August 24th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

It always seems impossible until it is done

Mankka August 24th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

be walking only on the road, a straight towards the stars. I thank you for being a supporter and a helper. I value your work highly.mosolyog

CheeryMango August 24th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

It always seems impossible until it is done

Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 24th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020yes Very True loss of trust !!! yes it sure can do that ! Great replies you shared !heart

Yourstruly2000 August 24th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020 I totally agree with your insight regarding this, we are on the same page about it!! Hey

MistyMagic August 25th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020 I like that statement "I don't know enough about the situation to comment", Thanks for highlighting it!

Listening - One Step At A Time!

bookworm274 August 28th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

Gossiping is bad because it is toxic and it can create an environment of distrust and disrespect.

I really like this sentence that you have written! Its so true, gossiping can create a really toxic environment. I agree with your commment on how to avoid gossiping by stating something postitive about the person. I feel that people sometimes rely on the negatives and dont focus on all of the postitive qualities that are there.

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August 29th, 2020

@bookworm274

Totally agree with those letters in bold.

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bookworm274 September 7th, 2020

@DonaldDraper

I know they're great! The original person wrote them, I was just commenting on them.

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Petrichor2000 September 7th, 2020

@bookworm274 I agree with you🤗

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bookworm274 September 7th, 2020

@Petrichor2000

Thanks 😊

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mamtasha22 May 11th, 2021

@bookworm274

I agree Book

Enbyowl May 16th, 2021

Yes 100%

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Daf8 August 29th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

heart I agree! Thank you for this response. heart

LittleBirdie30 September 1st, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020 I agree with your statement that gossiping can create distrust and can create more negative relationships!

Helpingsoul98 September 3rd, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020

absolutely!

CompassionateDreamer8522 September 10th, 2020

@KindnessMatters2020 What a great takeaway from that video - the statement about "I don't know enough about the situation". That's definitely something to keep in your pocket just in case!

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Tyedyedbutterfly65 August 24th, 2020

@Heather225smiley

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is bad and sadly everyone does it we are humans when it gets worse is when people add to what they are saying about someone or taking away from it- this is when talking about others gets to be really hurtful . The Truths are twisted and turned . so once the story goes around it is a whole different thing.. Just do not do it and be careful if you are talking about someone say something nice but even then people will twist things.. so it is best to be quiet.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Tell people that you do not want to hear it , stop it there and change the subject.

3. Please reply to 3 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

okay will do !! smiley

Thanks Tyeheart

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Yourstruly2000 August 24th, 2020

@Heather225

gossiping is bad because in majority of times we end up setting ourselves on a toxic cycle. Like for instance, if i am gossiping with someone else. They will automatically feel the need to gossip about me with someone else, initially this might feel not a big deal but it triggers a toxic and harmful system

the statement that i agree with in the video , is that i dont know the situation of the person that we are talking about or their perception , so i am in no place to comment on it

Thank you

@yourstruly2000

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azuladragon34 August 25th, 2020

@Heather225

1) Gossiping is malice and it's negative. Gossiping can hurt others and cause rumours.

2) I don't know the other person's side, so I prefer not to discuss anything about what they're thinking or feeling in their absence.

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blissart August 25th, 2020

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gosssiping puts us and the other person in bad limelight. Its harmful for the reputation of both and we are at risk of losing trust of others around us


2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

I dont know enough of the situation to comment on it

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MistyMagic August 25th, 2020

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad?

Gossiping is usually saying negative things about others behind their back and so spreading rumours. It can be very bad because it changes the way people look, and it also changes the way people look at you. It can be hurtful and damaging and expand on the feeling of cliqueness that we are trying to be rid of.

2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!

Stopping gossiping is like stopping sugar! I have a sweet tooth so I understand this statement and I can empathise with trying to do this. In my leadership roles I do have to sometimes discuss listeners so I do think there is a difference between gossiping about a person which is not useful, and respectfully discussing a candidate or applicant and their talents and strong points.

3. Please reply to 3 of your peers in this thread with encouraging or supportive words!

Okay will do!

Listening - One Step At A Time!

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August 25th, 2020

@Heather225

▶︎ Why is gossiping bad?
Gossip is based around putting others down behind their backs for your own gain. This not only hurts the person being gossipped about, but those who spread gossip and the community as a whole. By gossipping, you may temporarily portray yourself in a more positive light, but this soon fades into distrust and negativity, as those you interact with will not know if you can be trusted or if you will in turn gossip about them behind their backs. This breakdown of trust detracts from the community as a whole, making it difficult to feel like you belong or are welcome.

▶︎ List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies!
I don't know the other person's perspective, so I prefer to not discuss what I think they were thinking or feeling in their absence.

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PeaceLoveandPaws August 25th, 2020

@Heather225

1. Why is gossiping bad? Gossiping is bad because it diminishes the trust others have in you.


2. List a statement you learned from this video to stop gossiping in the replies! "I don't know enough about the situation to comment'

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