What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:36am
For me my anxiety was because I had depression. I used to get BAD, really bad panic attacks which made me more awful about myself, which let to the thoughts of ending my life. I used to feel hopeless and numb. Even though I was with people, I felt like I was in some sad island all by myself. Lost interest in everything I used to love, to feel something I used to try harming myself and slowly it became an addiction. having depression is not something you want to be. Having depression is not the same as feeling blue, sad or feeling depressed due to some small or big factor. When you are under the nets of depression, it is hard to come out because there is this thing in your mind where it keeps on telling you that you are not good, you are awful, nobody likes you and so. It is awful being depressed.
Being diagnosed with both, it is extremely hard and very confusing. A lot of the time I feel empty. A lot of the time I'm bored. I either cry myself to sleep or pass out after having a major panic attack. But it gets better. They are both treatable.
At the same time, it's the extremities of your sympathic/parasympathetic systems against eachother. One part of you doesn't want to get up and go to school and wants to cry and sleep, while the other freaks out about the assignment that might be missed and they classes they might fail
Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 10:11pm
Having Depression is like Feeling numb all the time. You don't care about anything or anyone. You don't want to get up in the morning to go to school or like doing anything at all. But having anxiety is caring about everything to much, worrying about everything. Wondering if what you said was right, if they are going to like you or if you just annoy everyone aound you.
it's actually hard to explain..it is as if you're surrounded of dark clouds and you don't have any idea when will it move and clear out..same as having anxiety, its like as if your a time bomb, any second you'll explode, any second you'll blast. It's hard to explain actually.
Depression and anxiety is very hard. Something i struggle with today. you feel like you're drowning and no one can save you.
Anonymous
November 5th, 2014 11:01pm
Hell. It's hell. You don't want to leave the house, because you are afraid that you'll have an attack in public. You are constantly scared that you will have to talk to someone, and that's just the anxiety. Depression is like drowning, and no one around you notices.
Depression is submitting to fear and loss of love, a void that consumes you till nothing seems worth doing or living for. Anxiety consists of fear to nearby events due to worry of failure or lack of preparation that could shorten your breath, raise your heart rate, and confound your thought process making the actions for the future events near impossible.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 9:00pm
It's almost like being swallowed by an incredible invisible force. It's frustrating and we find our brains doing things that seem crazy to us. We wonder why on earth something so "small" was such a big deal. It's a dark hole. Very unpleasant.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 7:27pm
Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming and like you are being strangled from the inside it. You may find you're sleeping alot and avoiding going out.
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 8:49pm
It feels like hell. You don't feel well. You're afraid to be alone but also want to be alone. You feel like there's no way out there. You're too tired to do anything. Life gets very hard.
Depression is like being trapped in a fog, alone and afraid and somehow also completely numb. Anxiety is an unquenchable fear or everything and nothing. Meeting new people? You're scared. Meeting old friends? You're scared. No plans at all? You're still scared. Everything feels wrong and nothing fits and you're all alone.
anxiety is the feeling you get when you miss a step by accident but it's longer and happens more often
I'm saying this with all love and respect as a person who has been through depression: read to enriches your understanding about the topic and if you could to help friend facing depression (do not worry if you can not), do not take these answers as suggestion to yourself. Depression is not cool, is not a trend to wear, and prevent it as early as you can.
In easy words, I remember depression feels like worst day repeatedly (everyday). Next time I try to recall, it was dying days; you would wish to stay asleep the moment you wake up because.. just can not. Recalling further is triggering me, other fighter can tell you.
Nowadays media started to give spotlight to mental health which is good to raise awareness. There are many articles, music, and campaign to remind all fighter they are not alone. They humbly admit they are fighters and they have the platform to raise the issue, so they did. To everyone who is a fan of these artists or ever know, please be smart to filter depression out of styles you are wearing. Depression is not a fashion. But you can extend the message to whom it may concern.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2015 12:14am
Depression and anxiety are two different things and can work together or apart. As coming from someone whom has overcome both i'd gladly explain my personal experiences. Depression is like this deep pit in your stomach caused by anything under the sun, maybe your dog died or maybe you didn't pass your test. the pit of sadness is always there and seems to never go away... maybe you're having a good day? but when you're not busy it's like the depression comes back. Anxiety feels like you're constantly on edge or nervous about something. depending on what your anxiety is about it feels like anything could trigger an attack. The fear of something not going the way you want or plan it to be can cause so much anxiety that can break someone down. Hope this helps!
It feels like there's always an elephant in the room so to speak, you always feel worthless or worrying what's ahead even if there's nothing to worry about.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 7:14am
It’s crippling… You don’t feeling like waking up. You feel exhausted. You just want to sleep all day. You become hypersensitive towards everything; even the slightest noise startles you. You avoid social situations like school, work, gatherings, etc. You become very moody and cranky. You have sudden emotional outbursts. Phones and social media become your nemesis. You want to hate everyone and everything, but have no energy for it.
You also become resilient. You learn to find peace with yourself. When you’re happy, you genuinely feel it. You start appreciating little things in life. You become more introspective. You become more observant. You become more empathetic and understanding to other’s misery and pain. You become more generous and kind. You become more helpful. You become a lovely human being. You become calm and strong.
It's like being worried about something all the time, but not having the motivation to do anything all at once.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 9:07am
Well it's actually really hard because when other people find out they don't want to be friends with someone who has a mental illness and it's hard being a loner. It's also hard to be around others and go to school because of the amount of people. it's so fustrating to get anxiety attacks in the middle of class and everyone look at you like your a weirdo. It's hard being judged.
Depression feels a little different to each individual. For me, it was like wanting to be happy and understanding that I had everything I needed to be happy, but being incapable of being happy regardless of what I did. And it didn't feel like that every single day. It did not mean that I never smiled - I was actually known for being a very cheerful person. And every now and then I'd have days when I would feel myself genuinely feeling but it was a very fleeting feeling. But once again it is different for everyone and also depends on the severity of their depression.
Anonymous
March 16th, 2016 8:41pm
Depression feels like a lump in your throat and tears in your eyes without any good reason. Depression feels like tossing and turning at 3 am while you recount countless bad memories. Depression feels like loneliness despite being surrounded by people. Depression feels like a churning in your stomach and an aversion to food despite not having eaten all day. Depression feels like desperate anger that melts into sadness because there's nothing to aim it at. Depression feels like questioning the happiness you feel because you think you don't deserve it. Depression feels like a rollercoaster of ups and downs that seems more and more impossible to get out of as time goes by.
It feels like everyone around you is moving forward in their lives and you are stuck in the same position. Wanting to move but being unable to, being held back by the little voices inside your head. While everyone expects you to be great you are unable to fulfill your dreams
It feels like drowning with no chances to get out of the water, everything blacks out, it takes so much energy like swimming in ocean for hours searching for island.
The feeling of being alone and the constant worrying that something bad will happen and that there is not solution or help from anyone else.
It can be difficult because they are very contradictory illnesses, at least for me. Depression makes me not want to do anything, but anxiety makes me want to do everything all at once. For example, I will know I have a 6 page paper to write for a class. My depression makes me sit in my bed all day feeling sorry myself and not willing to do any work, yet the entire time my anxiety is eating away at me, giving me spouts of panic attacks regarding my lack of progress on the paper. I believe with enough practice one can learn to manage both of these illnesses, it just takes experience and self-awareness :)
Depression feels like emptyness, lack of purpose, will to live and future, like standing in middle of nothing with nowhere to go, and nowhere to begin. Anxiety is more of panic and being unsure about something, but not knowing why and then panicking and wanting to scream and so on.
Anxiety is the fear of failing and overthinking everything. Depression is the feeling of emptiness and fear. Having both is weird because you can't do anything right in your opinion. You overthink everything again and again but still feel empty. So sometimes you don't even know how you feel.
Depression feels like you can't concentrate on other stuffs. Once you tried, you feel like its only you hands and eyes are cooperating. But you mind is somewhere else and your head is a little bit heavy.
Anxiety and depression can be very debilitating. You may often feel alone and like no one understands you. Mental illness is a heavy burden and a very misunderstood thing. But you are NOT alone. Many others are going through what you are, whether you know it or not. Some are better at hiding it than others, but that doesn't mean that they aren't suffering. We are all unique individuals, and yet in some ways, we are not so different. We want above all to be happy, loved, understood, and accepted.
Some people may get offended by this question, especially since a lot of the stuff can be found online. There's not really any set way to explain it, except that it's not something that you would want to have. There's information easily found online but if you want information without having to do your own research, these links should be helpful: Depression - https://www.7cups.com/depression-help-online/ and Anxiety - https://www.7cups.com/anxiety-help/ I hope this information is useful to you.
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