What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
March 24th, 2016 10:17am
Depression feels different for everyone, but for me it feels like a constant sadness, sinking feeling. Everything is dull and I cant imagine being happy again. You have good days but when you have bad days it can stop you from doing everyday activities for example, I may have somewhere to be but I don't have any energy to go there. Hope this helps
Like , life is dark and empty , feeling worthless , unhappy , have no emotions for anyone or anything.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 11:31am
For depression it feels like you don't matter in this world anymore and no matter what you feel like doing to make it better you always feel or imagine that it's of no use. As anxiety is where you're so nervous about the future that you never think outside the box and are fine with being mediocre, in other words it's called being scared of the uncertainty of the future.
Some people may get offended by this question, especially since a lot of the stuff can be found online. There's not really any set way to explain it, except that it's not something that you would want to have. There's information easily found online but if you want information without having to do your own research, these links should be helpful: Depression - https://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/ and Anxiety - https://www.7cups.com/anxiety-help/ I hope this information is useful to you.
Anxiety and depression can be very debilitating. You may often feel alone and like no one understands you. Mental illness is a heavy burden and a very misunderstood thing. But you are NOT alone. Many others are going through what you are, whether you know it or not. Some are better at hiding it than others, but that doesn't mean that they aren't suffering. We are all unique individuals, and yet in some ways, we are not so different. We want above all to be happy, loved, understood, and accepted.
It can be difficult because they are very contradictory illnesses, at least for me. Depression makes me not want to do anything, but anxiety makes me want to do everything all at once. For example, I will know I have a 6 page paper to write for a class. My depression makes me sit in my bed all day feeling sorry myself and not willing to do any work, yet the entire time my anxiety is eating away at me, giving me spouts of panic attacks regarding my lack of progress on the paper. I believe with enough practice one can learn to manage both of these illnesses, it just takes experience and self-awareness :)
Anxiety is the fear of failing and overthinking everything. Depression is the feeling of emptiness and fear. Having both is weird because you can't do anything right in your opinion. You overthink everything again and again but still feel empty. So sometimes you don't even know how you feel.
Depression feels like emptyness, lack of purpose, will to live and future, like standing in middle of nothing with nowhere to go, and nowhere to begin. Anxiety is more of panic and being unsure about something, but not knowing why and then panicking and wanting to scream and so on.
Depression feels like you can't concentrate on other stuffs. Once you tried, you feel like its only you hands and eyes are cooperating. But you mind is somewhere else and your head is a little bit heavy.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 11:53pm
No one understands even the closest to you and the best of listeners. Forever fighting negative thoughts and critical voices putting you down making your face go bright red when you talk as all you can hear is negativit from your own head, feeling inadequate and simply not good enough ever,
Anonymous
December 6th, 2016 12:12pm
Depression to me feels like a tight rope that I am bound with and I have no way out of it. When depressed I feel as if I have lost all hope and my life means meaningless.
Having depression and anxiety feels like there's a rock blocking your view of the horizon. It drains your power and it deprives you of the happiness that you deserve.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 7:39pm
It feels like you want to die but you can't . It feels like you want to drown in a pound of your own tears . You want to cry but also don't want anyone to hear but at the same time also want everyone to hear . You look happy in the eyes of others but from inside you are burning . There's always that burning pain in your chest that you want to get rid of but also at the same time it is what helping you to tolerate . You hate looking weak and emotional in front of people but sometimes you can't just keep it in, you want to cry, you want to scream , you want scratch your skin off. The emotional pain is something that is unbearable. You don't know how to get out of it.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2016 10:58am
like nothing. sometimes you feel nothing, sometimes you feel everything. it really depends on you though, if you read some tumblr post on people who "actually have depression" act and you don't have all those symptoms don't stress about it! everyones different.
Depression for some can feel like a profound sense of loneliness. It is not necessary that in every aspect of your life you feel like a failure and worthless. The Mental Health Foundation UK has shared two personal stories of depression with Gabi (e.g. You can feel disconnected in your interpersonal relationships although your career is going well and feel you have to push and really motivate yourself to wake up in the morning) and Iona ( She has talked about being Autistic and the difficulty in navigating friendships in which she speaks about bullying and still feeling alone although you can have a large quantity of friends). There are sites with personal stories of people and sharing what depression can feel like. This might make you feel less alone in your experience. It can be very likely but not always the case that suicidal thoughts/ self-harm tendencies can come with having depression so it’s extremely important to be curious about whether or not you identify with this. If so it’s especially important to refer to our crisis resources (7cups.com/crisis). You can look for your local or national helplines, if you need.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2020 5:11am
Depression feels like that moment when you’re underwater and the world is silent, and you feel at peace. But then you come to the realization that you cant breathe, and you begin to struggle for air, and as you make your way to the top, you realize you’re all alone, even with people around you. depression feels like when you lay awake at night, its 3 maybe 4 am and it’s completely dark in your room. no noise, just a blissful silence & you enjoy it, until all your thoughts come rushing in and the blissful silence becomes loud with thoughts.
It feels like you’re trying to tread water and you try to keep your head above the water but every time you realize you can breath you start drowning again. You can’t breath but you hear the muffled voices of life above you, and you’re unable to do anything. Once you are above water something pulls you right back down. You wonder what is trying to drown you, and start to blame yourself for not knowing how to swim. The worse it gets, the colder the water and then you’re numb and too tired and hopeless. Until you resurface again. And get dragged down again. And again.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2019 4:35am
It's like your alive but not living nothing brings you out of this sad helpless state when I was depressed all I did was lay on the couch watching TV and not even laugh or have any emotions to what I was watching I didn't wanna go out to do anything some days I would wake up feeling worse and not even want to shower I didn't care about my appearance didn't brush my teeth nothing I just laid there in almost a catatonic state it's the hardest thing I've ever dealt with and part of the reason why I listen on here.
It can feel like lots of different things. I suffered with depression throughout my teen years. It sometimes felt as if I was numb, that I didn't care about anything anymore. I didn't want to get out of bed because I didn't want to face the day. The thought of going outside, made me feel even worse. I felt like I just wanted to hide from everyone. I didn't have motivation do do anything, even putting normal clothes on, so I would stay in my pyjamas all day. I would stay awake till the early hours, sometimes 6am and then sleep all day and not wake up until the afternoon, sometimes 2/3pm. I'd often just feel this sense of sickness in my stomach and just generally feel so low. You feel like no body understands you, and sometimes, you can't see when it will get better. Then comes the self criticism and feeling like a failure because you've stayed in bed all day, due to depression. You feel like people will think that you're lazy, but in fact it's due to depression. Depression wants you to stay in bed all day. You know that you have a lot of things to do, but you don't do them because you feel like you're unable to, and then you stress about not doing them, which leads to feeling stressed out.
its like you dont want anyone around you but at same time you want someone who loved you most around you because you want to cry at their sholder.
Depression to me is like taking a soaking wet sponge and wringing it out. That middle point of the sponge are my feelings being twisted back and forth. It is the hardest kick in the stomach without you throwing up. It is wanting something physically painful to happen to take ur mind off the invisible pain. It is getting hit & mangled by a train but not lucky enough to die. Instead, you lay there like twisted wreckage ignored by all & rendered useless but being alive to experience all the broken bones, ribs, & torn flesh but not able to stop the pain. It is a life sentence that never ends. It is a being in an abusive relationship that you cannot leave. It is floating in an ocean all alone, you don't die but your one step from it.
For me it's like I can't breathe. I know what I want but I can't do it. I wanna do things but I end up just staring at my phone not doing anything. My mind is my worst enemy because it's telling me about how everything can go wrong and not how it can right. I can't see any positives. Physically I have a constant strain on my stomach, it's all I can focus on and it's like a small pit of worry and sadness all in one and it doesn't go away. There is very little that can make the feeling go away.
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It is incredibly draining. Hopelessness, loneliness, guilt, shame, it is MUCH MORE than just “being sadâ€. It can desensitize you to the point suicide seems like the only option to escape those feelings. But you don’t have to suffer alone! Depression is one of the more treatable conditions. Being able to “talk openly†about how you’re feeling, with a trusted friend or professional, can make a big difference. Symptoms can affect appetite, sleep, interest in previously enjoyed hobbies, school performance, work, social life, health...to prevent these debilitating effects, one should seek treatment sooner than later. I wish you the best of luck.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2018 2:05am
It feels like your body is a prison and its filled to capacity with an overwhelming amount of sadness and confusion and pain. It may leave you for a day or two, but it will always come back. It feels like no matter how much you cry let it out it is still at the same severity as before. It feels like every day is a nightmare that you can't wake up from. Sometimes the sadness and pain is so overwhelming that I don't eat for a whole day and have chills and shakiness and feel like im about to throw up for the whole day. It is something that can only be understood by living with it, but not something you will ever or should ever be proud of or flaunt and something you would never want someone else to experience.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 8:23pm
It feels like no matter how hard you try to think better, act nicer, meditate, sleep well, pray, or any other coping mechanism you use, you still feel down. and even if you feel better for a moment or an hour, it always goes back to the same dismal feeling, and it gets heavier and heavier with the feeling you can never escape now will you ever be good enough or be able to manage it.
Depression feels like, waking up one day with all of your motivation gone. Feeling like you don't want to live anymore or feeling like you're worthless. It could happen fresh out of a relationship, or alone, or just when you're stressed out to hell.
To have depression is to not care what people think of you, to have anxiety is caring too much what people think of you. The anxiety half is constantly arguing that no matter what you do, people will never like you, you'll never make any friends, or if you do, you'll scare them away with your actions or your words. It makes you too nervous to talk or move, and when people fuss over you, it makes you feel like your burdening them by being there. Having depression can be the same or the opposite, and it can change hourly. Depression makes you feel like your worthless, that no one cares about you, not even yourself. Sometimes your depression and anxiety mix to create the worst type of sadness you can experience. It makes your innards twist and overwhelms your brain and sometimes you just can't take it anymore, so you take your own life. People with depression and anxiety at the same time have the worst ways if dealing with emotions, and they know that, and deal with them anyway. That is what its like to live with the constant fear that everything will overwhelm you and you'll just break down in front of everybody, which goes into a full circle of your anxiety and burdening people with your problems.
Depression is really a mix of feelings. It can feel like nothing and everything at the same time. To summarize, depression can feel like sadness, worthlessness, anger, fear, anxiety, exhaustion, or emptiness all at the same time. And all of those emotions is tiring. It drains your energy trying to either suppress those emotions or hide them. It ends up being a cycle as one can eventually come to a point where their energy is just so low that they feel empty and when one feels empty, they can feel sad and the cycle continues.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 9:54am
Depression , is a combination of feelings that sometimes is very hard to interpret with words..However , mostly it carries the feelings of sadness-hopelessness-guilt-blue-misery-boredom-tire-irritability-aggravation-some severe cases..disgust as well .
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