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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
May 21st, 2015 7:23pm
When you have depression you feel low, when you are anxious you can feel out of control, such like you are not in a state of calm
Anonymous
June 20th, 2015 7:42am
Feeling upset or empty all of the time and when you actually decide to fight it and get better you worry that you can't because it's too hard or you're afraid to tell other. This makes you even more upset and it goes in a cycle. I think
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Dreamz
June 22nd, 2015 8:46pm
Anxiety and Depression are very familiar to me. Anxiety is, for example, think of that feeling you get in your stomach when you have to speak in front of people or do something you don't like doing. It's basically that feeling all the time. Rapid heartbeat and breathing problems are just a few of my symptoms. Depression is like seeing everything in gray. Depression makes everything seem alot less happy.
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compassionatePalm07
June 25th, 2015 1:46am
depression is like closing myself in a dark room filled with endless thoughts without windows or any place from where light or fresh air can enter and the only thing that is with me is negativity. anxiety feels like being in the middle of a circle of fire that is reducing in size every sec as I am approaching the situation that I scared of and I am asked to jump outside it before the fire gets me, when I don't know how to jump.
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meboysen
June 25th, 2015 1:47am
It's painful. It's like always being on edge but then not having the energy to do anything. Anxiety all the time is especially horrible.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 3:04pm
it is like thinking that people around you just do not notice you and does not give crap about you while you were tring to gain your cofidence back
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candy37
June 27th, 2015 5:21am
it sucks . you feel like its the end of the world . one feels numb and weak and not feeling like doing anything . everything inside will ache
Anonymous - Expert in Depression
June 27th, 2015 9:32am
Here's a clever metaphor - Depression is like trying to peel a potato with a potato. You try and try and try, and can never peel it. Eventually you give up in frustration. And everyone else doesn't understand, they tell you to peel it, some tell you to use a potato peeler and hand you another potato. And the problem is no one else understands how much you are struggling unless they have walked in your shoes. Another way to see it - it's like walking upstream in a river. The people on the banks tell you to work harder, that its all in your head and that you aren't trying. Some say snap out of it, just get out of the water, but they don't try to help you out. Sometimes the current is strong and you feel like you are drowning, and other times it's a shallow pool of water and the travel isn't that bad. But you feel as though you are never out of the water, and that you can never drop your guard. Some people may try and help you out, some may try and sabotage you. But all you can do is fight till you are freed from the river.
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frothySmiles42
June 28th, 2015 12:13am
its like being a in hole feel like you more you dig the deeper it gets and harder it is pull yourself out of that hole to begin with as well unless you have a great support around you and professional help too
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 12:59am
It feels like you're drowning. It feels like you've fallen into a black hole and it feels like there's no way out. It feels like you're in a room split in two by a glass wall. On one side of the room is everyone else and you're on the other side.. Alone. Staring at everyone else wondering why they are all put there and you were put here.
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resourcefulCupcake48
July 2nd, 2015 4:20pm
It's different for everyone really. Although there are criteria to help diagnosis someone with either depression or anxiety there are such a wide array of symptoms someone can experience that it's impossible to really specify what it would be like.
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TalkToMe21
July 2nd, 2015 7:19pm
I don't know if it's different for everyone or not, but for me depression is an inability to move, my body is a prison and my mind is trying to break free but can't. My anxiety manifests as irrational paranoia where my mind is split between paranoia and rational.
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godsgirlrhizzy
July 2nd, 2015 10:55pm
Like being sucked into a dark hole with no way out, and then being sucked further and further into that hole and you can't see any light.
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strawberryblossom97
July 4th, 2015 12:04pm
Having depression and/or anxiety is like having part of you permanently covered by a shadow. You feel trapped within yourself.
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FriendlyBear95
July 4th, 2015 5:08pm
Anxiety isn't something that's initially obvious to everyone. There is no point in asking someone who's been anxious all their life how they would be without it- they have no way of knowing what life is like without anxiety because it unfortunately plays a part in their understanding of themselves and the world around them. I always had the feeling I had life on 'hard mode' for no obvious reason. I'd put in more effort than everyone else and get far less reward, I couldn't take pressure anything like as well as my peers and had real issues when it came to doing every day things like getting out of bed or making dinner. I was worried all the time, though I didn't entirely understand to what extent. After having my breakdown, I came to the realisation that I was unhealthy, not just physically but also mentally. I'd been neglecting myself for many many years. Now I'm equipped with the correct coping mechanisms to make my days a hell of a lot easier, life doesn't feel like it's on 'hard mode' anymore. I still feel the aches and pains of life, and I'm so glad about that- don't imagine I'm saying life is 'easy' now. It's just right. Sometimes it's hell, sometimes it's fine, but none of that has to do with anxiety anymore. I still 'have' depression and anxiety, but my life is no longer defined by them. You can achieve this too. If you realise you're in a similar boat, or just think you might have some sort of anxiety disorder, please get help. It was what I needed, and neglecting that need cost me a few years of my life I'll never get back!
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 7:59am
Anxiety and depression are two of the most common mental health concerns in our society. They are often experienced as a complex set of emotional and functional challenges. Depression is typically characterized by low energy and mood, low self-esteem, and loss of interest or pleasure in normally enjoyable activities. Anxiety may be a normal reaction to stress, and it can serve as a prompt to deal with difficult situations. However, when anxiety becomes excessive, it may fall under the classification of an anxiety disorder.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 1:22pm
I can't answer that for depression. But anxiety feels like a continious (or fases) voice in your head or feeling that stops you from doing things, or stops you from feeling things. It can get to a point that you won't be able to have any control over what those feelings are or when it stops.
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ShadowbrookMike0812
July 8th, 2015 11:31pm
Depression and anxiety are awful feelings. It's like the days when you don't want to get up to go to school, but know you should. The difference is with depression, you know you need to get up, but you physically cannot, because the cloud is weighing down on you so heavily. Anxiety is even worse when coupled with depression, because let's say you manage to get out of bed, you've given depression the finger. Here comes anxiety, scaring the hell out of you and confining you to the inside of your room, for fear of judgment from the rest of the world.
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drysalvages
July 9th, 2015 1:16am
Depression and anxiety are like these terrible awkward cousins that keep showing up at your place uninvited and over-staying their welcome. Depression always comes over and takes up all the space on your couch and complains about EVERYTHING. This sucks. Life sucks. YOU suck. But Depression goes on and on for so long that it becomes hard to disagree! Meanwhile, Anxiety's running around the kitchen screaming aobut the house being on fire. You KNOW the house isn't on fire, but Anxiety is just keeps shouting and dropping pots and pans and things to get your attention and it puts your teeth on edge. It's so hard to think, sometimes it's even hard to breathe. Sometimes you forget what it's like to live without these two.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2015 1:32pm
Its like someone is always putting you down you never feel good enough and you get so far deep into the hole of depression
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butterflykisses27
July 10th, 2015 7:20pm
When I am depressed I feel totally along. At the lowest energy level the lowest emotional level like I am in a dark hole in the ground with no way to get out. When I am feeling anxious I get very tense sometimes I will cry uncontrollably other times I get very angry with myself and or the person or thing that has made me feel this way. I get fearful, feel dizzy and light headed and feel unable to cope.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 10:03pm
It`s like being trapped in a dark cage willed with negativity, unable to figure out how to get out of it.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 12:00pm
It can cause problems and issues not only for you but also for the people around. You might not enjoy your life fully with the depression.
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Lilly495
July 12th, 2015 3:51pm
It feels like nothing you do or say in important. You become convinced that you are useless and that if you were gone no one would care. These feelings can become overwhelming and begin to affect other areas of your life like your eating habits, sleeping patterns, and your desire to go out or see people. Everything seems far away and you can begin to feel unimportant as you watch yourself slowly loose interest in everything.
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PassionateMiracle
July 16th, 2015 1:58am
Depression is like being trapped in a cycle of sadness for a long period of time. Anxiety is like walking up the stairs but missing a step, and getting that feeling like you're about to die. But that feeling happens continuously.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2015 3:58pm
It can be a challenge, but it's different for everyone. Depression can be something that pulls you down, while anxiety get you all flustered and riled up. Like with anything you will have good and bad days but you can make it through the bad days and soak up the good ones.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 11:52pm
Depression is like constantly feeling an intense and long-term sadness with a lack of energy.Anxiety is having your heart racing faster that a NASCAR driver with breathing that feels like a elephant is sitting on you chest.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 3:21pm
Depression is like wanting to break down and cry all of the time but you can't because it feels like you have no emotions on the outside. Anxiety feels like there's always a big monster chasing you and you have to get away.
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Oktotalk
July 25th, 2015 4:48am
Well to have both at the same time it's basically being to tired to get out of bed in the morning and then panicking because you feel like your going to fail and so it's being to tired and then panicking
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StephSnake1582
July 25th, 2015 8:16pm
Depression is different for everyone. For me it was never finding satisfaction in things I used to love and feeling worthless if I didn't do something productive and always being tired! Anxiety is like having too much on your mind. Worrying over every small thing like if you're walking weird or talking funny or if you said something stupid. You usually develop these thoughts in certain situations and develop certain things to try and calm yourself like rubbing your thighs or tapping your foot