What does depression feel like?
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It like being in a vicious circle of dread, hopelessness, and a constant fear thats not so easy to pull yourself out of. Its certainly possible though, it just takes patience, a little help, and one step after another of breaking that cycle.
its like you dont want anyone around you but at same time you want someone who loved you most around you because you want to cry at their sholder.
For me it's like I can't breathe. I know what I want but I can't do it. I wanna do things but I end up just staring at my phone not doing anything. My mind is my worst enemy because it's telling me about how everything can go wrong and not how it can right. I can't see any positives. Physically I have a constant strain on my stomach, it's all I can focus on and it's like a small pit of worry and sadness all in one and it doesn't go away. There is very little that can make the feeling go away.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 9:13am
It's like being weighed down by an anchor at the bottom of the ocean and watching the last bubbles in your lungs slowly rise to the surface, knowing you're out of air, but yet also not realizing you are the one holding the anchor.
Oh yes, I'd know that ! I have had arguable the severest most potent depression ever. It's like the light inside of you is there no more.. everything seems meaningless. A strange apathy engulfs you and you're too numb to even shed a tear.. you simply visualise the worst in everythung, again & again... and that manifests !! I have spent 5 years... on & off in depression. When you arent alone and you cant give expression to your depression inside, that is when anxiety strikes.. the strange fear like sensation in your heart.. for the littlest of things.. the unending what ifs.. sometimes the feelings happened even when i had no where to go. Nothing to anticipate.. i was scared for nothing. Dont be disheartened though.. if you're anything like me, you'll feel the anger soon.. the burning anger that will in the beginning be "Why me?" And might gradually go to "To hell with this.." then you burn most of the major reasons of your depression with a out and out raging conflit with your culprits.. it subsides. You feel better.. then you slowly realise none of this matters.. you might as well be happy anyway. Nobody cares. You begin to do things for your joy , you're hella rude & snarky for a while.. but that's ok. You thus get out of it and are now in a better place. :)
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:43pm
Depression is like having the life drained out of me, stripping me of myself until I am a hollow shell, not myself but only this thinnest appearance of myself, then filling me with heavy shadows until I feel weighted down, crushed. Everything becomes too much effort - talking, moving, thinking, living, breathing. There is only this feeling of being crushed under an invisible mountain, the pain of the weight, the panicked feeling of not being able to breathe, the inability to move to reach out, one long agonizing moment after another until I am silently begging in my head, "Please, I just want it to stop, I just want to end, I can't live this way."
No one seems to notice that I am slowly being crushed, that the simple things they take for granted - working, playing, socializing, laughing, cleaning... living - are beyond my strength to reach let alone do. I worry that because they cannot see the mountain of depression weighing me down, they will think me weak, or broken, or lazy... flawed in some socially unacceptable way. I become too anxious of how they must certainly judge me to ask for help. I become paralyzed, alone, under that mountain, helpless to do anything but let it swallow me up, hoping that it will just make me disappear beneath it, even as I am desperate to escape so I can simply breathe.
My anxiety of interacting with others makes me feel I have to tackle it alone. And yet, the enormity of my depression means I cannot tackle it alone. I am trapped between these two pressures - anxiety and depression, alone, sinking, my life, my being, my identity reduced to a hollowness that is crushed as easily as an eggshell. In that think layer, there is no room for joy, no room for pleasure, no room for hope, no room for thought. It feels like existence, but it no longer feels like life.
Have you ever sat in a bus and people were laughing and you immediately thought it was about you ? something you wore that might have been funny or your looks ? that's a perfect example of low self esteem and anxiety. those people probably never noticed you but your self worth is so low you assume they think bad about you ?.
Quick to feel tired, not having interest in previous hobbies, when people ask you how things are you always answer fine ? pretend nothing is wrong but when you are awake in bed you think and you think and it keeps going but your thoughts never have a goal ? for me that's what it was like to have depression. of course people noticed but you tell them you have changed, become more mature but deep down you know you need help. go and get it.
To have depression is to not care what people think of you, to have anxiety is caring too much what people think of you. The anxiety half is constantly arguing that no matter what you do, people will never like you, you'll never make any friends, or if you do, you'll scare them away with your actions or your words. It makes you too nervous to talk or move, and when people fuss over you, it makes you feel like your burdening them by being there. Having depression can be the same or the opposite, and it can change hourly. Depression makes you feel like your worthless, that no one cares about you, not even yourself. Sometimes your depression and anxiety mix to create the worst type of sadness you can experience. It makes your innards twist and overwhelms your brain and sometimes you just can't take it anymore, so you take your own life. People with depression and anxiety at the same time have the worst ways if dealing with emotions, and they know that, and deal with them anyway. That is what its like to live with the constant fear that everything will overwhelm you and you'll just break down in front of everybody, which goes into a full circle of your anxiety and burdening people with your problems.
Depression is really a mix of feelings. It can feel like nothing and everything at the same time. To summarize, depression can feel like sadness, worthlessness, anger, fear, anxiety, exhaustion, or emptiness all at the same time. And all of those emotions is tiring. It drains your energy trying to either suppress those emotions or hide them. It ends up being a cycle as one can eventually come to a point where their energy is just so low that they feel empty and when one feels empty, they can feel sad and the cycle continues.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 9:54am
Depression , is a combination of feelings that sometimes is very hard to interpret with words..However , mostly it carries the feelings of sadness-hopelessness-guilt-blue-misery-boredom-tire-irritability-aggravation-some severe cases..disgust as well .
Depression feels like, waking up one day with all of your motivation gone. Feeling like you don't want to live anymore or feeling like you're worthless. It could happen fresh out of a relationship, or alone, or just when you're stressed out to hell.
Depression to me is like taking a soaking wet sponge and wringing it out. That middle point of the sponge are my feelings being twisted back and forth. It is the hardest kick in the stomach without you throwing up. It is wanting something physically painful to happen to take ur mind off the invisible pain. It is getting hit & mangled by a train but not lucky enough to die. Instead, you lay there like twisted wreckage ignored by all & rendered useless but being alive to experience all the broken bones, ribs, & torn flesh but not able to stop the pain. It is a life sentence that never ends. It is a being in an abusive relationship that you cannot leave. It is floating in an ocean all alone, you don't die but your one step from it.
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I feel afraid all the time. I feel worthless and like I am a burden to my family and everyone. I feel like there is something inside me thats burning inside me that has taken away all of my inner peace. I feel restless all the time. I am extremely fearful off the future. I am constantly second guessing everything in my life. I want to run away and die because it's seems like the easiest option
Depression is a weighted blanket the gets heavier the longer you carry it. No matter how hard you try you can not remove it but it can get lighter.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 8:23pm
It feels like no matter how hard you try to think better, act nicer, meditate, sleep well, pray, or any other coping mechanism you use, you still feel down. and even if you feel better for a moment or an hour, it always goes back to the same dismal feeling, and it gets heavier and heavier with the feeling you can never escape now will you ever be good enough or be able to manage it.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 2:05am
It feels like your body is a prison and its filled to capacity with an overwhelming amount of sadness and confusion and pain. It may leave you for a day or two, but it will always come back. It feels like no matter how much you cry let it out it is still at the same severity as before. It feels like every day is a nightmare that you can't wake up from. Sometimes the sadness and pain is so overwhelming that I don't eat for a whole day and have chills and shakiness and feel like im about to throw up for the whole day. It is something that can only be understood by living with it, but not something you will ever or should ever be proud of or flaunt and something you would never want someone else to experience.
Like you are in a dark forest, alone, and suddenly there are not even trees that you can look to. You are alone, hurting yourself for no apparent reason and you realise that this darkness comes out of you, and everything is consuming, and you can't breathe properly. Everything is overwhelming and numb at the same time. You cannot stop feeling how you feel, you lose control of everything happening to you (or that's how you feel at least).
You feel like you are in a movie, like everything happening is not real, like you are not even living inside of you, you are an spectator on your own "life".
It is incredibly draining. Hopelessness, loneliness, guilt, shame, it is MUCH MORE than just “being sadâ€. It can desensitize you to the point suicide seems like the only option to escape those feelings. But you don’t have to suffer alone! Depression is one of the more treatable conditions. Being able to “talk openly†about how you’re feeling, with a trusted friend or professional, can make a big difference. Symptoms can affect appetite, sleep, interest in previously enjoyed hobbies, school performance, work, social life, health...to prevent these debilitating effects, one should seek treatment sooner than later. I wish you the best of luck.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2019 4:35am
It's like your alive but not living nothing brings you out of this sad helpless state when I was depressed all I did was lay on the couch watching TV and not even laugh or have any emotions to what I was watching I didn't wanna go out to do anything some days I would wake up feeling worse and not even want to shower I didn't care about my appearance didn't brush my teeth nothing I just laid there in almost a catatonic state it's the hardest thing I've ever dealt with and part of the reason why I listen on here.
It feels like you’re trying to tread water and you try to keep your head above the water but every time you realize you can breath you start drowning again. You can’t breath but you hear the muffled voices of life above you, and you’re unable to do anything. Once you are above water something pulls you right back down. You wonder what is trying to drown you, and start to blame yourself for not knowing how to swim. The worse it gets, the colder the water and then you’re numb and too tired and hopeless. Until you resurface again. And get dragged down again. And again.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2020 5:11am
Depression feels like that moment when you’re underwater and the world is silent, and you feel at peace. But then you come to the realization that you cant breathe, and you begin to struggle for air, and as you make your way to the top, you realize you’re all alone, even with people around you. depression feels like when you lay awake at night, its 3 maybe 4 am and it’s completely dark in your room. no noise, just a blissful silence & you enjoy it, until all your thoughts come rushing in and the blissful silence becomes loud with thoughts.
It can feel like lots of different things. I suffered with depression throughout my teen years. It sometimes felt as if I was numb, that I didn't care about anything anymore. I didn't want to get out of bed because I didn't want to face the day. The thought of going outside, made me feel even worse. I felt like I just wanted to hide from everyone. I didn't have motivation do do anything, even putting normal clothes on, so I would stay in my pyjamas all day. I would stay awake till the early hours, sometimes 6am and then sleep all day and not wake up until the afternoon, sometimes 2/3pm. I'd often just feel this sense of sickness in my stomach and just generally feel so low. You feel like no body understands you, and sometimes, you can't see when it will get better. Then comes the self criticism and feeling like a failure because you've stayed in bed all day, due to depression. You feel like people will think that you're lazy, but in fact it's due to depression. Depression wants you to stay in bed all day. You know that you have a lot of things to do, but you don't do them because you feel like you're unable to, and then you stress about not doing them, which leads to feeling stressed out.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2021 3:20am
Depression has many types of feelings and symptoms. They are not always the same in every case. There are many types of depression, we can't define all.
I have been depressed for very long time, therefore in my experience it's much I have felt. I can't say all as I can't express my feelings always. Buy I can say, it always (mostly) feels sad, hopeless, overwhelmed and not having interest or motivation in activities. We have anger sometimes too or guilt. We want to let it out so much, and shout so loud, but it is not possible. We feel that life is useless and world is hateful. We hate everything, even ourselves. We may also some time hurt ourselves. We want everything thing which is bad to end for ever and have peace and be happy. We want people to understand us as we can't speak our feelings much. There might be other symptoms involved too.
I hope this helped 💙
It’s like drowning, except everyone around you is breathing. You feel utterly helpless, leaden, dull, unable to move. You are trapped—an unwilling witness to those living what appear to be happy lives. Anger at everyone’s obliviousness to your condition invades your lungs, heart, and spirit. It's feeling like you'll never be happy. It sometimes leads to other mental health issues as well such as anxiety for an example. It's like an addiction, it feels like you're stuck somewhere dark and believing that you'll never see the light. It's something I wish I never experienced to write enough about it.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2022 2:54pm
It can be unique from one person to another, but there are obvious symptoms of depression like lack of energy, anxiety, lack of motivation, hopelessness, weight loss or gain, feeling guilty and unworthy...The list goes on. There are different types of depressions too so it is important to talk with your doctor about it and try to find out what type of depression you're dealing with. Because then the therapy will be more effective and you will not use meds for nothing.
The stigma is that people won't get us, which is sort of true because it's not easy to describe depression to others.
Depression for some can feel like a profound sense of loneliness. It is not necessary that in every aspect of your life you feel like a failure and worthless. The Mental Health Foundation UK has shared two personal stories of depression with Gabi (e.g. You can feel disconnected in your interpersonal relationships although your career is going well and feel you have to push and really motivate yourself to wake up in the morning) and Iona ( She has talked about being Autistic and the difficulty in navigating friendships in which she speaks about bullying and still feeling alone although you can have a large quantity of friends). There are sites with personal stories of people and sharing what depression can feel like. This might make you feel less alone in your experience. It can be very likely but not always the case that suicidal thoughts/ self-harm tendencies can come with having depression so it’s extremely important to be curious about whether or not you identify with this. If so it’s especially important to refer to our crisis resources (7cups.com/crisis). You can look for your local or national helplines, if you need.
Anonymous
November 1st, 2014 6:48pm
Gosh, it's pretty hard. Some days, you just don't want to get out bed, because you don't feel like doing anything, or because you're scared you'll get a panic attack. It wears you down, and each day you're paranoid about every single things, and your mind kind of struggles because it cares on the anxiety part, but because of the depression you sometimes feel to tired to care anymore about anything.
It's hard. It honestly sucks, and the worse they get, the harder they are to get over with. Please talk to someone if you have either of these.
It can be isolating, frustrating, lonely, can make you feel ashamed, disappointed, it really depends on the individual experience but most have reported these shared feelings
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